Surprising things that your latina has asked to receive

[Researcher]

Update.
She went for the long ball instead of a successful bunt. After discussing her request today, she also asked for a winter pajama set as well, longer sleeves and long pant legs. I said 'nope'. Only one set will be sent. But I told her 'maybe' I'll get you a winter set on your birthday in late November. And she agreed. I then jokingly told her I was then off the hook for a fancy birthday present. jajaja. She took that news in good spirits though.
Manoeuver and counter-manoeuver what am I getting into. jajajajajaja

    It is generally said that sending cash or gifts before meeting is a very bad idea.It can lead to a not so good situation where you are viewed as an ATM.

    Researcher

[Colgando]

Colgando

A huge thank you for all that info you gave me. That's a lot of typing you had to do...it is appreciated.  Thnx for your insight. I never thought about it it, but u saying that its not imperative that u come away from your first visit with a novia or wife and to plan a 2nd trip makes perfect sense. So I will do that..plan a 2nd trip. And definitly agree about the man having an edge thing. The old addage, nice guys finish last is so dam true. Used to be like that in my early 20's making sure she was happy, never arguing, never trying to be overly in charge. I learned, that dont work. Women say that want a nice guy...but you gotta have that swagger, that edge as you say. You gotta have that" ill find another women if you don't act right female" swagger". I walk with that swagger now.
Definitly will remember everything you said. Surprised that the women seemed boring. Conversation wise. Sounds like you had to do most of the conversation starting. But bieng countey girls, and with the language barrier I can understand. It was like that for me when I was dating a filipino while stationed at clark ab back in 1972...she was gorgeous, simple,
and did not have much in the way of starting a conversation, but that was okay. She was humble and nice. When I got orders to be assigned at another duty station we never kept in touch after I left. She was a sweetheart.
Anyhow....I like how jamie runs his ship. I work extremely hard and long hours for the $$ I make, I'm not rich, so every dollar counts and its good to know jamie runs his buisness
knowing that. Ill listen to all he says and will follow his advice religously. Thnx for the info bout the girls...the more I know the better. My take is their not as complicated and materialistic as aw women, but that u gotta run the relationship....that's what I'm about.

You are welcome Saleen. I am sure you will have a blast, 90% of men leave with a strong interest. Of those 90%, 50% marry the woman, so Jamie has a good track record.


Yes sir, I like that, i'll get another woman if you start acting up swagger, the agency scene helps to build out that swagger for us American guys who need it....jejejejeje!

[cantinflas]

Most common item I have been asked for is stuffed animals

[saleens7tt]

Researcher

Gotcha...that was the mindset I have figuered you gotta have from all u "long time" posters on here...hace fun, njoy the experience and think with the head on ur shoulders not the other. Was persistence the wrong word?? I was thinking some would make 1 trip and if they ended up mt handed they wouldn't try again...colgando didn't do that. He went back, hence my definition of persistence....but as u mentioned, take it like a vacation, have fun and dont worry. Maybe persistence was wrong word to use.

[Colgando]

Researcher

Gotcha...that was the mindset I have figuered you gotta have from all u "long time" posters on here...hace fun, njoy the experience and think with the head on ur shoulders not the other. Was persistence the wrong word?? I was thinking some would make 1 trip and if they ended up mt handed they wouldn't try again...colgando didn't do that. He went back, hence my definition of persistence....but as u mentioned, take it like a vacation, have fun and dont worry. Maybe persistence was wrong word to use.

Persistence is a good word, keeping at it, not giving up. Easy to get discouraged on this journey, easy to make an unnecessary mistake if someone is not persistent and patient. I was a bit discouraged after my first trip, an emotional roller coaster, but I dusted myself off, the high came down from the woman I was really into the 1st trip, I booked my 2nd trip within 2 weeks from my 1st. My motto is go big or go home, leave it all on the playing field, so I look at it as giving it my best, and letting the chips fall where they may. One can be persistent and have a good time at the same time. Traveling, learning a new culture, practicing Spanish, enjoying the company of beautiful women, exploring a new country, disconnecting from the rat race that is the US, all while having that noble hope of finding a bride, add in persistence and patience to not get discouraged when things do not work out the way you want, and to go back, again, and again, and again, and again. I had a blast both trips, I experienced culture shock for 3 days when I came back...jejejeje, that quickly wore off when a couple of my clients called me giving me an ear full about something or another, I was back to my reality as I know it 11 months of the year. The other 1 month, I can disconnect.

