Latina traits

[opusone]

Do you guys think that Latinas, get a bad rap for some of the traits they are known for? One that comes to mind is jealousy.  Do you think that Latinas in general are any more/less jealous than other races/nationalities? If so, is it because of the culture/upbringing, personal experiences, or is it instinctive? I've met a lot of latinas, who have never had a bad relationship experience , yet remain very jealous and adamant about it.

[Traveler]

Yes, they are more jealous than almost any other people.  And the dudes are also insanely jealous    .  In my opinion it's based on the fact that it is human nature to be jealous and possessive, and whereas in many other cultures this is looked down upon and therefore suppressed, in Colombia it is not.  The other negative is not showing up on time.  And by not on time, I mean really not on time.
 
But hey, they do certainly have a lot of very positive qualities that more than redeem those two in my opinion.

[beginthebeguin]

Yes, they wear their hearts on their sleeves.
Very sentimental, absolutely. But, overly so. I don't think that trait is detrimental anyway.   
"Soñadores": I have seen that word used most when they are describing themselves on dating websites.

[whitey]

In a culture (at least in Colombia) where infidelity is rampant, it is not surprising or irrational that many women are jealous.  If they have never knowingly been cheated on, you can be sure that practically every other woman they know has.

I'm fortunate that my wife is not a jealous person ... perhaps because she hasn't been cheated on herself (that she's told me about anyway).  We've both earned each other's trust.

[Jeff S]

As I have posted dozens of times in the past and probably will many times in the future, your first step in finding a foreign spouse is finding a culture that you fit into, because you're going to become a part of it for the rest of your life whether you like it or not.

[beginthebeguin]

Now this is interesting. I was given a compliment online today. I was called 'detallista'. Now most of the online translators define this as 'retailer'. I have seen many an online dating profile where the latina wanted a guy with this quality.
The best synomym I could find was 'meticulous'. So many of them want a guy who is 'carinoso y detallista'. I am beginning to wonder if any of those latinas that describe such a 'shopping list' trait in a guy ever come across such a guy in their own country? So, they want a guy that covers all the details, takes charge and is caring and affectionate all the time. Good luck chicas!!!!!     

[Traveler]

Detallista as far as I understand the word means a person who pays attention to little things that women find romantic.  For instance, remembers anniversary, compliments the new hairdo she has just done, remembers what her favorite food is and makes it to her on special occasions.

[whitey]

Detallista as far as I understand the word means a person who pays attention to little things that women find romantic.  For instance, remembers anniversary, compliments the new hairdo she has just done, remembers what her favorite food is and makes it to her on special occasions.

Traveler has it right, as usual.  It's based on "detalle".  Here's a definition in Spanish ... #3 is the one that applies in this case.


detalle s. m. 1   Hecho o circunstancia secundaria que contribuye a formar una cosa: contó con todo lujo de detalles lo que le había pasado. 2   Serie de cosas listadas de manera minuciosa. 3   Muestra de educación, delicadeza o cariño: fue todo un detalle que les mandaras flores en su aniversario de boda. 4   Regalo de poca importancia que se da como muestra de afecto y consideración: en muchos restaurantes dan, junto con la factura, un pequeño detalle.  cortesía.

[fathertime]

Now this is interesting. I was given a compliment online today. I was called 'detallista'. Now most of the online translators define this as 'retailer'. I have seen many an online dating profile where the latina wanted a guy with this quality.
The best synomym I could find was 'meticulous'. So many of them want a guy who is 'carinoso y detallista'. I am beginning to wonder if any of those latinas that describe such a 'shopping list' trait in a guy ever come across such a guy in their own country? So, they want a guy that covers all the details, takes charge and is caring and affectionate all the time. Good luck chicas!!!!! 

I can't remember which lady is complementing you now Beginthebeguin.  Is this the long time cyber novia, or is this a different cyber babe you have in the bullpen.  You sure do get around so I hope you are using a condom! jajaaj  
Fathertime!

[Gato4Astrid]

My ex-novia was very jealous and told me not to look at women or speak to any of them, and was very jealous of my Fashion business because my customers are about 95% women!!  I told her that I haven't seen any of my customers because it was done online.  Still jealous over it!


And guess what - she talked to men and even flirted with them!!!


" Men not allowed to talk or look at women while women are allowed to flirt, talk to them "  ?

[Researcher]

      If you look at latinas overall they are just more passionate so it stands to reason their jealousy would be a notch or two higher than other women. I like that they are more passionate about things and I don't even mind the jealousy. If they were like most AWs and didn't give a crap  then they probably wouldn't care if the man in their life was happy. A jealous woman seems to work harder to keep hubby happy so he won't have an excuse to stray.

      Researcher

[Gato4Astrid]

Being "jealous" is sometimes good thing too as long as it is rational.  Not like my ex-novia was jealous over customers that I never saw !!

[InnocentVixen]

yes when they say detallista means that you like to do little romantic things for her, like writing a love letter, sending flowers for no reason, some guys also call this corny I believe haha some girls will say "detallista" meaning generous though and they expect more than love letters and flowers.

[raycjs]

i actually like that my girl is jealous, she is always very passionate and she stands by her man and her family and to me that is very important. her culture has way more positives then negatives so i would not trade it for any other culture.
 
 
Ray

[opusone]

Heres my own personal top 10 list of a head to head trait/adjective comparison, This is personal , so if you don't agree , doesn't make it wrong or right.


Latinas:                                     American:




Jealous                                       adversarial
Cunning                                     demanding
Sensual                                      Selfish
less work oriented                       Work oriented
more traditional                          Independent
sexual                                        Stingy
grudging                                     Argumentative
 Loyal                                         Vindictive
sensitive                                     hardened
accepting                                    resistant




YMMV

[Traveler]

I would say I agree with Opusone.  What he has described, is correct most of the time, and bases on my personal tastes that's why I strongly prefer latinas to others.
 
I would add though that are a lot more reliable in all respects: whether you need their help, or whether you expect her to show up on time.  But they are certainly a lot more empathetic.  Also, Latinas avoid direct confrontation.  For instance, if you ask her out and she can't or doesn't want to, she might agree even though she doesn't intend to actually date you, or might come up with an excuse like she doesn't have time or something.  An AW will just say 'No' and be done.  The same goes if you ask a Latina for a favor that she doesn't really want to do.  It's just hard for them to say 'No' directly.
 
Also, using sarcasm to meet girls, as proposed by various "pick up artists" on the net doesn't work on Latinas at all, at least the ones who have not been raised in the US.
 
Another observation, is that Latinos are extremely generous in thelping the downtrodden, beggars, etc.  To give an example, when I was in Mexico City and was riding in the metro, a lot of people were entering trying to sing or dance or just beg for money, and virtually everyone was giving them something.

[V_Man]

Firstly let me say that I have no idea if these traits of Colombianas apply to other Latinas. I can imagine Brazillians being similar and Chileans being quite different.

In my limited experience the jealousy of Colombianas has to be experienced to be believed.

On the other hand I love it that Colombianas let you know how they feel about you almost right away.

[JimD]

...some girls will say "detallista" meaning generous though and they expect more than love letters and flowers.

...ie a new pair of shoes. Yes this the applicable definition in Colombia.

[opusone]

...ie a new pair of shoes. Yes this the applicable definition in Colombia.

hahahaha ,Jim.I can always count on you for a good laugh.