Possibly the one

[Bill_McC]

Some of you may remember me posting in another thread. Its topic was something about being exclusive. My post explained my situation at that time. I was talking to two Filipinas. One was drop dead gorgeous but very serious, the other was not quite as attractive but an absolute ball to talk to so how could I choose? I wasn't sure which way to go at that time. You may also remember in another thread that I started that my home was broken into and I lost everything of pawn value including my cell phone and my computer. In the three days that it took to get a new phone and get it turned back on the gorgeous serious one was climbing the walls because I hadn't been in contact. Whats happened to you? Are you OK? Where have you gone? Are you sick? Did I do something to upset you? My email was chock full of messages from her, but I didn't know this because I still didn't have a computer to check my email. Later after I replaced the computer and I could read the emails I could sense a near panic in the tone of her emails. On my cell I have unlimited text and I knew both email address so once it was turned back on, I shot off texts to both emails. The fun one, didn't make any attempt to contact me, she didn't even reply to the text. To this day she hasn't made any attempt to restart the conversations and catch back up. The gorgeous serious one, Cris, replied within minutes to the text. Since then we've become pretty serious. We videochat for an hour a day everyday. Shes a fantastic woman, and for me, the decision has been made. She cares and was genuinely distressed when I fell off the face of the planet for three days.

We're talking now about me visiting immediately after the holidays. I can hardly wait to meet her in person and see if shes actually as serious as she seems over the internet. Even if she is it won't be a deal breaker, I enjoy our chats and its to the point that I'm scheduling my activities around the times when we meet on line to chat.

My advice to anyone in a similar situation is be patient. Eventually they'll weed themselves out of the running. Wish me luck...


Bill

[piglett]

sooooo if your having trouble choosing between more than 1 lady just leave your doors unlocked or better yet wide open & hope some lowlife crack head takes it upon himself to "liberate" everything that can be carried out of your house.

hey just kidding but seriously Bill it sucks that you lost a bunch of your stuff but it sure was an EZ way to find out which lady was real & which mite have been a green card shark. 

the good news is you can always make more money & buy more stuff.
that is the EZ part,the hard part is finding the rite lady & it sounds like you mite have just hit the jackpot !!!


goodluck
piglett

[Bob_S]

So the low lifes ended up simplifying your life.  If you ever meet them in person, you can shake their hands before you club their skulls.   

[Bill_McC]

So the low lifes ended up simplifying your life.  If you ever meet them in person, you can shake their hands before you club their skulls.  

I think I'll club them first, then shake their limp hand while I'm standing astride their nearly lifeless body.

Yeah, it simplified the decision; in fact there was no decision to be made afterward, but it's been a serious struggle getting back to semi-normal here. My sanctuary has been violated and my safe place doesn't always feel so safe. If they hadn't taken all my rifles and hand guns I'd probably have loaded ones stashed all over the house. Cris says we need a dog, a BIG dog, if we do decide that we're a match. I tend to agree with her.

Bill

[Dave H]

Hey Bill,

Good Luck!

Dave

[Dave H]

Cris says we need a dog, a BIG dog, if we do decide that we're a match. I tend to agree with her.

Bill

Hey Bill,

Until she met me and came to the US, my wife used to think that "Philippine Ankle Biters" were "BIG"  dogs.

I am thinking about getting a Rottweiler. I have a friend who breeds nice ones here in the Philippines. In the US they were my "lap dogs." For serious protection in the US, I had English Mastiffs and St. Bernards, all over 200 pounds. (All of my pics are back in the US.)

The sweetest (unless she didn't like you),   but meanest looking "BIG" dog that I had was a female apricot brindle mastiff, similar to this, only larger.


The grandfather of my favorite St. Bernard, weighed in at 310 pounds. The Guiness Book record holder for a while. After me, his grandson was the Alpha Dog at my place! But, my wife was/is the Queen and rules over everyone..even if we don't want to believe it!  

[Bill_McC]

But, my wife was/is the Queen and ruled over everyone..even if we don't want to believe it!

Im the King of my castle!   My queen told me I could be.

Bill

[z_k_g]

Some of you may remember me posting in another thread. Its topic was something about being exclusive. My post explained my situation at that time. I was talking to two Filipinas. One was drop dead gorgeous but very serious, the other was not quite as attractive but an absolute ball to talk to so how could I choose?

What is her age?

Seems like you got a hottie Bill!!

Good luck!

