Do some ladies want to marry after two citas?

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Si, Senor, posted by jediknight on Jul 4, 2005

Yeah but to try to make some other understand THAT is an uphill battle which you should NOT even try to fight. If you KNOW you are right damn what anybody else says. Move on with YOUR life. I'm happy for you guys & I believe 100% in what your saying. You want to read a good book read "One Flesh" by Bob Yandian. EXCELLENT book, I would recommend it to any married couple.

[Jake]

... in response to Re: The most common advice is go slow, posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

my fiance and I discussed all of these and practice number 7 a lot ....

[Frank O]

... in response to The most common advice is go slow, posted by utopiacowboy on Jul 3, 2005

In my case it was similar when it did NOT go well it was not ME who changed my mind. IF she would have chosen to remain married & faithful we'd STILL be. Everyone's different but if it WERE up to me well let's just say I'm decisive NOT impulsive as many are led to believe.

[CelticUrge]

... in response to Do some ladies want to marry after two c..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

I have personally witnessed the several day engagement process occur at least five times. Things can indeed move fast. However, the visa application takes 3-4 months and provides some time to get to know each other a lot better through an additional visit, and numerous emails and phone conversations.

Gary Bala - how long does the visa process normally take nowadays?

There is also something to be said about buying yourself time. If you give her a ring before you return to your own country, it shows that you are serious and very interested in this woman. And I don't mean to imply that this should be done casually or taken lightly by any means. If you don't think she is "the one" then don't do it. Perhaps she has met someone else who is of interest, or casually dating someone locally. Once you return for the next trip you can determine over the course of a week or more together again whether this is actually the one for you. It's what I call "yuh pays your money and yuh takes yer chances!" or the "Hail Mary" game play.

I have no idea what the track record would be for this tactical maneuver.

[Frank O]

... in response to Do some ladies want to marry after two c..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

Well in the first place she was OBVIOUSLY NOT so serious about marriage considering she backed off after your response. Also about the smoking issue...I got dragged through the mud before on this one but I would NOT back down on that. My ex wife LIED to me about smoking. She told me she did NOT smoke. Well when she arrived here she was smoking OVER 1 pack a day!!! WTF?! I just would simply stick to my guns on certain things. Don't rush it man. YOU have to be the one setting the terms as to how fast or how slow the relationship takes. Been there done that.

[Jake]

... in response to Do some ladies want to marry after two c..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

Give Papi here name this is just what he is looking for ........

[cabocancun]

... in response to Re: Do some ladies want to marry after t..., posted by Jake on Jul 3, 2005

Jake,

What do you think is the best way to avoid making a premature commitment?

[Jake]

... in response to Re: Re: Do some ladies want to marry aft..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

Time ......... any lady that wants to get married in 2 days I would be running to the hills. really you have aleast one year during the visa process to get to know her ... but I would like to know her before the visa process ......... It should be clear that both parties want to be married in the future ... but is the future tomorrow ? been there done that ... guess what it does not work !!!!!!!!!!!!

[doombug]

... in response to Do some ladies want to marry after two c..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

"So guys - Why do some of the ladies try to get a marriage commitment after TWO meetings?"

They want to lock in the remittances.

Potential sugar daddies don't come by very often.  

[mudd]

... in response to Do some ladies want to marry after two c..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

It’s called "desperate” just like the men who go down there and get engaged within a week. Anybody with half a brain would call this behavior desperate, or very stupid. Being called a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" within a week is a little fast, but engaged, "moving at the speed of light".
I had a meeting with 3 girls, two were very normal, but one, wow, talk about aggressive, wanted to suck my face off in the 1st meeting, and didn’t care about the other two girls there. she even asked what room I was staying in at the hotel, luckily my translator didn’t give her the room # because  I know for sure, she would have paid me a visit , not that its a bad thing, but I wouldn’t of wanted to deal with her after the fact.

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Do some ladies want to marry after t..., posted by mudd on Jul 3, 2005

just kidding man.

[mudd]

... in response to Do you still have her info? I'd like to ..., posted by Frank O on Jul 3, 2005

yes i do, she belongs to jamie's agency in barranquilla

[cabocancun]

... in response to Re: Do some ladies want to marry after t..., posted by mudd on Jul 3, 2005


Mudd,

Is it possible to slow down a "desperate" person?

Even if I met the right person,I would want the relationship
to development naturally. Not in a heated rush.
What if during the first meeting,one was to mention that six months would have to pass before a commitment would occur?

[mudd]

... in response to Re: Re: Do some ladies want to marry aft..., posted by cabocancun on Jul 3, 2005

I think its possible if both people are into each other  for the right reasons, but you have to look at the motive, or reason why this person is in such a hurry, could be a lot of different  factors. girls reasons--- no money, no job, problems with family, abusive ex, cartel, plan to get to the USA with some sucker, and divorce him soon after.

guys reasons, desperate, cant get a girl back home, socially challenged, bad history with abuse with past girlfriends or wives, is lying about his financial status, where he lives, drinking problem ect.  You get the idea, and I have seen a lot of these things from both.