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jksun07 · « **on:** March 16, 2010, 12:31:45 PM »

I've come to realize that Facebook could be both a good thing and a bad thing. I've just come to realize the bad, and if anyone would like to interpret these scenarios, that'd be great.

Picture 1:
Guy friend of my girl with the dog of my girl's family.
Comment from mutual friend: "ai ve hasta con el hijo de la novia sale..........jiji"

Picture 2:
My girl with guy friend.
Comment from mutual friend: "con la cuÃ±is on la cuÃ±is?...jajajja"

Guy friend's profile picture is him with her.

Am I just paranoid and reading into too much of this or do I have a reason to be concerned?

robert angel · « **Reply #1 on:** March 16, 2010, 05:12:02 PM »

Facebook can almost take on a life of it's own. I am very fortunate that my wife rejects the 'overtures' of guy friends of friends who want to make her THEIR friend, she regularly rejects guys left and right and she's very conservative period about pictures--about everything she posts there.

We see people we know who are married who don't state it--women who even put their phone numbers on it, women who you wouldn't realize are bisexual unless you looked at their facebook profile--just lots of 'interesting' stuff.

A lot of people put their personal 'business' out there and they sometimes don't even realize to what extent they're doing so.

There are companies that make 'collecting' data on people's online behavior/information their business--long after a company like google's washed the info out--they save the data and dish it up for a cost for mainly corporations and Govt. agencies that want to know everything they can find out.

I have toyed with the idea of creating my own facebook account--heck, even my parents have one, but I think it might be more trouble for me than it's worth. I watch my wife's with mild amusement and she'd watch mine. Took me long enough to wipe out a couple hundred smiley yahoo faces--being able to be invisible there is the best thing they ever did....

Jamie · « **Reply #2 on:** March 16, 2010, 07:27:53 PM »

Quote from: jksun07 on March 16, 2010, 12:31:45 PM

I've come to realize that Facebook could be both a good thing and a bad thing. I've just come to realize the bad, and if anyone would like to interpret these scenarios, that'd be great.

Picture 1:
Guy friend of my girl with the dog of my girl's family.
Comment from mutual friend: "ai ve hasta con el hijo de la novia sale..........jiji"

Picture 2:
My girl with guy friend.
Comment from mutual friend: "con la cuÃ±is on la cuÃ±is?...jajajja"
Guy friend's profile picture is him with her.

Am I just paranoid and reading into too much of this or do I have a reason to be concerned?

I guess it depends, are you shown prominently to all her friends and family as her boyfriend?
The comments read as if the first guy is her boyfriend. Hijo (child) is referring to the pet since many women consider their pets their children and this guy is even going out with the pet of his girlfriend (your girl) and the second comment reads as if your girl is a sister-in- law (does not have to be literal a brother can refer to his brotherâ€™s girlfriend as such) to the person writing the comment or maybe the guy in the picture. I am not sure why their would be a laugh at the end of his comment, not sure what the reference may be, maybe he is teasing that she will soon me married and his future sister-in-law.

Planet-Love.com · « **Reply #2 on:** March 16, 2010, 07:27:53 PM »

jksun07 · « **Reply #3 on:** March 16, 2010, 09:11:12 PM »

Actually I am stated as "in a relationship with...". We have photos together, and I stayed at her parent's place for about 2 1/2 weeks. Nothing had really been a red flag until I saw these pictures. Maybe I am being paranoid...I don't want to ask her what's up with the pics directly.

fathertime · « **Reply #4 on:** March 16, 2010, 09:28:57 PM »

Quote from: jksun07 on March 16, 2010, 09:11:12 PM

Actually I am stated as "in a relationship with...". We have photos together, and I stayed at her parent's place for about 2 1/2 weeks. Nothing had really been a red flag until I saw these pictures. Maybe I am being paranoid...I don't want to ask her what's up with the pics directly.

My wife gets all kinds of stupid comments on her page. Before married, it gave me some trepidation, now I can see that is just silliness and never meant a thing. I'm happy I left the subject alone.

