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[piglett]

the good news is that they have really started to crack down on these 300 pound plus chicks in my town



pig

[dinda]

Hi Dave,

How are u? Been ages since i last log in here, but i still keep in touch with one of our senior member...  Owh, dont get me wrong, its a relationship between a father and a daughter.

The guy that managed to broke my heart? Owh, i have forgotten where he's from exactly, but im pretty sure not from the US...

Hmmm, by the way, i have nothing against fat chicks/dudes... They're human too, deserve to be treated like one. Making fun out of their weight is so not cool, i found it VERY shallow! we're not in high school anymore, so why not start behaving more like a grown up? Right?

Take care Dave, have a good day ok...

Dinda

[Dave H]

Hmmm, by the way, i have nothing against fat chicks/dudes... They're human too, deserve to be treated like one. Making fun out of their weight is so not cool, i found it VERY shallow!  

Dinda

Hey Dinda,

Some guys can be so shallow!   Let me tell you a true story about my boss...we will call him "Teddy." (because that is his name...well, Theodore is his real name) Teddy is an average sized American male who likes large women...no make that HUGE women! His wife was pushing 300 pounds and Teddy worshiped the ground she stomped on! Despite Teddy's support, admiration, and love, his wife decided that her weight wasn't healthy and began to exercise. She eventually had gastric bi-pass surgery and her weight fell below 200 pounds. Teddy was distraught! He eventually divorced her and fell head over heels for a 350 pounder. Once again, he was a very happy man! It just goes to show, that there is someone for everyone.  

Dave aka "Fat Dude"

[thekfc]

Once again, he was a very happy man! It just goes to show, that there is someone for everyone.  

Dave aka "Fat Dude"

Yep, I have a co-worker (my weekend help), his choice in ladies are on the "chubby" side. He would not date/go out with a woman who is lighter in weight than him.

[z_k_g]

Pig,

Have you ever been really nice to a pleasantly large woman and she acts like the typical American woman with a bitchy hard to get attitude?

I think they revert back to 18 when they were 110lbs wet and head of the cheer squad!  They were coddled and spoiled, chased worshiped and screwed by the football and basketball team.

Now they are beached whales!  But If a guys shows any interest they revert back to the "old days" mentally!

Amazing!  :-)

One more good reason I love Asia!! 

Name calling may be shallow and "high school", but having a preference is not!   

Zulu

[piglett]

Yep, I have a co-worker (my weekend help), his choice in ladies are on the "chubby" side. He would not date/go out with a woman who is lighter in weight than him.

I just have a big problem respecting a woman or even a man that has let themselves get HUGE
& don't give me the old "oh they have a medical problem" that's just "bunk" in most cases.
i have seen so many ladies that are way way over weight & you know what they are doing ?
eating potato chips wow i wonder how they got so big? maybe eating a bunch of junk??? could it be???
if a person has zero respect for themselves then please don't ask me to respect them
& like i already stated previously I'm not talking about a person who is a "little" over weight
if you, like being/are chubby hey great it doesn't matter either way to me
if you need the handycap scooter at Walmart because you weigh 400lbs then you may want to lay off the junk food & seek help.

OK i will now get off my soapbox
piglett
  

[jvoorhees]

Hi Chris and welcome.

As I very strongly recommend to every new poster, Asia is far from homologous. Every country (and often different areas of each country) has an entirely different set of cultural values, norms, expectations, traditions, and so on. Before you even consider looking for a girl, you need to look for a culture to get comfortable with. You're going to be immersed in it for the rest of your life. Spend some time getting to know the cultures first.

This is NOT about which slender, slanty eyed girl turns your eye. Unfortunately looking through the websites is a bit like picking out items from a catalog. Sorry to put it crudely, but the more informed you are going in, the more successful you will be. Spend lots of time studying the cultures before you make a decision. Only after you have decided which culture fits you, should you start looking for the right girl for you in personality, intelligence and looks. You'll find plenty of choices, so don't worry about missing out on options.

