Wanted: a "Kicked to the curb" graphic

[beginthebeguin]

Hey, as anyone been able to find a 'kicked to the curb' graphic yet. It would be very useful here at P-L forums.
And yes, it is now official.

[robert angel]

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[beginthebeguin]

bob you have wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much free time on your hands. jajajajajajaja

[robert angel]

Well, when the wife's working nights, posting here's better than hanging at the bar--my precolombian artifact collection's catogorized, my fishing gear and and guns all cleaned, house is neat as as a pin and I just finished a good book.
Probably get into Andre Agassi's whiney biography tomorrow--ooops--almost forgot--my wife's off for the next five days!(and nights, hehehe).....the hell with the book, shift gears--got some shopping, dinner dates, movies and serious 'sack time' coming up!

[V_Man]

BtheB why is it over? I'm am curious.

[beginthebeguin]

V_man you asked so here it is.
 I found yesterday that my novia posted a new profile under a new profile name at the dating website where we first met. She and I had both agreed weeks ago to deactivate our profiles on that website, since we went 'exclusivo'. That took place weeks ago and I verified this myself. So did she when I deactivated mine. Now it seems that on Monday she had been give a notification from her landlord to vacate her apartment she shares with her son by the 25th of the Sept. This of course drastically changes her circumstances, since she has been out of work for 3 months (her employer had moved from Cali to Medellin to care for her mother).So a 'red flag' went up because in our chat yesterday she was a bit distant (understandable) but excessively 'thankful' to me. An indicator I had not seen before.   So just  on a hunch I went over to that particular dating website and under the filter called 'New Ladies' there is a new profile of my novia with new "looking for" criteria. Her past profile's "looking for" criteria had "Serious relationship, Marriage". This time the criteria was "Marriage, Casual".   Not only a broken agreement  but also a change of intent once she places herself back on the 'market'. I think for most that becomes a 'deal breaker'. Correct me if I am wrong but it would be for most. 

[fathertime]

V_man you asked so here it is.
 I found yesterday that my novia posted a new profile under a new profile name at the dating website where we first met. She and I had both agreed weeks ago to deactivate our profiles on that website, since we went 'exclusivo'. That took place weeks ago and I verified this myself. So did she when I deactivated mine. Now it seems that on Monday she had been give a notification from her landlord to vacate her apartment she shares with her son by the 25th of the Sept. This of course drastically changes her circumstances, since she has been out of work for 3 months (her employer had moved from Cali to Medellin to care for her mother).So a 'red flag' went up because in our chat yesterday she was a bit distant (understandable) but excessively 'thankful' to me. An indicator I had not seen before.   So just  on a hunch I went over to that particular dating website and under the filter called 'New Ladies' there is a new profile of my novia with new "looking for" criteria. Her past profile's "looking for" criteria had "Serious relationship, Marriage". This time the criteria was "Marriage, Casual".   Not only a broken agreement  but also a change of intent once she places herself back on the 'market'. I think for most that becomes a 'deal breaker'. Correct me if I am wrong but it would be for most.

Ray's Dumptruck graphic applies here.
It is pretty unrealistic to have a virtual relationship with these latina babes.  Nothing is real until you meet the lady.


Fathertime! 

[AndyLee]

Ray's Dumptruck graphic applies here.
It is pretty unrealistic to have a virtual relationship with these latina babes.  Nothing is real until you meet the lady.


Fathertime!

and even AFTER you meet the lady in person and even after spending 3 days and 4 nights with her you can never be too sure. This happened to me in Costa Rica three years ago. When I got back to US I went the dating site to take my profile off and make sure hers was off, which it was.
Then I went to the other popular dating site to remove my profile there, thinking I was officially off the market, only to discover that the girl had opened a new profile with new pictures. One of the pictures was a lovely photo of her and me taken 3 days earlier standing in front of a Cathedral in a pueblo near San Jose. Except all you could see of me was the hand around her waist.
Instantly I sent her a Dear Jane email then I got a frantic phone call saying it was all a big mistake,  and she loved me and please don't....................jeez, I felt like a stupid idiot.......for abut two hours, then I went back on the site and opened my mail and found a beautiful love note from a gorgeous girl in Colombia........and the rest as they say is history, I've been in Colombia ever since.

[Chris F]

V_man you asked so here it is.
 I found yesterday that my novia posted a new profile under a new profile name at the dating website where we first met. She and I had both agreed weeks ago to deactivate our profiles on that website, since we went 'exclusivo'. That took place weeks ago and I verified this myself. So did she when I deactivated mine. Now it seems that on Monday she had been give a notification from her landlord to vacate her apartment she shares with her son by the 25th of the Sept. This of course drastically changes her circumstances, since she has been out of work for 3 months (her employer had moved from Cali to Medellin to care for her mother).So a 'red flag' went up because in our chat yesterday she was a bit distant (understandable) but excessively 'thankful' to me. An indicator I had not seen before.   So just  on a hunch I went over to that particular dating website and under the filter called 'New Ladies' there is a new profile of my novia with new "looking for" criteria. Her past profile's "looking for" criteria had "Serious relationship, Marriage". This time the criteria was "Marriage, Casual".   Not only a broken agreement  but also a change of intent once she places herself back on the 'market'. I think for most that becomes a 'deal breaker'. Correct me if I am wrong but it would be for most.

