Spanish translations

[thundernco]

... in response to another translation, posted by jediknight on Jul 11, 2005

Also, on this part: "Acabo de escuchar la canción que me enviaste, y si, estoy dispuesta a abrir mi corazon para ti, quiero que seas mi bendición, mi luz y mi sol... Tu eres todo.

I've just listened to the song that you sent me and yes I'm willing to open up my heart to you, i want you to be my blessing, mi light and sun... you are everything."

She's agreeing to/repeating what the song lyrics say.  From the song Eres Mi rlegion by Mana.  Great song. -TNC

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Right on Jedi, posted by thundernco on Jul 11, 2005

I love Mana! They rock!

[jediknight]

... in response to Spanish translations, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

reading the stuff she's sent you it seems to me that she is really excited to have you in her life and don't worry if she doesn't say te quiero back, she might be waiting to meet you first to see if you are the real deal. for some, knowing someone over the phone, internet is different than in person, so she might be holding back, but so far it appears that she is happy to know you and you said it yourself,

"Maybe she isn't isn't ready to say it yet, and a bit of patience from me is needed"

for many latinas, patience is something that they value and appreciate in a man. don't be "intenso", many don't like to feel pressured or rushed, slow down a bit, continue showing interest and how much she means to you and how she makes you feel and how you can't wait to meet her.  i would rather have a woman tell me te quiero or te amo when she was ready rather than because she felt like she had to becuase i said it to her.

[BobEsponja]

... in response to Re: Spanish translations, posted by jediknight on Jul 11, 2005

Thanks a bunch Jediknight and all you guys, great advice there. I think that is exactly what I'm gonna do; just keep things going along without trying to second guess her thoughts or feelings. Try to chill out a bit. Like you say, a virtual relationship over the net is nothing compared to meeting in person.

Anyone have any experiences to share about meeting (and perhaps marrying) someone that they started out chatting online and then met in person? How was it?

BobEsponja

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Spanish translations, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

[This message has been edited by jediknight]

i found my fiancee on amigos.com. we wrote to each other for 7 months, at first it was entirely friendly until about the 4th to 5th month when i started to realize that she had all of the qualities i was looking for in a woman.

i flew to colombia to meet her and her family, at first it was awkward, we were both nervous, such high expectations after so many emials, phone calls, webcam connections, instant messaging, that we didn't get comfortable until after the 2nd day, then things got alot better.

on that day her father had asked me how things were going, was it like i had imagined and i told him that frankly i thought his daughter was having second thoughts,that she wasn't as open in person as she was over the phone....he said, "i know my daughter.." and assured me that she was just nervous and didn't know how to act in front of me, her father actually reassured me that she was crazy about me and to give her a little time, well that evening we went out and we talked, laughed, everything, it was if the first 2 days hadn't existed, we laugh about it alot now, about how we both acted. on the 3rd day i asked her to be my girlfriend, that was in jan, now we're engaged. she told me that she had fallen for me before we met, it was after reading an emial i sent, something i wrote really touched her and then she knew....but she needed to confirm that i was real, she needed to meet me first.

long distance relationships are not easy but if you're lucky you'll find someone as wonderful as my finacee. send your girl messages to her cell phone, virtual e cards, send her pictures of you as a child, open yourself up and if she is the one for you she will appreciate it and let you know. good luck
JK

[BobEsponja]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Spanish translations, posted by jediknight on Jul 11, 2005

Thanks JK and all you guys. It's interesting how all of us are different. For example you all read my story and your responses are all different which is great because we all perceive and feel things differently. That's why forums like PL are valuable.

Anyway, firstly JK (and guys like UtopiaCowboy & Jimmy StLois) who met their partners from amigos or match are proof that meeting over the internet, having a long distance relationship and then meeting in person can end in a happy marriage/relationship.

Secondly, all the phone calls, MSN, webcam chat, messenger, text messages, emails, letters, virtual cards etc I believe do allow you to get to know your girl. I'm not talking about physically. But her personality. Women are communicators, much more than we are, and for them this type of verbal, written, spoken whatever you want to call it, communication is very important. We have 6 hour phone converstations thru MSN while connected to webcams (all free, thanks MSN!). You can talk about a lotta stuff in 6 hours! Especially when the time flies and you both ask each other, where did the time go?!

