Finding foreign women in the U.S.A.

[Celtic_Jorge]

I mentioned this in other threads but I thought I'd post a topic about it to see if I could fish out some responses to this question.
Does anyone here know of any good ways to meet FOREIGN Asian women here in the U.S.A.?

Because of my job, travel really isn't an option.. and I still want to go out on dates, without wasting any more time on these domestic online dating sites or matchmakers like It's Just Lunch who want $1000 from you for 7-8 pitiful blind dates.

Searching on domestic sites usually turns up American Asian women.. Not overseas born.  If anyone has any ideas let me know.

(I also realise this can go marginally off topic, but if anyone has any information on Latinas, I may be interested in that, too.)

[Ray]

Do you mind divorced with kids? I know of tons of divorced ladies but the single ones are often illegal (bad news).

Check out foreign students at local universities, but you'll probably need to compete with younger students.

If you are serious about foreign born women, I would be actively looking for new job prospects while saving up money.

Ray

[Gato4Astrid]

I mentioned this in other threads but I thought I'd post a topic about it to see if I could fish out some responses to this question.
Does anyone here know of any good ways to meet FOREIGN Asian women here in the U.S.A.?

When the Internet wasn't so popular back then, I used the services of "paper" advertisement from local magazines.  There were magazines to find women from locally, Far East, Russian, etc.

I do not know about U.S.A, but it is worth to find out if there are any ......  You never know!

Good luck

[whitey]

I volunteer with a non-profit group that helps recent immigrants adjust to Canada, learn English, and find jobs.

It's very easy, fun, and rewarding work for me ... all I'm doing is hosting English conversation circles which give recent immigrants the opportunity to practice speaking English and to ask questions about our culture or how to get things done here.

Most of the people I work with are Colombians, but there are other immigrant groups.  Once you make friends with people and they trust you, they are very willing to introduce you to eligible women in their community ... or maybe you'll simply meet someone by volunteering.  It's very easy in the latin culture to ask for someone to set you up on a date, and it may be the same in other cultures as well.

Of course, I've already got a fiance so I'm not asking to be fixed up!  But I now have several good Colombian friends that I like to spend time with and who will help Nazly when she comes here to Canada.

Perhaps there's something similar in your community?

[Celtic_Jorge]

Do you mind divorced with kids? I know of tons of divorced ladies but the single ones are often illegal (bad news).

Check out foreign students at local universities, but you'll probably need to compete with younger students.

If you are serious about foreign born women, I would be actively looking for new job prospects while saving up money.

Ray

My educational scope is very narrow, Ray.  Let's just say that I work in a health care field, and my degree is in my specialty, and the only way that I can get a different job is if I go back to school for four years.  Dating life SUCKS as a student, too.

It's kind of like the people who went to school to be x-ray technicians.  That's all they can do.  I am in the same circumstance.

[Gato4Astrid]

Let's just say that I work in a health care field, and my degree is in my specialty, and the only way that I can get a different job is if I go back to school for four years. 

I graduated as a Mathematics degree but I work as Fashion business.   It is not impossible to find something else when your degree is in "Health Care Specialty"

[Gato4Astrid]

Let's just say that I work in a health care field

Whitey's postings about 'voluntary' gives me some idea ......

As you say, you work in a health care field, you could go to expedition on 'charity' in 3rd World Country as a volunteer, helping people, using your skills and experience.   Expedition in: Vietnam, Cambodia, perhaps as you seem to like Asian ladies.  Of course, you will have to raise money to go to these expeditions.   Many of my friends did that way by raising around $5,000 USD  (nothing from your pocket)

If you are interested, you can find it out by google "expedition" in Vietnam etc

[Celtic_Jorge]

Even mathematics is more generalised than what I do.  I operate a machine.  I went to school for two years to learn how to operate that machine, and that machine only.  It wasn't too long ago that I got out of school at all.

My education is totally irrelevant in any other job hunt, especially considering it's not even a four year degree.  It's not impossible to work something else, but to find something else with the same amount of money and even the very little time off I do get, is damn close.

[Celtic_Jorge]

Perhaps there's something similar in your community?

I've often thought of that.  I work a lot, but I will look into this.  Thanks.

[Henry]

I tried the US Filipina route. Two of the Filipinas I was going to school with wanted to hook me up with a 30 something Filipina. I finally relented after a year and asked for an introduction.

These two were scamming me really. The whole time I thought it was a US Filipina who was lonely. Turns out it is a 30 something Filipina in the Philippines. I have nothing against that per se, but they gave me the impression she was domestic. I am not one for flying 48h to meet a 30 year old woman (no offense guys but there is no way I'd go for a chick that age), and they refused to send me a picture. It really sounded like she was looking for a ticket to higher income.

[throwawaydad]

Everyone likes to talk about assimilation in America.  That's fine, but it is human nature to "generally" reside in close-knit communities.  For example let's look at Chicago:

I've been here before, but not looking for dates.  VERY target-rich environment, especially on weekends.

http://www.mitsuwa.com/tenpo/cica/eindex.html

The Arlington Park / Mt. Prospect / Buffalo Grove / Palatine area have significant numbers of Asians, most notably (but not exclusively) Japanese.

