Introducing myself, Latin vs Asian

[wkheathjr]

Hello, my name is Ken and I was born deaf.  I grew up here in the rural area in Eastern NC.  Needless to say, farming life really bored me to death so when I turned 18, I left the state to live in big cities for more than 10 years.  I was in a relationship with this woman from Boston (We lived together in Washington DC for 4 years) and she probably was the gem but at end of the 4th year, she suddenly had different desire and goal pursuing her doctorate degree so we split.  Because I could not find anyone even closer to her I never settled for anything less making it difficult to find a good woman for myself.  I actually waited 8 long years hoping that she and I would get back together, but it never happened.  She married an old man and I don't know her reason but I am pretty sure it was for love rather than social status (And I am still hoping it is!) because she is now a licensed doctor.  Eventually I got real tired of life in big city I moved back to home here in Eastern NC and in a way, I already built some good assets for myself that I am able to live in the rural area with comfortable.  I am not saying I am rich because I am not.  Just able to live alright even with economic hardship but I am doing well. 


So now my soulmate is married to someone else, I explored local women around here but unfortunately the choice is really limited.  I think there is too many men to women ratio out here.  I did manage to meet beautiful woman from Ohio but we were together (she moved in) for three months and I find her to be more spoiled and demanding than my last three ex she had to go!  So now I decided to explore meeting someone oversea.  I came cross this website Blossoms and always wanted to be with beautiful latin women because of their dark hair, dark eyes, and olive tan skin.  Well, I end up getting overwhelmed with many single ladies from Philippines and I talked with many women on the website.  I find that major of them are conservative which is not what I look for in my woman.  Some are simply looking for money regardless of whether you will be her boyfriend or not (yea, I can detect it before I fall victim and I never send money, period!).  I will say that I did met very few nice women from PH and still talk with them for more than a year now.  They are even on my facebook and they have begged me to come visit them.  I refused but that was until I found out that my college mate's brother moved to PH in Cagayan De Oro so I contacted him about PH and got most of his feedback saying that many women out there are looking and all.  He agreed that if I was to come and visit, he would look out for me.  So I know I will be in good hand if I decide to visit PH.


But right now, my heart is actually set on latina simply because I find them attractive.  By attractive, I mean their nice figure, big ass and sizeable boobs. I prefer the one who is not skinny.  I signed up on RomanceLatina because I found them through Facebook and after contacting with 40+ women, I am now talking with about 7 women and 3 of them actually know little english.  I came cross one woman from Brazil and find her to be more intelligent of all the women I have talked with.  She really carry out interesting subject talking about anything.  She is actually more open and very direct about her like and dislike both in and out of bedroom.  It turned out that we both actually have same interest and same view in life.  She was more than willing to learn sign language and for that I am more than willing to accept the fact she have a daughter and I would take her daughter in.  But the problem is that when I was ready to buy the ticket to visit her, she is nowhere to found so I moved on but last Friday, she surprised me with email wishing me happy birthday when we haven't talked with each other for 3 weeks.  I don't know how to respond to it other than to say "Thanks! Take Care!".


So now it boils down to whether I want to travel to Philippines where I have someone who is American that will watch my back while I am dating few asian women, and most asian women already know english which is advantage compared to Latina in Colombia.  Colombia is cheaper to travel and I have two women offering me to stay at their house while I visit but I insisted that I stay in hotel (because if she lose interest then I would hate to put her in a spot to ask me to leave).  I have even considered some agency like Colombia Romance Tours, I Love Latins Tour (Still fishy on this one), and others.  I found one complaint in the archives against Sam Smith but the guy who said he would "type" two long messages in one thread never finished his 2nd message I am starting to think he was probably just pissed off he messed up and wanted to defer the blame on Sam and on this lady who apparently used him.  One thing about Sam Smith that actually made me think he may be legit is that when I asked him about providing a sign language interpreter who can also speak spanish, he had one of his interpreter email me back and she told me her cousin know ASL and can help me.  I never said anything about ASL (America Sign Language) and for her to say ASL could prove her credibility??  Then I saw a recently video on YouTube (Finally new women in the video) I figured it might be worth a shot??