When you have more of a commitment and are with her, you might bring it up but not in too serious a way. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, because it will likely make you appear to be less confident from her perspective. It will be very difficult for you to have a positive outcome given you are 1000's (I assume) of miles apart at the moment.

Fathertime!

utopiacowboy · « **Reply #5 on:** March 17, 2010, 05:34:10 AM »

You obviously have a reason to be concerned. She is somebody else's girlfriend.

Jamie · « **Reply #6 on:** March 17, 2010, 10:21:06 AM »

Quote from: jksun07 on March 16, 2010, 09:11:12 PM

Actually I am stated as "in a relationship with...". We have photos together, and I stayed at her parent's place for about 2 1/2 weeks. Nothing had really been a red flag until I saw these pictures. Maybe I am being paranoid...I don't want to ask her what's up with the pics directly.
[/quoteIf you are showing on her Facebook as her boyfriend and there are photos of you and her as such that others can see (the photos are not be shield from others being able to see) then maybe itâ€™s nothing. But either way I would simply ask. You should be direct, just casually ask her.

jksun07 · « **Reply #7 on:** March 17, 2010, 01:48:16 PM »

Actually, I guess I was paranoid before thinking. She has a younger sister....and I looked at her page. Seems like the guy is going for the younger sister. My girl had never made me doubt her.

I even remember her telling me a small "lie" (it was just about an old picture). Although I knew the truth from the beginning, I never mentioned it. A couple of days later, she told me that she felt really bad lying to me, then told me the truth. We chat at almost the same time everyday, and she even stays home on Saturdays most of the time. When she is not on, her sister is on.

bcc_1_2 · « **Reply #8 on:** March 18, 2010, 12:30:21 AM »

I must be the only 26 year old without a facebook page. I'm not a fan. well it helps you out with the hiring process. Create a fake one of a hot girl.... potiental employee adds you... talk about the employer getting the inside scoop. Anyways even my social butterfly doesn't have one.

Bob_S · « **Reply #9 on:** March 18, 2010, 10:04:06 AM »

Facebook is fun, addictive, and highly over-rated. I find it useful mostly as a secondary e-mail service since it has a private message system. Some people are just friend-collectors, trying to befriend anyone with a profile. I tend to avoid those people. About 90% of my listed contacts are people with whom I have other connections such as family, current friends, old friends I haven't seen in decades, coworkers current and former, or on-line friends I only know through forums such as this one (got a couple of PL connections).

If you have a business, it'd be a good idea to have a facebook profile as a sort of free advert for your service.

whitey · « **Reply #10 on:** March 18, 2010, 10:31:26 AM »

Facebook was an indispensable way for me to get to know my (now) girlfriend from a distance. We could share photos of our families, friends, and events in our lives, share music, chat, email, links, post comments to each other, etc.

It's a great way to see how she relates to her friends, and the responsible use of Facebook (i.e. no suggestive photos, no suggestive comments from male friends, not spending too much time on it) is for me an important insight into her character.

These days, if my prospective girlfriend was NOT on Facebook (assuming she has ready access to a computer), I would be somewhat suspicious, wondering if perhaps she has something to hide.

The last comment may not be applicable to all countries and cultures ... my gf is Colombian.

Researcher · « **Reply #11 on:** March 19, 2010, 05:04:30 AM »

jksun,
Kudos to you for noticing this kind of stuff.Many guys get so love struck that they will overlook the obvious.I'm glad it worked out though and you found out what you did.Long distance relationships are tough.Its not easy to tell if someone is being loyal or not.If something like that comes up again just keep your eyes open and never ask a cheater if they are cheating.You will never get the truth.This is something you will need to find out on your own.I was always patient enough to wait for other signs to appear before I was sure then it was time to get the curb kicking boots out!

I think Facebook has been accredited for ending many relationships.I don't pay alot of attention to it myself because nothing beats good old fashioned Facetime.

Researcher

Alabamaboy! · « **Reply #12 on:** March 19, 2010, 09:19:03 AM »

Facebook is an indispensible tool. If there are pics of your girl making out with a guy with captions that show the pics were from two weeks ago, when you gave her the engagement ring three weeks ago, then you know what you need to do. It will save you tons of time and hassle. And most of the women from Colombia are not smart enough to erase things or cover their tracks so well. If they are up to no good, a 15 min checkup of their facebook will probably tell you all you need to know.

