Age range???

[LatinSharpei]

So I turned 35 in December and I have no kids... I am finally at a place where I can and will settle down... What age range should I be looking at I was looking 26-34 is that reasonable and responsible being I am not looking to be going down there trying to just get the hottest dates???

[mudd]

25 to  34 is a very good age to focus on. of course depends on the women your meeting, but i have learned under 25 is a big krap shoot if they are mature enough for a real commitment.

[Gato4Astrid]

So I turned 35 in December and I have no kids... I am finally at a place where I can and will settle down... What age range should I be looking at I was looking 26-34 is that reasonable and responsible being I am not looking to be going down there trying to just get the hottest dates???

I am 43 but I look young for my age.  26-34 is very good age for me.  If you look at your own age (35), then 26-34 would be good for you.   It is not about your looks, but also your attitude, your physical, and how well you dress.


For example, if you are poorly dress  (wear like Mr Bean), you might get turned off by this 'beautiful' ladies who care about appearance.


1st impression is always very important just like you attend for any job interviews.  I don't mean wearing suits and tie. 


Good luck

[JimD]

I think you could shift your range to say 23 to 32.  There are serious 23 year olds looking to start a family. The higher the age the harder to find one without kids which I doubt you want at your age.

[robert angel]

I think the old saying here in terms of how far apart you are in age being OK is that for best results, try and keep it so she's no less than half your age, plus seven years (on her). So--and I'm no math wiz--I would guess if you're 50, she should be no younger than 25 (half of 50) plus seven years--or 25 plus 7 = 32 years old. You're 70? She should be 42 or older, if you buy into that calculation scenario.
 
If you're a billionaire, all the rules and norms can be adjusted...
 
Keep in mind that as you both get older and hopefully stay together, the age gap 'seems' to narrow. Some guys on the Latin Forum side seem to have 'pushed the envelope' pretty good and I think there's one guy on the Asian Forum side, who if he lives to be 100 years old and they actually stay together, his GF will only be around 70 y/o or so .....
 
It varies according to many, many factors, but I'd be willing to bet (although it's probably impossible to prove) that the wider the age range, the less your chances of staying married for say, 5 to 10+ years is. There's always examples to prove anything wrong, so that's just what I'd figure.
 
For that matter, I think woman will stay with you longer if she's fat and ugly than she's probably to inclined to if she looks like 'Miss Venezuela' instead. Be careful what you wish for!
 
I pushed the boundaries on recommended age ranges myself on the younger end, although I set my parameters initially for someone older. I knew my now wife for about 4 years before I finally got over the age boogey that I had sort of psyched myself out about, but by then she'd already finished a five year bachelor's degree and had an established career with Coca Cola, lived in the big city, etc--I wasn't really 'robbing the cradle'.
 
What's been said about trying to stay in shape, dressing looking good--all that helps when around a younger woman. So does being able to dance--I think women all over the world like a guy who can 'shake a leg'--or who at least tries to.
 
I think it helps if both partners have had some relationships before marrying-- that they've have had enough 'good times' as singles, so that when they settle down, she doesn't feel like she missed out on a lot.
 
My wife looks a lot younger than her actual age and I don't know whether I should be estatic or worrried about that, but we're going on seven years married and by far, most of it's been very good. Her being the eldest sister in a big family, raised in an open minded, yet conservative family has helped, as she's always been pretty mature.
 
I was married once before, for 14 years, (she was actually a year older than me) but this time around, I'd say things easily rate as twice as good, so even if it all went down the crapper tomorrow, I'd have to say it was all worth it!
 

[LatinSharpei]

Jim
You are right I really do not want one with a kid... For some reason I always get sucked into relationships with girls that have little girls...They aways find the soft spot in my heart... So I guess I would consider it...   My worry is as I age are they going to still want the same relationship and have the same desire for me that they do now... That is why I am chosing the Age group closer to mine

[piglett]

Jim
You are right I really do not want one with a kid... For some reason I always get sucked into relationships with girls that have little girls...They aways find the soft spot in my heart... So I guess I would consider it...   My worry is as I age are they going to still want the same relationship and have the same desire for me that they do now... That is why I am chosing the Age group closer to mine

first off welcome to the board LatinS.
second i for one don't wish to make my life anyharder than it has to be. if you find a lady with a kid that kid has a farther someplace on the planet (unless he is dead)
having said that you may be fighting an up hill battle to get the kid here to the US. why make life hard when you can find a sweet lady who has zero children? i have a no child policy & have always stuck with that unless I was only after a 1 night stand that is 
 
happy hunting ,
there are plenty to choose from
 
 
piglett

[LatinSharpei]

