Age Tolerence

[justmike]

Hello Fellas, Im justmike getting my feet wet here. I've seen some of the sites and I think I'd like to give Columbia a try. I'm a divorcee in my sixties and truth be told I'd like to hook up with a Latina woman whoe'se a good bit younger. So my question for y'all is are there some cities in Columbia where the woman are more "tolarent" of older suiters than others?

[Jeff S]

Hi Mike and welcome. Hopefully some of the Colombia pros will chime in. In most of Latin America, old farts like us do just fine with younger ladies - I assume when you say quite a bit, you're talking about 30s and 40s, not a teenager, right?


Anyway, Columbia is in South Carolina, Colombia is in South America. Thought I'd chime in before the rest of the crowd piles on.

[justmike]

Thanks for the spelling correction Jeff, won't do that again. Thirties yes, no teenagers.

[Jeff S]

You should have no problem finding beautiful and nice girls interested in you - especially if you're OK if she has a child from a previous marriage or is an unwed mother. Andy Lee is about your age and he was recently married in Colombia to a much younger girl who is a real doll. My father had a good friend in Mazatlan who was in his 70s and had a mid 30s wife. My father also married a women more than 25 years his junior when he was in his mid 80s. Welcome to Latin America. As Dorothy so famously said, "I don't think we're in Kansas anymore, Toto."

[V_Man]

Be careful what you wish for Mike.

[Bob_S]

Though the caveat to a lot of these stories is that the man lives part time or full time in his younger wife's country where the societal pressures that make her a treasure are still in effect.  If you try to import her to the States, all bets are off.  A word to the wise.

[benjio]

Though the caveat to a lot of these stories is that the man lives part time or full time in his younger wife's country where the societal pressures that make her a treasure are still in effect.  If you try to import her to the States, all bets are off.  A word to the wise.

You read my mind Bob.

[dtibbet]

hello justmike, welcome aboard. I'm 47 and my fiance ( the women on my avatar) is 30. that's 17yrs different. i have had no age related issues with her. Colombian women in my opion want a honest and faithful man . if you are that man then you in like flynn lol. i stress faithful lol. everyone knows what i am saying yes me and my girl have little agreements from time to time.... but its culture and language barriers. never age issues. so come on and enjoy. you wont find a issue with age here in my opion.  i been living here for a year now and i have young women all the time approach me. it all depends on you and what you want. but keep in mind, every women is different . Chowwwwww

[justmike]

Sounds good to go dtibbet thanks.

[aconcepts]

Boberator has it right buddy.


Do not take the warning lightly.


That is why I live in Costa Rica.


Look another thing is many Latinas are anchored emotionally by their family. If  its a good family the father keeps them in line by default and if you get mom liking you, well then you got your voice planted in your woman mind through her mother. Don't underestimate the power of a Latina mother over her daughter.


I had a great Latina many years ago. Long sad story, anyways I paid off their 16K house mortgage as a present. Everything went way right after that. Even though it was really good before that. Really enjoyed hanging out with her dad, who passed away. She was much much younger than me. Just so beautiful.


So if you find a good one I suggest relocating. Then be generous with the family. However:::: Make sure you know the family. I knew them for almost two years and spent a lot of time in the house and with the family. great ties. Latin families are really cool if you get the right one. Lot of good times with all the kids and stuff, dancing, birthdays,, cooking, drinking... lot of fun.

[justmike]

Good post AC, thanks.

[htown]

One thing I've noticed about Colombianas is many of them age well.  You don't really have to go too young to find a Colombiana who is very attractive.  I've known a few who are well into their 40's who were still very attractive women. 


In fact a friend of my mom's is living in Cali right now, but she's trying to find a way to come back to the states.  She was in a relationship with a gringo but it didn't work out so she went back to Colombia.  This lady is HOT.  I'm in my early thirties and I'd choose her over many women that I know who are my own age.  I'm not sure exactly how old she is but she has a 26 year old daughter living in the st. louis area.

[dtibbet]

Good post AC, thanks.

bingo on never underestimate the power of the mother here.....

[aconcepts]

Hey DT can you send me an email at cr4me1234@yahoo.com - saludos AC.


Got no PM privilege here and am heading there in about 8 weeks now.

[utopiacowboy]

One thing I've noticed about Colombianas is many of them age well.  You don't really have to go too young to find a Colombiana who is very attractive.  I've known a few who are well into their 40's who were still very attractive women. 

So right. I met my wife when she was 42 and she could stop traffic. And in my avatar you can see her now at age 52.

[aconcepts]

52? She looks 32!