So I wouldn't say it's "a waste of time till you meet". Rather, the distance and not being able to meet *yet* gives you both the opportunity to discuss all these little things that may not get brought up when you're hanging out with her on holiday just having an amazing time. When all the physical stuff happens.

I know so many little tidbits of info about my girl that you wouldn't even think about. She hates to iron. But loves to arrange the house, clean etc. Her cooking is so-so but loves to cook cakes, cookies etc. She's very tidy, so am I. She's allergic to cats...bummer I love cats. But hey the cat goes! She doesn't like to wear make-up much. Or any jewelery. Just simple little details, there are a million more other things.

I think myself that it may build a strong foundation upon which to meet in person and see where it goes from there.

Gracias for all your responses.

BobEsponja

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Spanish translations, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

I'm the first to recommend this approach for obvious reasons. It does give you an opportunity to get to know each other first. The problem with meeting a chick in person before you really know her is that the little head tends to take over. In fact I'd say that leads to many, if not most of the problems guys later experience. Of course having said that, the real-life meeting is the true test. I had a Mexicana novia that I corresponded with for a while and when I met her in person, she just didn't take my breath away. She was very attractive but something as missing. I met her twice in Mexico, the second time just to be sure that I wasn't selling her short. With my wife, damm, the first moment I saw her in person, I knew that I never wanted to leave this woman. Who can explain why it's there with one and not with another?

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Spanish translations, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

Bob,

Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think you mentioned your age, or the age of the lady?  In some cases, it is no big deal; but I am still curious.  Also, I do not recall if you said how long it will be before you are supposed to take your trip to see this lady?  Whatever happens, I wish you the best.

                       OkieMan

[BobEsponja]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Spanish translations, posted by OkieMan on Jul 11, 2005

Hola Okieman,

Sure, I'm 32 - she's 25. Neither of us have kids. I hope to get down to see her in September/October. I speak Spanish well enough (not fluent), she speaks near fluent English from 15 months spent in Australia as a student 5 years ago. We use both languages but mostly Spanish.

BobEsponja

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Spanish translat..., posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

thats a great age range and nice that you both speak both languages.
one thing that helped me along the way was noticing how my finacee spoke about her family and the relationship she has with her parents. she is very open with them, talks to them about her concerns and listens to what they have to say. what was also interesting was the type of relationship her parents had, it is traditional where her mother stays at home but her father helps around the house, cooking, cleaning, etc, its 50/50. that is very progressive considering that they've been married for over 25 years and the way of doing things in colombia is that the man doesn't lift a finger, the wife does everything. although they could afford one, they never had a maid, so her mother taught my finacee and her brothers and sisters to cook, clean and help out around the house.
there are so many things that you two can talk about before meeting, i hope things work out. good luck
JK

[wildbilman]

... in response to Re: Spanish translations, posted by jediknight on Jul 11, 2005

Great advice! I can share a little story that follows this theme. I had been writing casually to a girl in Bogota that is a Doctor. For more than a year our e-mails were casual and non romantic. She never displayed a LOT of interest but was always friendly. I never pushed her for anything. When I decided to visit Colombia I told her I was coming, and arranged to meet her in person. Nothing serious. When we actually met, we had an instant attraction and chemistry, and ended up having a great time at dinner and later dancing. The person I met was totally different from the person that send me the casual e-mails. For many of these girls, we are not REAL until we show up in person, and they will not decide how they feel (nor should they!) until they meet you in person. Her e-mails are a LOT different now. Go there and see the girl in person before either of you decided who loves or wants who :-)

William

[Jake]

... in response to Spanish translations, posted by BobEsponja on Jul 11, 2005

I have just listened the song that you sent me, and if, I am willing to open my heart for you, I want you to be my blessing, my light and my sun... Your you are everything.  
 
Alone I want you to know that I sit down that you are the man that I have always looked for in my life. I thank you to become trained that it is possible really to be happy ...Besos  
 
You are it but to surprise you that it has passed in this life. You are beautiful! I wait for you.  
 
You are the spark that he lit the motor of my heart and the desires of being better every day. A lot of kisses for you.  
 
Same I love to have spoken with you, a very pleasant person seems me and I abuot. I hope to be able to speak very soon again with you. Many kisses and hugs.