What makes you Serious or just a Monger?

[z_k_g]

Lately I've been reading more and more posts about blow by blow sexual exploits and less about courting and trials and tribulations of finding that one unique foreign woman.

I guess its been more on the Latin side, but even some newbies on the Asian side have had this monger centric goal.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a homo, I like a hot asian or latina cutie in the sack like everyone else, and honestly I really don't have a problem with it, but there are websites and forums dedicated to that type of activity.

I am really don't like busting some guys balls cuz he is looking for a foreign woman to marry and have a hot babe at home to bang none-stop and show off as arm candy to his drooling friends.  I just don't think this is the right forum for that so I say so in my response posts.

Maybe its just me, and it may sound mundane and boring but I'm more interested in reading and posting about everything and anything about Asia and LA and but not about some guys blow by blow sexual exploits.

Just my opinion and thoughts. 

Am I seeing this all wrong?

Zulu

[michaelb]

Am I seeing this all wrong?

No. you're not. You're right, there are places where people can discuss that kind of stuff, but this forum shouldn't be one of them.

[william3rd]

Is that happening here? This place seems really G rated. I see some guys who are always on the hunt but no too much here. AmI missing a thread somewhere?

I am wondering about guys that have putative girlfriends who continue to hunt. . . .

[fathertime]

while i agree that sexual blow by blow is likely not the direction this website usually travels in, i'm not seeing that happening here to begin with....what are you referring to Zulu?

i enjoy reading the stories of how some men go through quite a few women before they decide to settle in on one...i think that is good and normal for many men...that is different from never really intending on committing and faking the women out...i must say that normally after a period of years if a man is 'still looking' for a woman, then i start to question his sincerity/honesty for finding a wife.it is easy to hide behind 'i haven't found what i'm looking for'...not that i disapprove of having fun, so long as it is not through intentionally deceiving and eventually hurting the feelings of the ladies.  some men have no intention on marrying again..that is their decision to make.

Fathertime!

[Gato4Astrid]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a homo, Am I seeing this all wrong?

If you were an homo, you wouldn't be here 

[euforia51]

Is that happening here? This place seems really G rated. I see some guys who are always on the hunt but no too much here. AmI missing a thread somewhere?

What W3 said. I know of only one recent post where the guy stated he was looking for a hot foreign woman to bang. I think it was biochemist? Sounded more to me like it was a biochemist's decadent teenage son. Any man worth his salt is going to keep the stories of his sexual escapades with a woman/women to himself, IMO ... whether he's a sex tourist or a man honestly looking for a relationship/marriage.

[Ray]

I know of only one recent post where the guy stated he was looking for a hot foreign woman to bang. I think it was biochemist? Sounded more to me like it was a biochemist's decadent teenage son.

My first impression of that idiotic post was that it's just another drive-by-troll.

Did you guys really think it was a serious newbie??

Ray

[william3rd]

I sure didnt. He hasnt been back either. But some folks welcome him like a lost brother even though there wasnt an ounce of sincerity in his one and only contribution. . . . .

[Jhengsman]

I sure didnt. He hasnt been back either. But some folks welcome him like a lost brother even though there wasnt an ounce of sincerity in his one and only contribution. . . . .

Its part of kuya's job to raise the young'ens. So the potential troll is given the benefit of doubt.

[william3rd]

Its part of kuya's job to raise the young'ens. So the potential troll is given the benefit of doubt.

Huh?!?!?!?!

[thekfc]

I think that poster took my advice and went to Vegas 

[Jhengsman]

Huh?!?!?!?!

Part of a big brother's (kuya) job is to guide his little brothers and sisters. When they say something silly we chalk it up to a lack of experience on their part. In this case experience with the norms of this particular online community

[z_k_g]

Maybe an over reaction on my part...

But I really wanted to address a few things.

Something very basic that occurs and I think its NOT a good thing is when a guy posts and our first reaction is negative.  Thinking back to when I was a newbie, If I had been greeted with derision It would have completely turned me off.

Now mind you, if he is spitting out complete garbage about banging foreign chicks he needs to be corrected.  But in the case where he is just inexperienced or simply ignorant I don't want to just dump on the poor horny fool.

But...Negative reinforcement seldom works.

There is another side to this also and this major concern is much more subtle.  

IMBRA and other similar legislation needs justification for its very existence.  In order to establish the lunacy of that (constitution violating) legislation it is essential that real men establish and maintain discourse that is purposeful, sincere, supportive and healthy.  

So...maintaining a high standard on P-L has deep long term implications in my opinion.  In that context, serial daters and mongers really take away from the overall goals of P-L and should be informed quickly that this forum is about finding a foreign bride and we are here to assist.  

The world (feminists) is watching!

Just some thoughts!

Zulu

[euforia51]

IMBRA and other similar legislation needs justification for its very existence.  In order to establish the lunacy of that (constitution violating) legislation it is essential that real men establish and maintain discourse that is purposeful, sincere, supportive and healthy.  

The world (feminists) is watching!

