High and Low...Interesting Observation

[RK]

This is in reference to the girl I was going to meet in Cali this past weekend that everybody gave me such great feedback on.

I was chatting with her for awhile today and she was concerned that I don't want to see because, as she wrote, "low" compared to me, whom she referred to as "high". The meaning of this being that she considers myself to be a much higher class person and why would I want to seriously consider going down to Cali to meet her, a low class person. I was shocked that she even considered such a thing. First, let me be very clear...I am an average, middle-class guy with a house and bills like a lot of others in the USA. I have never given any false impressions or anything to counter that. I was very clear to her that in no way do I consider myself any better or above who she is and that she deserves a good person as much as I do, whether that be in my own back yard (city) or abroad. She then said I will decide when we meet and get to know each other. I told her she will have the same opportunity to decide about me then also. Interesting how she looks upon me and/or the general social dynamics.

[confusio]

 I think it has to do with the general latin psychology, many latinas feel insecure and have low self esteems cause of their darker skin (they refuse to admit they come from a mix of Spanish and native Indians which is why they discriminate local full blooded Indians as inferior), the social classes there are very strong, when my grandad who was from a wealthy family married my grandma who wasn't, it was a big scandal in their town, theres no problem to it though...the only thing that sometimes is worrying is latina women get really jealous if you give them motives like talk too much to other white girls or what not.

[william3rd]

There is a pecking order in Asian countries as well. And in Thailand. Both by perceived social status-as evidenced in part by skin color, employment, and language vocabulary ability- and by race and nationality. Even the countries are ranked by each other.

Chinese and Japanese are considered to be at the top of the food chain. . . . .

[fathertime]

     Greetings RK!

My woman has been explaining this to me about how life is/was in Colombia.  What your cyberbabe is saying is not that unusual a thought process for the ladies of Colombia.  You being here in the USA has pretty much automatically put you on a pedestal, at least for now.  According to my Colombian wife, generally speaking rich men marry rich women and you are considered rich, regardless if you are by US standards.   Poor Colombian women are going to have a hard time moving up the ladder and having a comfortable life in Colombia, that is one of the reasons why a man like you or I can have a good chance of making something work with an attractive woman who is from a working class family.  It is a win/win and theorically everybody is happy… Of course you have to be able to size up all the factors with any particular gal, and getting a little lucky helps too! 
Assuming you are a normal guy doing normal things here in the USA and you have good intentions and minimal bad habits, this gal could easily be for real, so no harm in giving her a shot next time you roll through Cali!

Fathertime!

[RK]

Thanks for the nice reply, Fathertime. It's just a bit awkward for me to have a girl feel that way. I truly respect a girl for who she is, not what she isn't. That goes for the legit girls. Outside of that box and the dynamics change. I agree sizing the situation with a little luck increases the odds of success. I definitely plan to meet her shortly after Christmas. I know she's playing the intro site pretty heavily now since I didn't make it there this past weekend, but I can't blame her. She was pretty psyched about me coming and extremely let down I didn't.

[utopiacowboy]

Just remember that attractive Colombian women are a centavo a dozen.

[fathertime]

Thanks for the nice reply, Fathertime. It's just a bit awkward for me to have a girl feel that way. I truly respect a girl for who she is, not what she isn't. That goes for the legit girls. Outside of that box and the dynamics change. I agree sizing the situation with a little luck increases the odds of success. I definitely plan to meet her shortly after Christmas. I know she's playing the intro site pretty heavily now since I didn't make it there this past weekend, but I can't blame her. She was pretty psyched about me coming and extremely let down I didn't.

She likely was really let down, but you can make up for that during your trip later this month.  Her playing the field at this point is totally normal.  As you said, you just have to see how it goes after you meet/see her, you might find she is not what you thought, or you might find she is much better!
When I found my woman, I nearly  dropped her a couple times early on because of cultural miscommunications, but I'm glad I hung in there, because if I didn't I wouldn't have my wife now! This thread http://www.planet-love.com/forum/index.php?topic=3810.0  will  illustrate the point I'm making regarding patience and luck early miscommunications turning out pretty good.

Fathertime!
 

[JR33]

I think it has to do with the general latin psychology, many latinas feel insecure and have low self esteems cause of their darker skin (they refuse to admit they come from a mix of Spanish and native Indians which is why they discriminate local full blooded Indians as inferior), the social classes there are very strong, when my grandad who was from a wealthy family married my grandma who wasn't, it was a big scandal in their town, theres no problem to it though...the only thing that sometimes is worrying is latina women get really jealous if you give them motives like talk too much to other white girls or what not.

   I think confusio is right on this one.I found out my fiancee felt similiarly to this shortly after we met.But its all good.