Age Tolerence

[aconcepts]

"Gringos dating foreign women always have a lot more at stake than they would by dating locally."


Not sure I agree with that as you wrote it, I think I know what you are saying though...


You mean they cannot read the women as well.




That comes from not enduring the learning curve.


Not paying the full price,


So if you partially pay the price its like running out on the bill. You can get caught and burned.


That is why I have always thought the  go to foreign country and bring home the bacon to the US turns them into a different kind of pork.


Just does not make sense to me.


That is why I live here among their rules, rather than bring them back to the US to live with the US roles and social mores.


I guess it works for some and is better than a castrating feminazi but less than ideal - I would guess... especially if you bring home an ego massager - you know a young poor chick to parade around to your friends back home cause you yourself have inferiority issues....

[dtibbet]

Good points Gentlemen... that's it, ill just live in Colombia. i enjoy it here. ill just hop on a plane every now and then to visit my family. i think the key point is to take ones time before getting a K-1 ...yes, i know how guys and girls are in the states. some will be jelious and try to break you up:(  I have only been living in Colombia now for a year and been with her for a 16 months. I just need to chill lol, but it would be nice to bring her back to meet the family, but with out a visa forget it. Getting a Tourist visa for a colombian is a joke. And if we ever did get married, we would only want to live in the states 4-5 months a year or less, buts thats hard too on a K-1...help , help guys lol:)

[aconcepts]

There is no easy answer. It gets down to whose family are you two going to be away from. I stay in Latin America somewhere, maybe on neutral ground. However I would hope the inlaws are cool enough to hang with. The problem is the monotony of the campo.


I live 30 mins from downtown (but its still very rural here) so I can always find a US expat or tourist when I need a fix of English thinking and speaking. Plus a lot of times the casinos here are a lot of fun because the gringos here are so happy to get laid that they party like mad dogs. Pretty much like kids in an adult Disneyland.


If you keep your eyes peeled you can tell by how they dress that  every once in a while a normal chick looking for some quick cash for school or something blows in, but usually only during the day. never on a Friday or Sat night. But its a zoo there on those nights full of pros looking to make as much money as they can.... no thanks.. and I am usually busy on date nights. During the day after business I blow in to one of my favorites where the bar tends remember me. When you least expect it you can hit big  time pay dirt fun there...

[dtibbet]

yes i agree, ill just hang out for awhile. i only have the rest of my life to make up my mind lol. 

[utopiacowboy]

yes i agree, ill just hang out for awhile. i only have the rest of my life to make up my mind lol.

Living in Colombia I don't see why anyone would get married. The only real plus is having your wife's family's paramilitaries watching your back. Which is a pretty big plus.

[fathertime]

If lets say you are 45 and she is 23 then its a challenge because if she is a hot 25 year old all kind of guys are going to pitch her.


That is the problem in the states, where men are so woman status conscious that men will do anything to get the alpha female.


Women are so insanely mad that you an older man have such a hot young wife that they will go out of their way to make you miserable as best  they can. They don't want you upsetting the status quo. They don't want their men thinking about why they have such a bitchy dumpy hag and you got a young hottie that likes to dress sexy, that actually may respect and like you. Imagine that!


You have to be very careful.

i agree about being careful....
after importing my wife, i've had no real problems with other women my age...probably because most of them have made themselves scarce!   I wonder why? 


 

Sometimes I just go through the book talking with gal pals or calling numbers I have collected waiting for the moment to parade around with the hottest youngest sexiest thing I can get. It takes set up work, but the looks are priceless.
Me an aging ex Alpha male with polish. Cash cars nice estate, confidence Spanish skills, not jealous and generous. I walk in an expensive restaurant with a drop dead gorgeous way to young barley legal and the even some tourist men think I am over the top. Now I don't do it all the time, but the looks are priceless. The company is a visual fantasy even if the conversation is terrible.


I don't do this to impress them women. i do it to impress myself and admire the raw beauty on my arm. I don't entertain fantasies of love and couples etc like some gringos do when they are with professionals. But these young women are not professionals, its just that they want to see that expensive side of town, they want to go to Multiplaza and shop in the expensive stores and they want to show off their beauty. Look if you want to have sex with a young professional for an hour and you are a gringo you can have you way for $100, if you are not an idiot.