You did not "break up" or "kick anyone to the curb" that you have never met. FT is right by stating nothing is real until you meet someone.
There is still much to learn here Luke, but the force is here to help you.

[V_Man]

I am under the impression that you have not purchased a plane ticket to visit her on a specific date. So please tell me if that assumption is incorrect.

BtheB obviously I don't know the whole story. However I can see this from her perspective. You can break it off with her for any reason you like - as you have demonstrated. I wish you luck.

Not only a broken agreement  but also a change of intent once she places herself back on the 'market'. I think for most that becomes a 'deal breaker'. Correct me if I am wrong but it would be for most.

I think many people from any country would agree that if one has not met in person then one is still single. Life is short and if one is single one should keep one's options open - at least a little bit. The majority of people on international dating sites never travel to another country and visit anyone.

As far as the change of intent goes, she still wants to get married. She is just signalling that she could start casual and develop something from there. You know her best but it is no real change of intent in my view.

[Dave H]

How about a "Picked Up From the Curb"  image? Things are never as bad as they seem and can always get better...just look at the happy look on this lucky guy! 

 

[benjio]

Ray's Dumptruck graphic applies here.
It is pretty unrealistic to have a virtual relationship with these latina babes.  Nothing is real until you meet the lady.


Fathertime!

I've been thinking the same thing since I started reading Begin's post about this chica. I've discovered however that most gringos have very hard time accepting this until they get first hand experience with these girls. Although I communicate with Colombianas via the web and over the phone with the intentions of meeting them in the near future, I'd never attempt to start or maintain an exclusive relationship without a significant amount of time in person. In my opinion, the same goes for a girl that you've only visited once or twice. The idea of dating and eventually marrying a gringo is very appealing to a lot of girls in Latin America, but when it comes down to it, it's extremely difficult to find one with the patience, dedication and virtuousness to actually do it successfully. Unfortunately, most of these girls, especially in Colombia, are just looking for the bigger, better deal. If that deal comes along IN Colombia with a Colombiano and the girl is not completely enamored by you, you can guarantee she'll either be trying to juggle two novios, or distancing herself from you.
 
Contrary to what a lot of gringos think, IMO, most of these girls would rather have the advantage of dating a gringo while remaining in the countries they grew up in. For example, I've found that interest in me in much higher now that I'm telling Colombianas I plan on living in Colombia and have no intention of bringing my future wife back to the states. For them it's like having their cake and eating it too. They don't have to leave their family and friends, learn a new language, or embrace a new culture. But they can still enjoy all the advantages of dating a gringo. The fidelity, financial stability, etc.

[beginthebeguin]

Hey Dave_H that looks like Steven King. jajajajaja

[Researcher]

I've been thinking the same thing since I started reading Begin's post about this chica. I've discovered however that most gringos have very hard time accepting this until they get first hand experience with these girls. Although I communicate with Colombianas via the web and over the phone with the intentions of meeting them in the near future, I'd never attempt to start or maintain an exclusive relationship without a significant amount of time in person. In my opinion, the same goes for a girl that you've only visited once or twice. The idea of dating and eventually marrying a gringo is very appealing to a lot of girls in Latin America, but when it comes down to it, it's extremely difficult to find one with the patience, dedication and virtuousness to actually do it successfully. Unfortunately, most of these girls, especially in Colombia, are just looking for the bigger, better deal. If that deal comes along IN Colombia with a Colombiano and the girl is not completely enamored by you, you can guarantee she'll either be trying to juggle two novios, or distancing herself from you.
 
Contrary to what a lot of gringos think, IMO, most of these girls would rather have the advantage of dating a gringo while remaining in the countries they grew up in. For example, I've found that interest in me in much higher now that I'm telling Colombianas I plan on living in Colombia and have no intention of bringing my future wife back to the states. For them it's like having their cake and eating it too. They don't have to leave their family and friends, learn a new language, or embrace a new culture. But they can still enjoy all the advantages of dating a gringo. The fidelity, financial stability, etc.

       I don't know about a kick to the curb graphic but I give Benjio an internet hi five on this post!

                             

     Researcher

[AndyLee]

Contrary to what a lot of gringos think, IMO, most of these girls would rather have the advantage of dating a gringo while remaining in the countries they grew up in. For example, I've found that interest in me in much higher now that I'm telling Colombianas I plan on living in Colombia and have no intention of bringing my future wife back to the states. For them it's like having their cake and eating it too. They don't have to leave their family and friends, learn a new language, or embrace a new culture. But they can still enjoy all the advantages of dating a gringo. The fidelity, financial stability, etc.

BINGO benjio, exactamente!

