where to start

[goinforit]

Hi all long time lurker here....

I am thinking about starting this journey for a latin wife.  I have had success chatting to girls on badoo.  Now I am looking at opening a latinamericancupid acct and wondering if this would be the next logical step?  I would like to try online before jumping into a agency like jamies.

Looking for experienced  advice on where to start....

btw I am 35, never married and no children with a stable job that would allow me to afford to travel...

Really just looking for the best way to start out

[utopiacowboy]

You're going to try online? Be careful. Researcher will call you an internet pansy who's afraid to talk to women.

[Jeff S]

Hi goin and welcome. If you've been reading, you know there are as many ways to go about it as there are posters, so there's no right or wrong way, just one that works for you. Best of luck on your search and hope you decide to keep us appraised of your adventures.

- Jeff

[OrlandoGringo]

Welcome.  I'm rather new here too.  Myself and many here have been to Colombia many times.  Just read, read, read and then read some more.  Take advantage of the benefit of the vast experience here. 

As for seeking your lady I think you'll get out of this what you put into it.  If you are serious and dedicated it may take you months or a year but you'll meet hundreds of women and, most likely, find some real keepers.  Good luck and see ya around!

[raycjs]

welcome to the board,

i recommend you read a lot of the post on this board and take it slow, going the on-line route or the agency route is up to you. there are pros and cons to both. you should first decide on what you are looking for in a women and then go for it...

Best of luck to you

Ray

[Researcher]

      Hey you internet pansy who's afraid to talk to women.....hehehe...just joking!

      Getting info is where to start. I have to tell you though the Colombianas won't take you seriously until you actually make a trip.So if you aren't planning on doing that don't waste your time.


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[Researcher]

You're going to try online? Be careful. Researcher will call you an internet pansy who's afraid to talk to women.

     Hey UC, we can't all be sexy cowboys like you! hehehe


                                     


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[fathertime]

Hi all long time lurker here....

I am thinking about starting this journey for a latin wife.  I have had success chatting to girls on badoo.  Now I am looking at opening a latinamericancupid acct and wondering if this would be the next logical step?  I would like to try online before jumping into a agency like jamies.

Looking for experienced  advice on where to start....

btw I am 35, never married and no children with a stable job that would allow me to afford to travel...

Really just looking for the best way to start out

you can star5t by continuing to talk to these women online although you may not get too far with most of them...
you gotta put yourself out there and see what you attract.
figure out where you want to travel to and focus on ladies in that area.

if you are going ice cold to one of these countries and havent' been able to make any decent connections with a lady or two you might consider using an agency just so you are not alone...you do need to be careful about travelling for just one lady without a backup plan or somebody who will help you..especially if you are new to spanish and travling..

fathertime!

[Bob_S]

Guys, let's not cross-post your feud and scare off the newbie, okay?

gfi, welcome, and as for where to start:
1.  If you don't already have one, get a passport.  If the government shuts down for a while, it will delay the state department office the processes passport applications, so git that done ASAP.
2.  Start learning the lingo of your target country.  If you got the time, take a night class at your local community college.

The rest is up to you.  There's no one way to do this.  It depends on your time, money, and comfort level.

[InnocentVixen]

welcome
you mentioned you will look for a latin wife but are considering jamies agency, if by latin you meant colombian, you might want to join sites more focused on colombian women instead of looking all over the place, best of luck~

[Researcher]

  Hey Bob if you didn't notice he said he is a long time lurker...if he hasn't been ran off by now he isn't going anywhere.


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[goinforit]

Thanks for the info guys,

My reason for starting on the internet would be to start forming relationships with the intention of going to visit and meet as many as women as possible.

I am well traveled out of county and get the latin culture....  I am not fluent in Spanish but can get by..

It looks like some have had success with meeting on the net.... setting up dates and taking it from there.   

What I don't want to do is go down for 1 single girl... 

So how are you guys meeting multiple women and setting up dates before going down?  If not using a web service like latinamericancupid.com???

btw my search will probably start in colombia

thnx for the info thus far and appreciate the veteran info!

[utopiacowboy]

"What I don't want to do is go down for 1 single girl..."

Researcher would be so proud of you. You're right. You definitely don't want to do what I did and now here I am still happily married 8 years later. That would be a disaster!

[goinforit]

Utop>>> not saying going for one girl is a wrong thing... no pun intended

My thoughts starting out is time invested, expense of the trip, time off work. ect list goes on. I want to maximize my time there to meet a  potential wife.  Love at first sight does happen but rare..