The next place to find other Asians (especially if you're setting up a household) is the Ikea store in Schaumburg, again on weekends.  It's a madhouse on weekends.  Which if you're a "playa" and can be smooth, allows ALL SORTS of opportunities for chatting up Asian Women.  Long lines @ checkout / people casually browsing the displays gives plenty of chances for one-on-one communication about mutual interests.  If you didn't bring your "A" game to Ikea, don't worry.  It's generally SO crowded no one would notice.  Plus she won't feel so anxious with so many people around.

Finally when you find yourself in a fully-committed relationship: 

http://www.chicagojs.com/

Chicago Futabakai Japanese Day School.  ALSO in Arlington Heights.


The point I'm trying to get to here is that in a major city people will "generally" shop close to home (and live near where they feel most comfortable shopping).

[Henry]

My educational scope is very narrow, Ray.  Let's just say that I work in a health care field, and my degree is in my specialty, and the only way that I can get a different job is if I go back to school for four years.  Dating life SUCKS as a student, too.

It's kind of like the people who went to school to be x-ray technicians.  That's all they can do.  I am in the same circumstance.

How many hours a wk are you working? Right now I can't find a job in the field I spent the last 6 years (off and on) pursuing. So I am going to stay in my current field and just work about 80 hours a week.

There are some that say it isnt good for your health, but I know a couple of guys who work 80 hours or more per wk for years and it hasnt aged them physically or caused them to faint. And it will approach the salary I really should be making if I were gainfully employed.

So my question to you is, could you pick up a second job to work 4 to 8 more hours every day til you save some money.

My ultimate plan is to get two more jobs (three total). I dont want to just travel and hunt for a bride, but saving for a housing downpayment is also on the table.

That wont give you more vacation time, but maybe you could enlist 5 or so coworkers to take on some overtime by taking over 5 extra days for you. That way you could spend that one wk plus 5 extra days overseas. I know Firefighters and others often get others to take over their days while they are vacationing.

[Jeff S]

You just need to get into the different Asian communities. My wife has a good friend who is a single Japanese woman and she goes to single Japanese mixers and speed dating all the time. There are tons of Chinese women here, as well as Vietnamese. You just need to hang out in those communities, make friends, and do what they do. In a place like the greater Los Angeles area it's simple. If you live in Wichita, Saginaw or other small town USA community, it's probably a lot pretty tougher.

Here's a couple places to start:
http://www.japanesefriendfinder.com/
http://jtn-abroad.meta4-group.com/public/home.jhtml

Search for them living in the US.

[william3rd]

always check their immigration status before you get too involved!!!!!

[Bill_McC]

After reading this thread I did a quick google search and this turned up. It appears to be international, but there are a bunch of women already in the US on here too. I just wonder how much Americanization has occurred with these woman.

http://filipinofriendfinder.com/

Bill

[Capstone]

Hey Jorge,

If your current job does not pay very well and the vacation time given is not what you desire, have you ever thought about moving to an Asian country to teach English? Many guys have done just that and enjoyed every minute of their experience (just ask posters Bob & Marshall). You may actually be in the perfect situation right now to do something like that. Just a thought.

[InnocentVixen]

interesting post, I am just wondering, how willing would a man be to date a foreign woman that is in his country but plans to return to her country? for example if she is there to do a course or on vacation?

This of course would mean that while you get to meet in person and maybe even date a little, it would become a long distance relationship at some point, would you consider it? would the "average guy" (who is not seeking for love outside his country) take a lady like this seriously or would she get mostly players happy to see her go and forget about her?

[Jeff S]

I did. I met my wife in the US when she was on vacation.

[Henry]

I did. I met my wife in the US when she was on vacation.

Lucky dog!!

[Celtic_Jorge]

Thanks for all of the suggestions.

I actually signed up for Match.com (I cringe while I type this, as I usually hate domestic dating websites.)
Anyway, I selected that I only wanted to be matched with Asian and Latina women...
Mind you, this is in Washington, DC.. But wow!!!! A lot of foreign-born AW and Latinas!!!  And I mean a lot, at least in my area.

So thank you to everyone (Patrick and everyone else) who said they might be able to send me some email addresses.. But this is looking good, the idea of being able to date foreign girls again (I really, really, really miss my Thai girlfriend, the good Thai girlfriend, the one who was the Au Pair..)  I was stupid and young and [snip]ed that up......

But now I am older and know a little bit more about women and.. some of these girls are even Au Pairs!  So, when it gets closer to my 2 weeks off, I am going to start sending some of these burds some emails on here...  Maybe I'll get lucky and someone will email back.  

[robert angel]

Jorge,

Tiger Woods married a beautiful, fellow golfer's former Au Pair--they even had two beautiful children together--before things took a bad turn.


I have a feeling you can do even better than the Tiger and quite possibly right here at home!

[piglett]

Happy huntin CJ i hope you bag a good one


pigeltt

[z_k_g]

Jorge,

Sounds like a great strategy!

Good luck!

Zulu

[Ray]

Jorge,

Let us know if any of those local foreign girls are actually overseas.

I'm not familiar with match.com, but some US based dating sites ask for a mandatory ZIP code, and apparently some of the women overseas just make one up. That's why you will find mnay overseas women using US ZIP codes.

Good luck with the new adventure...

Ray

[Bob_S]

always check their immigration status before you get too involved!!!!!

Or someone who's here legally but whose visa status is about to expire and is just looking for someone who can keep them here.