Welcome to the adventure. It's one that you should enjoy to it's fullest. Your friends will be jealous, and it will be something you'll talk about for the rest of your life.

- Jeff

Thank you for this excellent advice to all new commers.  I myself am becoming more serious about the desire to search for a wife overseas.  And my plan is to study many countries, find the one whose culture suits me best, and then focus on searching there.

I tend to be attracted to Latin women and have started on looking at many countries including Brazil, Costa Rica, Peru, Columbia, Mexica, and many more.

I have, however, been frustrated at the responses I have been getting on the Latin boards on this site.  It seems like Columbia is the only country that people on those boards thinks exist.  Is there a reason for that? Is there a better place to learn more about the differences between the various Latin countries?

Thanks for all the advice!

[fathertime]

Thank you for this excellent advice to all new commers.  I myself am becoming more serious about the desire to search for a wife overseas.  And my plan is to study many countries, find the one whose culture suits me best, and then focus on searching there.

I tend to be attracted to Latin women and have started on looking at many countries including Brazil, Costa Rica, Peru, Columbia, Mexica, and many more.

I have, however, been frustrated at the responses I have been getting on the Latin boards on this site.  It seems like Columbia is the only country that people on those boards thinks exist.  Is there a reason for that? Is there a better place to learn more about the differences between the various Latin countries?

Thanks for all the advice!

Most Latina wife-hunters here found their ladies in Colombia.  Others found their spouses from other countries.  If you have a specific question about a specific country you should ask the question and filter through the responses to see what information you can use.  Not many people are just going to throw in specific country information unless it is asked for specifically, which I've only seen you do once and that was Costa Rica and you received information after you did it.

Fathertime!

[Jeff S]

Well, Colombia has traditionally had a lot of agencies - where you could go pick girls out of catalogs and interview them with the help on an interpreter, and the women were often eager to get out. In other places, like Mexico, the women were more conservative and modest, so the thought of advertising themselves like that seemed trashy to them at the time.

These days the agencies are dying out - though there are still a few left, and the internet, dating sites, and social networking have taken over so there isn't the same need for the agency route. Agencies did other things though that have now become more difficult - arranged for interpreters, places to stay, provided local knowledge of the safe and dangerous parts of town, what to do and what to look out for, and such for men who are mostly not seasoned travelers.

I look at the various cultures in Latin America as being substantially closer than those in Asia, as they share a common language (yes I know Portuguese is different, but an Argentine and Brazilian can still have an understandable social conversation) common religion, and mostly common traditional roots on the Iberian peninsula. Nonetheless there are big differences. As mentioned earlier, Mexico tends to be more conservative and modest, the Argentines and Brazilians have their own thing, and so on, so there are cultural differences. There are also huge differences in L/A between rural people who may not even have indoor plumbing, and modern sophisticated big-city people, and laid back party coastal resort people.

As we've always said here, the first place to look is in the mirror. YOU need to decide what you want and need. Some of the guys here married traditional stay at home moms to raise babies, others married educated professionals who continue their careers, others married sophisticated and worldly city girls, and still others married wild and crazy party girls. None are better than the other for everyone only better for YOU. Once you figure out what you're looking for, then it's time to pick a place with the culture of what you want.

Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?
The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to
Alice: I don't much care where.
The Cat: Then it doesn't much matter which way you go.
Alice: …so long as I get somewhere.
The Cat: Oh, you're sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.

- Lewis Carrol from Alice in Wonderland

[HaroldC]

Didn't read the whole thread, so pardon if this has been mentioned, but
the biggest 'cultural' aspect is language; second is probably religion.

That's why I chose the Philippines.

Get the Filipino channel on your cable/satellite ...

Find the local Filipino community in your area- I guarantee there is one. (Our Christmas parties in Bangor, Maine had 300 Filipinos show up!)