Surprising things that your latina has asked to receive

[beginthebeguin]

Now I know I am going to be 'drawn and quartered'  by the forum on this one. But here goes. My novia and I  have been chatting for months now at least twice a day almost every day. And the subject this morning was about sleeping garments. Now I know that at certain times of the year the Valle can get a little chilly at night, especially if it has been raining heavily.
So I asked her if she wore a cotton niteshirt or some similar garment to bed on those occasions, otherwise she hardly wears anything. She said yes she did. And we went on to another subject. Well later this afternoon. Out of the blue she asks me if she would send me a very soft cotton niteshirt and that would I splash some of my after shave lotion on the garment so that she could smell myt scent and pretend that I am with her at night while she is sleeping.
Well, that just blew me away. I have never been asked by any woman a request such as that. No wonder latinas can get under your skin and stay there.
Anyone else have a strange request from their latina that is both disconcerting, and sweet at the same time?
   

[OrlandoGringo]

Just cash man!   

[beginthebeguin]

Here is the funny part. I didn't have the heart to tell her I don't use after-shave lotion.
I wonder of Andy Lee has an old bottle of Hai Karate in his medicine cabinet in Virginia. 

[Researcher]

I wonder of Andy Lee has an old bottle of Hai Karate in his medicine cabinet in Virginia. 

    He seems more like an Old Spice kinda guy to me. 

     Researcher

[benjio]

My ex was the same way. She wanted to sleep in anything with my cologne on it. Hell, I think she still has some of my shirts.
 
This is not just latinas though. I have ex-girlfriends here in the states that use to want to wear clothes that smelt like me as well. The sense of smell is very closely tied to memory and experience recognition. An ex-girlfriend of mine once told me that wearing my clothes while sleeping gave her wet dreams about me.

[Alabamaboy!]

My ex who was quite the diva asked me for a car. Because it would be much more economical than taxi fare for her to go to the grocery store and to class!

Turns out one of her friends had a Colombian narco boyfriend who bought her a car. And another girl she knew from school was engaged to a gringo who worked for a mining or oil company or something and also bought her a car. So she thought it was standard procedure.

It was nice to know that she learned from our previous talks and was thinking more "economical" right? LOL.

[benjio]

My ex who was quite the diva asked me for a car. Because it would be much more economical than taxi fare for her to go to the grocery store and to class!

Turns out one of her friends had a Colombian narco boyfriend who bought her a car. And another girl she knew from school was engaged to a gringo who worked for a mining or oil company or something and also bought her a car. So she thought it was standard procedure.

It was nice to know that she learned from our previous talks and was thinking more "economical" right? LOL.

Damn Bama...the audacity!!! I'd really like to see a picture of her. She must have been a freaking knock out! Seriously!

[Dan Las Vegas]

The only thing my ex novia from Medellin ever asked me for was a shirt of mine to sleep in at night when I was gone.
Dan LV

[robert angel]

Just cash man!   

A refreshingly honest answer! O.G.--you're a hopeless romantic AND a realist--a rare bird!
 
And don't be surprised if she needs 'a little bit more' each month! My wife had to leave work to spend time with me and jobs don't come easy in many nations. She thought she could 'get by' on less than she made and find something to 'tide her over'--she left an engineering position ('regular'--not even a 'contract' job) at Coca Cola, a job that most people would have given their teeth for.
 
The reality was with having all that time off, knowing she was leaving her family and her home, the expenses greater than anticipated, (she was basically left at her little room in a boarding house, all alone) but at least we STARTED off low to begin with!
 
I would allow a little extra money before she heads out your way, for a her to do something 'special' with family and a few friends, allthough I don't seem to recall 'SMALL' parties being the way they do things down there, so perhaps 'your mileage may vary"...

[Alabamaboy!]

Damn Bama...the audacity!!! I'd really like to see a picture of her. She must have been a freaking knock out! Seriously!

Yeah, I would say she was a knock out, but apparently not that much of a knock out because she never got a car from me. Or a motorcycle. Or even a peddle bike or a skateboard. And the last time I talked to her 2 years after we split up, she still had not found anyone who could put up with her diva attitude and buy her those things.

I don't think I kept any pics of her. I had my computer guy at work clean out all my computers after I got married. To me, according to what I like physically, she was a 9-10. But personality was about a 3- 4 so averages to about a 6-7 in my book. My wife is very pretty too (IMO), but has a great personality which which will make her a great wife and mother.

