[This message has been edited by Looking4Wife]
Unfortunately, (or ulitmately fortunately), I had to end things with my primary love interest in BAQ. Essentially her mother was controlling her life (she's 28, I'm 37). Her mom was limiting her time she could spend with me. She had to be home by 8:30 PM when I was in town, but normally would be out until 10:00PM, 11:00PM, etc. She was afraid to stand up to her mom because she lived with her mom, AND her mom is also her boss.
I saw this as a potential problem if she were to come back to the states. Especially since she had lived in Spain several years, running a business, and her mom became sick and begged her to shut down her business and come back to BAQ to take care of her.
More important than not standing up to her mother, she didn't assure me that she was on the same page with my feelings about her mom. This along with some other communication problems that I was making note of going along (no, NOT spanish vs. english).
Her family is wealthy and kind of reminds me of the British Sitcom on BBC called "Keeping Up Appearances With Hyacinth Bucket" (Where the title character "Hyacinth" insists to all of her friends that her last name "Bucket" is prononounced like "Bouquet"). In other words we have to ignore the source of conflict if it will make the family look bad, and pretend everything is OK, even when its not...
In my (now) ex-girlfriend's family structure, she was petrified to say anything to her mom that her mom would not agree with, or to say anything to me that might sound negative about her mom... unless I asked her directly, since she wouldn't lie to protect her mom's "bogus" appearance of justification.
As a side note, this was not an agency girl. I met her in church, and she wasn't looking for a relationship. She doesn't like Colombian men and expected to meet her husband when she travelled abroad (which she does frequently). This started to make sense as the relationship progressed, since the only time she feels independent to live her own life is when she is in a different country from her mother....
Fortunately, I have several other gorgeous girls, with no family drama, to choose from that I am still in contact with as a result of the agency (International-Introductions.com).