But I am talking a night out in a classy resturant with a drop dead gorgeous 18-22 year old dressed to nines. Look it costs a lot more than a $100 for one of these evenings (dinner and drinks and incidentals will be that), but, you get the time at the mall dressing them. awesome, picking out shoes and lacey things, drssing them up in the dressing rooms. I mean that is great sex right there. Getting back to the estate and hoping in the spa and staying there while they shower. Taking a shower and dressing while they primp. Threatening to undress them after they have just speny more than an hour dressing hahahaha - that is always fun. Then off to escazu like the Caverna or the White House, Sometimes its a disco afterwords where I know the owner and I hang at his table and tell her to go dance untill she is danced out. Usally sex has already happened by now at some point so its back to the pad and wake up sex. Calla cab and she and her outfit and her memories go back home.

 

 
It sounds like a great night of fun for a somewhat older single uncommitted man!  I might be kinda of a lazyass though, I might want to watch a hockey game and be left alone after playing the friendly game of 'the beast with two backs'.


Fathertime!     


Fathertime! 

[whitey]

I might be kinda of a lazyass though, I might want to watch a hockey game and be left alone after playing the friendly game of 'the beast with two backs'.

Sounds good to me too FT!  You sure you're not Canadian? 

[aconcepts]

Maybe you don't understand it.

[/size]But if you're a natural man,[/color]

You got to ball and have a good time

And that's what I call chooglin'.

Keep on Chooglin FT!


I'll be a chooglin tonight....

[bcc_1_2]

I read all these benefits of living in Colombia (or whatever Latin American country) and in the past I would definitely agree with them. But now I can't really say I do. Especially when you get to the point where you are having a kid. There is no way in hell I would want to raise a kid in Colombia...or Honduras. Fact is these places just aren't safe and I stuck out big time. It would only be a matter of time before something bad happened.
From what I read the OP wanted to "hook up" with a hottie in her 30s which should be no problem at all. Stay in a nice hotel/serviced apartment... go only to high end establishments... take only radio taxis that are called ahead of time (do not flag on the street). I wouldn't walk the streets personally.
Plenty of high unemployment on the coast... obviously Cartagena has been in the news but there are plenty of cities that will do the trick.. Cali being one of them.
I also read one poster mentioning that a hottie in her mid 20s is going to have a bunch a guys making a play for her if she moves to the United States and is married to a much older man. I can say that even if the guy is around her age she is going to generate plenty of interest as well.. especially in the Midwest. That being said when my wife is out with me or female friends most guys will stare but do not have the balls to make an approach. But if she was at a club/bar or college they will approach her... and frankly I can't blame them. It has happened and she just thanks them and says she is married... normally shows her ring. So regardless a hot woman will be getting attention here... age of the husband has little to do with it

[justmike]

Thanks for that feedback. I haven't really thought about moving to South America but it's not completely out of the question.

[mambocowboy]

my Colombian wife gets ogled all the time, especially by black guys (she's "gruesa"), here in San Diego.

[aconcepts]

BC - my point about women being approached by other guys is that if you are older and stable say 48 and you neighbor has the same kind of stability at say 30... Your woman has something to think about as in, "hey I can have the same lifestyle with a younger man." Now if you are 30 and she is 25 then the age difference is not a factor in her thinking... That's my point.


All beautiful women get approached.


I declined to pursue MissCR2011 because I simply did not want the attention of being MR Johanna Solano, Still have her ph# and email... She finished in the top 10 at Miss Universe in Brazil and has over 35.000 Facebook friends. Personally I don't want to deal with fame. I know what its like to have fabulously gorgeous women. They are used to the wealth as wealth breeds beauty (that is what us Newport Beach men always say) and if you want to see the most beautiful and hard to get women in the world (because of the intense competition) take a walk on the Balboa Peninsula, You better be an Alpha mail with a ton of cash. Average yearly income (and this is not family but individual income) is way over 200K a year.


So now MissCR2011 is dating the owner of TeleTica7 who is 62 years old BTW she is 21 (the owner of the pageant) - figures no?


Outrageously beautiful women are a pain is the arse... take it from someone who been there and done em..