[whitey]

Persistence is a good word, keeping at it, not giving up. Easy to get discouraged on this journey, easy to make an unnecessary mistake if someone is not persistent and patient. I was a bit discouraged after my first trip, an emotional roller coaster, but I dusted myself off, the high came down from the woman I was really into the 1st trip, I booked my 2nd trip within 2 weeks from my 1st. My motto is go big or go home, leave it all on the playing field, so I look at it as giving it my best, and letting the chips fall where they may. One can be persistent and have a good time at the same time. Traveling, learning a new culture, practicing Spanish, enjoying the company of beautiful women, exploring a new country, disconnecting from the rat race that is the US, all while having that noble hope of finding a bride, add in persistence and patience to not get discouraged when things do not work out the way you want, and to go back, again, and again, and again, and again. I had a blast both trips, I experienced culture shock for 3 days when I came back...jejejeje, that quickly wore off when a couple of my clients called me giving me an ear full about something or another, I was back to my reality as I know it 11 months of the year. The other 1 month, I can disconnect.

Colgando has a great attitude.

If someone defines success as a one-and-done trip, club your colombiana over the head and drag her back to gringolandia, chances are you will either come home with empty hands or make a bad choice with the woman.

It's important to remember that this is FUN, that Colombia is a wonderful place to visit, that it should be a PLEASURE to return for multiple trips.  I've been 11 times, including two stretches of 6 weeks each.  Every day I think about the next trip I want to make.

[saleens7tt]

Researcher...ok....I hear u on the rat race here in the us. Seems columbia is so much more laid back. Your description of it reminds me of the P.I. (phillippines)..laid back. I've gotten seriously interested in columbia and its people and especially the women. So as you and colgando experienced, if the first trip doesn't result in a relationship, go back. Most important njoy your time there and experience the culture. It is a life experience most people wont experience.
Hell, I know classmates of mine from 30 yrs ago who still live in the same small town, with the same job. They never ventured out to see what this world has to offer.  I went into the military 5 months after graduation and never looked back. I've been all over the world, fought in a war (desert storm) and have had experience's that have helped shaped me into a better man. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines.

[saleens7tt]

Colgando has a great attitude.

If someone defines success as a one-and-done trip, club your colombiana over the head and drag her back to gringolandia, chances are you will either come home with empty hands or make a bad choice with the woman.

It's important to remember that this is FUN, that Colombia is a wonderful place to visit, that it should be a PLEASURE to return for multiple trips.  I've been 11 times, including two stretches of 6 weeks each.  Every day I think about the next trip I want to make.

@ whitey...just wanted to say, from your profile pic, you 2 look great together. She's beautiful...but that smile of hers....that would stop me dead in my tracks. What a way to start your day by ooking at he/that smile. I'm jealous man..with all due respect!

[utopiacowboy]

@ whitey...just wanted to say, from your profile pic, you 2 look great together. She's beautiful...but that smile of hers....that would stop me dead in my tracks. What a way to start your day by ooking at he/that smile. I'm jealous man..with all due respect!

You're not the only one who's jealous. She's an absolute doll.

[InSanDiego]

you can add me to that list,Whitey, she has a great smile

[whitey]

Thanks guys ... I'll tell her tonight that she's got a few fans ... I'm sure she'll get a kick out of it ...

[Colgando]

Thanks guys ... I'll tell her tonight that she's got a few fans ... I'm sure she'll get a kick out of it ...

Here's hoping she is not the last one left in BAQ and you are only kidding when you say that....jejejejeje....

[euforia51]

Out of the blue she asks me if she would send me a very soft cotton niteshirt and that would I splash some of my after shave lotion on the garment so that she could smell myt scent and pretend that I am with her at night while she is sleeping.
Well, that just blew me away. I have never been asked by any woman a request such as that. No wonder latinas can get under your skin and stay there.
Anyone else have a strange request from their latina that is both disconcerting, and sweet at the same time?

Actually, this request isn't that strange. If you've got any experience with long distance dating (domestic or international ... doesn't matter), this can be quite the norm until you meet and even after you meet and all goes well. Exchanging personal items is a cool way to further solidify a connection.

