Why Russian women are so much more popular than Colombian women?

[Bob_S]

It all boils down to how you pick em......

Or as the great 20th century philosophers Roy and Buck said, I'm a pickin', and I'm a grinnin'. 

my wife's changing clothes for the third time and wants me to 'critique' her attire...

Don't do it!  It's a trap!


But seriously, ignorante, the scenario Zulu laid out is less apt to happen with a foreign spouse because they are coming from cultures where sex is still regarded as an expression of love, pleasure, and/or spousal duty for keeping the marriage strong and not as a tool for control.  That's not to say it can't happen.  Nothing in life is 100% guaranteed.  Just less likely to happen.

[z_k_g]

But seriously, ignorante, the scenario Zulu laid out is less apt to happen with a foreign spouse because they are coming from cultures where sex is still regarded as an expression of love, pleasure, and/or spousal duty for keeping the marriage strong and not as a tool for control.  That's not to say it can't happen.  Nothing in life is 100% guaranteed.  Just less likely to happen.

This is pretty much the norm in American households, as taught to the young women by television and movies.  The lessons- "Men MUST pay for, or EARN sex, women want love and exchange that for sex, men are the aggressors and women are helpless beings that must protect (and get compensated) for the precious vagina"  This is the perverted American reality that we live in.

American women and sex- They control it, we beg for it or buy it

On the other hand, the traditional foreign woman expresses her love and spousal duty to keep the marriage strong.  This is normal, a natural sharing of the great gift of sex that is the integral glue of male/female relationships and an important foundation of a healthy marriage.

Foreign women and sex- Sharing, mutual respect and responsibility

Enough said,

Zulu

[robert angel]

Re:

>>But seriously, ignorante, the scenario Zulu laid out is less apt to happen with a foreign spouse because they are coming from cultures where sex is still regarded as an expression of love, pleasure, and/or spousal duty for keeping the marriage strong and not as a tool for control.  That's not to say it can't happen.  Nothing in life is 100% guaranteed.  Just less likely to happen.<<

Oh so true!


But--Bob_S--on:

my wife's changing clothes for the third time and wants me to 'critique' her attire...
>>Don't do it!  It's a trap!<<

I don't get it! Yea, sometimes it gets a little old after the first outfits she tries on are quickly shown 'for my approval' and I tell her --LOOK Honey--I told you they all looked fine--OK? and that nips it in the bud, but I'd gather most guys with American wives wish their wive's sought their husband's approval on what they wear and how they look. She's never ever not changed clothes if I had the slightest issue with what she was wearing (very rare).

I don't see it as a trap and if I did--I'd tell her --"Honey--not all the time--you've got great fashion sense"


She's got excellent fashion sense from the git go for any event--I sometimes suggest she switch shoes for higher contrast, but still matching her 'outfit' and for comfort--lordy--she has wayyyyy too many pairs of shoes...

Growing up and especially in private schools on 'dress down days' and socially, she didn't have many nice clothes--all the family's money seemed to go towards educating seven children and I'm sure that has something to do with it.

Heck, she's no stepford wife or submissive, simpleton robot and I think it's been three times in over five years when she got so mad that she went to the book store or library alone (each time alone) w/o asking me 'Honey, can I go out to---friends, store, gas station, etc??" Of course, between the two, I knew where she was between those two places and after a little while, I went there.

It's basically a custom from back home that's out of respect and courtesy and I've never said "NO YOU CAN'T--YOU HAVE TO STAY HOME", except for a few social events where we would've gone together and I just wasn't into the scene and told her why.

Sometimes I think maybe I SHOULD say--"NO--I DON'T WANT YOU GOING TO LISLEY's TO EAT DRIED FISH--I NEED YOU HERE, HONEY"--What do you guys think? I sometimes wonder if she's expecting me to drop that hammer...

One time, she got so mad she did sleep on the couch in the living room, but I got up after a few hours and picked her up and carried her back to bed. She'll be mad as all get out and keep her distance from me in bed and 2 or 3 hours later , yell--AREN'T YOU GOING TO HUG ME???" as I'm already falling asleep, haha. I have to hug her every day and for happy, sad and bad occasions. Filipinas sure are damn huggy people!

I did tell her that despite her wanting to, she could not take any college classes over this past summer or work, because our marriage needed some work and she pouted a little saying 'How about no heavy computer classes--just a Spanish class?"--but I still said 'NO".


If I'm out fishing too long or out looking for Indian artifacts--or especially being on line when she's in bed in the same room and ready for 'lights out time', she may even get a little mad sometimes and pout "I need attention too!"--" I'm still very young and I need more attention!" And you know what--she's right and it (attention) and other ahem, 'things' are seen by many Asians as spousal duty/responsibilities.