So as you can see, I am really on the fence trying to decide what to do.  For me, spending $1,000 in a week is a lot of money.  I can be cheapskate sometime because I don't want to spend money that I will end up needing it next week.  I like to live a frugal lifestyle even though I own a land (55 acres), few homes, and a beach house.  As I said, I am not rich but I spend my money wisely so I can still afford to pay high taxes, high insurance (beach property insurance is not cheap and they do not accept monthly payment!!), and all.  Yes, if I want to go on a trip, all I have to do is put it on a plastic and I am off on a vacation.  I am just not sure what I want to do..  1) Meet women I am already talking with online (msn, skype, yahoo using webcam and I have seen all women on webcam) in Colombia or in Philippines.. or 2) Take up expensive agency and risk it out.  If I was to travel to Colombia, it will most likely be a short trip the first time.. maybe a week and meet up with each woman for 1-2 days then make a plan for longer time with the one I feel is better??  But if I was to go to PH, I would plan for a whole month so I can date few women for first week then last 3-4 weeks with the one I have good chemistry with.


Any opinion or input??  Thanks!!

[Jeff S]

Hi Ken and welcome.

Deciding on a country because you like the shape of the women's backsides (and frontsides) is a recipe for disaster IMO. There are enormous cultural differences between different countries, so you need to decide what kind of culture fits most closely with your own lifestyle,value system, and desires. In other words, the first place to look is in the mirror. All of the other factors (cost of a plane ticket, butt shape, and so on, are secondary. You can find whet you are looking for in the looks, personality, outgoingness, education, and other specific features in any country in the world (within reason of course - there aren't any blue eyed blondes in Ghana for instance) but you can certainly find shapely outgoing Filipinas and slender shy Colombianas, but what you have to deal with for the rest of your life are the cultural norms they grew up with and will bring to your marriage. That's the issue you will have to most reconcile, IMO.

- Jeff

[Ray]

I find that major of them are conservative which is not what I look for in my woman.
 
But right now, my heart is actually set on latina simply because I find them attractive.  By attractive, I mean their nice figure, big ass and sizeable boobs.
 

 
My advice: Stay out of the Philippines and good luck with your big ass and fake boobs. You're going to need all the luck you can get...
 
 
 
Ray
 
 
 

[z_k_g]

wk,

Welcome to P-L.

If you want those physical attributes (most of which are man-made) then I would stay away from the Philippines.  The women are mostly all natural (you might find that sort of thing in Manila....maybe a ladyboy?).  Latinas would be more your cup of tea, and for the type you seek bring your wallet full of cash and your credit cards, you're gonna need them.

Based on what you wrote, you sound like you are looking to marry eye candy and that is recipe for trouble and an impending train wreck relationship.

There is really no reason for you to travel overseas to find a woman like that, you will just waste good money.  There are some really hot strip clubs where you can get all that you desire right here in the USA....lots of big boobs and ass!

When you are ready for a wife, companion and best friend, then I think P-L can help you through that process.  Finding a suitable mate internationally is very time intensive and if you choose correctly you will be a very happy man.  But if you choose incorrectly (based on looks and physical attributes as a priority), the hell you will bring to your life will be almost unbearable (and very very costly).

If I were you I would read the P-L archives and reevaluate. 

Don't get me wrong here, I have certain physical attributes that I looked for when I started my search, we like what we like. 

But those physical attributes should be third on your list. 

Maybe you don't get the boobs, tits ass and hourglass figure.  Instead you get a beautiful, honest, loyal and committed pinay with a modest figure.

I didn't get exactly what I wanted, but close!  She may not have the phat ass and nice tits, but she is hard working, loyal, loving and is committed to being the best wife possible.

