Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex Appeal

[OkieMan]

Gentleman,

There has been much discussion in an earlier thread about latinas learning english, etc.  I am not qualified to make any serious statements about that.  I know that I am having difficulty learning spanish, but I am sure I will get better over time.  However, I would like to change the discussion a little; but still be tied into part of that earlier thread.  Since all of us on this board are attracted to latinas, I would like to comment on certain aspects of that.  Mainly, reasons why I find these latinas so attractive.  We all know the physical attraction, so I won't go there.  That is so obvious.  But, other reasons I am attracted to them are:

 1.  Culture- the sweet, considerate, and attentive way they treat us (american guys).  So different then what many of us were putting up with.

 2.  Language - We have been discussing part of that.  But, I also just love to hear them talk.  It is soooo sexy!  And when they try to speak english, their accent really turns me on!  I am sure all of you are the same way.  But, I am also naturally curious to know if they like our accent?  What do you guys think?

 3.  Faithfulness-  Now here is one subject I am not qualified to state for a fact.  Naturally, there are girls that screw around, the same as the guys. But, overall, do you think the latinas are as faithful to their husbands as has been told by the agencies?  I know that many of you on this board are married to your latinas.  Others are engaged; and many are like me.  I am still trying to find my other half.  But, certainly the appeal is that the latinas are supposedly more faithful, and they value the family unit more, etc.

I realize that none of this is new.  But, it seems that we have been having some new guys post on here; so maybe they would enjoy hearing some of your comments.  I will be going back to Cali next month, and there is one main latina that I want to see.  As I am making the attempt to really get to know her, I am  also trying to learn more from many of you on this board.  So, I guess part of this would fall under the category; FACT or FICTION?  TRUTH OR MYTH?
I look forward to  your comments.
     
                                        OkieMan

[Jake]

... in response to Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex Appe..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 22, 2005

okieman .......... we are hearing so much about this lady you are going to meet ?  I am more concern about PLAN a , b , c , ect ..... I to have been down that road that you are going , only because I can get to Cali in a matter of hours ....... I have met so many ladies by your way and when I am there to see in person  WOW what a shock . There are many others on this board who have also been through this .....so explain your other plans .... to see if the " professors " approve .........

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex ..., posted by Jake on Apr 23, 2005

Jake,

Alright,

Plan B is to check with Latin-Internet about other women.  That is the agency I am already a member of; and how I met this lady via the emails.  If not that, then I will check out some other agencies in Cali, or Medellin. (I have talked to Steve Valdez at Colombian Sweethearts, in the past.  PLan C: I will also enjoy seeing the sights around town.  I might be able to meet someone that way.  The problem I have with that is that at this time, I am weak in speaking spanish.  I am working on that, but it will not happen over night.  Plan D:  I will wait until you are not looking; then I will come to Brazil and steal your lady! ha ha  No seriously, I plan to take it a step at a time. When I was in Cali last summer, I dated some ladies, but nothing worked out.  I didn't jump off a cliff or slash my wrists.  I understand that there is a risk that this deal won't work.  I figure just being in "latina land" is a step in the right direction.  I certainly am not going to meet them here in Oklahoma.(well, it's very unlikely anyhow).  So, I have been writing this lady, and I also had written to many other ladies over the past year.  For one reason or the other, the other ladies just didn't click with me.   But, naturally, I can not rely on things being like I think they are, until I actually meet her.  If it does not, then it's off to the races again!

                       OkieMan

[Jake]

... in response to Re: Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and ..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 23, 2005

okie . I have a niece in Okl. City . she told me there is special breed of women called  " Okieatina " maybe you should check them out ...
Jake ........
ps ... you would need a very big pair of shoes to steal my lady .......... once she has had steak it would be hard to switch to okie  burgers ....... also if you think learning spanish is tuff ..try portuguese..........

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Languages, Accents, Culture ..., posted by Jake on Apr 23, 2005

Jake,

Okieburgers huh?  What a hoot! I got a good laugh out of that one.  So you have a niece in OKC?  I have several relatives that live in the Okla City area.  A brother and his family, a sister and her family, my youngest son, and a host of distant cousins!  Last week, there was a big ceremony acknowledging the 10th Anniversary of the OKC bombing!  It is hard to believe that it has been 10 years!  But, life goes on.  

                                OkieMan

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex ..., posted by Jake on Apr 23, 2005

Okie, I think we all want to see you succeed.  As such, I´m sure many of us would feel more comfortable hearing more about (or at least knowing YOU are secure with) your backup multiple plans.

On a side note Jamie, of International-Introductions.com, indicated a very interesting statistic.  As many of you know, Jamie has an agency that does personal introductions.  I am in BAQ using his excellent services right now.  Jamie also sells addresses/contact info.  Jamie indicated that in his agency, he has NEVER had a client that chooses to buy a girl´s contact info before coming down, stay with that same girl after he goes through the introdcution service and meets other girls.

So in other words, a guy may spend months corresponding with 1 girl, then when he gets here and Jamie introduces him to other girls, he discontinues the relationship with the correspondence girl in favor of one of the other girls.

