Are you sure you want to bring her home?

[z_k_g]

Zulu of course you are correct. All people are individuals. Also if you are living in country and speak the lingo then you can take all the time in the world to work out if that hot latin 22 year old is going to remain stable through the ups and downs of life.

So...the the group dynamic theory you espouse is not applicable to "in country" relationships?

However I think a lot of guys starting out need a reality check. 

Yes, but I just think risks exist with all age groups, not just the under-thirty group.

Pick your poison.

So in fact we are in agreement. Note that I did not use the word "all".

Yes, we tacitly agree....

And you implied "all" with your statement, that's the way I read it anyways.

I have no problem with anyone chasing 20 year olds. If you are in your thirties, you probably should.  Just be aware that the risks are significantly higher.

See this is where we disagree. 

I think FT says it best.  If you look at all the risk factors and consider each age "group" then all of the groups have some type of significant risk associated with that particular group.

The risks just happen to be different and some particular risk factors that are higher in one age group are lower in others and vise-versa.

So...depending on what risk factors you feel you can better deal with you have to pick your poison.

I'll take my chances on the under 30 group! 

Zulu

[V_Man]

Yep I understand your guys' point of view. I hope neither of you were thinking I was taking any sort of dig at you or your wives. That was the furthest thing from my intentions. I appologise in advance and unreservedly if you took it that way.

So...the the group dynamic theory you espouse is not applicable to "in country" relationships?

Zulu, Not what I said. Go back and read what I wrote. It's clear.

Who is it that is fretting about the risks?

FT it is definately not you and Zulu isn't even with a Latina. However for a time there was a stream of them. I felt that someone should be reminding these guys that these are women first and latinas second. I felt that these guys were being mislead as to how much time people like you had put into selecting the right woman in that age group. 

[z_k_g]

However for a time there was a stream of them. I felt that someone should be reminding these guys that these are women first and latinas second.

I agree with that assertion (Asian women included), but I think some on P-L would vigorously argue the opposite.

In an unrelated post some of our esteemed members couldn't grasp the concept that a prepago is a prostitute, because, they were Colombianas?

P4P is prostitution no matter what the nationality of the employee. It works the same in Colombia, the Philippines or Japan and Middle East.

The mere fact that the prepagos were Colombian and that recreational prostitution is pretty accepted there and pretty commonplace is irrelevant, its still prostitution.

I felt that these guys were being mislead as to how much time people like you had put into selecting the right woman in that age group.

Gotcha.

Zulu

[InnocentVixen]

Generalizations are always a dangerous thing, but I must say that myth of "better over 30" is hurting many good women out there, as many of you mention latinas are raised differently and that is one of the many reason you like them, good families try to raise their daughters so they become a good wife and mothers in her mid-twenties or so, latinos take us seriously only in our twenties, american's only after (well a lot of them)


In all this years of searching I have talked to many men on normal websites who will not give me the time of the day because of my age or some thought I was a scammer thinking it was not possible I was genuinly interested in someone a decade older and I had just turned 26 when I started looking... on the other hand we have websites oriented to international marriage, then gentlemen that tripled the age gap I was looking for would contact me like they were doing me a favor since they were looking for younger.


Looking back I have no regrets, but sometimes I do wonder if I was not taken as seriously as I would like because of my age, I guess it doesn't matter now, I might be taken seriously in a year 

[opusone]

V-Man,


This is quite a general statement here and it isn't even correct.  Who is it that is fretting about the risks? Granted there are always risks, but I think most men that choose a woman 15-20 years younger are not the worrier types to begin with, if  I/they were, I/they probably wouldn't pick a spouse that is so much younger. 
It sounds to me that you would like a woman a little older, which is fine. I believe there are a different set of risks involved with spouses in their mid 30's and up and those are risks I wasn't interested in.  For examp: 1.  Biological time clocks are real at that age. 2.  I'd be concerned that I might lose interest.  That is just me though, and I'm clear on where I would like to take my risks!


Fathertime!