Good Point

[JimD]

second i for one don't wish to make my life anyharder than it has to be. if you find a lady with a kid that kid has a farther someplace on the planet (unless he is dead)
having said that you may be fighting an up hill battle to get the kid here to the US. why make life hard when you can find a sweet lady who has zero children? i have a no child policy & have always stuck with that unless I was only after a 1 night stand that is   
 
 

Well there you have it.
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Worried about whether she'll stick with when you're old and gray? Just knock her up. Where's she gonna go? It's supposed to be working for some.
 
But seriously a ten to fifteen year age gap is pretty standard in Colombian culture. I wouldn't give that age spread a second thought.
 
 
 

[robert angel]

The farther away the two of you live from the USA, represents proportionally less the amount that you have to worry about any age spread.
 
Once in the USA, if there's a problem with age difference, having kids together might buy you some extra time, but they're no guarantee...
 
After she's been in the USA a while, if there's a big age difference, some bimbos will inevitably try and put a bug in her ear about it--and maybe even their lawyer's card in her hand.

[whitey]

So I turned 35 in December and I have no kids... I am finally at a place where I can and will settle down... What age range should I be looking at I was looking 26-34 is that reasonable and responsible being I am not looking to be going down there trying to just get the hottest dates???

I think that's a good age range for you, but how low you go can depend on other qualities you are looking for in a wife.

Myself, I wanted someone with a post high school education, and who is employed and has been working for a few years.  These criteria often aren't necessary or important to some guys that are looking for more of a stay-at-home wife and mother.

[InnocentVixen]

Welcome to the forum sharpei (what an adorable username! puppies!!)


You have great advice here already, I agree that you do not have to worry too much about age gap and if possible you should stay away from women with children to simplify things, if single mothers are your weakness let me tell you what I told a friend with that problem "you are looking for a wife first, not a son/daughter" if you still go for a lady with a child just make sure it is not your paternal instinct for the kid what attracts you the most to her, after all if you find the right one and she doesn't have a kid you can always fix that yourself later 


Reasonable and responsible is that you get involved with a lady that attracts you, that is compatible with you and that she feels the same. The kind you know will be a good companion once the novelty effect has worn off, like others have mentioned this does not necessarily mean she has to be in certain age range, keep your mind open, you might be surprised.

[Zon]

Age Gaps, Perspective #1 - 18 - 24 year olds tend to be more sexy and exciting.  They also give an older guy a "age gap high".  So, just like with any drug be careful!  You have to be sober to make good decisions.


Age Gaps, Perspective #2 - In Latin America - DEPENDING ON WHO YOU ARE (handsome, in shape, fashionable, socially able) - age is not the make or break factor that it tends to be in the USA.   So, providing there is sincerity and sobriety from each part, you ought not age artificially stand in the the way of anything.


Changes and Children -  In Bogota, for example, the age gap issue is a little more like Europe. Eligible, attractive, educated, and employed women tend to stick to their age group - plus 10 years.  Smaller pueblos age is really not considered very heavily.  I have noticed that there are less sincere large age gap relationships over the last 3 years - especially with 9's and 10's in the cities of Medelin and Cali.  (maybe I just have a keener eye and see the subtleties nowadays).  Women that are younger - but mature - are the easiest to adapt and change.   Women with a child tend to be much more mature and future looking, for obvious reasons.

[Researcher]

So I turned 35 in December and I have no kids... I am finally at a place where I can and will settle down... What age range should I be looking at I was looking 26-34 is that reasonable and responsible being I am not looking to be going down there trying to just get the hottest dates???

That is a reasonable age range. I wouldn't completely rule out women younger that 26 but people that age tend to change alot. This venture is risky enough without adding more risk.

[LatinSharpei]

Vixen,
 
I do hope that I get to make adorable little puppies with the right girl someday.. I played College and Semi Pro American Football so I kind of can not wait to watch the pups of me and my future love play and grow... Kids are pretty huge to me... I am really staying away from women with kids...  I agree with everyone on the site I think that it will complicate things... Right now I have 2 piggy banks  (add to with every paycheck) going one for date nights once she gets here and another for her to do her shopping once she arrives... I know she is gonna freeze here in Denver so I wanna take her shopping and get her some warm stuff for the winter when that time comes...  I want everything to be easy and fun and no stress... I mean there is alot that she is gonna wanna do so I don't wanna be able to just okay lets do it!
 