What's your choice?

Just food for thought.

Zulu

[InnocentVixen]

Hello new guy with complicated username


I would advice you to read Gato's posts, if I remember correctly he is in a similar situation where he has hearing problems or something of sorts, he's in europe though so it might be a bit different, but has been in a relationship with a colombiana for a long time.


However I would urge you to stop thinking of your ex as your soulmate, if she was your soulmate you would still be together, she has obviously moved on, time for you to do the same.


Nothing wrong with wanting a lady with curves but like Jeff mentioned you can find curvy girls in the Philippines and you already have a friend there, but then again if you don't like the culture, nothing guarantees that the right latina for you will have this curves you are talking about, in fact nothing guarantees you a latina will not be conservative, you could be surprised.


You also did not mention if you preferred natural to plastic or you don't mind, but since you did not mentioned a tiny waist and a perfect hourglass shape I will guess you meant natural and non-skinny (but shapely) ladies are indeed a lot easier to find among latinas, plastic % varies from country to country.


Now, you have to make clear how far you want to stray from "conservative" do you just want someone fun that doesn't hold back? a free spirited lady? a pro? or perhaps you just meant not religious? think of what kind of marriage you want to have, if you want to marry at all.


A guy I talked to in Cherry Blossoms is now engaged to a nice Peruvian, he actually blocked some countries (starting with PH) and that is how he found me and his now fiancee, they seem to be very happy.

...I explored local women around here but unfortunately the choice is really limited.  I think there is too many men to women ratio out here...

So where is "here" exactly? 
I swear if the man answers north-east coast I am just going to move there and invite BG over so we can go on a hunting spree 

[wkheathjr]

Hmm, it seems that you took some of my comments and blew it out of proportion.  Yes, if I wanted fake boobs and big ass, I can easily find one in my neighborhood and pay $100 to have a good time.  I think you guys misunderstood.  I am simply saying that I do NOT want to be with SKINNY women!  Skinny women are common in PH while most of women in Latina already have a sexy curves.  I never said I want to find a super model or anything like that.  Anyone who go for the look is really stupid and do I really sounds stupid??


InnocentVixen,  what make you think that I am not over my ex that I called her a soulmate??  I was simply sharing info about myself and why I have been single for so long and how it lead me up to looking for someone outside USA.  And you really don't know the whole story..  She, my ex, is the one who led me to believe that I am the one for her..  but she end up holding on to her cake and then ate another one..  sadly, things ended real bad between two of us we are not talking to each other anymore.  So before you tell other people to move on, I suggest you to keep it to yourself unless you know the whole story.  And obviously I have moved on because I mentioned that I met someone from Ohio and am now looking for someone.  And my username is not complicated if you knew me well enough but I will enlighten you as to what my username is.  ***W. K. Heath, Jr*** so now you know it is initial of my full name with last name being spell out fully.  WKHeathJr.  Not so complicated anymore, now is it?  But thanks for the input!


Jeff, thanks for the tip.  I think your answer is probably the best of all in this thread.  It boils down to culture things..  I do have my own culture too.. because I am deaf so we do have our own culture too.  I suppose the woman that I would get involved with would also have to accept my culture as I would accept her..  I do know one thing that my American friends in PH warned me.. when I marry a filipina, I marry her whole family and expect to help her support her family.  That mean sending some money over to PH.  That's the head-up I got.  The first filipina I am talking with work for the bank and she has 9 years tour visa to visit USA, and told me she is not desperate to leave PH because she already have a good life but would relocate if she really find her mate.  2nd filipina just graduated with nurse degree and is taking exam in Dec for certification or license?  Her mother works aboard and her brother work as information tech in Manila.  This one is ready to relocate and is liberated person.  3rd filipina is single with one daughter who is approaching her 18 very soon, and she is self-supported with no parents.  I have known 3rd one for 2 years now and she is the first person I met on Blossoms and been on my facebook for more than a year now.