Zulu

[Bill_McC]

She's 37, never married, and lives at home with her mother, sister, and two young brothers (14 and 15). The 15 yr old is her sisters son. Her father passed from cancer about 7 years ago, so the family is a pretty tight knit group. I've chatted with the mother and the two brothers but not the sister. I'm told she drinks and is a drain on the rest. I can understand Cris being serious under these circumstances. Its got to be pretty stressful being responsible for a family like this. She works her tail off to help her mother support them. I asked what will happen to them if she comes here and her answer was that they will be just fine if she leaves. I guess I'll see when I visit in January.

Shes never asked me for anything. I do pay for her internet but that's because I want to be able to talk to her more. As I said in another thread about sending money, I sent her $50 to pay for her internet for a month because that's the least I can send. The next time I talked to her she had a laptop and a web cam. She had been saving for God knows how long to buy a computer and she took the money I sent and had enough to buy it. She apologized and apologized for not spending it at the internet cafe, but its been a good thing because we video chat everyday now. She used to walk to the internet cafe every morning at 5:30 so that we could talk for a few minutes before I went to work but now she doesn't have to do that and we talk a lot longer. As I said its been a good thing all around.

In my opinion shes a very special woman. She's hard working and honest to a fault.


Bill

[Dave H]

In my opinion shes a very special woman. She's hard working and honest to a fault.

Bill

Hey Bill,

It sounds like she is! And you an add intelligent, practical, and wise with money to your list!

Dave

[InnocentVixen]

On my cell I have unlimited text and I knew both email address so once it was turned back on, I shot off texts to both emails. The fun one, didn't make any attempt to contact me, she didn't even reply to the text. To this day she hasn't made any attempt to restart the conversations and catch back up. The gorgeous serious one, Cris, replied within minutes to the text.

I love to read this kinds of threads, gives a girl hope! I don't think the other girl was necessarily a scammer, just probably immature or easily distracted or too busy talking to a bunch of guys at the same time (you know, keeping her options open)

So its nice to hear that instead of labeling her as desperate and insist on talking to "the fun one" or look for another similar to her. You realized the other girl was seriously interested in you, seriously missed you and that she was serious about you... what is wrong with the serious one if you are serious about your search? 

As a plus, I think comparing personalities even if the serious one will get more attention from men she is so committed she will ignore it, the fun one sounds like she likes attention or gets bored easily, down the road that could have given you problems anyways.

She sounds like a keeper, congrats Bill!

[fathertime]

hey bill,

I never could get too crazy until i met a girl, but that is just me.
 Now hurry up and 'go git dat booty'!  She sounds like a nice gal so go make it happen if you suspect you will hit it off.   I suppose you already talked to her about life's goals/ kids etc.  Make sure you are on the same page.

Fathetime!

[Bill_McC]

 I suppose you already talked to her about life's goals/ kids etc.  Make sure you are on the same page.

Fathetime!

Yes we've talked about these topics. Kids aren't an option for me unless I have a snip snip reversed. She says that shes ok with not having our own children. I'm 53 and honestly, for me, another child now would put me in my mid to late 70s by the time they were through college.

Bill

[Bill_McC]

So its nice to hear that instead of labeling her as desperate and insist on talking to "the fun one" or look for another similar to her. You realized the other girl was seriously interested in you, seriously missed you and that she was serious about you... what is wrong with the serious one if you are serious about your search?  

She sounds like a keeper, congrats Bill!

Now that I think about it, it was your thread about being exclusive where I stated my problem with choosing between the two of them Vixen. If you had read her emails to me you would know that it wasn't desperation, but genuine concern.

Her being serious is only a problem in that its very difficult to make her smile or to laugh. I love to have a good time, to laugh and smile and be happy. She does smile and she does laugh but I really have to surprise her with something to make it happen. I think her seriousness is due to her sense of responsibility and the pressure that she puts herself under to support her family.

Oh yeah I think shes a keeper too, but I need to meet her and get to know her in person before theres any major decisions made. She feels the same way so January is currently the plan for meeting face to face for the 1st time.


Bill

[piglett]

Ya know Bill i don't recall seeing too many groups of "pickers" riding around in a VW.
you boys must do things a little different than most of us. 

piglett

[fathertime]

I love to read this kinds of threads, gives a girl hope!

With all the lugubrious grumbling about how these gals are motivated by strictly avarice, it is nice to see some hopeful optimism.  This is the winning attitude that gives him the chance to go all the way!

Fathertime!

[Bill_McC]

Ya know Bill i don't recall seeing too many groups of "pickers" riding around in a VW.
you boys must do things a little different than most of us. 

piglett

That was a posed pic. The guy behind the passengers side door, Chuck, is a VW mechanic and he had just finished rebuilding that beauty. It was spring time in Michigan and a glorious day, his daughters graduation party was that evening, and we were playing for it. We decided to take some pictures for the West Michigan Bluegrass Music Association newsletter and that's what we ended up with. This pic was a throw away because Jack, lead guitar and vocals, in the front was holding a Budweiser in his hand. I had my camera sitting on the front mounted spare tire of an old F-250 4X4 and had to reset and run again to get in the pic. The final was almost the same picture but Jack had his barley pop behind his back. Now Carl the bass player COULD and did get that 3/4 Kay bass stuffed into the car with enough room for him to drive. He said he could and he did. That was a fantastic evening. We played until the wee hours around a beautiful fire.