[fathertime]

 
Contrary to what a lot of gringos think, IMO, most of these girls would rather have the advantage of dating a gringo while remaining in the countries they grew up in. For example, I've found that interest in me in much higher now that I'm telling Colombianas I plan on living in Colombia and have no intention of bringing my future wife back to the states. For them it's like having their cake and eating it too. They don't have to leave their family and friends, learn a new language, or embrace a new culture. But they can still enjoy all the advantages of dating a gringo. The fidelity, financial stability, etc.

I agree with you benjio. 


What the ladies may/may not realize is that they would not likely have their cake and eat it too.  If one of us gringos were to be living in Colombia, I think it is far less likely that the marriage would last for too long.  For a lotta men being surrounded by young willing babes will make him less willing to put up with marriage's bumps in the road.   Ultimately, the woman would be left in the dust tending to the children and the man would be out and about enjoying other ladies because of 'marital problems'.  In my opinion and if my theory is correct,  what the lady wants is not necessarily for the best in terms of keeping the marriage together.


Fathertime! 

[beginthebeguin]

FT makes a great point. But imagine yourself at certain age living in Colombia. And all those attractive women appearing in front of you day to day. At some point in time the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Those circumstances makes it more apparent that the older the gringo living 'in-country' the better it is for the Colombian wife. Maybe that also adds to the appeal of these May-December romances, at least for the woman.   

[Alabamaboy!]

FT makes a great point. But imagine yourself at certain age living in Colombia. And all those attractive women appearing in front of you day to day. At some point in time the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Those circumstances makes it more apparent that the older the gringo living 'in-country' the better it is for the Colombian wife. Maybe that also adds to the appeal of these May-December romances, at least for the woman. 

Generally speaking, if you are unable to satisfy your wife, or she satisfy you, no matter what the ages are, I think there are going to be some big problems in the relationship. So if you have any doubts in your capacity to take care of business, you should just play it safe and not even get involved. It is not fair to your woman or to yourself. But in reality your "flesh" should not be getting too weak these days until you are in your mid 80's if you are taking care of yourself, eating right, exercising. If your flesh between your legs is not cooperating there is always vitamin V or some equivalent. So that should not be a limiting factor. The limiting factor is if your ticker, lungs, joints, muscles can not hang in there. And if they cannot, then it is probably better to spend more time at the gym than chatting to hot Colombianas.

[Researcher]

   Hey Begin, here is one of my favorite graphics.Maybe you can use it:

                                 

     Researcher

[benjio]

Great points gents. Leave it up to a Colombiana to desire something that in the end probably wouldn't be in her best interest.
 
I personally have never had a problem being faithful to a woman. I'm the kind of person who'll just end it and tell the truth if someone else interest me so much I feel I can't control myself. I definitely agree with the idea that there's so much more available tail running around Colombia it would be very hard for a guy to stay faithful. The fact that a lot of women have no problem with being the girl on the side (if it's something in it for them) makes this even more tempting. But in my experience, if a man keeps themselves out of situations where they're likely to cheat, it really helps them not to stray.
 
If there's some hot new secretary at the office that's giving you googly eyes, maybe you don't want to report her, but try not to schedule any late meetings that would require you and her being alone in the office after hours. If your girlfriend or wife has a friend that's always making suggestive comments when your wife's not around, don't stay with them in the house while your wife goes to the store. Go to the store for your wife. Sometimes the best course of action isn't snitching someone out and letting everyone know what they're doing. That usually causes more problems than it solves. But a little preventive behavior will save most guys a lot of heartache. What guys usually do in the situations I've listed above is test their boundaries. They'll initially have no intention of cheating, but their curious nature will get the best of them because they want to find out how far it could go. This is how men that are completely in love with their wives end up cheating on them. A little sexual experiment to test the hypothetical turns into a heated quicky, followed by that sick milky feeling in your stomach as soon as you bust your load because you know you [snip]ed up.
 
When I was dating my ex in Barranquilla, her friends would definitely test me. Prolonged eye contact, suggestive touches while dancing, little comments like, "I wish I had a boyfriend just like you...she is so lucky!" The friends of Mexican and Puerto Rican girls I've dated don't do this as much, but Colombianas have it BAD!!! The fact that someone already has you makes you so much more appealing to them. And no matter how long your girl and her friend have known each other, most have absolutely no problem losing her as a friend if that means having you for a man. For a lot of women it's like the ultimate conquest.

[beginthebeguin]

Okay guys, stay tuned for round 2. Damm!!!! I am starting to feel like I am living in a telenovella on hispanic television, or something similar to the plot of the movie "Like Water for Chocolate". Will tell you all more as this 'novella' develops. 
OK FT at least you have to admit my posts are never 'boring' for you. jajajajaja

[fathertime]

Okay guys, stay tuned for round 2. Damm!!!! I am starting to feel like I am living in a telenovella on hispanic television, or something similar to the plot of the movie "Like Water for Chocolate". Will tell you all more as this 'novella' develops. 
OK FT at least you have to admit my posts are never 'boring' for you. jajajajaja

Ja! Well Beginthebeguin, I like your posts because sometimes you reference some phrase from the past, like that time you talked about getting 'drawn and quartered'!  I'm trying to avoid commenting too much on your 'relationship' until you actually get on your horse and see the woman you are always talking about. 


Fathertime!