Getting Laid

[billinsandiego]

Firstly, I don't want to sound forward, I just want some ideas about a trip I am planning.  In the next six months I might want to visit Jaime's site in BAQ.  I plan to meet several women and I consider myself an average looking person.  After reading Jaime well written website as many time as possible, he mentions ideas about having sex, however does not go into specifics.  My question is as follows:  Is it okay, to "push" for sex, by this I don't mean rape.  I mean if I find someone that I really like, will it be okay if on a date to really want to have sex with her only after meeting one or two times? 

I know people on here will trip so let me explain.  Here in the USA I have met women at a club and have had sex (one night stand) several times when I was younger.  Obviously those relationships did not last very long. 

I just want to hear from guys that have this kind of experience.

[Awesome]

Chemistry is everything.  I don't see sex happening sooner or later as being a big deal.  You might have sex with a woman on the first night and the relationship could turn out great or you could wait a while and the relationship turn to crap soon after, or vice versa.


Beware of guys who tell you that if she sleeps with you right away that it's a bad sign, or if she makes you wait that it's a good sign.  That's NOT  true.  CHEMISTRY is everything.


I'd much rather have great chemistry but no sex right away than have a woman throw herself at you without the chemistry.


For example, my last trip colombia I hung out with a girl who I met on facebook.  Twice she invited me to stay over at her place, I assumbed she wanted to have sex, but I didn't feel the chemistry so I declined.  I later realized that her plan all along was to marry and get a visa.  She was a nice enough girl but the chemistry wasn't there.


I say just go with your gut feeling.

[billinsandiego]

Thanks Awesome,


Thanks Awesome, chemistry is a big deal, I will just go with the flow.  I am young enough to have sex everyday, I just don't want women to feel awkward, however, at the same time I want to know the social norm of this type of behavior.

[Hector_Lavoe]

Jamie is not running a whore house. HaHa. Not saying that is what you suggested. Of course, he does not act as a chaperone on dates either.

So yes, it really depends on you and the particular women. Some ladies you meet a Jamie's will be weary of sleeping with a gringo they've just met and who may never return to see them. Others may not feel this way and would have no problem having sex assuming the chemistry is good. Also, depends on how long you will be there (1 week, 2 weeks, etc.).

But given the nature of Jamie's business (marriage agency) I would not show up on his doorstep thinking it is a nightclub where you might get some one night stands out of the deal.



 

 

[Gato4Astrid]

Thanks Awesome,


Thanks Awesome, chemistry is a big deal, I will just go with the flow.  I am young enough to have sex everyday, I just don't want women to feel awkward, however, at the same time I want to know the social norm of this type of behavior.

Having sex with a woman when you have the chemistry, do not make her to love you immediately!  It did not work out for you when you had many one-night stand in the past, so what makes you think it will work out with Latinas ?

[robert angel]

Hey--the guy could at least get a souvenir that'd always make him remember his special vacation. You know--something like herpes or along that line.....

[utopiacowboy]

Having sex with a woman when you have the chemistry, do not make her to love you immediately!  It did not work out for you when you had many one-night stand in the past, so what makes you think it will work out with Latinas ?

He wants to know if he can get laid down there not whether he can have a satisfying long lasting relationship. The answer to his question is yes, he can get laid. Colombians love sex.

[billinsandiego]

Well. . . technically it is not a one night stand.  Women that I meet at bars here in the USA I have known for about two or three hours.  At the same time it does kindya feel like a one night stand because I have not met them in person.  This is all new to me.

Thanks utopiacowboy.

Having sex with a woman when you have the chemistry, do not make her to love you immediately!  It did not work out for you when you had many one-night stand in the past, so what makes you think it will work out with Latinas ?

[Awesome]

He wants to know if he can get laid down there not whether he can have a satisfying long lasting relationship. The answer to his question is yes, he can get laid. Colombians love sex.

Actually I think he's asking both, if it's ok to get intimate right away with a woman who he's looking to marry.  I guess he doesn't want to offend the lady by coming on too strong too quickly, or by not coming on strong enough quickly enough.


I say treat it like any other relationship he's had in his life.  Some flowers bloom bright and beautiful right away and some take a little longer to open their petals.  I don't think one is better than the other, just different.


Ask Kiltboy, I'm sure he has plenty of insight gained from his experiences.

[michaelb]

Hey--the guy could at least get a souvenir that'd always make him remember his special vacation. You know--something like herpes or along that line.....

Maybe he should go to England instead of Colombia.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbgRgtAx0gg

As Steve Martin's "uncle" advised him when he was leaving home in the movie The Jerk.....See a doctor, get RID of it.