Oh well, I married the gal, I have to do what's expected, within reason, I figure and always remember that men are from Mars and women from Venus and that I'll never really figure them out--but I should keep trying anyway...And sometimes, you just have to meet in the middle.

Before we we married--during our engagement, she said "I just have ONE rule":--"ALWAYS keep God in the middle". That's a pretty  broad rule to interpret, and I'm no holy roller, but we make that work too, somehow---for now anyways....

[Shadow_mas]

Before we we married--during our engagement, she said "I just have ONE rule":--"ALWAYS keep God in the middle". That's a pretty  broad rule to interpret, and I'm no holy roller, but we make that work too, somehow---for now anyways....

Well it worked out pretty good for Mary. 

[Bob_S]

I did tell her that despite her wanting to, she could not take any college classes over this past summer or work, because our marriage needed some work and she pouted a little saying 'How about no heavy computer classes--just a Spanish class?"--but I still said 'NO".

Well, you don't want to be a bully about it.  Just ask her which of her cute friends she's going to send over to keep you company while she's off doing her non-wifey things.  You may catch tampo hell for a moment, but she won't be too quick to find things outside the home to occupy her time! 

"I need attention too!"--" I'm still very young and I need more attention!" And you know what--she's right and it (attention) and other ahem, 'things' are seen by many Asians as spousal duty/responsibilities.

Damm-straight!  Now sign off and get back to your duties.

[bcc_1_2]

AW don't have to look like a pile of crap. I agree the average AW in her 40s is a scary sight. But the issue is diet, lack of excercise, and frankily in many cases little focus on appearance. We have shows on cable about how to dress decent, put on makeup, etc but many women aren't getting the memo. Honestly, I'm not sure they really care. You see middle aged AW that look just fine, but I bet you they go to the gym and aren't ordering off the value meal menu at BK. Especially with my generation... women are starting to look like crap much faster.

I'll pass along a few observations and reactions I've noticed. First, my friends (note: I'm not talking about wives and g/fs of my friends) have become close to my wife (this includes women). Obviously if you are my friend you are supportive of my happiness and not threatened by it. Thankfully I do have female friends (one in particular who is from Hong Kong) that spends lots of time with my wife. If she had to make friends from the pool of g/fs and wives that would kinda suck.

When I traveled in the past ex-g/fs and my buddies g/fs and wives didn't think much of it. Ok he's going to Mexico, Costa Rica, etc to travel... his adventurous, a traveler... that's cool. Once they hear that you've gotten engaged to someone from say Honduras you get mixed reactions. Some are concerned, some are curious, and it is just a whole range really. The thought that yes a guy could go outside the country and meet a girl might not have pleased them, but it doesn't get much attention because it isn't real yet (meaning the foreign woman hasn't arrived).

Now once these AW actually meet your wife it becomes a reality. The married women do have some security, but the girls just dating aren't fond at all of discussing what basically is foreign competition. Looking back these girls where uncomfortable and it was due to their own insecurities and issues.

But I must say my wife has been a positive reality check for many of them. My wife is friendly with them, but she doesn't depend on any of them to be her friend. What that basically means for me is less barriers and road blocks in dealing with my friends. Last year if myself and a buddy wanted to go to a game or do anything you can bet his woman would be bitching or complaining about it (well to be fair... most of the time). Now I hardly ever notice a g/f or wife complain at all.

A little foreign competition is good... it shows the AW how easy they got it and how easily an educated guy can toss their ass to the curb if he gets fed up with the BS.

[robert angel]

Boats, airplanes and the internet sure did more the average American guy's chances in the international 'markets' than NAFTA did!

[robert angel]

Funny how this post has has been running pretty briskly for a while, yet has had almost nothing to do with Russian women!

Come to think of it, the Russian forum section of this site seems pretty desolate as well----I didn't have much interest in the Ruskie women for long-they even send scammers onto Asian sites. I have seen a few guys do well with them, but as with all nationalities, have heard some horror stories.

Almost fell for a real beautiful, inside and out, babe from Kazakhstan though! She was half Asian--half Russian and 100%  knock out pretty with a great attitude....

[Jeff S]

The Russian site is very active. It split off from this forum years ago, when Patrick, the founder and married to a Latina, sold the site to Dan, who had his own site and is married to an Eastern European.

The site is: http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/Forum/

[Dave H]

Almost fell for a real beautiful, inside and out, babe from Kazakhstan though! She was half Asian--half Russian and 100%  knock out pretty with a great attitude....

Hey Rob,

Kazakhstan...isn't that where Borat is from? I also have sexy mankini!




Their women are very strong and  useful!i!