New member here!...looking forward to process of finding a wife in Colombia

[dennislevy]

Caliche
 
Don worry about UC.....thats just him being his usual cute cuddly self.....jejejeje
 
Yes, you ve gotten a lot of interest signals on Cupido. It means [snip].....let me repeat that.....it  means [snip] unless a woman sends you a written message or YOU are interested in a woman who has sent you a signal of interest and you want to write to her....don t bother with the signals of interest. Ive always acknowledged any message to my mailbox.....MOST signals of interest no.
 
So if you write to a woman in cupido, what I would do is do two intro paragraphs about yourself and then ask her some questions, no more then 2 or three...
 
My first two or three are questions like ....
 
In what neigborhoiod of the city that she listed does she live....A lot of the women are using another city or town on their profile for any number of reasons.
 
If you re looking at women with no kids,...ask WHY does she think she wants lo live in the US....Im assuming you are screening for women who say they are free to or want to relocate...
 
 
Ask her her question about her education if its anything more then high schhool
If a vocational college what course of study did she take? Did she finish it?
And ask her for her email and give her yours....
 
And then wait to see if women put any skin into their responses.
 
And if you want ot chat,,,feel free to juggle two or three chats at the same time. You ve got to go through a lot of women on Cupido to find some real possiiblities,,,,,
 
For boilerplate responses and questions to chats on cupido....thats normal for the first few minutes.....
 
One of these days in a chat Im going to mention that I just broke my leg and I have a very bad venereal disease and see if the woman answers with.....
 
que bueno......
 
But its up to you to change the tenor of the conversation. How you do it is up to you....byt my objective always is to exchange email addresses in the frst 30 or 40 minutes...or before if she doesnt want to do that
 
NEXT!
 
 
 
 
 
 

[Caliche]

Well, Dennis, once again I am in your debt with regards to the hunt in general and managing the cupido experience.
Some diverse thoughts I'd thought I'd share as I read the points you've made as well as others':


I do realize the interests are very easy to give out and don't mean much in themselves, however, in the short time that I've been on cupido, I definitely have come to see them for what they are -- an interest expressed, nothing more, nothing less. I do consider them a step up from a mere profile view. Also -- and this is where I've been taken aback a bit -- is that ALL of the interests (except one) gave me their emails without me asking, after just one or two message exchanges. The lone woman who sent me an interest (and to whom I also sent one out) but who hasn't given me their personal email yet, we've exchanged two messages and this one as well as the other one have indeed given me some "flesh" (I assume by that you mean some discussion of our lives that advances us as a possible couple in some way, and not actual flesh she's showing!!).


HOWEVER, I do notice that with of the TWO women (of the eight I'm corresponding with and seem to be going somewhere) there is much more of a mutual fire or chemistry than with the other ones....My only explanation at this point why I feel something special with those two more so than the other six is ...it must be that I see a LOT of compatibililty, similar interests, and yes, mutual physical attraction I guess.. (but it's funny, because they are all quite attractive...). Anyway, with these TWO i can't wait to write them, with the others, it's a litlte bit of a chore...not that its that hard...but sometimes I have think of what to write in the email, what next to ask, but not so with the two I'm really flowing with..!


Wow, what a great last 72 hours it has been. Joining cupido has been (so far, for me) the decision of the year!!


And THANK YOU and everyone here who has commented, even UC, God bless his heart!


BTW, I don't know how in the heck any of you guys can send seemingly dozesn and dozens of interests and intro letters, and be able to follow up with all the ladies..??


How can you do it?


I've got half-dozen right now who I'm corresponding with through either personal emails or messages and who I really like a lot, but I can't keep more than half-dozen straight in my mind as far as remembering their lives, what they've told me, our conversations...not to mention the TIME I would have to spend....I guess it's to each their own style...I personally like to give thought and good writing to the best of my abilities, to each and every woman. I can't make more than six feel like they're the only one....There's only 24 hrs  in a day!!


Comments?


Also, is visiting Bogota (arrival city, plan not to spend more than two days there), then Medellin, then Barranquilla in 10-day jaunt to Colombia feasible?


My TWO women who I'm really  hitting it off with are in Medellin and the other one is in Barranquilla (and two of the other four are also in MED and BARR). Can it be pulled off?? Thoughts??


