Why no women posting here?

[Awesome]

I see there are like 99% males posting on this board.  Why don't more women post here?  I'd think that a board that's all about finding a foreign wife would attract women looking for a husband, right?

[mambocowboy]

I see there are like 99% males posting on this board.  Why don't more women post here?  I'd think that a board that's all about finding a foreign wife would attract women looking for a husband, right?

that's a good question. Visajourney has plenty of women posters and there are evidently plenty of gringas bringing over foreign husbands. Ironically, they seem to have at least as many failures as the men bringing over brides, yet the media hasn't said a word about it...

[DRGUY1]

I've always thought that too...I could definitely see industrious Russian girls posting on this forum.


If I was to take a guess why? I think foreign women are more traditional and prefer for men to take the lead, ask out, et... I could see AW on a board like this, but not LW---.

[michaelb]

Well, this board is more about hints on how/what to and guys swapping "war stories" than it is about "post your profile and some pictures and hope somebody contacts you" (As you probably know, there are plenty of sites like that and a lot of ladies do use them). Also, except for people occasionally expressing a traditional greeting in Tagalog or asking a Spanish translation question, this board is conducted 99.99% in English and most of the foreign ladies don't have the skills to use it in English (or some of them maybe do, but lack the confidence). The few ladies who have and/or do post here are usually (OK, but not always) the wives of guys who were already posting here.

If, instead of foreign women hoping to meet US men, you meant US women looking for and/or needing advice about bringing in foreign men, I only remember one of those. I can't remember her name right this minute, but I remember she seemed very nice. She married some guy from Vietnam who, unfortunately, simply used her for a visa and a meal ticket, just like guys here are always leery about foreign women doing to them. I felt sorry for the lady, but I'll give her credit for having the guts to tell us how it turned out before she left this board.

[Awesome]

Well, this board is more about hints on how/what to and guys swapping "war stories" than it is about "post your profile and some pictures and hope somebody contacts you" (As you probably know, there are plenty of sites like that and a lot of ladies do use them). Also, except for people occasionally expressing a traditional greeting in Tagalog or asking a Spanish translation question, this board is conducted 99.99% in English and most of the foreign ladies don't have the skills to use it in English (or some of them maybe do, but lack the confidence).

Yea I see what you're saying.  This board isn't set up as a hookup site.  But I'd think there are at least a couple of english speaking women out there who'd at least like to join the conversation.  For instance I'm not necessarily looking for a wife in the sense that most guys on here are.  I just hang out in latin countries and I like to discuss "war stories" about travel and dating women, and this board has alot of interesting topics being discussed.


I see that there is a Brazilian woman and a Mexican woman who sometimes chime in but it would be cool to see a Colombiana's perspective on some of the topics since so much of the discussion is focused on the legendary Colombian women.  Heck it would even be cool to get some insight from Colombian men.

[JWR]

We don't know how many ladies visit, and just lurk on the board without posting.


They probably read a few threads, and decide they don't want to wait for the "short bus"....

[Stevieboy]

I wouldn't come to this site if a bunch of ladies gave their two cents on men's thoughts. There's enough meaning of life/ relationship advice to go around already. Last year there was a Mexican girl here who disliked that I preferred Colombian women over Mexicans (my culture Mexican) even though that wasn't the case. I'd rather talk about women when among men.

[InnocentVixen]

If I had to take a guess, I would say it takes a certain mind set to find this place. I wouldn't have found it if it wasn't because I started to wonder what was I doing wrong in my search, thinking "if I was a guy looking for a serious relationship with a foreign woman, where would I look? where are the guys that appreciate an old fashioned woman?"


When I finally found this place I thought it was only for men, but posted anyways thinking someone might point me into the right direction and well, I never left haha



I do think the charm of this place would be lost if there was too much women, men would no longer express themselves freely, I feel very privileged 


I might be confused, but I do believe we have a colombiana that posts every once in a while who works in an agency? she is a translator I believe... Maria?

[Stevieboy]

If I had to take a guess, I would say it takes a certain mind set to find this place. I wouldn't have found it if it wasn't because I started to wonder what was I doing wrong in my search, thinking "if I was a guy looking for a serious relationship with a foreign woman, where would I look? where are the guys that appreciate an old fashioned woman?"

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That's funny cuz the way I found the site was googling many terms like "traditional foreign brides" or "mail order brides". I cant remember exactly what I typed, but I found it.