As for Colombian, I met Marcela on Amigos.com and knew her online for 2 years.. she offered to meet me in person as a friend and if there is no chemistry, she will introduce me to her single friends to see if maybe interested or not.  Marcela works as a supervisor at the plant in Nieva.  Other two I met as recently as August and they live in Bogota and both of them speak some english but they do not know each other.  I have talked with some ladies from Medellin but seems superficial.  There is one attractive chubby gal living in Medellin and she works as a nurse but in overnight shift so it is difficult to find a time to chat with her and she is the one who invited me to stay over. 


Thats as far as I have right now..  I will admit I do not know much about colombia culture other than them being catholic and I don't know much about catholic because I am in christian country down in the south. 

Full personal name removed for privacy. -Mod Bob.

[Gato4Astrid]

Hello, my name is Ken and I was born deaf. 

Welcome to my club!  I am also a deaf person, living in UK

[Gato4Astrid]

I do know one thing that my American friends in PH warned me.. when I marry a filipina, I marry her whole family and expect to help her support her family.  That mean sending some money over to PH.

If you were a Filipino, would they expect you to "marry" her whole family? 

[thekfc]

Skinny women are common in PH while most of women in Latina already have a sexy curves. 

Where did you get that notion?

Are you saying that women from the PI do not already have sexy curves?

Also you said skinny...do you mean petite/slender or do you really mean skinny? like Paris Hilton skinny?

Just trying to clarify your post (s).

[Jeff S]

Not all Filipinas are skinny and not all Colombianas are voluptuous. Likewise, I think that marrying any Latina including a Colombiana, you are usually marrying into a very big, very close family, with lots of expectations to take care of each other no matter how unsavory some of the family's behavior is.  My father sure found this out when he married a Mexicana a few years back.


In any event, if you are a rural kind of guy (my mother's family are from rural NC) you should be thinking about a country girl, not really a party girl from the city. Just like an uptown New York or Chicago girl might not fit in in your community very well, neither will a Bogota or Manila girl - just another think to keep in mind. I married a big city girl and my lifestyle changed somewhat. I used to split time half in the wilderness and half in the big city, but now if I want to enjoy the mountains, go hunting, or get away from people on the ocean, I have to do it alone or with friends. That's not a bad thing, though. Our family vacation time is all museums, classical concerts, fine dining and the like - things I've always liked as well.

[wkheathjr]

Gato,


wow, good to know we are in the same boat except that you apparently already found your love??  And I got the head-up because my friend in CDO (short for Cagayan De Oro) find himself being asked for money by his in-law and he is really ready to move his family to USA.  And it is custom for the children to send fund to parents to support their parents so if you are married to a filipina then you will have to expect that.


thekfc,  I think it is common sense so come on!


Jeff,  Yes you are right on the money about the country thing.. I do put that into consider as well and I do ask women about these stuff.  I warn them about living in town with population of 100 people and near town is 15 miles away in each direction but that it is not a big city.  I tell them it is boring and in a slow pace.  Very quiet out here.  So that in mind, I try to stick with one who has education in nurse because it is one of the highest demand jobs in the area.  I live close to University with large medicine program so they are always hiring nurse.  If she is a hard-worker and doesn't mind a blue-collar job then we have plenty of mexican people working at pickle factory, chicken factories (5 near here) and etc.  So it depends..  I work as a truck driver and I own a campground business.

[z_k_g]

Hmm, it seems that you took some of my comments and blew it out of proportion.  Yes, if I wanted fake boobs and big ass, I can easily find one in my neighborhood and pay $100 to have a good time.  I think you guys misunderstood.  I am simply saying that I do NOT want to be with SKINNY women!  Skinny women are common in PH while most of women in Latina already have a sexy curves.  I never said I want to find a super model or anything like that.  Anyone who go for the look is really stupid and do I really sounds stupid??

