Nervous for first trip to Barranquilla

[benjio]

. She will get to BAQ either by plane or van and we will spend a few days together and then I'll worry about the next trip later

Hopefully she has family or friends in Barranquilla. If not I would have made plans to go to Monteria with Jamie's translator. That way if there's no chemistry you're not stuck hanging out with someone you don't like for more than one day. It may not be so bad if the feeling of disinterest is mutual; but if she likes you and you're not very interested in her when you meet in person you might have some drama on your hands. I can just hear it now..."I CAME ALL THE WAY HERE TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU AND YOU DON'T WANT TO?!!!" Let me tell you...that's not a very pleasant experience. Been there, done that. Especially when you could be dating other girls from Jamie's agency during that time.

[Rschnb67]

 Yes she has family there she is spending two or three days with me and two or three days with them and hopefully it works out with me but if not what can I do I'm sure she will leave and go see her family early if she's not into me I hung out with a woman I didn't really like for 18 years (Ex wife) so I'll be OK for a day or two if worse comes to worst I'll hook up with Jamie's girls if need be hopefully there will be lots of chemistry with us

[Rschnb67]

 Thanks for your concerns with the red flags I definitely will talk to her about the child thing I'm not saying I don't want want want to percent I would just prefer now to have money and travel and less stress of having a kid as for living in Monterey or it's not like I'll be there every month if it works out with her I'll visit her to her three times more and try to get in get   Engaged and bring her here so that's all I can do for now is meet her and see how it goes I can easily find girlfriends here in the USA but everyone seems to have so much drama and baggage and Columbian women are so sexy and sweet I have to go

[vikingo]

Monteria? WTF. I have been to Monteria several times since my mother-in-law lives there. I would have to agree that it is nicer than Barranquilla but that's not saying very much. No one goes to Monteria for a vacation. It was a stronghold of the AUC - in fact I could relate some stories about that but I better not. I will say this - it is a safe city for gringos. My wife won't let me out on the side streets of Medellin at night but in Monteria it's no problem. It's hotter than hell all the time.

The official word is there is no more FARC activity in Montería, I checked into it yesterday before I started raving about the city. Actually an attractive  provincial girl is not a bad catch at all, usually less corrupted than a big city girl.

[buencamino2]

The official word is there is no more FARC activity in Montería, I checked into it yesterday before I started raving about the city. Actually an attractive  provincial girl is not a bad catch at all, usually less corrupted than a big city girl.

Agree but I think he said she was from Barranquilla.

[vikingo]

Been thinking about the economics of such a trip like the one of 67. For the price of a room at Jamie's you're out a $100 a night. The most famous hotel in BAQ, the Dann Carlton with a pool where celebrities stay charges $73 to $100 for two people. This hotel is next door to the biggest attraction in BAQ, the huge Buena Vista shopping center, ideal to take good meals in their large food court and the lounges where you can sit and talk with your girl.
An interpreter, which your girl is going to hate after a while costs almost an other $100 a day at Jamie's.
So you fall for some very clever marketing and spend a small fortune, all  while you should educate your girl in  wise money management. A one time investment of $200 buys the best electronic translator money can buy and the atmosphere between the two of you is totally private, no strange third person listening in on your conversation and knowing everything about your and her concerns. Besides for every meal you two take you have to invite the translator as well.
Of everything I've heard so far about this girl from Montería, she sounds like a keeper -  if! the two come to an agreement about the offspring.
In the remote event that 67 needs to reject this girl he can return to Jamie and start over. Apparently he only has a few days to work with, so most likely he will be occupied  with his chick the entire time.
If this girl doesn't work out a 48 year old like him can find an attractive chick on Colombia Cupid or Latin American Cupid without any problems, as long as he involves us in his selection and takes our advise and guidance, lol.