[fathertime]

hello justmike, welcome aboard. I'm 47 and my fiance ( the women on my avatar) is 30. that's 17yrs different. i have had no age related issues with her. Colombian women in my opion want a honest and faithful man . if you are that man then you in like flynn lol. i stress faithful lol. everyone knows what i am saying yes me and my girl have little agreements from time to time.... but its culture and language barriers. never age issues. so come on and enjoy. you wont find a issue with age here in my opion.  i been living here for a year now and i have young women all the time approach me. it all depends on you and what you want. but keep in mind, every women is different . Chowwwwww

agree 4-square with Dtibbets here...17-18 years apart are me and my lady...Not having any age related issues with that age difference and we live in the states... 


Fathertime! 

[dtibbet]

                        aconcepts,sent you a emailFathertime:)

[mudd]

Though the caveat to a lot of these stories is that the man lives part time or full time in his younger wife's country where the societal pressures that make her a treasure are still in effect.  If you try to import her to the States, all bets are off.  A word to the wise.

very true, once she is in "your country" the ball is in her court and you might not like what she is serving later 

[fathertime]

                        aconcepts,sent you a emailFathertime:)

hi dtibbets...are you sure...i don't have any email.

very true, once she is in "your country" the ball is in her court and you might not like what she is serving later 

on the bright side, maybe you will! 


Fathertime! 

[dtibbet]

fathertime, my apologies, that was for aconcepts and the smiley face was for you on your comment. sorry.

[dtibbet]

Mudd, you scaring me... yeah i thought about that to. you know how people can be, that would suck to get home with your girl and she dumps you lol. terrible  but anythings possible right....

[aconcepts]

DT - its a huge problem.


You know for the couple that would seem evenly matched in the states, same age group, same social economic class well not so big a problem - but if you are bring a young hottie home, first, all the other wives hate you and her; second, family feels weird about the age difference, and third and the big third is - her shelf values soars.


If lets say you are 45 and she is 23 then its a challenge because if she is a hot 25 year old all kind of guys are going to pitch her.


That is the problem in the states, where men are so woman status conscious that men will do anything to get the alpha female.


Women are so insanely mad that you an older man have such a hot young wife that they will go out of their way to make you miserable as best  they can. They don't want you upsetting the status quo. They don't want their men thinking about why they have such a bitchy dumpy hag and you got a young hottie that likes to dress sexy, that actually may respect and like you. Imagine that!


You have to be very careful.




Here the only weird look I get is when I run across tourists wives when I am out with a 22 year old. The husbands drool.


Sometimes I just go through the book talking with gal pals or calling numbers I have collected waiting for the moment to parade around with the hottest youngest sexiest thing I can get. It takes set up work, but the looks are priceless.
Me an aging ex Alpha male with polish. Cash cars nice estate, confidence Spanish skills, not jealous and generous. I walk in an expensive restaurant with a drop dead gorgeous way to young barley legal and the even some tourist men think I am over the top. Now I don't do it all the time, but the looks are priceless. The company is a visual fantasy even if the conversation is terrible.


I don't do this to impress them women. i do it to impress myself and admire the raw beauty on my arm. I don't entertain fantasies of love and couples etc like some gringos do when they are with professionals. But these young women are not professionals, its just that they want to see that expensive side of town, they want to go to Multiplaza and shop in the expensive stores and they want to show off their beauty. Look if you want to have sex with a young professional for an hour and you are a gringo you can have you way for $100, if you are not an idiot.


But I am talking a night out in a classy resturant with a drop dead gorgeous 18-22 year old dressed to nines. Look it costs a lot more than a $100 for one of these evenings (dinner and drinks and incidentals will be that), but, you get the time at the mall dressing them. awesome, picking out shoes and lacey things, drssing them up in the dressing rooms. I mean that is great sex right there. Getting back to the estate and hoping in the spa and staying there while they shower. Taking a shower and dressing while they primp. Threatening to undress them after they have just speny more than an hour dressing hahahaha - that is always fun. Then off to escazu like the Caverna or the White House, Sometimes its a disco afterwords where I know the owner and I hang at his table and tell her to go dance untill she is danced out. Usally sex has already happened by now at some point so its back to the pad and wake up sex. Calla cab and she and her outfit and her memories go back home.


You know how hard it would be to pull that off in the US. Impossible. The day and evening could cost $500. But what are those memories worth? $5k? 50K?


The thing is most gringos if they could even pull this off would feel like they had to have her and posses her. I don't. Plenty more available.




That is one of the reason I live in Latin America. The other is sheer volume of available women and the way the men handle themselves regarding women. They don't put them on a pedestal.


They do not define themselves by them.


There is an interesting side to this as well. Men seem to be much more tolerant of the way their women age because its easy for them to have an affair or even a mistress. So they don't feel like they have to divorce when the wife gets older and less physically attractive. I know several young women that have affairs with older Tico men. These men help them out as well.


Ticos love their wives but I don't think that they are going to stop living because there wives have let themselves go.