Zulu

So are you possibly suggesting that if we don't behave ourselves when answering possible "prank" calls from newbies, the Hillarys and Nancys of our government are going to shut all of these boards down and make us all go back to hunting "whales" and other frigid "beasts" in our own country?

[Tanuki]

So are you possibly suggesting that if we don't behave ourselves when answering possible "prank" calls from newbies, the Hillarys and Nancys of our government are going to shut all of these boards down and make us all go back to hunting "whales" and other frigid "beasts" in our own country?

you can also bet the Sarah Palins of world will also demonize us and claim that the money we are spending on these trips some how ends up funding Al-Qaeda or the Muslim Brotherhood.

[euforia51]

you can also bet the Sarah Palins of world will also demonize us and claim that the money we are spending on these trips some how ends up funding Al-Qaeda or the Muslim Brotherhood.

... LMFAO ...  

Man ... we are in so much trouble if Al Gore finds out we're talking like this. He'll shut down his Internet and then everyone in the whole world will be screwed (or not). 

[z_k_g]

I'm more focused on how we behave than what others do.

Whatever your political leanings we all are here to find a foreign wife, educate each other on the right and wrong pathways to take, and guide your lucky ass through immigration.

I just want to keep up the high standards that attracted me to this forum and also not discourage newbies by being too harsh and negative when they post silly misconceptions about this process.

I get the impression that some of the newbies still believe (and unfortunately most Americans) in the Mail Order Bride fallacy and come off as the IMBRA justification poster dude!

That's why i encourage newbies to read the archives!

Zulu

[Ray]

Zulu,

When a newbie shows up and makes a dumbassed post like that one, you are certainly free to give him the benefit of the doubt and not trash him.

HOWEVER, you also don't need to "welcome him like a long-lost brother" (thanks William...LOL). Sometimes it's better to just sit back and see where his next post leads, if he ever even shows up again...

This one could just as well have been a feminazi troll. Perhaps I've been here too long, but I have seen my share of those.

Ray

[z_k_g]

Perhaps I've been here too long, but I have seen my share of those.

Ray,

that Navy Jack you're flying kinda indicates your age! 

Zulu

[Researcher]

  What makes you serious is if you are serious about finding one special woman to marry.Some guys pretend to be looking for that but that isn't the truth.

    Researcher

[Tanuki]

  What makes you serious is if you are serious about finding one special woman to marry.Some guys pretend to be looking for that but that isn't the truth.

I think some are serious at first or, at least they thought they were and they get lost in the sauce.  It is easy to get bombarded by some of these girls and you can lose sight of the original plan. If you were in a bad marriage and now you have this new found freedom and a lot of young women to choose from. Yeah, you can get side tracked real damn easy.

I knew a guy that got out of a bad marriage and when he got into internet dating, he was like a kid in a candy store. He loved to talk about his new dating life style. [snip], it was like he was a teenager again.  New hana chung can cause a man to loose his mind, especially if he has been repressed for a very long time!

[Researcher]

  That's true,"the kid in a candy store" is a very real situation.I can see where a guy with a new found attention from attractive women would get caught up in the excitement but if you think guys that go outside the country to find a wife get ridiculed, you should see how guys that go outside the country to get a date or get laid get ridiculed.There are even some" wife hunters" that make fun of these guys!

   Researcher

[Jhengsman]

  That's true,"the kid in a candy store" is a very real situation.I can see where a guy with a new found attention from attractive women would get caught up in the excitement but if you think guys that go outside the country to find a wife get ridiculed, you should see how guys that go outside the country to get a date or get laid get ridiculed.There are even some" wife hunters" that make fun of these guys!

   Researcher

Made fun of? The US and other governments have done all they can to make it illegal. The guys/(whatever word you want for not good enough) getting "mail order brides/green card prostitutes" as our popular media sees our wives have a reason to distance ourselves from the "pedophiles" as the guys/mongers who go abroad looking for a date or to get laid are seen as.

[Bob_S]

Its part of kuya's job to raise the young'ens. So the potential troll is given the benefit of doubt.

Phft.  I had this punk figured out before I hit the period in his last sentence.  Guys serious about finding a wife don't talk like that.  He's just some sexless loser in his dorm or momma's basement whose favorite WoW server crashed during the big storm so he started browsing for "hot Asian girl porn" to spank his monkey to and somehow followed a series of links to this site (which is all about finding beautiful Asian women) whereupon he shat in our pond.  And he's so socially obtuse, he either is unaware or doesn't care that his turd stinks, too (as the closest thing he ever comes to in a female form are WoW female elf characters ran by male players with gender confusion issues).  He has all the emotional maturity of a 13-year-old who just discovered Rosy Palm.  He's got at least 10 or 15 years of growing up to do before he is ready for this.

[z_k_g]

Phft.  I had this punk figured out before I hit the period in his last sentence.  Guys serious about finding a wife don't talk like that. 

He's got at least 10 or 15 years of growing up to do before he is ready for this.

Punk is a nice word for this guy, how bout Monger.

Zulu