This attests to Jamie´s honesty, since the uninitiated would expect that it makes sense to correspond with as many girls as possible before meeting them (i.e. buy addresses from Jamie), then allow Jamie to introduce you to them (along with a host of other girls) in person also.  Jamie could sell more addesses if he fed that line of thinking, but he encourages people who are coming down, to simply come down as soon as possible and don´t worry about (spending money on) prior correspondence.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Okie, Jake is right..., posted by Looking4Wife on Apr 23, 2005

Lookingforwife,

There is much truth to what you said.  However, I am not putting all of my eggs in one basket. Having said that, I am going to go down and meet this lady.  I have already told her repeatedly to be honest with me, and I certainly will be honest with her.  So, the worst thing that can happen is we don't click and I go out with other women. Big deal! The same thing happened to me last year.  I was writing to a sweet young latina, and we went out.  But, I could tell after a very short while that there was nothing there.  So, I graciously bowed out, and went out with other ladies.I even interviewed with several more that I did not even go out with.  So, there was a method to my madness! So, even though nothing really developed with those either, but I still had a good time, and now I am back at it again.  I think that sounds pretty close to the advice I have received from many posters on this board.  So, I will report back to all of you with the news from my trip, good or bad.  Who knows, it might work out-- but then again, it might not! By the way, I will be there for my birthday, so one way or the other, I plan to enjoy having my birthday in "Latina Land"! ha ha

                               OkieMan

[Brazilophile]

... in response to Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex Appe..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 22, 2005

I was just talking with my noiva about an article in the Washington Post on the state of marriage in the US today.  The article appered on April 4 and I had emailed her a copy.  She read it as best she could and wrote me comments on the article and on marriage.

Her attitude towards men and marriage is 180 degrees opposite from what it is here in the US.  I can't tell you how uplifting it was to read such refreshing thoughts!  The article discussed how men are being devalued in marriage, and how marriage as a social institution is being replaced by marriage as only personal fulfillment.  Both AW and AM are devaluing marriage by treating it as only a source of personal satisfaction and ignoring the social aspects of it.  The social aspects of marriage include the rules on how married men and women should behave, the environment for raising children, the setting of adult examples and adult role models for children.

My noiva described how she believes children needed to be raised in two-parent familes, and stressed the importance of a man in the household to contribute to the teaching and raising of the children.  She does not see a man's role in the family as solely a provider of material resources.  She stressed that a man's character is important in providing structure to his family.

The Latin culture seems to place high value male leadership.  That is music to my ears after hearing "I don't need a man." so often from AW.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex ..., posted by Brazilophile on Apr 23, 2005

Brazilophile,

Amen to that, brother!  It is indeed refreshing.  Good luck with you are your lady; and if you do have children with her, I pray they are a true blessing to you and she!  It is a big responsibility, but it is worth it.  I have raised 3 sons, and helped to raise my step-daughter.  Now, I have 1 grandson.  The years roll on, but the principles that you mentioned in your post never change, because they were given to us by God Himself!  Take care.

                             OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex Appe..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 22, 2005

Okieman, just as their accent when they speak English drives us wild, they love it when we speak Spanish with a gringo accent. I can't tell you how many times I would be talking to a woman in Colombia (clerk at a store, airline flight attendant etc) and she would be smiling or giggling and when I would ask her why she was giggling invariably she would say, "It's your accent - it's so cute!" Damm, some of these chicas were pretty hot too - good thing I'm happily married. But if I weren't - I would speak as much Spanish as I could - it's a golden opportunity.

As for fidelity, what can I say? My wife told me that if something happened to me she would never even try to find another husband or lover because she knows that she could never do better than this. Damm, now maybe she'll be out looking 10 minutes after I'm gone but I sure liked hearing that.

[valleydude]

... in response to Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and Sex ..., posted by utopiacowboy on Apr 22, 2005

The girls I speak with seem to like the accent, and I have rather begun to enjoy my broken Spanish because of this. I do get embarrassed at times, but I have gotten over a lot of it.

For example, I always confuse "cansado" and "casado". I will want to say "I don't have any children and I have never been married." Instead I will say, "I don't have any children and I am never tired." Sure I look like a clown, but they like it and a positive note is that you can also tell if they have a sense of humor.

In my work place there is also a production area with a lot of Latin Americans. The other day I made a programming mistake which made their job more difficult. I spoke only English with the person in charge who translated. They were all a little bummed out from the extra work, and I sensed some tension. As I walked away I yelled back saying: "Lo siento chicas por ser dificil con tu trabajo." (I am sorry girls for to be difficult with you work.)

They all giggled and the troubles were forgotten.

In a nutshell, we sound as cute to them as they do to us,

V-Dude

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Languages, Accents, Culture and ..., posted by valleydude on Apr 23, 2005

V-Dude,

Thanks for sharing your story.  You are doing better than I am about speaking spanish, but I intend to continue to learn.  However, next month when I am spending time with my calena will be a strong indicator of how my "charms" are working!  Wish me luck! ha

                           OkieMan

[valleydude]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Languages, Accents, Culture ..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 23, 2005

Ok... Good luck Okie! I am sure you will be ok though.

I don't know where you are with Spanish; but you know,
I think a lot can be said in the introduction process with just a few words...

Tiene, Tenemos, Tengo, Te gusta, Creo.

Throw on a couple of nouns in English to any of these words and it should spark some curiosity and up the response ratio.

For example: Tiene tumbleweeds in Colombia? Tenemos tumbleweeds in Oaklahoma. Creo John Wayne is the best! Te gusta movies about Cowboys?

You may be beyond this, but thought I would throw it out there. Who knows, it might help someone get the ball rolling.

V-Dude

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Languages, Accents, Cult..., posted by valleydude on Apr 23, 2005

V-dude,

Great suggestions, and I love the part about westerns and John Wayne!  Now your talking my language pardner! ha ha
No seriously, I do need a lot of help, so your suggestions are helpful.  I also wrote her today discssing this very same language issue. We have been relying on the agency staff to translate our emails, but when I get there, we will have a lot of time alone.  So, I mentioned some ideas to her, and time will tell.  Hopefully, in the near future, I can pick up more spanish.  If we stay together, I want her to learn some english too.  But, right now I am really getting excited about taking this trip. I need the fun and relaxation.  Wow, fun in the sun with a hot latina!  What a concept! ha

                               OkieMan