Caliche

[Researcher]

   Caliche, online chemistry can't be counted on, IMHO.You never know for sure until you meet in person.The internet is a great tool for introductions but that's about it,Contact some women and then get your keester down there and meet them.....in person.


          Researcher

[Caliche]

   Caliche, online chemistry can't be counted on, IMHO.You never know for sure until you meet in person.The internet is a great tool for introductions but that's about it,Contact some women and then get your keester down there and meet them.....in person.


          Researcher

Oh, yes, no question. I know exactly what I'm looking for in a woman at this stage of the game..and the way I see it,
there's a way to make them feel special, to make them feel that they're the reason you  traversed half the globe and come from so far away to see them, while still signaling that you're not making serious commitments until spending time together, meeting her family, etc. I think a lot of women know that it's no accident you joined a site called "colombiancupid" and you've more or less chosen Colombia as fountain of a future wife..In fact I've already told one about my planned trip in September.


Researcher, do you know if it's advisable, or even feasible, to visit Medellin and Barranquilla on the same 10-day trip?
I've got 2 ladies in each city I'm focusing on, and with the flight landing in Bogota, will there be enough time you think?


I guess the larger question is how many cities can be reasonably visited in under two weeks? assuming you've got one lady in each to see? Can Bogota-Medellin -Barranquilla-Valledepur be done?

[dennislevy]

Caliche

Yes, I used putting some skin in as a woman doing more then boilerplate.....trying to advance the dialogue.

if i may let me answer your question about what I think is feasible in 10 days.

I dont know where you live in the US, but if the only option to land is Bogota, then you re looking at a flight from El Dorado airport to either Baranquilla to Medellin,  they are short flights,50 to 70 minutes.. BUT how long you wait in Bogota for your connection is dependent on how you schedule....and you migjht wan tto schedule coonectipons with 0' minutes waiting time....

You have 3 options from BQ to Medellin or vice versa.
1. there are direct flights betwen the two cities but NOT many, if I recall Avianca has one or two in a day.
2. You can a flight that goes back to Bogota and wait....for your conection and that entire trip my take as much as 8 or 9 hours. 
3. You can take a bus between the two cities....from bus temrinal to bus terminal and that is   least 13 hours AND POSSIBLY MORE. Trust me,  I ve done it.

With the number of women and locations, you re betwxit and between and I anm sure that the vets will weigh in on this. You also have to allow time for getting in and out of  country if you have to go back to Bogota for your return flight

If your trip is in September you re about 100 days out and some of the women you re interested in NOW may disappear for any number of reasons.

Researcher is spot on....on line chemistry and great photos don t mean much.....you ve got to meet them face to face to see if there is chemistry.

Both cities have advantages and disadvantages....some generalizations

Climate is more moderate in Medellin, easier to get around with the above ground metro.....food is mediocre unless you want to eat in good to excellent restaurants or shopping malls in high end districts, Pobaldo, Oviedo, Parque Lleras......

Women on the coast if they like you...... tend to be very open. If you like seafood, BQ has very good to fantastic chow, its a lot easier to take a cab for 15,000 pesos out of BQ and stick your toes in the water.

But if you spend 4 days each in both cities, and you re juggling two in both cities, you may not have enough time to know them...and if they ask and you tell them you off to another part of Colombia, they will know exactly what you re doing

My advice, if you ve got only 10 days to spend in Colombia, go to ONE city,, TELL  the women you ll be there for 9 days before you return to the US  and try to meet 6 to 8 women for at least a  first date....If one hits you between the eyes in the first couple of days, try to see her every day in the evening, your last date of the day....and see what happens

OK?

 
 

[fathertime]

Caliche

 

Researcher is spot on....on line chemistry and great photos don t mean much.....you ve got to meet them face to face to see if there is chemistry.

 
 

Dennis do you mean?   'It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that swing.  doo-wa doo-wa doo-wa doo-wa doo-wa doo-wa doo-wa'

Fathertime!

[dennislevy]

FT
doo a ditty bum bum...

with the empahasis on................... bum bum.

Yep, you ve got it....

Regards to the MG and FT jr.