Another thing is if they do not have you on their page with a lot of pics together, when you are already in a serious relationship. That is a bad sign.

Or like one guy said, if they do not have a page at all. I would take this as a bit of a bad sign if they are known to be computer literate. Because most people have at least some pics that they want to share with family and friends, and facebook is the easiest way to share them. So I would take it as they are probably hiding something if they do not have facebook or the minimum, myspace.

I have "busted" a bunch of Colombianas with stuff like that. And it saved me a lot of time, energy, and probably cash. If you have unlimited amounts of those things, then it is probably not so important to check those things out, because it will all come out sooner or later. But if you are like most guys here, in a long distance relationship, you need to be careful that you do not waste too much of any of those things.

Planet-Love.com · « **Reply #12 on:** March 19, 2010, 09:19:03 AM »

Jason1 · « **Reply #13 on:** March 19, 2010, 08:47:35 PM »

I don't think it is odd if a woman doesn't have a facebook page.Some people just aren't into that sort of thing.I also don't think you can judge a woman by her page because who someone is online doesn't always match who they are in person.I prefer spending time with a woman in person rather than in some online fantasy world.

Alabamaboy! · « **Reply #14 on:** March 19, 2010, 11:49:46 PM »

I would guess that probably 90% of the women 30 years old or younger in Colombia have either facebook or myspace. In general Colombianas are very outgoing and social. So if they do not have a page, I think it would be kind of strange.

And yeah Jason1, it is better to spend time with the woman in person, but unless you are very wealthy and without responsibilities here in the States, then it is almost impossible to do that.

Although the online and "in person" personas at times do not match, you cannot argue with pictures that may show your girl french kissing some guy in a hotel room, after you supposedly started a serious relationship with her.

And it does not always have to be negative findings on facebook.

Here is an example of that: I had my girl, some of her sisters, and a couple cousins on my facebook as friends. There are settings you can put on your page to allow or block your photos from being sent to people. So it turns out that the cousin of my girl had a birthday party at a club in BAQ, and he posted pics of the party. The pics got automatically sent to my page, and I was suprised to see my girl there. She was in about 12 pics and was not doing anything bad in any of them. So I felt fine with it. Except for the fact that when I asked her if she had gone out to a party or anything, she told me she did not.

By the way, that is the way I have found most Colombianas lie. Things like that which are not even big issues, but they lie about them because they may think you may get upset with them if they go out, so it is easier just to lie and avoid any confrontation.

JR33 · « **Reply #15 on:** March 19, 2010, 11:57:36 PM »

90%? that is a guess.I can see the point of using facebook to get to know a woman but I wouldn't count on it completely.There could be the one page a Colombiana has to show her gringo and then the other she has that is her real one.

Alabamaboy! · « **Reply #16 on:** March 20, 2010, 12:32:04 AM »

Yep it is a guess. But probably not far off.

That is true. They could have different accounts. But if they have a bunch of friends, including family, neighbors, and you have met most of those people, then it is a pretty safe bet she is using that particular one quite a bit. Especially if it has a lot of frequent entries, email address, tons of pics.

You can never be 100% sure of anything. Even if you are living in the same city as her.

But if you have some extra time on your hands, why not check out these simple things? It may save you a lot of time, energy, and hassle in the long run.

robert angel · « **Reply #17 on:** March 20, 2010, 08:00:21 AM »

"on the internet, nobody knows that your really a dog"

thekfc · « **Reply #18 on:** March 20, 2010, 10:26:30 AM »

Quote from: Bob_S on March 18, 2010, 10:04:06 AM

About 90% of my listed contacts are people with whom I have other connections such as family, current friends, old friends I haven't seen in decades, coworkers current and former, or on-line friends I only know through forums such as this one (got a couple of PL connections).

Same here! most of my friends are either co-worker (past & present), penpals (online friends), my girl & her family (everyone of them have their own account). and my girl nieces & nephews friends - they sure do love facebook.

