meeting online vs meeting in person

[cabocancun]

... in response to meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by utopiacowboy on Jul 14, 2005


Utopia,

If you would have married the Mexicana do you think it would have worked out?
Could you have been happily married without having the "knock out" feeling you experience when you see your wife?

Cabo

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by cabocancun on Jul 15, 2005

We probably could have made it work but it would have been a marriage like so many other marriages where you are "settling" for someone. My wife is the woman of my dreams.

[BobEsponja]

... in response to meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by utopiacowboy on Jul 14, 2005

Thanks UtopiaCowboy and guys,

I know that feeling you're talking about when you say you felt your wife was the most beautiful woman you'd ever seen. I feel like that when I chat with my girl on webcam for hour after hour till 5am. And see the 100's of photos she's sent me, photos from when she was a baby right the way thru to new ones taken today. I just think wow she is so hot. But to another guy she's just average or whatever.  I can't see how when we meet those feelings will change. But of couse who knows for sure. Chemistry is an ilusive thing - it's either there or it isn't!

BobEsponja

[david hagar]

... in response to Re: meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 14, 2005

Chemistry is a very important key

Beattledog

[caslug]

... in response to meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 14, 2005

Had couple of problems of meeting online THEN meeting in person.  

1) since i didn't know which one would reply, i usually sent out bunch of "intro letters", get back about 30-40%, so if i sent 20 i got 6-8 replys.  From there i ended keeping in touch with 3 or 4.  To put it another way, 4-6 per city.  It's a problem..

2) Since i had several to meet in a short time frame, i always try to meet them all which dilute my time.  couldn't spend lots of time with any one particular.

3) Most of them are quite friendly and just as good in person as in the foto.  If you treat them nice, spend time with them, and show sincere interest they response very postively.  My problem has ALWAYS committing my time to one(or two) on the FIRST trip.  

I think if you're willing to return to the same city over and over, then it's not a problem.  You can use this approach to meet several on one trip, then come back and narrow down your choice next trip.  BUT since i'm more of a tourist and like to discover different cities in South AMerica.  I wouldn't know when i could return, so i didn't want to lead them on.  

If you are a type of guy that has NO PROBLEM with committing to one girl, then meet several during the initial 2 or 3 days(2 dates/day), then spend the rest of your time with one.

[Dan Las Vegas]

... in response to meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 14, 2005

I went to meet my novia after writing back and forth for four or five months. Luckily, she was living in the usa for the last five years. She is from Venezuela.  We met via amigos.com.

All I can say is that she was far prettier than her photos that she sent me, incredibly sweet and caring. She even speaks fairly decent english.  Now for the reality check, even though she does speak fairly good english, there are still times when language difficulties arise and there are small misunderstandings.  One other thing that can still cause issues are cultural differences. I have found that it takes incredible patience on both peoples part

I could not imagine how difficult it would be if we did not speak a common language. My spanish is very poor, so thank goodness her english is good. While I congratulate those who have managed to make a relationship work without having fluency in each others language, the most important thing that I can do at the moment is to learn more spanish!!!!!

Please take to heart the constant refrain from people on this board to learn as much spanish as you can. In my humble opinion, it is invaluable.

mi dos centavos

Dan

[Avispa]

... in response to meeting online vs meeting in person, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 14, 2005

I emailed, chatted and phoned a woman for a year before going to Bogota in person.
Bummer, no mutual chemistry.
We're still friends, still communicate.

You don't really know what you have until you meet in person. That's why I recommend just going and forget buying addresses or finding women on the internet.