Typical attitude of a Colombian Lady?

[cantlose]

I enjoyed a couple of marathon IM sessions this weekend (8 hours total), with a Colombian lady who speaks fluent English.   After the typical chit chat and humorous banter I heard certain things which I thought I would share.
 
When asked what she looked for in a man she wrote pounds, euros, peso, & dollars.  While I appreciate a sense of humor as much as anyone my experience has been that humor is usually based on truth.  It did seem odd that she never came back with an alternative to the monetary reference.

When asked how a man shows caring to her she included cooking.  She doesn't cook.  I guess she isn't going to show much caring for her man in this area of life.

I asked her about attitudes towards money.  She saves money to take trips, that I would consider to be beyond the scope of someone making her salary.  Trips to the US & Europe.  After a trip, she has no money.  Her retirement plan is to find a rich man to pay for it.” She is in her mid 40s, a few years younger then me.

She also commented that she does not know a single Colombian woman who loved their American husband. 
I must say that her honesty was refreshing, although a bit surprising. 

Are these typical attitudes of the Colombian ladies we communicate with? 

Thanks for you comments.

[Researcher]

   cantlose,

    These are the typical attitudes of ladies that I once kicked to the curb but if you are ok with it then that's great.If it were me I would be thinking one word:Next!!

  Researcher

[william3rd]

many of the women regardless of the nationality think this way about the suitors from overseas. We are only seeing a certain slice of the population and there is only a certain slice that will seriously consider us as suitable matches. And an even  smaller slice that looks at fat bald middle aged Floridan drama queens or farmers without flush toilets in their homes or guys without income or "freethinkers."

[RK]

Thank goodness that's just her experience. I know two Colombiana's here that I truly have no doubt about the love they have for their American husbands. I could always be wrong, but they are close friends and the older couple has been married for 38 years. I would also venture to guess that there are a few guys here that shatter her thoughts as well. Not that what she says isn't true based upon her experience. I'm just glad I fish in the same lake, different pier.

[bcc_1_2]

wow she's already 44 and beauty doesn't last forever. behind the facade i bet she realizes time is running out to find that rich guy. i'd block her ASAP.

she won't treat your credit score very nicely.

[Jeff S]

If that doesn't scare the crap out of you, you should give up women.

[Pivery]

 Speaking for myself, I never had a woman be so blunt about money being a driving force behind a potential relationship.
Back in my dating days I would tell any and all women that I had 25 cents in my pocket, an old car, had no property I owned
and had only one credit card which was maxed out. There were a few that jumped ship once they heard this,
but for the most part the women I encountered didn't seem to care about that. They seemed to be starved for real love,
attention and commitment that the majority of the men in Latin America couldn't seem to get their brain wrapped around. 

Just like most anywhere in the world, there are women who are looking to turn a man upside-down to shake his pockets out to
collect the coins that fall out, but to classify the women at least in Colombia this way would be an incorrect assumption.
As far as the cooking thing goes, a woman in her 40's that doesn't cook is not a good thing. This was one of the things that I was
looking for, so the ones that didn't express an interest in taking care of her man were quickly dropped as well. My lady cooks for me
as an expression of love, and would rather spend an hour preparing something for me than us just going out to pick something up.
Her reasoning is that she wants no one cooking our food except her and there is a cost savings in preparing your own food.
Nice having a woman thinking this way, so I hope that you aren't seriously considering this woman as she would likely be a poor choice
for a future companion/wife.

Pivery

[Henry]

Her day is long gone. She isnt being honest. She is just describing how much she hates men, and she isnt ashamed of it. But she still thinks the power of her pinkspot is powerful enough for most men to ignore that hatred.

[cantlose]

I know that I would have to be out of mind to consider this woman.   

My thinking is that as an educated 49 year old in pretty good shape (12.5% body fat, BMI of 21 last time I was tested in Oct) with a good sense of humor, and no kids, that I ought to be able to do much better then this.  Especially since I'm looking for a woman in her 40's. 

The biggest negative I bring, besides my limited Spanish, is my height.  I'm not sure how well my 195 cm will play out in face to face contact. 

I figure that an educated woman who is still single because she refuses to put up with bad behavior of the local men, is likely to be quite appreciative. 

I am not sure, however, how to hide my financial situation, given my profession and the company I work for.  I don't feel comfortable lying about either.

[fathertime]

I know that I would have to be out of mind to consider this woman.   

My thinking is that as an educated 49 year old in pretty good shape (12.5% body fat, BMI of 21 last time I was tested in Oct) with a good sense of humor, and no kids, that I ought to be able to do much better then this.  Especially since I'm looking for a woman in her 40's. 

The biggest negative I bring, besides my limited Spanish, is my height.  I'm not sure how well my 195 cm will play out in face to face contact. 

I figure that an educated woman who is still single because she refuses to put up with bad behavior of the local men, is likely to be quite appreciative. 

I am not sure, however, how to hide my financial situation, given my profession and the company I work for.  I don't feel comfortable lying about either.

Yeah I agree it is a strange choice based on what you have said thus far.

You would think a lady in her 40's would be more down to earth, sounds like that is your target range, just know you have other age options too.

Being tall is not a negative issue usually, being very tall is usually a benefit, don't think it puts you at a disadvantage...most woman will not hold that against you.

If I understand you correctly, you want to keep your financial and work situation private.  Most ladies are going to ask you about whatever work you do, that is pretty normal conversation.  Usually I just told them what I did, unless there is some special reason you can't, I would just be up front with them.

This lady sounds a little like a nightmare to me, I'd look at more options. Her attitude is not typical of the Colombian ladies I've met, although I've never 'dated' any ladies in this age bracket.

