Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos & latinas

[buster40]

... in response to Check out her resume....., posted by Cali James on Jun 17, 2005

OMG!!!!!!! Nice find on the resume Cali James. Phd in Advanced Feminist Studies!!!!... and she gave a speech on Planet Love's Chatroom in 2001.  Pete!!!!!  Get out while you can!!!! I'm scared for ya.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Check out her resume....., posted by buster40 on Jun 17, 2005

Thats a minor in advanced feminist studies.I will take my chances.I want to talk to her.She said she would give me a draft of anything about me before publishing.And I presume no real names in stories.I want too meet her.I'll take my chances.We don't have to agree on everything.Other perspectives can be interesting.
Am  I starting to look like that seal?
I think it will be fun however it turns out.

Pete

[buster40]

... in response to Re: Re: Check out her resume....., posted by Pete E on Jun 17, 2005

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I don't know if you are the seal or not...lol.  If you look at her academic career, her studies were focused on the feminist studies.  Her advisor for her dissertation was the Director for Advanced Feminist Studies and American Studies Dept.  Doesn't look to me like she did much focusing on anything but the feminist issues. I'm curious as to who is underwriting her efforts?  Is is a govt. grant?  Is someone in Congress planning on using her findings for any regulatory legislation?  If you look at her career, she has basically been paid by fellowships and grants since 1996.  She seems to be tied into the money for her movement.

Is it a book deal or a magazine article?  I'm not saying she's not a nice woman or anything, I'm just curious as to what her agenda is. What does bother me is that IF she writes a slanted paper, how will the other side be told?  

Follow the money...that will tell you her agenda.

[Avispa]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Check out her resume....., posted by buster40 on Jun 17, 2005

Nothing good can come from this.
She's blowing smoke up your ass Pete.
I can just see the book now, How the "Mail order bride" business is exploiting poor third world women.

[caslug]

... in response to Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos & l..., posted by Pete E on Jun 17, 2005

my first post.. I've been lurking on this board for a while.. but since you mention my alma matter i decided to write something.  I went to UCSC 88-93, way before the PC thing came on to the US cultural landscape.  The education i received was excellent in regards to understanding diversity and becoming more "culturally sensitive".  It was very helpful in business to be opened minded.  One thing they pounded into our heads was the equality between men/women.  Which is not a bad thing in itself. At times, it did seem that as a straight, male student you didn't get back your other testicle until AFTER graduation. LOL!!

But when i started traveling to COL/PERU i recognize that things are NOT equal.(DUH!).  Talking w/ the locals guys, if they had decent jobs/money they were loving life.  Almost all of them(esp COL) had a wife/serious GF BUT had couple of chicas on the side, no problem.  US Expat i've met there tend to start out "faithful" but then, especially after breaking up w/ their first Latina, they tend to promiscous as much as if not more than locals.  Can't blame em, kinda when in rome...  It's so readily available and with no reprecusion for them.  Unlike what we're taught in US.  

I look forward to her book, hopefully it gives a balance view on the social dynamic of the Latin society and NOT just Latinas..

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos &am..., posted by caslug on Jun 17, 2005

My concern is how that type of thinking reacts to very unequal situations between men and women like we have here in Colombia,and in most of the world I might add.And for most of recorded history.

Pete

Pete

[caslug]

... in response to Re: Re: Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos..., posted by Pete E on Jun 17, 2005

Hopefully, she writes and objective look on things.  Unfortunatly sometimes the writer will have their theory, then try to find facts to fit the theory.  So lets hope she doesn't her starting theory is "loser gringos" needing foreign bride and slanting it to show one group taking advantage of another.  Actually the bad/luck stories i've read on this sites AND Other sites, it's not ALWAYS the guy taking advantage of the women.  Some hardcore feminist actually are pro-porn/adult entertainment because their take on it is that in those industries the WOMEN has the power.  A female porn actress makes LOT more than Males.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos &am..., posted by caslug on Jun 17, 2005

I think alot of it is why are the latinas going this route?What is their motivation?
I am sure she will get an earfull at the TLC party on that one.
There just might be some new insight in to it for us even on latina motivation.I think she wants to cut through that Colobianos are peros story.Maybe get a level below that.

Pete

[buster40]

... in response to Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos & l..., posted by Pete E on Jun 17, 2005

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Why does the image of a sweet, innocent looking baby seal staring up just before it gets its skull bashed in come to mind after reading this post?  Maybe, I'm too cynical.

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Felicity Grabiel,book on gringos &am..., posted by buster40 on Jun 17, 2005

That has entered my mind also.Reminds me of my analogy of myself as a lamb being led to slaughter when I got married so fast to my ex.
But I am willing to give her a shot at it even if thats the outcome.
I guess I am of the opinion that the truth shall prevail but agendas can cancel that one sometimes.
We shall see.Jesse is no fool and he really likes her.My ex really likes her but you could read that as a warning
of female conspiracy if you were paranoid.I have yet to meet her personally.
If I don't like the outcome maybe I will write my own book.People keep telling me I should when I tell them some of the stories out of here.They say "you should be taking notes."
The best stuff has not been posted here.Its too personal to someones story.I do have some discretion.
Its damned interesting thats for sure.Much more so than what I had going before I got in to this,which was not much,so that wasn't hard to top.

Pete