[benjio]

Been thinking about the economics of such a trip like the one of 67. For the price of a room at Jamie's you're out a $100 a night. The most famous hotel in BAQ, the Dann Carlton with a pool where celebrities stay charges $73 to $100 for two people. This hotel is next door to the biggest attraction in BAQ, the huge Buena Vista shopping center, ideal to take good meals in their large food court and the lounges where you can sit and talk with your girl.
An interpreter, which your girl is going to hate after a while costs almost an other $100 a day at Jamie's.
So you fall for some very clever marketing and spend a small fortune, all  while you should educate your girl in  wise money management. A one time investment of $200 buys the best electronic translator money can buy and the atmosphere between the two of you is totally private, no strange third person listening in on your conversation and knowing everything about your and her concerns. Besides for every meal you two take you have to invite the translator as well.
Of everything I've heard so far about this girl from Montería, she sounds like a keeper -  if! the two come to an agreement about the offspring.
In the remote event that 67 needs to reject this girl he can return to Jamie and start over. Apparently he only has a few days to work with, so most likely he will be occupied  with his chick the entire time.
If this girl doesn't work out a 48 year old like him can find an attractive chick on Colombia Cupid or Latin American Cupid without any problems, as long as he involves us in his selection and takes our advise and guidance, lol.

Vikingo you're making a lot of assumptions about Jamie's business model and not looking at the advantages of using his services. First off, Jamie's lodging is now fully furnished, secure, luxury apartments his clients have all to themselves. By fully furnished I mean pots and pans in the kitchen, a blender, food processor, silverware, a nice TV with premium cable, reliale wifi and your own washer and dryer (no expensive hotel laundry service). I stayed in one of Jamie's apartments last time I was vacationing in Barranquilla and all the appliances were top of the line. When you stay in a hotel you're forced to pay for every single meal whether it's room service or a restaurant. You can save hundreds of dollars if you go to the grocery store and fully stock the refrigerator in the apartment. Not to mention Colombianas go absolutely nuts when you cook for them. There's also a maid you can trust that cleans the apartment as supposed to hotel room service workers which you absolutely CANNOT! Jamie's maid will even go grocery shopping for you.


Jamie's translators come in handy for a lot more than converting English to Spanish. They read the subtle signs the women there give off that reveal whether or not they are truly interested in a client. You know as well as I do that Colombianas will NEVER outright reject you. They'll play interested just to save your feelings, avoid confrontation or for a few free meals. The translators will also ask you about your budget to make sure not to take you and your dates to restaurants and other places that are too expensive. They know trusted taxis just in case you're out late without them. You can use them as much or as little as you want. They are literally on call 24/7 for anything you need. When it gets to the point that a client and a girl need time alone to cultivate a budding relationship, they will usually voluntarily excuse themselves and recommend you spend time alone. Jamie encourages this and I've seen them do it dozens of times.


I'm not saying there aren't other options. There's more than one way to skin a cat. What I'm saying is for a first timer that doesn't know the language or anything about the culture or the women, Jamie is a good option for getting your foot in the door.

[Rschnb67]

 The more I read all these post the more I am convinced Jamie is the way to go here is one other option I've considered this would be to fly into Cartagna and they're the hotels provide transportation right from the airport to the hotel and Cartagna seems to be a tourist friendly and much safer yes it's a little more money but   For only a few days trip I'm not worried about that does anybody know if the hotels and Cartagana are right on the beach and there is things to do safely walking around etc. but I'm 99% sure right now I'm going with Jamie this was just a different option presented to me by someone      Does anybody know if Jimmy's apartment is in a very safe area where you can walk to bars shopping etc. ??

[Rschnb67]

 I've talk to you a ton of women and going out with a ton of women in my life the issue here is not with her she is a sweet sweet woman I can tell that my issue and the whole point of this post was to try to get some input as to the safest way to come for a visit everything points towards Jamie thanks to everyone's opinions Im going that route.

[utopiacowboy]

The official word is there is no more FARC activity in Montería, I checked into it yesterday before I started raving about the city. Actually an attractive  provincial girl is not a bad catch at all, usually less corrupted than a big city girl.

The FARC? There was no FARC activity in Monteria - in fact anyone with any leftist tendencies would soon find himself dead there. As for the paramilitaries...yes of course they have all disbanded and are now model citizens.....lol


I would take a paisa over a girl from Monteria any day. Some of the most cynical gold-digging young women I ever met were in Monteria.

[Gato4Astrid]

<---------------- Need to go to Jamie's !!!