Fathertime!

[Jeff S]

Why would you say your height is a negative? Hitting your head everywhere in Asia, maybe, but with women?

[cantlose]

I am just guessing that my height might be a little overwhelming for someone 5'1" or 5'2" tall. 

I recall while traveling through the Philippines 20 years ago how people would giggle (in a kind manner) because I was so tall.  I guess I'll find out soon enough.

[Researcher]

  cantlose,
          Don't worry about your height I don't think that will be much of an issue as long as you aren't looking for a very tall woman.In that case you might have a bit of a task on your hands.


   Researcher

[Jeff S]

I am just guessing that my height might be a little overwhelming for someone 5'1" or 5'2" tall. 

I recall while traveling through the Philippines 20 years ago how people would giggle (in a kind manner) because I was so tall.  I guess I'll find out soon enough.

I'm about the same height as you and have been traveling to LA and Asia for over 30 years. I have never felt like women were intimidated - sometimes men, and yes sometimes a few giggles, but women are usually attracted to bigger men, even tiny ones. I'm about 13" (33 cm) taller than my wife.

[raycjs]

Cantlose

do not let your height stop you... that will not be an issue in LA...




Ray

[fathertime]

  cantlose,
          Don't worry about your height I don't think that will be much of an issue as long as you aren't looking for a very tall woman.In that case you might have a bit of a task on your hands.


   Researcher

Based on the details provided, I would think taller women would be a good choice also.

Fathertime!

[Researcher]

Based on the details provided, I would think taller women would be a good choice also.

Fathertime!

  This is true but the selection might not be as plentiful as somewhere like the FSU.

[Henry]

I overlooked something in your original post.

This one is going to get me a lot of flack, just like when I said TV is a propaganda machine.

I have been to Europe and dated quite a few European women. I found the ones who were the nastiest, biggest man haters and feminists were the ones who spoke fluent English.

English is taught in schools there. Most of them learn it but not to a higher level. They only know the basics. When the woman knows proper, flawless English, that became a sign to me to walk the other way. In essence she was just another American woman. She just happened to be raised outside of North America / Britain.

The question is, how did she learn fluent English? Either she had a very long term relationship with a Gringo (and what happened to him?), she's been watching too much Oprah, or she's been watching Hollywood movies in English.

[cantlose]

While I find the FSU women very attractive, I wouldn't head there because of the number of negative experiences I have heard from other men. 

A week ago at a Christmas party I met a man who married a Ukrainian woman who he believed was an ideal match.  He said that everything was fine until shortly after he retired when his wife divorced him.  The Russian wives of the the 8 couples he knew also left their husbands.  He is a really nice guy.  Well educated with a good income and pleasant disposition.

It seems like the odds of success may be better with the South Americans so I would gladly trade a little height to hopefully increase my chances of success.  5' is the minimum height I would consider for a partner.

[cantlose]

She is an English teacher. 

[Researcher]

  5ft min.? you should be good.


  Researcher

[Osa]

I overlooked something in your original post.

This one is going to get me a lot of flack, just like when I said TV is a propaganda machine.

I have been to Europe and dated quite a few European women. I found the ones who were the nastiest, biggest man haters and feminists were the ones who spoke fluent English.

English is taught in schools there. Most of them learn it but not to a higher level. They only know the basics. When the woman knows proper, flawless English, that became a sign to me to walk the other way. In essence she was just another American woman. She just happened to be raised outside of North America / Britain.

The question is, how did she learn fluent English? Either she had a very long term relationship with a Gringo (and what happened to him?), she's been watching too much Oprah, or she's been watching Hollywood movies in English.

I'd like to chime in this discussion to thanks, as someone has said what I have been thinking.

As a (amateur) student of the social sciences (anthropology, sociology), I've often come across the phrase "Language is the vehicle of culture."  Or put another way, "our worldview is shaped by our language(s)." 

A latina american woman (or a woman from anywhere for that matter) who learns English has essentially absorbed the Western worldview; she now thinks in western categories (although she probably retains the old ones).  I really don't want a girl with a western mindset.

So as I date/chat these latin girls and talk to them in spanish, they sometimes ask me if I want them to learn english.  Though I wouldn't hinder anybody from empowering themselves by learning a new language, I'm ok if sweetheart sticks to her spanish and we carry out our relationship in that language.

[michaelb]

Do you live in an 'English optional' place (like Texas, S. California or Florida) where she can get by without knowing English? (much to the annoyance of the local talk radio hosts and their minions).  If so, that's an advantage, but also a disadvantage, i.e. she won't bother to learn, especially if you always talk to her in Spanish, and while she can get by, the better jobs do want English speakers.

[utopiacowboy]

Do you live in an 'English optional' place (like Texas, S. California or Florida) where she can get by without knowing English? (much to the annoyance of the local talk radio hosts and their minions).  If so, that's an advantage, but also a disadvantage, i.e. she won't bother to learn, especially if you always talk to her in Spanish, and while she can get by, the better jobs do want English speakers.

My wife is a production supervisor at the Toyota truck plant and her English is minimal to say the least. Nevertheless they would like to promote her to assistant plant manager if she was willing.

[Osa]

Do you live in an 'English optional' place (like Texas, S. California or Florida) where she can get by without knowing English? (much to the annoyance of the local talk radio hosts and their minions).  If so, that's an advantage, but also a disadvantage, i.e. she won't bother to learn, especially if you always talk to her in Spanish, and while she can get by, the better jobs do want English speakers.

i live in a sorta english optional place: north New jersey.  as far as her working, the goal is for her to work at home

viva la housewife!