Off the reservation..... The subconscious mind is not a seat of reasoning, or consciousness. It is a stimulus response device. Culture, on the other hand, drives behavior ,and gene alteration , more than one would care to imagine. The more one is exposed to things, the less likely you are to retain hardwired instincts. The system in effect has been overridden and replaced with new information, and does not perceive it as good or bad, just as information. Why would any of this matter? Judge for yourself. The more exposed a woman is to particulars in a culture, the more she is likely to believe that it is acceptable.

[braziliangirl]

In an unrelated post some of our esteemed members couldn't grasp the concept that a prepago is a prostitute, because, they were Colombianas?

P4P is prostitution no matter what the nationality of the employee. It works the same in Colombia, the Philippines or Japan and Middle East.

The mere fact that the prepagos were Colombian and that recreational prostitution is pretty accepted there and pretty commonplace is irrelevant, its still prostitution.

Again, Zulu? Really? Will I have to say what everyone wants to say about that? Go back and read Woody's post.

[Ray]

Again, Zulu? Really? Will I have to say what everyone wants to say about that? Go back and read Woody's post.

 
BG,
 
Zulu will NEVER forget about that discussion where he got his ass kicked (again). Apparently, he just can't seem to let it go.
 
 
I'm sure we will be hearing about that prepago nonsense for years to come... LOL!
 
 
Ray
 
 

[z_k_g]

Again, Zulu? Really? Will I have to say what everyone wants to say about that? Go back and read Woody's post.

BG,

Who is everyone?

From my scanning of that post everyone agreed that prepagos were P4P....but accepted. 

Zulu

[z_k_g]

 
BG,
 
Zulu will NEVER forget about that discussion where he got his ass kicked (again). Apparently, he just can't seem to let it go.
 
 
I'm sure we will be hearing about that prepago nonsense for years to come... LOL!
 
 
Ray

Ray,

What nonsense were you referring too?

Zulu

[Ray]

 
Zulu, give it a rest.
 
That debate is long over...
 
 
 

[z_k_g]

Zulu, give it a rest.
 
That debate is long over...

Ray,

I didn't revise the debate, just made a point.

You will never miss the chance to take a cheap shot or a rabbit punch will you?

And now you want to dodge like Mayweather.

Zulu

[Researcher]

     Come on now Zulu you know there are no prostitutes, only "pleasure engineers". hahaha!

         Researcher

[braziliangirl]

BG,

Who is everyone?

From my scanning of that post everyone agreed that prepagos were P4P....but accepted. 

Zulu

 

[V_Man]

    "pleasure engineers".

  - love it!

[LatinSharpei]

I really think the way this is laid out is not realistic.  First off if you are leaving her to sit in the house and miss her family and not spending your time with the girl you just brought home you were a fool for bringing her home.  Yes some of us still have jobs but holy cow I would think that you would be zipping home to spend time with her and looking forward to the end of the day so you can grow closer.  I have no kids so I don't have to worry about the evil american bitch...  For those that do... I would tell you put her in her place.  She was part of the reason that the past marriage failed it is now a conflict of interest for her to give you marriage or relationship advice.  As far as your kids from a previous marriage.. If she loves them and treats them good there should be no problems.  I am not sure where or why you would come up with the views you have as I think it's sad and unfair for you to make those comments as blanket statements based on where a woman is from.  Everything I have read is the exact opposite.  You have a woman that chose to leave her family to make a life with you... Don't you think that she thinks the world of you to try that with you??  I guess with age does not always come wisdom.  This post irratates me to no end.

[robert angel]

.  This post irratates me to no end.

I think you're really starting to fit right in around here!

[LatinSharpei]

I think you're really starting to fit right in around here!

Thanks!  I really appreciate all you guys' help... I am waiting till September to go so it is killing me... I get 3 weeks vacation every year but thats when 2 weeks of it will be avialable to me... that way I get 15 days down there.. Leaving Sunday after work to get to Miami and then Monday I am trying to get the first flight to Cali... Maybe I will get to see a girl or two that day....  Untill then I am getting some Networking Certs to strengthen my resume... I want to have a certain security level so that if and when I find the one I know that all we have to do is enjoy day to day life