[beginthebeguin]

Update.
She went for the long ball instead of a successful bunt. After discussing her request today, she also asked for a winter pajama set as well, longer sleeves and long pant legs. I said 'nope'. Only one set will be sent. But I told her 'maybe' I'll get you a winter set on your birthday in late November. And she agreed. I then jokingly told her I was then off the hook for a fancy birthday present. jajaja. She took that news in good spirits though.
Manoeuver and counter-manoeuver what am I getting into. jajajajajaja

[utopiacowboy]

Update.
She went for the long ball instead of a successful bunt. After discussing her request today, she also asked for a winter pajama set as well, longer sleeves and long pant legs. I said 'nope'. Only one set will be sent. But I told her 'maybe' I'll get you a winter set on your birthday in late November. And she agreed. I then jokingly told her I was then off the hook for a fancy birthday present. jajaja. She took that news in good spirits though.
Manoeuver and counter-manoeuver what am I getting into. jajajajajaja

Have you met this woman in person yet?

[beginthebeguin]

Not yet. 50 weeks to go, and I'm there.
But we did exchange Little Orphan Annie decoder rings. jeeessshhhhhh.

[Alabamaboy!]

Nobody's business other than you two, but it is pretty much agreed on here that if you are sending cash or any kind of material things before actually meeting, you are running a high risk of getting taken advantage of, setting bad precedent, etc, etc. Even if you have enough cash to do it without sweating it, you may be sending a bad message.

But to each his own. If I felt like doing it, I would not care about what anyone else thinks or says. But then again I am a real bonehead at times.

[Colgando]

My lady has not asked for anything surprising yet, just normal cute things that endears her to me. Like bring my camera so we can take a lot of fotos. She has never asked me for anything and I have left the door open for her to, I gave her the opportunity to, but she won't do it.

[Alabamaboy!]

My lady has not asked for anything surprising yet, just normal cute things that endears her to me. Like bring my camera so we can take a lot of fotos. She has never asked me for anything and I have left the door open for her to, I gave her the opportunity to, but she won't do it.

That is a great sign man. Wish you the best.

[Colgando]

That is a great sign man. Wish you the best.

Thanks AB, so far so good......

[saleens7tt]

If they could all be like your novia...I hope u 2 end up together for life if she continues like that colgando. Good luck man!!

[Colgando]

If they could all be like your novia...I hope u 2 end up together for life if she continues like that colgando. Good luck man!!

Thanks man. The cool thing is, if things continue to progress in a satisfactory manner, I can go see her every 2 to 3 months.

[saleens7tt]

That's great.....hopefully she is the
"one"......ain't life a little easier when you finally have someone. Keep me/us posted on how it prigressess...did u meet her thru jamies in barranquilla???

[Colgando]

That's great.....hopefully she is the
"one"......ain't life a little easier when you finally have someone. Keep me/us posted on how it prigressess...did u meet her thru jamies in barranquilla???

Yes, I did meet her at Jamie's, the 2nd trip to Jamie's.

[saleens7tt]

Persistence paid off for you then by making the 2nd attempt...couple questions for you?
1. Was her pic on jamies site
2. Your impression of jamie when you met him.
3. What was the most common problem you observed with the ladies you date..ie, gold diggers, attitudes.
4 What was the most common good thing you observed of your dates..ie..they had great personalitys, smiled, playful.
5. Your overall experience with jamie on scale 1-10
6. Finally, any pointers you can give, good and bad will be appreciated.
Apoligize for all the questions...just want as much knowledage as I can get before I go.

[Colgando]

Persistence paid off for you then by making the 2nd attempt...couple questions for you?
1. Was her pic on jamies site
2. Your impression of jamie when you met him.
3. What was the most common problem you observed with the ladies you date..ie, gold diggers, attitudes.
4 What was the most common good thing you observed of your dates..ie..they had great personalitys, smiled, playful.
5. Your overall experience with jamie on scale 1-10
6. Finally, any pointers you can give, good and bad will be appreciated.
Apoligize for all the questions...just want as much knowledage as I can get before I go.

Yeah man, persistence. Please do, ask away, I learned so much from this board, so I am happy to give whatever I can.


1. Yes, her pic was on Jamie's site.


2. Jamie is a business man. He is not emotionally attached to his business, which is interesting, since he is dealing in a highly emotional type of business. The paying customer's satisfaction is his highest priority, he will never sacrifice the quality of his service for anything, customers, women, staff, well, he probably would not turn away a paying customer in this economy. He does not BS, he is a straight shooter, very direct. He is intelligent, competent and very confident and sure of himself. He runs a tight ship, his staff knows they better perform or their job would be at risk, as he has fired many people. He will naturally not get along with many people the way that he is. Many people would find him cold and detached. He has a good read on the women, he can pick up on things after being in the business for 8 years, so he has good insight and advice. I prefer to do business with people like Jamie, because I have little patience for incompetence when I am spending my money, especially when I am spending that kind of coin on a trip.