Can't turn your back for even a second, because they are getting pitched. And they expect everything you could possible imagine.


I don't see that in Cr at least not to that extent as in the US. Men there have no brotherhood. Its all about satisfying your women - financially, sexually,, emotionally. Men define themselves there by that... Here its way different.


I am talking the top 5% quality of the beauties. Model level women.


It depends where you live in LA regarding raising children and feeling safe. I know many gringo families that came to Costa Rica specifically to raise their children.


IF YOU DON'Y SPEAK THE LANGUAGE YOU WILL NEVER FEEL AS SAFE AS IF YOU DO, AND IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE CULTURAL BEHAVIORS THEN YOU FELL LESS SECURE.


JM - consider moving here and learning the ropes.


Last night I am in the arms of this 22 year old with two kids works in Dos Pinos (avatar chick) who is a sweet as can be... this girl works frickin 50 hours a week and is a devoted Mom.


Really JM, where is an aging Alpha like me going to find such women in the US. It aint gonna happen. Yeah if I buy a Ferrari and play the game 24/7 ok. maybe... but here its 100 times easier. more sincere and nobody blinks about the age difference except the wives of the tourists, and i always like to take my dates to tourists spots for the ambiance and the quality of food and drink ... and also cause I love to see the look on the US women's face when they see me with a twenty something year old hottie pawing my shoulder and and showing a lot of affection... That is priceless. It just screws with them jajajajaja... mencanta!

[Buckmarston]

By reading here for a whie it seems there is an undercurrent of disdain for the women of America.  I don't suspect the reaction a woman would have seeing a 60 year old man would be very pleasant but why should men care to impress or depress. 

[Bob_S]

By reading here for a whie it seems there is an undercurrent of disdain for the women of America.  I don't suspect the reaction a woman would have seeing a 60 year old man would be very pleasant but why should men care to impress or depress.

Success is the best revenge.   

[Buckmarston]

Success is the best revenge.   

this is where I do not relate.  Revenge for what? I think it diminishes individuals to seek. Revenge through marriage.  Maybe I'm misunderstanding you because you appear levelheaded

[bcc_1_2]

BC - my point about women being approached by other guys is that if you are older and stable say 48 and you neighbor has the same kind of stability at say 30... Your woman has something to think about as in, "hey I can have the same lifestyle with a younger man." Now if you are 30 and she is 25 then the age difference is not a factor in her thinking... That's my point.

ah hell I'm not even 30. Personally I agree a guy in his late 40s should look 30 or above. But I still disagree with your point in theory. You have to pick a woman that is into you and isn't looking for the bigger better deal. I suspect a good looking young guy earning a good living has been left for some older tool who is a complete dumbass... but let's say inherited a ton of cash.
So age is just one of a ton of factors... she is either into you... or using you.

[Alabamaboy!]

very true, once she is in "your country" the ball is in her court and you might not like what she is serving later 

I have a 20 year age difference with my wife and I love what she has been serving me these days. Today, whole fried red snapper, arroz con coco, patacones, salad. Yesterday steak "guisado", black eyed peas, some kind of rice with tiny pasta and chicken flavor, salad. Life just seems to get better and better.

[Alabamaboy!]

Take it easy old man.

It was in response to Mudd's remark stating  that there are often problems with relationships like that when the woman gets to the States. I was pointing out that many times there are not. The thread was talking about age differences right? I was pointing out that many times it is not a big deal.

Sorry my comments are not up to the caliber of your mongering adventures.

[Bob_S]

this is where I do not relate.  Revenge for what? I think it diminishes individuals to seek. Revenge through marriage.  Maybe I'm misunderstanding you because you appear levelheaded

I'm just joshin' ya.  Mostly.  But for many guys here (most?), there is a certain satisfaction in our respective situations that comes from rebelling, if you will, against what is perceived as a misandrist feminist corruption of Western culture.  We refuse to accept what family, friends, and society in general says we should settle for because that is all that is offered and that is all we deserve.  Out there is something better.  And when you achieve it, whether your situation be a life-chasing living the dreamer or a wife hunter seeking that perfect mate, it does give one pause to reflect with a certain smug self-satisfaction.