Left to right...Carl Benson Bass, Chuck Lehman Mandolin, Jimmy Emmorey Fiddle, Jack Emmorey Lead Guitar, and that's me on the far right 5 string Banjo.

Bill

[z_k_g]

We decided to take some pictures for the West Michigan Bluegrass Music Association newsletter and that's what we ended up with. T

Left to right...Carl Benson Bass, Chuck Lehman Mandolin, Jimmy Emmorey Fiddle, Jack Emmorey Lead Guitar, and that's me on the far right 5 string Banjo.

Bill

Nice Bill!!  You're a damned artist, but are you bonafied?   

What do you think of O Brother Where Art Thou? (2000 Movie with George Clooney) You think it was positive or negative for Bluegrass?

Zulu

[robert angel]

Ha ha--I lived in Kalamazoo--finished my undergrad work there, did some grad. school work there and it is 'different' in Western Michigan!

Great music of all types there, nice country all the way out to Lake Michigan and for a 'really big show'---Chicago, or South Bend, was never too far to travel in our slow but trusty Volkswagon mini bus--in the winter, we'd pile into a buddy's old International Harvester SUV....

[Bill_McC]

Nice Bill!!  You're a damned artist, but are you bonafied?   

What do you think of O Brother Where Art Thou? (2000 Movie with George Clooney) You think it was positive or negative for Bluegrass?

Zulu

I think its a positive because music doesn't choose you, you choose the music. It got bluegrass into a lot of ears that hadn't ever heard it and thats a good thing. The movie was just OK, but the music was fantastic. It had everything from old time to current tunes with Alison Kraus and Union Station to older Stanley Brother tunes and more. George Clooney, personally I don't care for him, did a fantastic job of lip syncing over Dan Tyminski's Man of Constant Sorrow (Stanley Brothers) and thats the one that everyone heard and remembers. All in all I think it was good for the music.

Bill

[z_k_g]

I think its a positive because music doesn't choose you, you choose the music. It got bluegrass into a lot of ears that hadn't ever heard it and thats a good thing.

All in all I think it was good for the music.

Bill

I agree, it put a spotlight on a great American art form, just wondering how you felt about its impact.

Also I think it gave a new generation a different look because the only other significant movie (wildy popular) was Deliverance with the signature banjo licks played after every scene.  Although that movie had nothing to do with bluegrass, every time anyone heard the banjo they thought of Ned Beatty and his new friends!!

With O Brother the music was given a new boost and the new generation saw the music in a backdrop of the times and a real positive part of the lifestyle/culture and of course great music!

Zulu

[ignorante]

West Michigan Bluegrass Music Association newsletter and that's what we ended up with.

  My son just started taking violin lessons, and his stated goal is to fiddle in a bluegrass band! 

[z_k_g]

  My son just started taking violin lessons, and his stated goal is to fiddle in a bluegrass band! 

Nice, whats his age?

Zulu

[ignorante]

Nine.  He really likes that music.  He did not get that from me . . . I took him to a Bluegrass festival where a girl of 11 was fiddling for a band, and he chased her down after their set to ask her how old she was when she started taking lessons.  When he found out she had been at it since three, he remarked, "I am going to be 17 before I am that good!"   

   He is getting better everyday.  Mary Had a Little Lamb and Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, but he improves each week.

[z_k_g]

Nine.  He really likes that music.  He did not get that from me . . . I took him to a Bluegrass festival where a girl of 11 was fiddling for a band, and he chased her down after their set to ask her how old she was when she started taking lessons.  When he found out she had been at it since three, he remarked, "I am going to be 17 before I am that good!"   

   He is getting better everyday.  Mary Had a Little Lamb and Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, but he improves each week.

If he keeps at it, he will be fine!  Kids pick up things quickly if motivated, look at the Xbox and PS3 games!  If you notice the games get more and more complicated every year, and the kids learn the games quickly and get bored and ready for new more complicated games!!

Learning the Xbox and PS3 are a complete waste of time, besides developing great hand eye coordination. 

But learning to fiddle....awesome!   He sticks with it, you will be amazed.  I would take him to more events and get him DVD's and point him to websites to motivate him!  Also get him acquainted with the blues! 

Save me a couple of tickets when he does his first concert!!

Zulu