 

[Bob_S]

I want everything to be easy and fun and no stress...

Well, forget that.  It won't be easy, and there will be stress.  But it will also be fun if you pick a girl with the right attitude who can roll with the swells the seas of life hurl at your ship.

[chameleon]

I'm 31 and I looked for girls from 21 up to my own age. I was fairly skeptical about meeting anyone  at the bottom of that range that I would consider mature enough, but if they're in the 1/2 + 7 range I wouldn't necessarily exclude them. My gf is 23 and is very mature about the things that matter, but still playful and has some of that innocence of youth. She's a stay at home type. She has no real desire to go partying etc. I met another girl years ago that was 22 and would have made a great wife to someone. Both were hard workers, did things for themselves, lived on their own, got an education, etc. Forget the number and look at how they manage their lives.


For us younger guys, a good benefit of being involved with a younger woman is that you can put off having kids. That a) reduces risk in case of unsuccessful marriage b) let's you have them when you feel ready.

[z_k_g]

i have a no child policy & have always stuck with that unless I was only after a 1 night stand that is 

Spoken like a true piggy!!

Zulu

[z_k_g]

I'm 31 and I looked for girls from 21 up to my own age. I was fairly skeptical about meeting anyone  at the bottom of that range that I would consider mature enough, but if they're in the 1/2 + 7 range I wouldn't necessarily exclude them. My gf is 23 and is very mature about the things that matter, but still playful and has some of that innocence of youth. She's a stay at home type. She has no real desire to go partying etc. I met another girl years ago that was 22 and would have made a great wife to someone. Both were hard workers, did things for themselves, lived on their own, got an education, etc. Forget the number and look at how they manage their lives.


For us younger guys, a good benefit of being involved with a younger woman is that you can put off having kids. That a) reduces risk in case of unsuccessful marriage b) let's you have them when you feel ready.

Good Post.

My sweetie is 22 and my experience is similar, but you really have to spend time picking the right one, you can easily get distracted by the hotness factor when they are young.

Having kids and breaking up sucks so I really like your rational for the lower, 21 and up, age range.

Zulu

[z_k_g]

The farther away the two of you live from the USA, represents proportionally less the amount that you have to worry about any age spread.

Well said. 

Once in the USA, if there's a problem with age difference, having kids together might buy you some extra time, but they're no guarantee...

....or by the same token, reduce the time?

After she's been in the USA a while, if there's a big age difference, some bimbos will inevitably try and put a bug in her ear about it--and maybe even their lawyer's card in her hand.

True dat!

Excellent points Rob, younger women, higher risks in some cases, no doubt about that.

Zulu

[V_Man]

I agree with the advice you have been getting. You have your age range about right. Avoid the ones with children. You don't need the grief and there are thousands of others that will be interested to meet you.

[vikingo]

Latin, if I was your age I wouldn't waste my time with any woman older than 21, but look for maturity, emotional stability and definetely avoid children. Since you live in Denver do not look for a woman in Barranquilla, go to ass-freezing Bogotá. If you are of average looks and aren't wealthy stay away from models. Colombianas are more interested in your looks, shape and economic position than in age difference which seems to be the last thing which is going through their mind, even in Bogotá. To give you an example, my slender and very curvy childless bride is 34, I am 72. She will be 62 when I am 100. LOL. I am fairly tall, slim and trim but am far, very far from being wealthy. Almost forgot, avoid rumberas, find a homebody, very important if you want her to hang around forever, once she has your baby, she'll stay for sure, and there wasn't a colombiana born who doesn't want a baby. One last thing, you should never lose your temper and yell at her, it won't go over very good, losing her temper is her job and it's your's to calm her down. Always be cool, calm and collected and she'll love you forever.

[JimD]

Good post Vikingo, you're a lesson for us all.
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[beginthebeguin]

One thing I will have to be careful about is developing a 'slow to burn' deportment around 'any' colombiana. Tell me are there any methods to develop a coping mechanism that might work with a colombiana besides counting to 10 (or even 20 for a colombiana) to prevent one 'blowing ones top'?