[aconcepts]

Wow Boberator - that was a great post! I mean truly. If there has been a lot of bickering on the forum lately - entertaining as it might be, and about as enlightening as AB's dietary habits - your post shows our common ground.


And very important common ground. Excellent point!


I just reread it and I think it should be featured on a banner somewhere high on the home page! I am gonna put it on my desk top!




AB - that would be "rich old man" to you. Know your place boy...


Now go propagate some more BS to tell yourself in yet another crack dream - and then try and sell it on PL cause I am sure no one around you is buying into it.


I will be in Punta Uva on the Caribein coast by Panama this week mining the quarry! I'll be thinking about you while you are at work - Not! I will drink an Imperial in your honor... not! I will wake up to yet another tedious day of fried food and chicken flavored whatever... Not! I will dine in the company of a Tica goddess at La Perla Negras ... Very much so!


Like Boberator says - success is the best revenge...




BM like Boberator says its revenge for constantly having the feminist agenda and "this is all you will ever get so take it" crap shoved down the American males throat....

[Alabamaboy!]

aeconcepts: I hope when I grow up I can be a funny old rich guy like you. Just hanging around a place like this telling mongering stories to make it appear that you are doing something productive with your life. You seem to be a bitter old guy who has missed out on the real deal and just tries to console himself with booze and cheap women.  Then try to talk it up as if that is the best thing in the world. Not a bad strategy though if you have nothing else going on. Who knows, in 20-30 more years, I may do the same when I am your age if things fall apart for me.

But for now, I got a beautiful, honey of a wife, great kids, great life. And it ain't no crack dream grandpa. It's the real deal. Not trying to sell anyone anything.  I may not be as wealthy as you, but I do very, very well for myself and my family.

Anyone that has been around here much and has read my reports, knows I tell the good, the bad, and the ugly with what happens in my relationships. But it just amazes me when a guy like you picks the positive stories to pop off about.

Anyway, live it up man. To each his own.

[aconcepts]

As you can tell I niether like you or belive what you write. I read you as completely insincere.


Furtehrmore in my never to be humble opinion, your reports were a bunch of lame whinny crap about how you were so right and everyone else was so wrong. I would have loved to hear the other side of that story.


Also funny how you came up with this one:


 "Then try to talk it up as if that is the best thing in the world. Not a bad strategy though if you have nothing else going on. "


Ironic. no? Because you acuse me of the exact strategy you are using...


Next time try not to be so obvious by using a little more creativity...


You forget that I have been around Latinas a long time and that is a text book Latina move: After you confront them about something, they accuse you of it - to refocus the discussion away from them.


Look who is teaching the old dog (you) new tricks... And you thought you were the teacher. Problems is with me those ain't new tricks...


You need a daddy and I am not it sonny boy...


I am sure there are many sympathetic ears on PL to accommodate your pathetic winning and narcissistic expectations... Mine just are not some of them. Basically I think you are a self centered fraud looking for sympathy, validation and shoulders to weep upon and a good firm swat on the butt accompanied by a "go get en champ!" but you probably slid back on your reptilian belly to save yourself... Who knows but from all your one sided "not my fault I am innocent" crap you wrote I surmise as such... like I said "I ain't your daddy."


Hey but what do I know. I only write excrement anyways...


So please further enlighten us on your dietary habits... what are you eating for lunch today? You should be eating crow, ah but that master ego would never allow it. no?


Ok now go cry foul and report the posts as your past behavior indicates your all to predictable future behavior.


Ony the outwitted as a last resort cry foul to the mods.... I get this image of a yelping dog scoothching across the grass on his freshly singed butt..


Yawn....


Next!

[SkyNorth]

Really guys...another post hi-jacked and turned into a flame fest.
 
I have read both of your posts over many months and each of you have value to add.  But we all gotta learn to stop these silly personal attacks.

[V_Man]

Really guys...another post hi-jacked and turned into a flame fest.
 
I have read both of your posts over many months and each of you have value to add.  But we all gotta learn to stop these silly personal attacks.

Absolutely! Stop flaming almost every single thread!!! Both those posts were way over the line!! AC that post of yours in particular must be one the the most childish I've ever read.  Sheesh! This thread was supposed to be about age tolerance. 

[Ray]

AC that post of yours in particular must be one the the most childish I've ever read.  Sheesh!