"You like FW because you want a DOORMAT!" AW dissing dating FW.

[DNice237]

I want to know how fellas deal with American womens dissatisfaction of you dating/marrying foreign women. I've heard it all, "Your weak", "You want a woman with no opinion", "You want a trophey wife", "She's only wants a green card".      How do you guys deal with this?

[JWR]

I dealt with this BS for for over 12 years.  You will never change their mind, and some people will just have a low opinion of you after to go down this road.  This is just part of the trade off.  I've learned that the best way to deal with it is to just separate my wife from people that are not accepting.  Don't answer their stupid questions about how old she is, or how you met.  You can feel it when someone is judging you.
 
Fly stealth and don't blab your business around to everybody.  Your life will change irreversably when you get into this.  Expect people to not be accepting, and then be surprised when they are genuine and nice.
 
 

[robert angel]

I want to know how fellas deal with American womens dissatisfaction of you dating/marrying foreign women. I've heard it all, "Your weak", "You want a woman with no opinion", "You want a trophey wife", "She's only wants a green card".      How do you guys deal with this?

 
In over twenty years married to a lovely foreign woman, (actually two--not at the same time though )  I never heard any such comments. If I did, they really wouldn't bother me--in fact I might find them laughable and attribute them to jealousy and perhaps a 'sour grapes' mentality.
 
I think that a question like "How did you meet?" is fine. I've gotten that one a few times, but it was only after people met my current wife and really took a liking to her and it was part of them expressing it to me later on. A few older guys have said "You're a lucky man--you have a great woman there--treat her right"--words to that effect--and I didn't see any two sided nature to their comments.
 
I'm sure some 'old maid' type women--typically women in their 30's and 40's, never married or maybe divorced, have things to say behind our backs, in their misery, but considering the source, they're sad and inconsequential to me.

[Zon]

I want to know how fellas deal with American womens dissatisfaction of you dating/marrying foreign women. I've heard it all, "Your weak", "You want a woman with no opinion", "You want a trophey wife", "She's only wants a green card".      How do you guys deal with this?

Other than family and VERY close friends, WHO CARES?


Of course AW don't like / object to my dating life.  That is because I have reversed their power equation.   By their equation, the best I can do is a Chiropractor in their 30's - oh about a 6 or 7.    And, in such a relationship, I am a "partner" - not a MAN.  Well, if I like a woman enough to keep company and TALK to, we can be FRIENDS (not likely).  We don't HAVE TO BE A COUPLE, or MARRIED - that is a demotion in my book, 99.999% of the time.


At this point in my life, I prefer to be in a LEADING role in my romantic relationships.  There are things a woman does better by tradition, genetics, and nature.  There are things a man does better.   To pretend that we are equal for the sake of being equal; to pretend that she can wear a dildo and I can take if for a night ... well, that is a little too much for me.   


Has anyone else noticed that there is public debate over "same sex marriages" in the USA  .... but, if you really look at it, 85% of the marriages are "same sex" anyway.  I am just saying.

[Researcher]

       I just take this nonsense for what it is: nonsense. It never slowed me down one bit. I was even told by a co-worker that getting a spousal visa would take ten years! hahaha! I never said a word I just kept on truckin' because when it comes to this subject the vast majority of people have no idea what they are talking about.

       Researcher

[raycjs]

for the most part friends and family handle it fine, as far as the public... WHO CARES... i have given up on caring about what other people think when they see my girl and I...90% of the women we come across have an issue with our relationship... We could care less.... do not let this every bother you...the bottom line is if you are happy then so be it....
 
 
Ray

[Jeff S]

I'm with Ray. Who cares? I look at them, smile, and say something like, "yeah - you keep thinking that," like I have a secret. Which you do.

[Fuzzyone]

  Most of the time I just laugh at them and tell them it is ok to be bitter. That usually gets them right where it counts.

[Ray]

 
I tell them to buy some fresh batteries for their dildo and their life will be much happier...
 
 
 
Ray
 
 

[whitey]

I can only remember two people with negative comments ... almost every woman says "awwww ..." when I tell them how my wife and I met.

Unfortunately, one of the two negatives is my daughter, who still refuses to meet my wife.

[DNice237]

I find it amusing how people can be rude enough to make a hard stare or talk out the side of their mouth. 95% of the jealous woman would not have given a darn about me if I was single anyway. Some people are just upset that their not an option. You must make yourself happy in the end because it's impossible to appease everyone all the time.

[V_Man]

If I ever hear the "You like FW because you want a DOORMAT!" it tells me three things. Firstly that person clearly doesn't know much about European, Russian or Latin women. Secondly that person is exactly the type of person who is toxic in any relationship. Thirdly , what a bigoted thing to say!!!

I can think if 1000 come backs to that person but equally perhaps it's not worth your effort. Personally I could hardly resist confronting them with their own biogtry, if only to warn them to stay well away from me and mine.

I have had people jump to the conclusion that she is only after me for my passport. However those people were completely well intentioned and were only considering my interests.

Also the Australian sence of humour can be pretty blunt so I have to consider the context. Only last week a guy told me I'd get kidnaped if I go to South America looking for women. He's just jealous so there is no need to even respond to such a rediculous statement but if I did it would be to make fun of him.
I had one woman ask me if my girl friend was over 15. I fell off my chair!! She quickly back tracked and explained it was only a joke.

I have a lot of female friends. Some of them aren't super happy that I'm dating foreign women but they know me well enough that they wouldn't make such silly claims about FW. One actually told me that I shouldn't date Australian women - which is very ironic coming from an Australian woman.

There is a small but growing realisation that feminism is toxic to any meaningful relationships. It is not unusal for young women these days to make a point of claiming that they are not a Feminazi.

[Bob_S]

I want to know how fellas deal with American womens dissatisfaction of you dating/marrying foreign women. I've heard it all, "Your weak", "You want a woman with no opinion", "You want a trophey wife", "She's only wants a green card".      How do you guys deal with this?

Why pray tell would they even know you are seeking a foreign spouse?  You're not blabbing, are you?  If you don't want to catch grief, learn to keep your trap shut.       Nobody needs to know your business.

[braziliangirl]

When my put my profile or an ad on a normal dating site (not a gringo-foreing dating site) I get some hate mail. Once I got one in Portuguese saying that I was looking for a fool gringo to support me, but the most common is "Are you looking for a Greencard?".

I just ignore it. They don't know me, don't know my history... Why bother?

[DNice237]

Why pray tell would they even know you are seeking a foreign spouse?  You're not blabbing, are you?  If you don't want to catch grief, learn to keep your trap shut.       Nobody needs to know your business.

I'm not running my mouth telling my business. Actually Bob I'm quite private. I'm using many other MARRIED AM with foreign women including myself. I can't hide my wife of course everyone is going to know she's foreign and will feel some way about it.  I can say I'm going to the Cebu or Barranquilla for a vacation and some people (woman) will automatically assume it's for the woman. Especially if I say Brazil.  Not that there opinion mattered anyway. I'm referring to collective of comments  from different people.