[Rschnb67]

The purpose of my post was not to debate which girls are better PAisa or Costena.  I'm sure both have good and bad as everywhere else we all know that I feel my girl is the perfect match for me and that's all I care about I am seeking advice for the safest way to travel for the first time and it all looks like Jamie is the way to go so thanks everybody

[vikingo]

The FARC? There was no FARC activity in Monteria - in fact anyone with any leftist tendencies would soon find himself dead there. As for the paramilitaries...yes of course they have all disbanded and are now model citizens.....lol


I would take a paisa over a girl from Monteria any day. Some of the most cynical gold-digging young women I ever met were in Monteria.

Can't argue with you about paisas versus monterieras but I know for a fact that the 35th and the 37th Front of the FARC were in the Montería mountains since the nineties and commiting atrocities as late as Nov. 2013. Their leaders were shot and the rest apparently disbanded.
Just enter 'FARC en Montería' in google

The reason for the presence of the Paramilitarios, because they went after the FARC.

[fathertime]

    Does anybody know if Jimmy's apartment is in a very safe area where you can walk to bars shopping etc. ??

I assume you meant Jamie's apartment, not "Jimmy's"....NO it is not very safe to walk around there at night.  I base this on the fact that I did do so with a lady, and SHE was rather concerned as we did get into some darker streets with random people hanging around.  I believe we were going to a local liquor store to buy her some tampons of all things.


Nothing bad happened, but her head was on a swivel, and made me a bit nervous, since I really didn't know the neighborhood that well, although I walked through it daily during the day, and felt perfectly safe.    Just take a taxi in the evening...they are inexpensive and it lessons your exposure during peak problem times.


Fathertime!

[benjio]

I assume you meant Jamie's apartment, not "Jimmy's"....NO it is not very safe to walk around there at night.  I base this on the fact that I did do so with a lady, and SHE was rather concerned as we did get into some darker streets with random people hanging around.  I believe we were going to a local liquor store to buy her some tampons of all things.


Nothing bad happened, but her head was on a swivel, and made me a bit nervous, since I really didn't know the neighborhood that well, although I walked through it daily during the day, and felt perfectly safe.    Just take a taxi in the evening...they are inexpensive and it lessons your exposure during peak problem times.


Fathertime!

I think (just assuming FT...correct me if I'm wrong) FT is referring to Jamie's house on Calle 43 con 76B. These days he's putting clients in apartments he rents in the city from what I understand. All depends on how many guys are using his lodging services at once. FT is right. The house is nice but it is close to a major road, a few bars and some late night restaurants so there's always an element of riff raff in that area after the sun goes down. The apartment I stayed in last time was in a much better area, but honestly, even with all my experience in Barranquilla...I wouldn't walk around anywhere in that city alone after dark. There are several areas where I wouldn't walk around at night at all! Even if I was with a large group of men.

[Awesome]

<---------------- Need to go to Jamie's !!!

^^^ Smart man!!

[utopiacowboy]

Can't argue with you about paisas versus monterieras but I know for a fact that the 35th and the 37th Front of the FARC were in the Montería mountains since the nineties and commiting atrocities as late as Nov. 2013. Their leaders were shot and the rest apparently disbanded.
Just enter 'FARC en Montería' in google

The reason for the presence of the Paramilitarios, because they went after the FARC.

Definitely! The FARC used to be in the mountains between Medellin and Monteria which made that road very dangerous in places. In fact for a long time it was not a good road to travel especially at night. It always surprised me that they would position themselves so close to Monteria which was a city where they would have been shot on sight.

[JWR]

Rschnb67Ok ready!  Walk to the mirror right now and say something to yourself now 3 times. 

"My brain is not functioning at 100% right now, and anything I do, I should be suspicious of my own behavior"
"Because my brain is compromised because of the effect of the beauty and sweetness of a new colombiana, I am most likely not going to listen to any of these veterans trying to help me"

This is where you need to begin this process.  Realize that you're not going to be in Kansas anymore, and you're going to behave in ways that you can't fully understand.  After all those cold years with your American women, you are just going to be waking up again as a man.  You're going to need some time with this process to regain a bit of decent judgement.  Don't trust your judgment in the beginning. 