[utopiacowboy]

Actually I think he's asking both, if it's ok to get intimate right away with a woman who he's looking to marry.  I guess he doesn't want to offend the lady by coming on too strong too quickly, or by not coming on strong enough quickly enough.


I say treat it like any other relationship he's had in his life.  Some flowers bloom bright and beautiful right away and some take a little longer to open their petals.  I don't think one is better than the other, just different.


Ask Kiltboy, I'm sure he has plenty of insight gained from his experiences.

That's a slightly different question. What Colombiana is going to get annoyed because a guy wants to have sex with her? I mean really, they get propositioned constantly - guys are routinely hollering piropos in the street etc. They are not squeamish when it comes to this stuff. Otherwise they would never be able to survive living there. Actually if he doesn't indicate some sexual interest, the chick is likely to think he doesn't think she's attractive or worse, he's a gringo with a low sex drive, or even worse, he's gay. 

[fathertime]

Firstly, I don't want to sound forward, I just want some ideas about a trip I am planning.  In the next six months I might want to visit Jaime's site in BAQ.  I plan to meet several women and I consider myself an average looking person.  After reading Jaime well written website as many time as possible, he mentions ideas about having sex, however does not go into specifics.  My question is as follows:  Is it okay, to "push" for sex, by this I don't mean rape.  I mean if I find someone that I really like, will it be okay if on a date to really want to have sex with her only after meeting one or two times? 

I know people on here will trip so let me explain.  Here in the USA I have met women at a club and have had sex (one night stand) several times when I was younger.  Obviously those relationships did not last very long. 

I just want to hear from guys that have this kind of experience.

Hey Bill, 


In my opinion, you should absolutely do as you feel regarding sex.  If you are feeling it for a lady, and want to get it on, then I think it would be ridiculous to try to pretend you don't.  In my opinion that is your job, just don't be TOO boorish.  Read the signals the lady is putting off, if she is receptive, great, if she isn't then give her enough space   As always there is a balance.  Some of the marriage minded ladies might want to delay sexual relations and that is to be respected.  If indeed you are looking for a wife, it is ok (perhaps desired) that you wait a minute before sex...the important thing is that she wants you, whether it happens on the 1st night or the 5th night, or the 25th night isn't all that important in the end..
Fathertime! 

[Gato4Astrid]

Hey Bill, 


In my opinion, you should absolutely do as you feel regarding sex.  If you are feeling it for a lady, and want to get it on, then I think it would be ridiculous to try to pretend you don't.  In my opinion that is your job, just don't be TOO boorish.  Read the signals the lady is putting off, if she is receptive, great, if she isn't then give her enough space   As always there is a balance.  Some of the marriage minded ladies might want to delay sexual relations and that is to be respected.  If indeed you are looking for a wife, it is ok (perhaps desired) that you wait a minute before sex...the important thing is that she wants you, whether it happens on the 1st night or the 5th night, or the 25th night isn't all that important in the end..
Fathertime!

+1


Agree with Fathetime!


Bill, you could meet your Mrs Bill, who wants to wait till 5th meeting to have sex.  Would you be willingly to wait that long?!!!  That's the real question.


I've been to Colombia 8 times, and had sex every time from 2nd to 8th meetings - did not have it in my 1st meeting!  All these 6 girls whom I had sex with (Liz, Pilar, Gloria, Jessy, Luz Dary & Astrid) - I already know them before meetings.  That's had helped me.   

[Calipro]

That's a slightly different question. What Colombiana is going to get annoyed because a guy wants to have sex with her? I mean really, they get propositioned constantly - guys are routinely hollering piropos in the street etc. They are not squeamish when it comes to this stuff. Otherwise they would never be able to survive living there. Actually if he doesn't indicate some sexual interest, the chick is likely to think he doesn't think she's attractive or worse, he's a gringo with a low sex drive, or even worse, he's gay.

UC is spot on with his assessment of Colombianas....in general they are not offended when a guy makes sexual advances....even if they have no interest in you in a sexual way. This can be pretty confusing to newbie gringos.


In the US if I put my hand on a woman's thigh while sitting next to her and she just pretends like she doesn't notice.... that would be considered a neutral response....because if she was really not interested in me at all she would move my hand off of her, move away or tell me to keep my [snip]ing hands off of her.


If a Colombiana ignores my physical advances it is not a neutral response....they will almost always reciprocate in some way....by touching you back or leaning into you...or just looking you straight in the eye for a few seconds. I have never had a Colombiana physically or verbally rebuff my advances....they simply ignore your advances and or distance themselves from you.

[AndyLee]

UC is spot on with his assessment of Colombianas....in general they are not offended when a guy makes sexual advances....even if they have no interest in you in a sexual way. This can be pretty confusing to newbie gringos.