3. The most common issue, which is not necessarily a problem, is many of the women were boring to me, beautiful, but boring. After I got over the beauty and it became normal to have numerous beautiful women available to me, the lack of intellectual stimulation was very apparent. A poster a while back described Costenas as "country girls". So imagine how women from the country are and that is kind of what I am referring to. The flip side is that these are very simple women, which I like, not complicated, very home oriented, they are not demanding to me, not like American women from the city, that are career minded. Of coarse, this is all generally speaking.


4. Good things, beautiful, sweet, simple, for them, they want a good man, who won't cheat on them, who will respect them, not treat them like a slave, value them, things that are really easy to do because that is how us Americans have been conditioned to treat women in our culture. I think the American needs to make sure he strengthens his spin, have an edge to him, really assert himself as the man in a good way, come across as fair, not as a stereotypical nice guy as us Americans can at some times. I think we need to be somewhere between macho and nice guy. I consider myself macho-light, which plays well with the women, they can respect that, so I adopt the good parts of machismo, be the man, take charge, take the lead and leave behind the bad part, which is womanizing. We still gotta have an edge, they say they do not womanizers, but at the same time, women are attracted to confident guys that have an edge to them.


5. On a scale of 1 to 10, I would give Jamie's place an 8. Only because his female membership is not fully representative of the beauty that is in BAQ. I do not think it is his fault and I think it would be difficult to solve for. The high-end beauty is not flocking into the agency in droves as they have no need however, there are plenty of beautiful women in his agency to choose from. They can be cared for in country with the Colombianos that have money. Sure, they may want a good man, but if they are being cared for by a Colombiano, I can understand that they would not be motivated to join an agency, take a long shot and jeopardize what they have going on in country.


6. Pointers, if at all possible, which I did not do my 1st trip even though it is what I wanted to do, don't think you have to have a girlfriend before you leave, don't think you have to fall for a woman, don't think you have to find a wife. Go ahead and resolve in your mind that you will be making a 2nd trip, no matter what, either to revisit the agency, or visit a girl that you have a strong interest in. If you have a short trip, I would recommend not even making any novios commitments. All of this is easier said than done, I failed at this my 1st trip. Easy to get swept away by beauty and ones emotions.


Hope this helps.


 

[saleens7tt]

Colgando

A huge thank you for all that info you gave me. That's a lot of typing you had to do...it is appreciated.  Thnx for your insight. I never thought about it it, but u saying that its not imperative that u come away from your first visit with a novia or wife and to plan a 2nd trip makes perfect sense. So I will do that..plan a 2nd trip. And definitly agree about the man having an edge thing. The old addage, nice guys finish last is so dam true. Used to be like that in my early 20's making sure she was happy, never arguing, never trying to be overly in charge. I learned, that dont work. Women say that want a nice guy...but you gotta have that swagger, that edge as you say. You gotta have that" ill find another women if you don't act right female" swagger". I walk with that swagger now.
Definitly will remember everything you said. Surprised that the women seemed boring. Conversation wise. Sounds like you had to do most of the conversation starting. But bieng countey girls, and with the language barrier I can understand. It was like that for me when I was dating a filipino while stationed at clark ab back in 1972...she was gorgeous, simple,
and did not have much in the way of starting a conversation, but that was okay. She was humble and nice. When I got orders to be assigned at another duty station we never kept in touch after I left. She was a sweetheart.
Anyhow....I like how jamie runs his ship. I work extremely hard and long hours for the $$ I make, I'm not rich, so every dollar counts and its good to know jamie runs his buisness
knowing that. Ill listen to all he says and will follow his advice religously. Thnx for the info bout the girls...the more I know the better. My take is their not as complicated and materialistic as aw women, but that u gotta run the relationship....that's what I'm about.

[Researcher]

     Colgando is giving you some good advice.I particularly agree with his #6 statement.When I read your post saying that his second trip showed "persistance" I was wondering if anyone would say anything.Don't rush the process.Just go, meet women, have fun and pay attention to what is going on around you.If you don't find that special lady on your first trip you will at least, or should, walk away with having a great vacation.

       Researcher