[stnmasn]

IV i doubt if i am alone in this sentiment:::::: we appreciate your input and are glad that you stay with us. 


Congrats IV on the upcoming addition to your lives.  they are more fun every day!!!!

[bcc_1_2]

I found the goodwife site a long time ago after talking to a co-worker who was brought over from china by a guy. I did online searches on foreign women and mail order bride sites starting coming up. When I actually plugged in the mail order bride term this site came up. I read it and that was that. I only started looking into forums after I decided to start traveling.
The posters here for the most part aren't that diverse. There aren't a lot of foreign women that have relocated posting on here. It would be interesting to have their perspective here.
The goodwife site is basically crap. It could be a real counter argument for single men (especially the young single guys) that you can be libertarian, conservative, middle road, or progressive and still support equal rights for women while not supporting feminism and going overseas to find the ideal mate.
Just the fact that goodwife has mail order bride in big bold letters over and over again already cedes the argument to the feminists. Mail order bride just sounds so horrible.
 
 

[beulah]

The posters here for the most part aren't that diverse. There aren't a lot of foreign women that have relocated posting on here. It would be interesting to have their perspective here.
The goodwife site is basically crap.

What a complainer.  The men aren't diverse.  The website is "crap." Why don't you make your own website and recruit a bunch of people that think exactly like you if that is what you call diverse.

[bcc_1_2]

What a complainer.  The men aren't diverse.  The website is "crap." Why don't you make your own website and recruit a bunch of people that think exactly like you if that is what you call diverse.

Pretty much your existence on this site has been negative... especially your posts. Young men aren't attracted to anything with male order bride plastered everywhere. That's just a fact.

[beulah]

Pretty much your existence on this site has been negative... especially your posts.

I respond to your negativity.  You are complaining about the membership and website.  I'm bringing light to your complaints and rolling my eyes.

[Elexpatriado]

What I would like to find is a Colombian site in Spanish for Colombianas meeting foreigners- or even dating men in general- including but not lmited to foreigners. I have asked a lot of women I dated if such a site exists- apparerntly, despite even the poorest barrio Girl being members of Colombia Cupid, Amigos.com , Latin.chate, etc.  having facebook and Whatsup accounts- there apears to be no similar site to this or  the othe colombia chat sites for Expats for Colombianas or latinas..

[whitey]

What I would like to find is a Colombian site in Spanish for Colombianas meeting foreigners- or even dating men in general- including but not lmited to foreigners. I have asked a lot of women I dated if such a site exists- apparerntly, despite even the poorest barrio Girl being members of Colombia Cupid, Amigos.com , Latin.chate, etc.  having facebook and Whatsup accounts- there apears to be no similar site to this or  the othe colombia chat sites for Expats for Colombianas or latinas..

Probably because almost none of the guys that would be interested would be able to communicate in Spanish ... except for other latinos ...

[InnocentVixen]

Probably because almost none of the guys that would be interested would be able to communicate in Spanish ... except for other latinos ...

and if it was in english guys wouldn't be interested thinking the women were "too americanized" haha


Now seriously, I must admit I have been searching on and off for a while for a forum that is focused mostly on couples who are already living together or married, the closest to it that I have found was one for couples in long distance relationships, it has an area for the couples that have closed the distance but is not that active. How things are moving here I am not to worried, plenty of guys here finding love, it is an interesting change.


I googled in spanish and this was the closest I could find about colombianas, they seem to favor Europeans, some examples:

• French men are good husbands
• German men
• Colombianas living in Spain, married to Españoles
• International dating sites recommendations for single colombianas

Might be an interesting read for guys practicing their spanish, along with the colombianos abroad section.

[whitey]

and if it was in english guys wouldn't be interested thinking the women were "too americanized" haha

Right you are IV!  That would have been a negative for me, but you and a couple other people have since changed my mind on that ...

[Elexpatriado]

I was talking about a site like this for Latinas (actually Colombianas in particular), in Spanish, with thier experiences marrying or dating foreigners, including Gringos, but also Euros, Canucks, Spaniards, Mexicans- Chileans- foreigners outside of thier country...
 
Where there are all kinds of women , even the female equivelant of |Rubio" and "Ronell" or even Andy Lee but also guys like that are on this site..
 
Nothing exists that I know about...
 
Thatway you could really see what they think of us...
 