Whenever I get a "friend" request, I always check to see who that person is - there are people just there to see how many friends they can "collect". I had one lady who send me a friend request, I went in and check her profile - she had over 3,000 friends. Do she actually talk to at least 1% of these "friends"?.

On another note, I had a former co-worker who had her face book account "compromised" - some dude was going into her account & deleting her pics & replacing them with other photos or would defaced or have words written across her pictures. She knew who the guy was & told him to stop but he didn't. But it all stop after a few of us run into him.
If I can recall, Facebook have a new security feature that now prevents this from happening but people can always get around that.

jksun07 · « **Reply #19 on:** March 20, 2010, 01:29:25 PM »

Thanks for all of the replies. Although I do value outer beauty (who doesn't), character is just as attractive to me. That's the reason why superficial girls hot on the outside don't really attract me. I've never been too lovestruck to brush away character issues.

I'm always pretty thorough when I check out Facebook. When I buy something, I always research the item because I want to know what I am spending my money on, and why I can justify paying a higher price. Same with Facebook -- I want to know what is going on in her life. She's not a thing, but I am spending my time committing to her so I want to know who I am committing to.

She or her friends actually always posts pictures. I'm friends with a few of them, and some of the others which I am not friends with have their pictures public. Facebook has been indispensable to me in this regard. Everytime she goes out she has a funny story to tell me and it really makes for good conversation because she is my good friend as well as my girlfriend.

Another thing that never made me suspicious is that she doesn't really wear revealing clothes -- everytime she goes out she wears jeans and a shirt that covers up her cleavage. She has a denim skirt that goes about 2 inches above her knees and I told her it'd look sexy if she wore it. She wore it but was a little shy in doing so. She has a great body but I've never seen her flaunt it. Same with her sister.

Jason1 · « **Reply #20 on:** March 20, 2010, 07:14:28 PM »

Quote from: JR33 on March 19, 2010, 11:57:36 PM

90%? that is a guess.I can see the point of using facebook to get to know a woman but I wouldn't count on it completely.There could be the one page a Colombiana has to show her gringo and then the other she has that is her real one.

This is true.I have heard of women that had their "family" facebook page and their "boyfriend" facebook page.

crashfirepm53 · « **Reply #21 on:** March 21, 2010, 07:20:44 AM »

See if she has a Hi5.com page. Latin Facebook

Alabamaboy! · « **Reply #22 on:** March 22, 2010, 08:43:43 AM »

Yeah, if you notice there are not many family members, pics, etc on your girl's facebook, you are probably not "in the family" yet. And she is just showing you what she wants to show you. A portion of the real deal. But if you are in the "family" Facebook. That is a good sign that you are her "number 1" because she is "presenting" you to the family as her guy.

This does not guarantee however that she does not have the other "boyfriend" page for her number 2-5 guys, that she may be checking out to upgrade if things do not work out with you.

Planet-Love.com · « **Reply #22 on:** March 22, 2010, 08:43:43 AM »

Jason1 · « **Reply #23 on:** March 22, 2010, 06:05:53 PM »

Quote from: Alabamaboy! on March 22, 2010, 08:43:43 AM

Yeah, if you notice there are not many family members, pics, etc on your girl's facebook, you are probably not "in the family" yet. And she is just showing you what she wants to show you. A portion of the real deal. But if you are in the "family" Facebook. That is a good sign that you are her "number 1" because she is "presenting" you to the family as her guy.

This does not guarantee however that she does not have the other "boyfriend" page for her number 2-5 guys, that she may be checking out to upgrade if things do not work out with you.

So using Facebook isn't a very reliable way to know if your lady is true to you but I do see some value in it.It's best to visit as much as you can and keep your eyes open.

Henry · « **Reply #24 on:** March 27, 2010, 01:02:31 PM »

Quote from: Alabamaboy! on March 22, 2010, 08:43:43 AM

This does not guarantee however that she does not have the other "boyfriend" page for her number 2-5 guys, that she may be checking out to upgrade if things do not work out with you.

Yikes! Dont you hate that? Finding out later on when you thought it was the two of you, she was vetting and monkey-branching 3 to 10 other guys. Ugh.

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