On Hiatus

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Re: When is it time to give up the s..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 8, 2005

[This message has been edited by Frank O]

but many men go out looking for a spark to set things off. I go out there with a flamethrower. Unfortunately last time it got out of control & I got 3rd degree burns. But life goes on. What's the alternative marry an American who doesn't share the same values & simply wants to date & "see if things work out"? I don't know but I'm NOT afraid of trying OR of failure. I'm getting started on Latin America but probably won't get going really till the end of the year or early next year. Still a little hurt. I'll be traveling to Bogota but not expectint anything more of a vacation really.
Tried Ukraine but like I said I got burned. Beautiful girls but hate to say beyond the looks the Latina's take em EASY!
Just keep trying & don't feel bad man. Attitude I would say is 90% of it man.If your looking for a needle in the haystack take out the flamethrower & BURN the haystack, then proceed to SWEEP OUT THE ASHES, you'll find the needle right there.

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

Well said (for the most part) Traveller and Fuzzyone (below) about moving on from all the in-fighting and lets talk more positively about finding and keeping happy Latina wives...

As an "experienced newbie", (2 trips totalling 5 weeks in BAQ between April and May, met 37 women, dated 10, seriously dated 2, currently in contact with 4), I am interested in learning as much as I can about... finding a Latina wife.

As a pursuer and student of Latina love, I am interested in learning about the good, the bad, and the ugly.  But watching grown men bicker like children day, after day, after day, gets old... especially when most of the parties involved have so much practical, helpful information to offer...

In the words of that great social engineer, Rodney King, "Can't we all just get along?"  

We won't always agree with each other, but incessant name calling... I mean seriously...

Can we all just take a moment of silence for a "virtual group hug" and sing the Barney song or something? (you know the words... "I love you, you love me, we're a happy family..." :-)

Then maybe we can get back to talking about finding and keeping the women of our Latina dreams... :-)

[thundernco]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

Give me a ring, I think we'll be around. -TNC

[Malandro]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

how can you just think about your own wants and interests when there is an American girl missing in Aruba?

[caslug]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

Hey Traveller.. I like knowing the day-to-day stuff about cali that you post.  I was looking for any update you have on the paragliding, did you go?  how was it, i assuming if you went it's safe because you're alive to post today.  LOL!  I admit, i wasn't ready PL in detail because it's all about bashing Bruce for TLC or Bashing AMBRAZIL for being "un-american".  Which i find funny, because if there's ONE basic right that americans cherish is our right to bitch, complain, and disagree WITH ANYTHING.  HECK It's OUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHT TO COMPLAIN about ANY PRESIDENT or POLITICIAN.  DOESNT ALL MILITARY RECRUITS have to swear to DEFEND/UPHOLD the CONSTIUTION of the UNITED STATES?  SO To call someone "UNamerican" when they TAKE advantage of that right, is.. "UNamerican". LOL!

[doombug]

... in response to Re:  , posted by caslug on Jul 8, 2005

"SO To call someone 'UNamerican' when they TAKE advantage of that right, is.. 'UNamerican'. LOL!"

Not really.  If I were an authority figure with arresting powers who threw such dissenters behind bars, then THAT would be "un-American."

On the other hand, if such dissenters open an anti-American thread soon after an ally is attacked, and the common man suggests that he leave the country if things are so intolerable, this is an example of what you characterize as "bitching, complaining, disagreeing."

"LOL!"

[WS244]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

There are so many posters who show little or no personal information on this board, others protraying someone they are not, and women playing off as men, bringing up politics is one way to try and draw out a response to see where some of these people are coming from.  When some of these posters go to South America 20 times looking for a wife and can not find one, there are other issues as to why one keeps attempting to fit a round peg in a square hole.  

[cabocancun]

... in response to Re: On Hiatus, posted by WS244 on Jul 8, 2005

Guys,I would appreciate your opinions:

When is it time to give up the search?

My stats:
1. Searching for 18 months in Barranquilla,Cartagena,Santa Marta including one year spent visiting with ex-girlfriend exclusively.
2. 9 trips to Colombia
3. Two tours
4. $18k to $20k spent so far

I figure I will give it six more months and two more trips.
I have great time when I am in Colombia,but when I get back
I spend a lot of time unproductively second guessing everything and thinking the grass is greener somewhere else.
I do not want to become a lifer in this thing of ours.

What do you guys think?

[Jake]

... in response to Re: Re: On Hiatus, posted by cabocancun on Jul 8, 2005

I have been in your shoes ........... I found out the odds are against you by thinking you are going to run into your future wife in a tour , week long trip  ect ...... I also have no regrets about all my trips , some business  so it as all been a adventure . i have over 40 trips to SA , but this includes business also ........

so I regrouped a few years ago  , and went a completely different  route .......... all that money and still nothing ........ I started writing letters , found it was a lot cheaper , found ladies more serious , and met a much better select group of ladies . When I found 3-5 ladies that I liked I headed south ..... I really thought about the marketing aspect differently and didn't market myself like a car ..... when I first started my response rate was not very good .... maybe 10-20 percent ... after a few months and a little research i got it to 50-60 percent ...  I even have helped 2 other guys and after only a few months they were so excited to start seeing all these letters in the mail ....... SO many guys are just to lazy .... one big hint  ... form letters copyed over and over with out putting the girls name on the page does not work ......
Jake

[surfscum]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

Traveller, I couldn't agree more with what you say. I used to point people to this site, but it has degenerated lately and I can't really recommend the site, just a couple of people like Ray or UtopiaCowboy.

Guys, please let it go. In your striving to "win" your argument, you create (I'll be nice and say "the appearance") of a hostile environment. Who would want to join this board? We want more guys to post on here, can we agree on that?

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to On Hiatus, posted by Traveller on Jul 8, 2005

Wow good post... I have been reading post on other forums including
immaration forums where the men don't want to come here because its became
a waste of time. Why? if there is no information to help anyone why would they
want to come here? Beating on TLC day in or day out beating on Jamie or any
other agancy owner over and over again does not help. It comes to a point that
all that gets posted here is this agency sucks that one sucks ect..... I think most
of us have survied this long if the can't spend the time reading the old post to
hell with them... they will ask the first Colombian to marry then within a week no
matter what we do....

[papi]

... in response to A light at the end of the tunnel!!!, posted by Fuzzyone on Jul 8, 2005

But it would be great if someone could find that agency gem and tell us about it

[Jake]

... in response to Re: A light at the end of the tunnel!!!, posted by papi on Jul 8, 2005

steveo .. that should be you mission ... maybe you were put on this planet just to create a perfect jem ..... with everything you have learned in past Years (decade) you could do it ........

by the way ..oh next time

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: A light at the end of the tunnel..., posted by Jake on Jul 8, 2005

Jakester, the price is right. The place is safe but i dont have enough hotties for the guys...and dont want to spend more money to try and get some on the come bet