Dennis

[dennislevy]

Bogota to Medellin to BQ to Valledupar in 10 days and seeing one woman in  each city is NOT feasible.   

[Dan Las Vegas]

After reading the PL party line, I think you should skip the whole thing. Here's what you have to look forward to:

The women are poor and badly educated.
The women are habitually late and inconsiderate.
The women are liars and will cheat on you at the first opportunity.
As a gringo you will be expected to support her entire village/barrio/ family for the rest of their lives - they won the lottery and you're the booby prize.
The women are sluts who will drop their panties for any guy who winks at them.
The women are lazy and expect you to do everything for them.

What a deal!

UC you crack me up!!!!  Keep up the good work and we can keep Colombia for ourselves!!!!
 
Dan LV

[Researcher]

Bogota to Medellin to BQ to Valledupar in 10 days and seeing one woman in  each city is NOT feasible.

       I agree Dennis.I wouldn't do that unless I could fly, the bus trips alone would be a bit much as far as travel fatigue.

        Researcher

[utopiacowboy]

UC you crack me up!!!!  Keep up the good work and we can keep Colombia for ourselves!!!!
 
Dan LV

As well you know, DLV.

[Micky]

I understand UC's rap.  We throw around our Latina generalizations and harp about their
-  Jealousy  -  Punctuality  -  Scammers  -  Non confrontational  -   What is theirs is theirs,
 whats mine is ours  -  Etc  -

THEN we come down here in droves trying to find a loving,  family oriented,  sexy,  beautiful Latina.
Say What?

Micky

[Researcher]

   Well Mickey, it ain't a country full of angels is it? Sure these ladies are great but all I see that we are doing is talking about their negative aspects.If we only talked about how great they are and not mention the bad stuff some newbies will go down there thinking they can just marry the first woman they see and everything will be just peachy.....not every guy is that lucky!

        Researcher

[dennislevy]

Micky et al.
 
Colombianas also have their strengths and the best times I ve had in my life are with women in Colombia.
 
The important thing is to UNDERSTAND the culture, its pros and cons, and also WHY women act as they do. 
 
 
So, lets adjust the balance and add some positive qualities again geneailizations to eligible colombianas....
 
feminine
beautiful
noble
sexual
passionate
hogareña (home loving)
devoted to family
maternal 
hard working
loyal to a man (if they are treated well)
humorous
 
OK?
 
Dennis
 
 
 
 

[Gato4Astrid]

Caliche,
 
welcome to the board, i used latinamericancupid.com and 80% of the women i talked with where scammers. so i gave up on that and went the agency route. i found that route to work the best for me. My girl is 24 and no children i am 49 and have 3 children. she and i get along great and things have been wonderful. if you take your time you should be able to find the right one... there are guy's on here that have had success both ways so there is no right or wrong.... Best of luck to you
 
Ray

Caliche, what Ray had written about 80% of the women from Latinamericancupid, Colombiancupid site are true, but it is up to you whether you want to become the 80% statistics or try to be the 20% man.
 
I am one of the 20% man.  Thomas Edison, the bulb light inventor would have been one of the 20%.    NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE whether you go for the dating site or go for the agency route.  Both of them have advantages and disadvantages.
 
 

[utopiacowboy]

If anyone asks me in all seriousness about the women of Colombia, I always say that they are the best in the world and the most beautiful.

[Dan Las Vegas]

I'll second that UC!!!
 
Dan LV

[Researcher]

         It does seem weird sometimes when there is thread after thread about the negative aspects of Colombian women and yet guys still flock there looking for wives.I read about these negative stereotypes and none of them apply to my wife but I have seen these things in other women I dated in Colombia and other parts of the world.Sometimes I don't know how I managed to find a gem among all these other women and then I remember, oh yeah, I got out there and looked!!!!

         Researcher

[Caliche]

My advice, if you ve got only 10 days to spend in Colombia, go to ONE city,, TELL  the women you ll be there for 9 days before you return to the US  and try to meet 6 to 8 women for at least a  first date....If one hits you between the eyes in the first couple of days, try to see her every day in the evening, your last date of the day....and see what happens

OK?

This.is.what.I'm.going.to.do.  Barranquilla it is.