One thing I found interesting on this site was that lady that published the book about Colombian Women marrying foreigners - the one that guy I forget his name - was so down on her cuz she was a "Womens's Studie" major or something.. She interviewed a lot of these women who had American Boyfreinds, and where supposedly getting a greencard and marrying the guys, and most of them admitted that they didn't love the guy...
 

Probably because almost none of the guys that would be interested would be able to communicate in Spanish ... except for other latinos ...

[DesmondID]

Sorry in advance this will come off as negative... because it is... I'll keep it short.

I came to this site after already finding someone - and as someone else had mentioned I was also looking more for others that were already going through the process and hoping to share the experience a little and hopefully learn something.

I do not post here often, mainly because I find the overall tone negative and I have wondered how any woman would want to be with a western man if they read these forums and thought it was representative of the whole.

To keep it on topic: why women do not post here: The language barrier, the presentation (they see the front page with ads for marriage agencies, women in bikinis, etc, roll their eyes and move on to the next site) and then there is the attitude given off by the day to day discussions for those ones that dig into the site a little deeper.

[Researcher]

If you read the website the home page describes this site like this:"Planet Love (PL) - The Foreign Bride Guide is the premier and most progressive resource available for being successful with a Foreign Bride.

I don't know many women looking for a foriegn bride.....The few that do post here have figured out it can be of some benefit. But if you go by the description it looks like it is setup for only men.

[bcc_1_2]

Sorry in advance this will come off as negative... because it is... I'll keep it short.

I came to this site after already finding someone - and as someone else had mentioned I was also looking more for others that were already going through the process and hoping to share the experience a little and hopefully learn something.

I do not post here often, mainly because I find the overall tone negative and I have wondered how any woman would want to be with a western man if they read these forums and thought it was representative of the whole.

To keep it on topic: why women do not post here: The language barrier, the presentation (they see the front page with ads for marriage agencies, women in bikinis, etc, roll their eyes and move on to the next site) and then there is the attitude given off by the day to day discussions for those ones that dig into the site a little deeper.

Visa journey has some good info on the paperwork side of this path if you need to research and talk about the paperwork and processing side of things more. The MOB term seems to generate clicks so unfortunately I wouldn't expect anything to change.

[bcc_1_2]

She interviewed a lot of these women who had American Boyfreinds, and where supposedly getting a greencard and marrying the guys, and most of them admitted that they didn't love the guy...

How many guys over the years have posted their plans to take one or two weeks off work and come back engaged? That is just one of an endless number of reasons that red flags can be missed, but there is just this mentality out there that is not healthy.

There are a few guys around here that have mentioned they Skype with their novia/fiancé everyday at a scheduled time. That's some of the best advice I've heard around here. Pictures are another pretty good way to see if she is into you.

[Awesome]

Pictures are another pretty good way to see if she is into you.

Pure genius.

[robert angel]

Sorry in advance this will come off as negative... because it is... I'll keep it short.

I came to this site after already finding someone - and as someone else had mentioned I was also looking more for others that were already going through the process and hoping to share the experience a little and hopefully learn something.

I do not post here often, mainly because I find the overall tone negative and I have wondered how any woman would want to be with a western man if they read these forums and thought it was representative of the whole.

To keep it on topic: why women do not post here: The language barrier, the presentation (they see the front page with ads for marriage agencies, women in bikinis, etc, roll their eyes and move on to the next site) and then there is the attitude given off by the day to day discussions for those ones that dig into the site a little deeper.

We resemble that remark! Actually things are getting better I think, although I'm afraid that the 'powers that be' tolerate shenanigans and train wreck tales, as they do bring traffic in--quantity, if not quality. I wonder how many lurkers are like rubber neckers looking at car wrecks here. Hope I'm wrong on that and the 'flame room' does serve a damage control purpose in that regard.
 
That said, I agree that not too many females find much interest in the 'boys will be boys' kind of atmosphere commonly found here. Surprised also that more, shall we say enterprising? women, not just from eastern Europe and former USSR nations don't try and use this site as a platform, but they'd get sniffed out pretty fast if they tried. The Ghana guise wouldn't fly here too well.
 
My wife has zero interest in this site or for drama in general, that's for sure! Our hours are a bit different and she tends to spend her on-line time on Asia media sites or Facebook (I don't do farcebook), so it doesn't conflict our 'together' time.