Wk,

Ok, I reread your post twice, I did not see one sentence that listed the qualities that you were looking for in a wife.

No one here is busting your balls, we pretty much play off what you post. 

What we all got out of your post (including Jeff based on what he wrote) was the "tits and ass" comment you made.

No one took what you said out of proportion because you never listed any other meaningful qualifications for a potential wife, there was nothing to compare or contrast, that was your choice.

So maybe you should reread your post with that perspective and give us more insight on what type of woman you are seeking so we can help you along in your search in the Philippines or in Colombia.  We already know you want a woman with some meat on her rear end and a nice rack but what else are you looking for in a life mate?

Kids? Travel? Loyalty?

Also, I don't think anyone here think that you are stupid.  Shallow would be a better word and only because of what YOU wrote.

We don't know you that well so give us some insight. Our members run the gambit of experience with latinas and pinays.  Jeff's wife is Japanese.  We can give you plenty of useful advice and guidance.

You are a good sport and as you can see members here don't hold their tongues so don't get turned off by our directness. 

We sincerely want to help you achieve your goal so continue to post and we will continue to give you our viewpoint (the good, bad and the ugly)

Zulu

[thekfc]

thekfc,  I think it is common sense so come on!

Chill, relax!!!!

All I ask you was to clarify your post because alot of people will take it the wrong way. To some people skinny means skin & bones while to others it means something else.

Also what is common sense?

[wkheathjr]

OOKKAAYY!!  My apology!! Zulu and thekfc, thanks for pointing it out..  so I apology!! 


She would have to be 25-33, I prefer no kid but I may make an expectation for 1 kid if she is one up over the lady with no kid.  The main thing is to be with someone who can carry out interesting conversation because I don't want to be with someone who just sit quiet or can't throw in a topic to discuss/talk.  I expect her to work rather than being a home wife for few reasons..  Security, for her own future earning her own retirement pension so if I die early like in a motorcycle accident, I would feel better knowing my own wife is capable of supporting herself and "our" kid. What good would she be if she is just a home wife?


Physically- skinny and/or petite is out of question for me.  I was with one once and it just wasn't there for me physically.  I felt like I am hugging a broom.  She would need to have some meat on her.  About 135-180 will be fine for me.  As for boobs, orange size is fine.  Not a DDD cup! No thanks!  No flat ass.  she got to have some down there.  Not necessarily a bubble butt type. 


Hope that helps!?

[z_k_g]

Better! 

Oh yeah, Now you have a proper welcome to P-L!

Z

[InnocentVixen]

]InnocentVixen,  what make you think that I am not over my ex that I called her a soulmate??  I was simply sharing info about myself and why I have been single for so long and how it lead me up to looking for someone outside USA.  And you really don't know the whole story..  She, my ex, is the one who led me to believe that I am the one for her..  but she end up holding on to her cake and then ate another one..  sadly, things ended real bad between two of us we are not talking to each other anymore.  So before you tell other people to move on, I suggest you to keep it to yourself unless you know the whole story.  And obviously I have moved on because I mentioned that I met someone from Ohio and am now looking for someone.  And my username is not complicated if you knew me well enough but I will enlighten you as to what my username is.  William Ken Heath, Jr so now you know it is initial of my full name with last name being spell out fully.  WKHeathJr.  Not so complicated anymore, now is it?  But thanks for the input!

Defensive aren't we? I might be dressed up as a gypsy but I am no psychic buddy, the fact that you called her "your soulmate" to me sounds like you have not moved on and this has nothing to do with knowing the whole story, I am pretty sure any woman that hears you mention another woman as your soulmate would think the same and this would get in your way of your search no matter if you have in fact moved on or not!


As for your username, I was just making a joke because for the life of me I couldn't find a nice simple short version of it... for future reference I will just call you jr. most people around here call me IV for short or vixen... and if you still want me to "keep it to myself" then just ignore my posts, this is a forum board and I have as much right as anyone to reply to your thread, for all is worth all I said was trying to be helpful.


