Moving forward-- Reality check

[papi]

... in response to Re: OkieMan, posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

The reason guys are not doing better is because there are a lot of scammers, flakes and babies in our search. But what is the alternative?

[Chris F]

... in response to Moving forward-- Reality check, posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

Okieman,

You ask.."why is it difficult to understand them?"

Again...with all due respect..... its primariy because of the language barier.

Once you know some Spanish Okieman....this whole process will be so much easier for you....

Good Luck on your Spanish!!!

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re:  Moving forward-- Reality check, posted by Chris F on Jun 14, 2005

Chris,

I am sure you are right.  However, I have noticed that according to the many posts on this board, even the guys who speak really good spanish are only hit and miss with "striking gold", with these latinas.  There seems to be only a handful of men who are dating and subsequently marrying their latinas.  I have also noticed that several of the ones who do, often seem to have a rocky patch with their latinas.  Some are even divorced from them.  So, I am just having a difficult time understanding the true advantages.  Again, I ask the question-- what is reality, and what is illusion?  Sure, there are many, many beautiful latinas that are potentially available.  It just seems that very few american men  are actually having success.  The lousy part of all this is that the older I get, the fewer and fewer options I will have.  That's not a comforting thought.

                              OkieMan

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality check, posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

Bottom line is " if you want a real hottie , you need to live in colombia because you are still better then most that she can find. If you want to bring her back, best to go for a girl next door , attractive, but not too attractive. The hotties know there worth and when they get here, they know there worth just got that much better.

I expect there are some guys that can keep a real hottie here happy, but it is not the norm, but the excpetion.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality ch..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Jun 14, 2005

Kiltboy,

Thank you for your comments.  I am curious if you could give me your definition of a "hottie"?  I mean beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and all that.  The other thing is- and I hate to keep repeating myself- I AM NOT GOING AFTER THE 18-25 GIRLS!!!  The lady I was just with is 35!  So, if you are trying to warn me (I am 52) that I don't need to chase a 21 year old, I get it!  That is not the type of woman/girl I am after.  I am also not going after the silicone tits party girl either.  I think you get the picture.  I realize that other men here do, and that is their business.  However, that is not my style.  I am trying to better understand their language and culture and see where I might benefit the most.

                         OkieMan

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Realit..., posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

women are much more stable in their 30's. yu will have better luck next time - no doubt about it

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Realit..., posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

Okie

An older woman can be just as hard to please , sometimes more, then a young one. She has experienced more and may have become acumtomed to a certain type man/lifestyle , that a younger woman may not as of yet, so it can go both ways.

I define a Hottie as a pretty much model/bodacios type that will stand out in a crowd, even a colombian crowd /

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality ch..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Jun 14, 2005

KB, this posts reminds me of a couple I knew in Michigan.  The women from Cali was a hottie – made me crazy and still does. Models and is a solid 9.  He on the other hand was not Tom Cruise.  I could not figure it out until she eventually dumped him for another man after 4 years of marriage and a kid. This is the problem with unbalanced relationships in the looks dept

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality check, posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

Look alot of guys here have had problems it is not easy.. not even close but
the rewards are huge. Think about your trip this way... you learned a easy lesson
that cost you nothing but a trip and some money. It could have been worse, you
could have married brought her her then after a year found out she used you. It
would have cost you a ton of money now.
 I married a Peruvian back in 2000 and it was a living nightmare for me. This
girl could lie to your face and not even flinch. I made a big mistake but I
corrected it and moved on. Now I have been married for over a year to a very
beautiful Colombian woman who will do anything for me and I will do anything
for her.  There is woman out there for you maybe even more then one but you
have not stray from your goal. I know I fought with Papi alot but one thing he
did do was not cross that line and marry some woman that would not fit his life..

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality ch..., posted by Fuzzyone on Jun 14, 2005

Fuzzy:

You may want to update your profile... it still has you down as "currently looking in Colombia for a new woman"... based on your recent post, your wife may take offense to this... :-)

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Reality ch..., posted by Fuzzyone on Jun 14, 2005

Fuzzyone,

Thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry that you went through the bad marriage with the Peruvian lady.  However, it seems that you are now doing well.   I must confess, I just don't get the lying and deceitfulness thing. I am aware that the world is full of them; but I just don't get it.  Furthermore, I don't want to get it.  I am afraid that if I did, I would turn into one.  The old "takes one to know one" thing.

                         OkieMan

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Realit..., posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

okie, there are lying and deceitfulness AW too - i just dont date them or any AW for that matter. just part of the program. women can be tricky so take your time next time around

[Fuzzyone]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Realit..., posted by OkieMan on Jun 14, 2005

Well it taught me a real important lesson... stand back watch, take notes. don't
let a beautiful woman turn your head. I made a big mistake so has alot of other
men here but when I went to visit my girl in Colombia, I watched and listened.
Everything she told me on the phone, e-mails, chat ect was true. She never lied
to me and I have alot of repect for her because of it.

 Okie I think you will find the right woman but you have to go to other cities
too. Try Barranquilla, so guys say it is boring but if you found that special girl
there you will have a ton of stuff to do. Try to always remember sometimes it is
better to run away and come back another day then lose everything for a simple
mistake of trying to force something that will not work.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Re..., posted by Fuzzyone on Jun 14, 2005

Very true, oh Fuzzyone; or is that Obi One?  Ha  Thanks for the help.

                   OkieMan

[papi]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re:  Moving forward-- Re..., posted by Fuzzyone on Jun 14, 2005

BAQ is an excellent suggestion