I think ts humane that they stay with their wives after they have become successful rather than doing what the US men do and dump them for the younger woman and affect the kids negatively.


However the US woman has a big hand in this because they want the divorce pay check so they file when a man has a simple affair.


Older Ticos say, sure I may have an affair a couple times a year or so, but hey I love my wife. i would never run off with a young women and leave my wife.


Not in TV culture land where its hip to dump the spouse and injure the kids just because a mans libido last longer than a woman's and men face unique need to spread the seed.


I just don't really feel alive unless I am passionate about a woman, even if it just once a month. What I mean by that is that I can have a woman at home and have fairly mechanical sex and everything works and flows, but I need to have really good sex, not stale sex, at least every two weeks.


Now if that comes from her talking a good game or whatever other way she wants to create that, then that
is all good. But I am just as happy to find something strange every once in a while to renew the passion.


Now that I am older that is starting to change. More passionate in my mind but less time to stage it all. Takes time to carry out affairs and make them hot you know like meeting in clandestine spot, rose pedals on the bed, closet with several out fits, natural outdoor settings or just some great dirty talk and hot porn. Latinas are great dirty talkers, super sensual. They can really baby talk too.


Sometimes you want loving respectful sex with a special woman. sometimes you want to thrash. Bite and get slapped kind of stuff. Get some air (that is an old Cuban saying when the bed has moved from one side of the room to the other after a session). I mean there are sometimes you want to have sex across the house, You know like roaming sex... other times you want sweet kisses and delicate moments.


depends.


Life is short.


Why should men miss out. No. If you have earned your way to the position where you can have things, then have em. If that means using your physical or mental or financial attributes to get them, well - get them. They are much more available here.


The fact that it is much more available here creates less desire for it, because you know you can get it when you want. less sexual anxiety.


For me i want it all. A cook in the kitchen a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom. If I don't get it all from one person, and sometimes I do, then i look to other people to satisfy those requirements.


As a Mexican man in his 60's said to me on a flight from Monterrey to La Havana, "A man must live!" Like Tom Jones said when asked what his wife thought about women throwing their panties on the stage, "She asks no questions and I tell her no lies."


A man must live...


Women understand that here and its more natural. I know many men that are super respectful, discreet and great husbands, but they on occasions take time to live... Wives don't ask question and they don't tell lies... marriages last.


Now I wonder how many US men think this way? Its oh yes dear whats on the honey-do list today.... smak smak kiss kiss (some butt that is) for nothing!

[mudd]

Mudd, you scaring me... yeah i thought about that to. you know how people can be, that would suck to get home with your girl and she dumps you lol. terrible  but anythings possible right....

lol, well, trying not to scare you, but making sure you dont walk into anything with blinders on. seen and known too many guys who got burned because they really didnt , or thought they knew the girl well enough before she came here. colombianas can hide quite a lot when your only there for a few weeks at a time.
 worst case.... know a guy, dated his girl for about 8 months, made 3 trips within those 8 months. filed the fiancee visa, approved and she came up 2 months later. she was with him for 3 days before she took off to new york to be with her colombian boyfriend...... yep, guy didnt even know she had one or was talking to a guy in new york.




i could tell you about another shocker, abuse case with a bag of oranges, but that's another story jajajajaj. anything can happen, you can meet a real nice lady who is sweet and kind, or you can meet something similar as above. take you time. 

[benjio]

lol, well, trying not to scare you, but making sure you dont walk into anything with blinders on. seen and known too many guys who got burned because they really didnt , or thought they knew the girl well enough before she came here. colombianas can hide quite a lot when your only there for a few weeks at a time.
 worst case.... know a guy, dated his girl for about 8 months, made 3 trips within those 8 months. filed the fiancee visa, approved and she came up 2 months later. she was with him for 3 days before she took off to new york to be with her colombian boyfriend...... yep, guy didnt even know she had one or was talking to a guy in new york.




i could tell you about another shocker, abuse case with a bag of oranges, but that's another story jajajajaj. anything can happen, you can meet a real nice lady who is sweet and kind, or you can meet something similar as above. take you time. 

I got a million horror stories myself. Not even guys I "heard of things happening to," but guys I know personally and very well. Most refuse to post here. This is why I have always stated that luck is a small but relevant variable playing this game. There are those on this forum that would adamantly disagree and I understand their logic. But you'd be surprised what a girl can hide from you when you're not there with her fulltime. A guy can be even more surprised by how much different a person can be when you're actually married and living with them as supposed to just dating. No matter how much of a seasoned foreign dating vet you think you are, no matter how much you paid attention to all the red flags, no matter how well you followed the rules, it can happen to anyone. In this sense, it's always a roll of the dice when it comes down to taking the leap. Gringos dating foreign women always have a lot more at stake than they would by dating locally.