I've been to Barranquilla, lived there, and used Jamie's agency.  Go, have fun, and try not to worry too much.  Just push the safety stuff to the back of your mind and let Jamie help you.  He's a good guy and will take care of you.  His girlfriend even sat in the hospital with me and watched over me when I got such bad food poisoning, I had to get on an IV.  How much is that type of help worth?  Allot.

As American men, we are accustomed to lots of negotiation and talking with American women.  Your colombiana wants at least one child you already know that.  All the conversations in the world are NOT going to change that.  Give her a kid, or you are going to make your life completely miserable down the road.  You think you're not happy now?  My personal opinion is that women who don't want a child have something wrong with them, and in the end will be a cold partner down the road.

You've had some fun online chatting with her.  That's very nice, but the relationship doesn't really start until the plane lands.  Re boot everything when you hit the ground, and see how it goes.

It's been said a few posts back, but here goes again.  Unless you have lots of time, and a fair amount of money to spend, you're not in a good position.  It's like learning to fly a plane, you don't want the short class with 1/2 the flight hours.....  You need the time, or you're likely to crash and burn.  Take it easy, this is serious, and you can really mess up your life.

And again, about the safety, relax and enjoy. 


You won't hear this, but I'll try anyway.  Meet at least 15 girls while you're in Barranquilla.  You need a benchmark.

[benjio]

Rschnb67Ok ready!  Walk to the mirror right now and say something to yourself now 3 times. 

"My brain is not functioning at 100% right now, and anything I do, I should be suspicious of my own behavior"
"Because my brain is compromised because of the effect of the beauty and sweetness of a new colombiana, I am most likely not going to listen to any of these veterans trying to help me"

This is where you need to begin this process.  Realize that you're not going to be in Kansas anymore, and you're going to behave in ways that you can't fully understand.  After all those cold years with your American women, you are just going to be waking up again as a man.  You're going to need some time with this process to regain a bit of decent judgement.  Don't trust your judgment in the beginning. 


I've been to Barranquilla, lived there, and used Jamie's agency.  Go, have fun, and try not to worry too much.  Just push the safety stuff to the back of your mind and let Jamie help you.  He's a good guy and will take care of you.  His girlfriend even sat in the hospital with me and watched over me when I got such bad food poisoning, I had to get on an IV.  How much is that type of help worth?  Allot.

As American men, we are accustomed to lots of negotiation and talking with American women.  Your colombiana wants at least one child you already know that.  All the conversations in the world are NOT going to change that.  Give her a kid, or you are going to make your life completely miserable down the road.  You think you're not happy now?  My personal opinion is that women who don't want a child have something wrong with them, and in the end will be a cold partner down the road.

You've had some fun online chatting with her.  That's very nice, but the relationship doesn't really start until the plane lands.  Re boot everything when you hit the ground, and see how it goes.

It's been said a few posts back, but here goes again.  Unless you have lots of time, and a fair amount of money to spend, you're not in a good position.  It's like learning to fly a plane, you don't want the short class with 1/2 the flight hours.....  You need the time, or you're likely to crash and burn.  Take it easy, this is serious, and you can really mess of your life.

And again, about the safety, relax and enjoy. 


You won't hear this, but I'll try anyway.  Meet at least 15 girls while you're in Barranquilla.  You need a benchmark.

Vikingo basically tried to tell him the same thing in previous posts. I've learned however that you have to let a guy learn on his own. When guys meet girls before traveling there and build a relationship with them online you can't warn them enough about what they're getting into. They have to see for themselves. Jamie will literally try and shove more women down your throat when you commit too early to increase your chances of success, but most guys won't listen. I DIDN'T!!!


I have warned several members here about their Colombian Girlfriends openly and through PM's on this forum and not one has taken my advice. Those with the balls came back and admitted they had learned a lesson to everyone here. Others got in touch with me through email after the fact. Most just disappeared. But very, very few ended up staying with the first Colombiana they met. A lot of them shunned off Colombianas altogether after that first bad experience. I'm eagerly looking forward to 67's first trip report and the months after. He'll soon figure out, regardless of what happens, that at this point he doesn't quite understand what he's getting himself into.

