How Attractive (or not) Do You Find This Chica?

[chameleon]

They're all just ok. None of them are spectacular but I'd hit them all regardless (except the guy!) because there's nothing objectionable about them either.


My gf is attractive, but not the hottest girl i met in colombia and i certainly saw even hotter. I was looking for more than just attractiveness though. I can also admit that I'd worry about my ability to keep a 9 or a 10 once she was here. Too many temptations in the big city (guys with far more money and/or looks). I feel a lot better about holding on to a 7-8 given the combination looks/money/charm at my disposal. I prefer things to be a bit more even in the looks dept. Were I able to live down south, things would be different, obviously.


What's that song? "if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife?" I think there's some truth to that.  I'm too tired to expand on it now.

[fathertime]

Just to clarify, I don't think there's anything wrong with going after exceptionally beautiful women. I do it everyday, all day!!! Men are visual creatures. We like what we "see." I think physical attraction is usually the foundation for most romantic interest, so it's only natural for a man to pursue women he finds the most visually appealling. However, in the end I also know that beauty shouldn't be the primary factor in determining which lady gets the pleasure of my undivided attention. Sure, go on a date with a pretty girl. Nothing wrong with trying to determine how compatible you may be with someone. I just don't agree with trying to make a woman into something she's not, or accepting faults you'd find intolerable in any other circumstance because a woman is very attractive...and I've seen many-a-gringo in Colombia doing just that!!!
 
Furthermore, I've broadened my horizons when it comes to dating in Colombia. After my first go round at Jamie's resulting in an unsuccessful relationship, one can't help but wonder what if? There were definitely some girls there that weren't as beautiful as others; and even though they showed a very sincere interest in me, I ignored them for obvious reasons. I don't do that anymore. Even when dating online. What means more to me is that a woman is honest, patient, virtuous, and serious about a lifelong relationship. If she's a knockout too...WELL, BENJIO HIT THE JACKPOT!!! If not, I don't think I'd be any less happy. After the experience of dating a few really beautiful women, they can actually start to become a turnoff. Grandma always said, "Good looks usually come at great cost to personality!"

Thanks for the clarification,


Earlier in the thread, it was said sorta implied that men should go maybe not go for the prettiest woman....i sorta agreed with that in the past...but i also know how I AM...and decided that i pretty much needed a woman that i found EXCEPTIONALLY ATTRACTIVE...i would ultimately may not be satisfied with anything less...SO my point is/was...the original statement is far from universal...it is all well and good that some men might be able to look past certain physical flaws, i can admire these men, but i'm not one of them...i pretty much wanted a woman that i found exceptionally attractive because i know that is the type of woman that can hold my interest for a long long time....i figured if need be i could work with certain minor personality issues, but i could not work with someone i did not find exceptionally attractive....but that is just me and i'm in the minority on that one i think....
You know what i'm saying? 


Fathertime!   

[V_Man]

Personally I need an attractive woman. I am just not sexually attracted to any woman that happens to like the look of me. I realise men are supposed to be rapid dogs that will chase any tail they can get but I am just not built that way. I guess I am lucky to have enough going for me to be choosy. I like a lot of women but to be considered wife material then obviously I need to be sexually attracted to her.

I hope that set some context to my earlier point.
My point is that (A) many guys chase after the MOST attractive woman they think they can get and (B) often guys would be a lot happier if they selected on a range of criteria which may mean they find themselves selecting women who are desirable but not the youngest, hottest woman that they ever dated.

I think many guys are doomed to fail because they don't really know themselves well enough to make the choices that will lead to a happy life.
But hey, what would I know? It's your life, do what ever you want.

[CeeTeeEnn]

Benjio says "After the experience of dating a few really beautiful women, they can actually start to become a turnoff..." sir, i feel your pain. I am already turned off flat by women who know they are attractive and use this as a licence to act a drama queen, gasolinera or party chick etc.

My gut instinct upon meeting an overtly attractive women is "you have 30 seconds to captivate my interest in a non-physical way or else i'm gone" and i must admit I feel a smug sense of satisfaction when i see the disappointment in their faces upon realising that no amount of nail varnish, skin on display, designer lables or sexy/girly/charming behaviour on its own will get my face to light up.

I regard it as my "survival instinct"

[maritime04]

I think many guys are doomed to fail because they don't really know themselves well enough to make the choices that will lead to a happy life.

 
I think your right on in saying that, but i think you can make all the RIGHT chocies in life and end up UNHAPPY.
 
i do not think a 7 in Colombia is a 10 in the USA, i think women there are just more picky, and compitition is sooo high that women are considered to have more value, and thus a 7 is treated like a 10, and a 10 is untouchable for all but movie stars and the very wealthy and or attractive males.
 
All this talk about physical attraction this and that, I wonder if any of it has anything to do with leading a happy life or having a successful marriage/relationship. Looks do not last forever, even the most beautiful of women age and become less desirable. Just a thought.   
 
 

[benjio]

 
I think your right on in saying that, but i think you can make all the RIGHT chocies in life and end up UNHAPPY.
 
i do not think a 7 in Colombia is a 10 in the USA, i think women there are just more picky, and compitition is sooo high that women are considered to have more value, and thus a 7 is treated like a 10, and a 10 is untouchable for all but movie stars and the very wealthy and or attractive males.
 
All this talk about physical attraction this and that, I wonder if any of it has anything to do with leading a happy life or having a successful marriage/relationship. Looks do not last forever, even the most beautiful of women age and become less desirable. Just a thought.   

I agree 100%. In the end, when everything else has faded and both your bodies are falling apart piece by piece, I think all a man can hope for is a very good friend.

[Deseo]

i do not think a 7 in Colombia is a 10 in the USA, i think women there are just more picky, and compitition is sooo high that women are considered to have more value, and thus a 7 is treated like a 10, and a 10 is untouchable for all but movie stars and the very wealthy and or attractive males. 

Maritime04:  Yes, you hit the nail directly on the head with this paragraph.