While living in Cali Colombia for the past two years I became exposed to hundreds of gringos. I speak Spanish so I was able to see two sides to this story. The guys and the girls.
Almost all decent, hardworking, trusting guys. Guys so beat up by materialistic, self centered American women that the came to a war zone to find a women who would love them. Really love them.
They had their faults. But on the whole the were decent people.
Many were in need of a grooming class, teeth cleaning and maybe a spot on "Queer eye for the straight guy". If you get my drift.
As I made friends with them I saw a pattern emerge. The pattern was a unspoken/spoken pact between the agency owners and the girls who are members of the agencies. Many of them members of several agency's. To the benefit of both.
First the Bad girls.
There is a true core of hardened green card sharks. They are most often very hot looking 20 something women. They dress very sexy and are fantastic actresses. The best ones even learn a little English to help them along.
The will do anything to hook a gringo.
They will sleep with him. Spoil him. Introduce him to their family.
Use their children to hook him Whatever it takes. They and their family will use whatever means necessary to get her to the U.S.A.
They are survivors. Many are nothing more than hookers masquerading as real women.
They almost always have a relative in the U.S.A.
Their support group. More of an underground railroad really. And it is waiting to assist them.
They know the immigration law better than some attorneys. They know that if they call 911 and report abuse they will be taken in by womens shelters and supported. They will get money and legal advise off the dime of the taxpayer. And it stops the immigration clock.
They will wait the two or three years, whatever is necessary to get resident status so as not to be deported. The whole time giving him sex, cleaning, cooking and acting like a normal loving wife.
Sometimes cheating and sometimes not. They are very patient.
Waiting for the clock to tick.
Their boyfriend or X husband may be in on the scam. The X husband may give permission for their child to leave if he is paid. Or she may agree to bring him to the U.S. when she has resident status.
They have heard the stories we tell about the green card sharks.
Some are so smart they now will never ask you to buy them anything.
They know that that is one of our red flags.
They read this board. I've seen it with my own eyes. They are getting smarter and better at what they do.
Many have had fake boobs and butt jobs. Some have worked in Italy, Japan Europe and Panama as hookers. They may have gotten close to getting the green card but got busted when the guy wised up.
Thus the fake boobs and butt. Bought by some dumb gringo. the Studio F clothes and sometimes even a car. The are real pros who know their beauty clock is ticking. So they want out. And they don't care who gets hurt.
These women are used by the agency as bait. Some are paid just to show. The are not even sharks. They get a "emergency" phone call and have to leave. And the agency owner or secretary will point the Gringo to the next hot looking ringer. Of course he pays more or extends his stay. thereby earn more money for the agency more money.
Sometimes the secretary will get kick back of money or something of value for hooking up the next mark. These girls will often work as translators.
The really decent girls.....
They taint the really decent, hard working women who are not on the front of the agency website. The ones who really want a decent husband. Most often they are not the hot looking girls or ringers you will see on the front of the agency website.
I'm not going to go into these girls but they do exist.
They are what we all are looking for. They are most often not twenty years old and may have a kid or two. Sometimes better educated. sometimes not. there is no rhyme or reason to them.
But they do exist. They are what we are looking for.
They are the reason we head south to Colombia.
They blow away the Gringa. They will never leave you if you treat them right. They are feminine,sweet and know how to treat a man. They think sex is not just a duty but a pleasure. And they give it with gusto. They are uninhibited and tender.
They will die for you. And they are a gift to be treasured.
But here is the hard part.
Many are not in agencies. And the ones that are are past up by most of the gringos. Because the gringos fall into they agency trap of the hot looking ringer.
They come in all colors. Some of the best are average looking black girls. Why? Because they often get overlooked.
I must have met fifty black girls who would have made great wives.
But both the black Gringo and the white gringo could not resist the hotty/ringer girls.
It is up to you to find them. Good luck..you will need it.
It's very easy to get caught in the trap of the hot Colombiana.
How do I know. Well I wasted a year with one.
I am as guilty as anyone who has engaged in this process.
That's how I know.