You might not be reading what I type by this point, but in case you are, I have another suggestion... don't be so touchy, specially when speaking to a female who is writing to you in her second language, no matter how good she is at it, you will find that sometimes the cultural barrier gets in the way, jokes sometimes sound like something else, hell this happens even when you are talking by text or chat to people of your own native language because words can be interpreted the wrong way.


De Nada.

[fathertime]

aw hell just have some fun with the latinas or PI gals and see what you like after visiting both places!  sounds like you have enough money to do some travelling.  if you like firey gals you are more likely to find them in latinaland. there are lots of natural good lookers in Colombia!
 
good luck!
Fathertime!

[piglett]

Physically- skinny and/or petite is out of question for me.  I was with one once and it just wasn't there for me physically.  I felt like I am hugging a broom.  She would need to have some meat on her.  About 135-180 will be fine for me.  As for boobs, orange size is fine.  Not a DDD cup! No thanks!  No flat ass.  she got to have some down there.  Not necessarily a bubble butt type. 


Hope that helps!?

so a chick built like a brick sh*t house .......
nothing wrong with that some guys like some meat with their taters.
 
welcome to the board WK
 
 
piglett

[JWR]

WK
If you choose Colombia.
Sign language/Spanish/English
She better be built like a brick ****house because that  might be your primary method of communication for a long time.......
Keep us posted.  It's going to be fun to read about this adventure.
 

[Gato4Astrid]

WK
If you choose Colombia.
Sign language/Spanish/English
She better be built like a brick ****house because that  might be your primary method of communication for a long time.......
Keep us posted.  It's going to be fun to read about this adventure.

My girlfriend is learning BSL  (British Sign Language), therefore I do not think communication will not be any problems she is willing to learn

[Gato4Astrid]

Gato,


wow, good to know we are in the same boat except that you apparently already found your love??

If I can find my love, then there are no reasons why you cannot find your love.  My girlfriend is an hearing person who is learning BSL (British Sign Language)


Good luck to you

[jm21-2]

"Skinny" has a different meaning in Asia to some extent and using western standards as far as weight or BMI are concerned will lead you astray. There is a difference in bone density and bone structure which will throw things off completely. What you really would be looking for is percent body fat which is not a readily available measurement on dating sites. Also the way a person dresses makes a huge difference. so it's not really that hard to find an Asian girl who has a "thicker" look, but looking at height, weight, and pictures won't help that much (unless they're nude, in which case there are probably other problems you would want to be concerned with).

[thekfc]

 

would need to have some meat on her.  About 135-180 will be fine for me.

So you are looking for someone more on the plus/full figured side. Yep, that is far from "skinny".
 

[dennislevy]

I m glad you connected with Gato.....Im going to give you the same advice that I gave him.....a couple of years back.
 
He didnt take it...but that s fine.
 
If you re deaf, obviously communication is vital, yes? You said you wanted a woman who could converse and conversing face to face is different then doing IM on the internet
 
So a woman has to be able to sign, or maybe...she is also deaf and she has always signed........
 
.it would seem to me that that is more important at least to start with then the size of her boobs or her butt.
 
There are a lot of schools for the deaf in the world....yes?
Are there singles sites for deaf people?-----I assume so.
is there an international professional society for teachers of the deaf?
 
Why dont you start digging and do an internet search there has got to be latinas somwhere..... in the US or Mexico  or South America who are teachers in deaf schools or she is deaf and is on a deaf singles site AND  she s got the age and the physical package you re looking for.
 
If you find women like that who understand your world.....I respectfully believe you ll have a lot more traction then chatting with women on the Internet, just because they are in the PI or Colombia.   

Good luck!

[Bob_S]

Good advise, Dennis.  I'd imagine that every civilized country must have its own version of Gallaudet.