[whitey]

Yeah, I don't think it's weird either ... nice, but not weird.

I also don't think it's a problem to send a woman you're serious with a pair of pajamas. 

What is a little weird is calling someone your novia when you have never met in person.  Begin, you seem like a sincere and nice guy, but I worry for you.  Why 50 more weeks to get on a plane?  Are you in prison?  Surely you have $1500 and a week of vacation?  Aren't you thinking about retiring there?  Why wait?

[Bob_S]

    It is generally said that sending cash or gifts before meeting is a very bad idea.It can lead to a not so good situation where you are viewed as an ATM.

Yep.  Some guys don't see the signs and end up crashing and burning a time or two before they know how the game is played.  BTB just experienced classic brake fade and doesn't seem to know that's a very bad sign.

[robert angel]

Whenever a woman's asked me for a shirt, hankerchief, pajamas or underwear--whatever--with MY colgone on it--we'd already met in person and had pretty much clicked, eye to eye, skin to skin, etc. We knew each other's scent and it was in our minds. 
 
 In the past, if a woman wanted something I wore with my cologne, that garment brought our 'in person' experiences back into her mind--that it was a comfort and remembrance for 'until we meet again'.

It's the same thing with women--I don't recall ever getting a perfumed letter w/o having smelled that perfume on her person first.

I could well be wrong--I hope she's just very romantic, (quite possible) but I also hope she's not telling you what she thinks you want to hear...
 
You sort of seem to be playing a give and take game of 'touche' sometimes--based on what limited info we get here--I wonder if instead of such a dynamic, if working more towards being 'one team' wouldn't be a better mindset.Then again, maybe that sort of relationship is part of the 'charm'--the way things work, down there.


Wow--50 weeks before the first in person meeting? I think it would be very hard for any woman to stay focused on ONE guy, based on a 'promise'-no matter how much time you chat on-line.
 
I could scrub myself down, using hard sponges, apricot pit scrub wash, etc-- in a hot shower for 2 hours, not use a scented shampoo or deodorant and my wife would still be able to detect what she calls my 'special scent'  like a fingerprint that she claims to love. (No--I don't eat much curry or garlic) When a woman is that 'in tune'--you know you're close.
 
Like many filipinas (or so I've heard)--she never seems to have a scent, other than a very mild, sweet scent I can only find if I really hunt for it. Other than a lion's mane of hair, she has little hair elsewhere, no need to shave her arms or legs and she almost never, ever sweats. Except for the mildest flower nectar like scent she sometime has--again very hard to detect--almost like scentless Dove soap--that soap actually has a mild, all but imperceptible scent--she's super squeaky clean and odorless.
 
I'd have to ask for her to spray some of the  Ralph Lauren 'Blue' she likes to wear occasionally, for a few hours and then roll around on my pillow, if I want that 'sign'.
 
 

[beginthebeguin]

Thank you all for your concern. I really wanted this to become a rather light-hearted thread, but this thread is succumbing to thread-drift as usual.
 
I just wanted to clarify something. The night shirt is the ONLY thing the lady in question has asked for, ever. And she understands why I will not arrive to be with her until next summer. She knows I'm not the rich gringo 'white knight' that is going go south and 'save' her. That notion was put away a long time ago.
And yes Whitey, I am a prisoner, of sorts. You are a smart guy, figure it out. Oh wait, let me move this treasury bag of Susan B. Anthony dollars off of the chair I wanted to sit in and then I'll tell you all about it. But first let me lock up my wall safe, I have so many Canadian maple leaf gold coins now, I may have to order another safe. One can never be too careful. After all I always have a spare $1500 USD to install another one.     
     

[InnocentVixen]

...we'd already met in person and had pretty much clicked, eye to eye, skin to skin, etc. We knew each other's scent and it was in our minds. 
 
 In the past, if a woman wanted something I wore with my cologne, that garment brought our 'in person' experiences back into her mind--that it was a comfort and remembrance for 'until we meet again'.

I agree with this, as you know I have only met my guy in person once, the only thing I've asked him is to meet again soon and to stay in touch while we are apart, the only gifts I've received from him were given in person and they were hand made, I thought it was really sweet and I honestly wasn't expecting anything, but now that he is gone I am glad I have those gifts... the only bad side to it is that they are consumable and I am running out!!!