In the US if I put my hand on a woman's thigh while sitting next to her and she just pretends like she doesn't notice.... that would be considered a neutral response....because if she was really not interested in me at all she would move my hand off of her, move away or tell me to keep my [snip]ing hands off of her.


If a Colombiana ignores my physical advances it is not a neutral response....they will almost always reciprocate in some way....by touching you back or leaning into you...or just looking you straight in the eye for a few seconds. I have never had a Colombiana physically or verbally rebuff my advances....they simply ignore your advances and or distance themselves from you.

A lot of good advice here, I can only add that I think you are referring to a girl you have just met, for example a girl you meet in a general group at Jamie's and you go out for dinner and have chemistry and invite her back to your room then you can simply ask her point blank if she is interested in you and then judge her response. Others have pointed out, no need to beat around the bush or sneak your arm over her shoulders the way we did in the movies in junior high. These girls are a lot more receptive and a lot more upfront about sexual intimacy than the women you have dated in the states, or Europe.
I've dated quite a few Colombianas over the years and have wound up in bed in as little as two hours after meeting, or, in some cases after a few dates never getting to bed. So, it's all over the ball park. Just be open and honest and use your best judgement, and it goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway, wear a condom, some of these girls carry some nasty [snip], and you darn sure don't want to get one of them pregnant.

[billinsandiego]

This has all been really good advice.  One item I did not mention is my plan to find a wife in BAQ.  However, after reading other posts on the site, I don't plan to "fall" in love with the first Columbian, therefore, I really wanted to know how far I could "push" the envelope.  At the same time not disrespecting a woman in Columbia.  Especially due to social-economic differences that I will definitely have towards them. 

A lot of good advice here, I can only add that I think you are referring to a girl you have just met, for example a girl you meet in a general group at Jamie's and you go out for dinner and have chemistry and invite her back to your room then you can simply ask her point blank if she is interested in you and then judge her response. Others have pointed out, no need to beat around the bush or sneak your arm over her shoulders the way we did in the movies in junior high. These girls are a lot more receptive and a lot more upfront about sexual intimacy than the women you have dated in the states, or Europe.
I've dated quite a few Colombianas over the years and have wound up in bed in as little as two hours after meeting, or, in some cases after a few dates never getting to bed. So, it's all over the ball park. Just be open and honest and use your best judgement, and it goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway, wear a condom, some of these girls carry some nasty [snip], and you darn sure don't want to get one of them pregnant.

[AndyLee]

This has all been really good advice.  One item I did not mention is my plan to find a wife in BAQ.  However, after reading other posts on the site, I don't plan to "fall" in love with the first Columbian, therefore, I really wanted to know how far I could "push" the envelope.  At the same time not disrespecting a woman in Columbia.  Especially due to social-economic differences that I will definitely have towards them.

Ah, go ahead, that's the fun part!!
I fall in love all over again, almost every day. Fortunately, for the past three years it's generally been with the same woman each time

[utopiacowboy]

Ah, go ahead, that's the fun part!!
I fall in love all over again, almost every day. Fortunately, for the past three years it's generally been with the same woman each time

Me too! Every so often I look over at her and I think, "She's so cute!". And an old lady of 54 too.

[robert angel]

Me too! Every so often I look over at her and I think, "She's so cute!". And an old lady of 54 too.

She IS cute! 

[bcc_1_2]

why does someone right next to Tijuana not try the baja marriage agency site?

[billinsandiego]

why does someone right next to Tijuana not try the baja marriage agency site?

Do you have a link?

[bcc_1_2]

bajadate.com

[AndyLee]

bajadate.com

that site has some really pretty girls, but they are studio photos and I always distrust those. The girls never seem to look that good when you meet them in person.
the site has one really freaky feature, it shows how many people, and where they are from, who have looked at her site in the past three hours. I checked a couple and they were getting about 3 hits per hour. I don't know if any of those hits resulted in letters sent, but it's still interesting to see where all the men are from that are looking at the girls. Mostly from California, but there was this one guy from.......Colombia

[mambocowboy]

This has all been really good advice.  One item I did not mention is my plan to find a wife in BAQ.  However, after reading other posts on the site, I don't plan to "fall" in love with the first Columbian, therefore, I really wanted to know how far I could "push" the envelope.  At the same time not disrespecting a woman in Columbia.  Especially due to social-economic differences that I will definitely have towards them.

Bill, before you go to Colombia looking for a wife learn how to spell ColOmbia.

[whitey]

First time I posted something on my (now) wife's Facebook wall, I spelled Colombia wrong ... still embarrasses me but I've never forgotten since then!