Makes a lot of sense. I can see how it opitmizes one's time in terms of using the limited time to meet a good number of ladies while allowing one to do things together and learn some things about them.


You had already posted this in your first post to my initial post, but by that time I had already exchanged a few messages and emails with a few women in other cities not Barranquilla.


I'm not going to drive myself crazy. I'll stick to just ONE city this trip. I'll tackle Medellin next (that is, if I don't meet "the One" in BARR on the Sept. trip). The nature of my business operations allow for me to travel frequently, at least once a month, internationally. But for short stays only. My business requires my physical presence stateside after about two weeks tops.


So, Dennis, just how much would plane fare set me back if I wanted to fly Bogota to Barranquilla? I definitely don't want to waste precious time on long bus rides. Time is of the essence and I have more money than time right now at this point in life.

[dennislevy]

Caliche
 
Get on line and look at the web sites of Avianca, Aires y COPAS. if I remember all three have direct Bogota to Baranquilla flights.
 
Buying a ticket that day and getting on a plane is usually possible unless its during Carneval in Baranquilla or there is a three or four or four day religious weekend holiday in which case you may not be able to even get on a plane.
 
BUT if you book well ahead of time, youy might be able to get a promotional fare for something like 65,000 pesos ine way. Bogota to BQ about 40 dollars, if you wait until the last minute.....that day or two days before and the planes are crowded you re talking about a ONE WAY trip of 320 to 380,000 pesos, say $135 to $200 USD again ONE WAY
 
OK?

[Gato4Astrid]

BUT if you book well ahead of time, youy might be able to get a promotional fare for something like 65,000 pesos ine way. Bogota to BQ about 40 dollars, if you wait until the last minute.....that day or two days before and the planes are crowded you re talking about a ONE WAY trip of 320 to 380,000 pesos, say $135 to $200 USD again ONE WAY
 
OK?

Caliche, and Fridays are the most expensive days of the week to travel as far as I have checked in the past.  You can check the website for different days  www.avianca.com.co  (Colombian site)
 

[robert angel]

Based on what I've read here, and guys can slag me, because I actually haven't been to Colombia (yet), I think if I were a newbie going to Colombia with the interest of finding a wife,  Barranquilla would be my first stop. Sure, they say it's hotter--the weather isn't as great as the other cities and Medellin is probably more cosmopolitan, with more of a European influence, from what I gather.
 
Cartgena has nicer beaches and a different flavor, from what I gather and my, oh my, I do love beaches.
But based on what I've read here, and from Colombian women I've met here, including several from Barranquilla, that's where I'd go if I was looking for a steady lady in that nation.
That said, I'd also have a closer look at Peru and Ecuador to decide if A city in ONE of those nations, showed greater opportunity than Colombia as my first strike.
 
But here and now, from the outside looking in, if I was Colombia bound with finding the 'right woman' in mind, it'd be Barranquilla. If I merely wanted to have more eye candy to simply date and have more interesting places to see, maybe Medellin it would be.

Of course, if time and money weren't limiters, I'd be ALL over all these places and more--gas up the Gulfstream 550, I'd say!

[AndyLee]

Caliche, what Ray had written about 80% of the women from Latinamericancupid, Colombiancupid site are true............

Gato and Ray, let me see if I understand this correctly. If you write 100 women on Latin American Cupid or Colombian Cupid then 80 of them will try in some way to rip you off. Am I understanding that correctly? 8 out of 10 of those women in those profiles is a criminal?

[dennislevy]

Robert Angel
 
Cartagena does NOT have nice beaches....they re crowded, dirty and everyone is trying to sell you something...or beg.
 
If you want good beaches start at Riohacha in La Guajuira and work you way towards Cabo de Vella or start at Baranquilla in Atlantico and work your way west toward Cartagena.
 
I love Puerto Colombia and Santa Veronica (I think thats right) which are less then an hour by car outside of Baranquilla.
 
 

[Gato4Astrid]

Gato and Ray, let me see if I understand this correctly. If you write 100 women on Latin American Cupid or Colombian Cupid then 80 of them will try in some way to rip you off. Am I understanding that correctly? 8 out of 10 of those women in those profiles is a criminal?

Not just scammers, but also time wasters,  not knowing what they want, non-serious, and the list is endless.........