... in response to What concerns me most..., posted by valleydude on Apr 16, 2005[This message has been edited by Red Clay]
I think what happens in that situation boils down to a girl's character.
When my wife first came to the States, she worked as a live-in nanny for a wealthy couple (two doctors) in Miami. Their home was like something you would see Robin Leach walking around in. They literally would buy each other cars as birthday presents (cars like you mentioned). She told me that they were miserable, that they fought alot. Their kid was a spoiled brat. They treated my wife like she was the poor, desperate refugee slave who didn't really deserve their respect. She mentioned to them that she was eventually going to move to Tennessee to live with me. They warned her about me, told her to be careful, lol.
My wife now works in a law office. It's located in an upscale district of our city. Her bosses have the Jags, BMW's, all that stuff, along with the fabulous houses. What else do they have? Porno addictions, adulterous affairs, (asking my wife to lie for them at times) drinking problems, etc. In my wife's eyes, the really wealthy people that she has known here in the States all seem to lead miserable lives. If she was a golddigger, maybe she would see things differently.
Just be the best judge of character that you can be. BTW, my wife married a tractor-trailer driver, albeit one who is an exception to the stereotypes attached to his profession. ;-)