[Rschnb67]

^^^ Smart man!!

I assume you meant Jamie's apartment, not "Jimmy's"....NO it is not very safe to walk around there at night.  I base this on the fact that I did do so with a lady, and SHE was rather concerned as we did get into some darker streets with random people hanging around.  I believe we were going to a local liquor store to buy her some tampons of all things.


Nothing bad happened, but her head was on a swivel, and made me a bit nervous, since I really didn't know the neighborhood that well, although I walked through it daily during the day, and felt perfectly safe.    Just take a taxi in the evening...they are inexpensive and it lessons your exposure during peak problem times.


Fathertime!

[Rschnb67]

 I would love to date 15 women just to prove to myself that she is the one however I am only coming for a few days this very first visit and she will be staying with me so I doubt very much she's going to give me a kiss and tell me to have fun on my date I can already tell Columbiana's are extremely jealous however I'm a pretty good judge of character and   If nothing else I would have met her for a few days got to know the city a little bit and I can plan my next trip I am listening to everybody's advice trust me

[kai #2]

<---------------- Need to go to Jamie's !!!

Stop being so thirsty.

[mambocowboy]

Vikingo basically tried to tell him the same thing in previous posts. I've learned however that you have to let a guy learn on his own. When guys meet girls before traveling there and build a relationship with them online you can't warn them enough about what they're getting into. They have to see for themselves. Jamie will literally try and shove more women down your throat when you commit too early to increase your chances of success, but most guys won't listen. I DIDN'T!!!


I have warned several members here about their Colombian Girlfriends openly and through PM's on this forum and not one has taken my advice. Those with the balls came back and admitted they had learned a lesson to everyone here. Others got in touch with me through email after the fact. Most just disappeared. But very, very few ended up staying with the first Colombiana they met. A lot of them shunned off Colombianas altogether after that first bad experience. I'm eagerly looking forward to 67's first trip report and the months after. He'll soon figure out, regardless of what happens, that at this point he doesn't quite understand what he's getting himself into.

Hey 67 you can search the archives for LatinSharpei and you will find one of the most epic threads ever by a guy who used Jaime's agency but didn't listen to any of our advice...

[Alabamaboy!]

Met my wife through Jamies. She is from Soledad. I like to walk and walked all over the place in Soledad and BAQ without incidents. I have been to BAQ at least 12 times. Jamies apartment at the agency is great opportunity if he still has it. You will see a lot of extra girls coming in and out of there that you never even thought of or who looked way uglier on the website. After you get your bearings over there Hotel Caribe 79 is a nice, cheaper option. Recommend trip to Rodadero in Santa Marta rather than Cartagena. Less expensive, plus can go bikini shopping together! Though CTG is super cool too if cash not an issue. Some red flags off the top of my head: has her own car, has more than one cell phone, does not have cell with her, has IPhone 6 already, has expensive looking clothes or shoes but lives in poorer Barrio and does not have a job, talks more about her career or dreams to "salir adelante" than the relationship with you, if she has a live in servant at her family's house, if she doesn't know how to cook. If you meet a girl from Soledad, don't be scared off that it is dangerous, just be careful. And be ready to pay 2-3 normal rates for taxis there (if you can find one who will take you there at all) Good luck

[vikingo]

It doesn't look like 67 is in the mood to get involved with any other woman during this trip. He came from a long horrid experience with his ex wife and he got to know the kindness and sincerity of this woman from Montería, she is like a  breath of fresh air to him.

There are going to be some tense moments when they meet in person, for him and for her;
is this the man/woman they imagined all along or is it someone completely different...

I sincerely hope he wasn't wrong in his assessment, even if it was just by email and Skype, but he, not her has to overcome a big hurdle, her being childless. He is young enough to have an other child, it's the only way this relationship is going to be successful in my opinion.
 
The story of Julio Iglesia Sr. comes to mind, the father and a medical doctor of the famous Spanish singer.
Julio Sr. at the age of 89 and his 40 year old wife had a son. And she bore an other child of his right after, but unfortunately he never got to see his little daughter, he had suddenly passed away at the age of 90.
What I'm trying to say, 48 is not too old to have an other child with a 30 year old woman.