Each has its own but for me meeting as many girls as possible to narrow down to the one is going to be the process for me.

[Bob_S]

So how are you guys meeting multiple women and setting up dates before going down?  If not using a web service like latinamericancupid.com???

The way former board member Windmillboy (rest in peace) did it was contact multiple women scattered through different cities and countries.  Then he planned a trip that took him through each country, letting the women know he was going to be in their city on a travel adventure on such-and-such dates and would she like to meet in person.  That took him through Japan, China, and Mongolia.  He eventually married the girl he met in China after a return visit to her town and to meet her family.  Unfortunately he died suddenly some years ago.  The story is in the Asian Board forum.

[Researcher]

"What I don't want to do is go down for 1 single girl..."

Researcher would be so proud of you. You're right. You definitely don't want to do what I did and now here I am still happily married 8 years later. That would be a disaster!

    Maybe you should let him borrow your horse shoe if you can dig it out of your arse! hehehe.

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[Researcher]

   You could always borrow UtopiaCowboy's big butterfly net to capture the first woman you see.If you get extremely lucky and it works out you can hang around here and claim" it works!".If it fails you can just drop off the forum like many guys do.


                                               

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[utopiacowboy]

In point of fact I did not capture the first woman I saw. I had several relationships prior to meeting my wife, in order:

1. A local Mexican-American woman.
2. A Canadian classmate from elementary school that I reconnected with.
3. A local Anglo woman.
4. Another local Anglo woman.
5. A Mexicana from Leon.

However I did travel to Colombia solely to meet my wife which violates one of Researcher's ironclad rules that you need to date a couple of hundred thousand women even if you know the one you're meeting is the one.

[Researcher]

   There is nothing wrong with marrying the first woman you meet as long as you don't marry her as soon as you arrive at the airport.If she is the right one the first day you meet then she will be the right one 6 months to a year down the road.

     Really UC?  you have only dated 6 women your whole life? That explains alot.


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[utopiacowboy]

No. They were the six long term relationships that I had between my divorce and marrying my wife. I've dated about 500 women.

[Colgando]

No. They were the six long term relationships that I had between my divorce and marrying my wife. I've dated about 500 women.

500, you and researcher are in agreement on this metric, a couple hundred thousand is a bit on the high side 

[utopiacowboy]

500, you and researcher are in agreement on this metric, a couple hundred thousand is a bit on the high side 

Researcher and I do not agree on anything. I do think it's good to meet a lot of women as you go through life since I am a flirt by nature and enjoy talking to women (among other things). Obviously most of these women (and "girls" when I was younger) were not long term relationships. One of the reasons I would never live in Colombia - I just like women too much.

[dennislevy]

And the reason I live in Colombia is I like women...maybe too much! jejejejE

[Colgando]

Researcher and I do not agree on anything. I do think it's good to meet a lot of women as you go through life since I am a flirt by nature and enjoy talking to women (among other things). Obviously most of these women (and "girls" when I was younger) were not long term relationships. One of the reasons I would never live in Colombia - I just like women too much.

Cool, I was thinking that you mentioned Researcher thinks you need to date a couple of hundred thousand women, you said 500, you all seem to be in agreement on dating a lot of women.

I couldn't live there either, over time, it would become problematic. I completely understand why Colombian men are the way they are, I cannot fault them, with that environment, it would be hard for a man who is a flirt and becomes intoxicated around beauty to stay faithful.

[Researcher]

Cool, I was thinking that you mentioned Researcher thinks you need to date a couple of hundred thousand women, you said 500, you all seem to be in agreement on dating a lot of women.

      Colgando, UC seems to be obsessed with me. That's why he keeps mentioning me like some love crazed stalker.

     I don't think its necessary to date many women but I do think its not a good idea to set out on this venture thinking you will find true love with the first woman you meet. That's a recipe for disaster in my opinion. IMHO, alot of guys make the mistake of latching on to the first woman that shows an interest in them.Probably because dating is awkward for them and they want to get that part over with as soon as possible.Sure, the right woman may be the first one you meet, its possible but its not going to be that way for every guy.The right woman may take some effort to find.Some of us guys are a little pickier than others and require more in a woman than simply that she has a pulse.

     It is impossible to know how this will pan out for you before you start. I am simply giving the advice to plan for it not to happen right off the bat.Plan on meeting many women.I think its a good idea to go just to meet women and get to know some women to start with.If you actually meet one that knocks your socks off then great.If you don't then so what?I never was in a hurry to get married.I knew I wanted that in my life but I wasn't going the get married to any woman simply for the sake of being married.

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