[fathertime]

Thank you all for your concern. I really wanted this to become a rather light-hearted thread, but this thread is succumbing to thread-drift as usual.
   

You cracked me up with the 'drawn and quartered' comment in your first post!  The middle ages were totally brutal!


Fathertime! 

[braziliangirl]

Thank you all for your concern. I really wanted this to become a rather light-hearted thread, but this thread is succumbing to thread-drift as usual.
 
I just wanted to clarify something. The night shirt is the ONLY thing the lady in question has asked for, ever. And she understands why I will not arrive to be with her until next summer. She knows I'm not the rich gringo 'white knight' that is going go south and 'save' her. That notion was put away a long time ago.
And yes Whitey, I am a prisoner, of sorts. You are a smart guy, figure it out. Oh wait, let me move this treasury bag of Susan B. Anthony dollars off of the chair I wanted to sit in and then I'll tell you all about it. But first let me lock up my wall safe, I have so many Canadian maple leaf gold coins now, I may have to order another safe. One can never be too careful. After all I always have a spare $1500 USD to install another one.     
   

BTB,
 
 I'm pretty sure no one is criticising you for not having a spare $1500 to travel right now, or for not being rich. They are just trying to warn you about the risks of getting in this without being prepared. Let's say she waits for you, you go there and everything goes great. What are you going to do? Wait more 50 weeks to visit again? How much more will you and her have to wait until you save enough money for the visa process? And once she gets the visa and moves there, you know she won't be able to work right way... Will you be able to support her?

Please don't get me wrong, I wish you all the best for you. And I cheer for you like I do for many other members here. But how do you know she won't trade you for someone that can be there sooner? Or... What if you two wait all this time and when you meet, you find out you're not right for each other?

I'm sorry the thread didn't go the way you wanted. But maybe people with more experience are just trying to help you...

[euforia51]

Hey there BG ... how are ya? Now before I get accused of causing thread-drift...
 
You bring up some very good points here. The waiting 50 more weeks to travel is just short of a year and is a bit too long before a first meeting. I might be looking for ways to accelerate the program. And if there really is an element of seriousness to this, you owe that to her at this point. Thinking ahead a bit more, just wait until the visa process begins rearing its ugly head with fees that total a few months of mortgage/rent payments, etc., etc. How will you adjust and make do? These are the hypotheticals that will need to be addressed in reality later on.
 
Have you considered a second source of income to help speed the time until travel up a bit? Have you considered the possibility of down-sizing your life and socking some of the savings away? Just a couple of thoughts...
 
Have you considered how you're going to support her here if/when things work out?
 
Like BG says, these are just a few of the realities. No one is shooting at you so you need not take it that way.
 
EDIT:
BG already asked a few of these questions. But they are important so I thought I'd ask them again. lol

[Colgando]

I read before from BTB that he is planning to relocate to Colombia?

[euforia51]

I read before from BTB that he is planning to relocate to Colombia?

Maybe so ... but still such an endeavor will need financing.

[beginthebeguin]

euphoria said

Maybe so ... but still such an endeavor will need financing.

Damm straight. And Colgando has a better memory that the rest of us. Once I'm there, I'm there for the long haul. If Andy Lee can do it, we all have hope. jajajajajajaja
I tease Andy a lot, but secretly I want to do what he is doing.

[robert angel]

Re:
 
>>I tease Andy a lot, but secretly I want to do what he is doing.<<
 
And dare say you're far from alone, BTB and a lot of guys wouldn't mind being in DennisLevy's shoes either---or a combination of AndyLee's 'outside the urban area' most of the time and DennisLevy's more 'urban focus'.
 
Sometimes, we can be dismissive of the very things we would like to experience ourselves.
 
Kudos to you man, for 'speaking up' and further more, for typically keeping a level head and good sense of humor when people, including myself, 'bite' a little bit at you on the posts you make. You 'put it out there'--what you learn and when you feel burned, which is what we really need, although leaving yourself open to 'incomings' the peanut gallery here will typically toss a few at such honesty.
 
I remember when, not so long ago, AndyLee came posting here and some accused him of being a 'shill'. The guy handled it like a duck in a rainstorm, not ruffling a feather.
 
Hard to tell if you and your current, lovely Latina will be 'THE match'--but I think you have as good a chance as anyone here of finding happiness abroad--keep on coming back here, whatever!