Single Father No More........ "Please Read"

[Researcher]

   Don't feel bad FT, he didn't personally hit me up either.


       Researcher

[raycjs]

guy's if you all feel that bad about him not hitting you up, i could use some cash in a few weeks as i am heading to Vegas......

back to SF he is a scamer and the more we look around the more we find differnet stories all over the place..

the bottom line is anyone that reads any of the many boards he posts on will not loan him money any more and that is the main reason we started this post.....

Ray

[Gato4Astrid]

          Sounds like being robbed by a taxi driver is his favorite story to use to get money.


           Researcher

This taxi driver must be an Indian 

[Dave H]

I'm feeling a little insulted here SF never bothered to ask me for money, i don't know why my dirty money wasn't good enough for him.  He seemed to put the clamps to practically everybody else.

Fathertime!

Hey Fathertime,

Really...Maybe you have narcolepsy and missed the pitch.  How has your poker game been lately?

Dave

[william3rd]

Wow I didn't know that craps was played in Peru...I'd like to know if it is the same version of craps as we have here in the USA.  


I'm feeling a little insulted here SF never bothered to ask me for money, i don't know why my dirty money wasn't good enough for him.  He seemed to put the clamps to practically everybody else.

Fathertime!

You can send me some money too!!!! How about I ask you for about 2 grand- you can make payments. I am hiding from some Indians. The Patels are on my trail!!!

[Jeff S]

So that's why Kumar Patel called and asked me about where to find you. Don't worry I sent him the other way.

[SomethingYouSaid]

For what it’s worth, I saw Jeff get into a taxi late one night in Chiclayo in or about September of 2009, and 30 minutes later I received a call from Roxie telling me Jeff had been robbed of everything but his clothing, including his watch and glasses. For months afterward he wore sunglasses everywhere he went.

I’m not surprised Jeff ‘borrowed’ money. I am surprised at the magnitude of his activity. He borrowed money from me and paid it back in a reasonable amount of time, but perhaps that was because he couldn’t physically avoid me. The evidence that he bilked a lot of people seems irrefutable.

I’m not defending him, but I don’t believe he intentionally and maliciously sets out to defraud people. From the moment I first met him I was convinced that he is the strangest character I’ve ever met – an impression that has not changed over time. Often his thoughts, mannerisms and actions border on bizarre and are an embarrassment to those in his company at the time. In Jeff’s world, helping people is good and Jeff needs help so people giving him money is good. That would be consistent with the logic I have seen him display. Jeff has no marketable skills that I know of, so perhaps in his mind living off the efforts of others is justified. But intentional or not, the bottom line is a lot of people seem to be left holding the bag.

One further opinion – don’t be too quick to assign guilt for the failed marriage.

I last saw Jeff in a Chiclayo restaurant in January. I have not heard that he has left Chiclayo.

[Fuzzyone]

  Jeff appeared every where every forum he could find to feel sorry for him he was there. The only story that could be proved was that his first wife really died, other than that there is nothing no where to prove what he has said.

   I know back in 2008 he claimed his son was scared to death of the indians because they supposely kidnapped him and his sister, but funny thing is there is videos of his kids from that same period playing with other indian child. Jeff also claimed that his son could not go to school because he was so messed up but once he stepped foot in Peru he became a normal boy again. All I know is it appears he was blowing smoke up everyones @ss for some reason, it does show to be the one with mental problems not his son!

[Bob_S]

So that's why Kumar Patel called and asked me about where to find you. Don't worry I sent him the other way.

To White Castle?

From the moment I first met him I was convinced that he is the strangest character I’ve ever met – an impression that has not changed over time. Often his thoughts, mannerisms and actions border on bizarre and are an embarrassment to those in his company at the time.

Maybe Asperger's?

[SomethingYouSaid]

Well, I was under the impression that mariachi bands were strictly a Mexican thing. Maybe I could arrange one for my wife on our anniversary but knowing her, she would prefer a rock or reggaeton act. 
But back to SFNM, I met him after his arrival  to Lima. Roxi was still in Chiclayo. We had dinner and drinks (my treat) then went to a local casino. I did alright at the craps table that night and my winnings didn't elude the notice of SFNM. Afterward, he hinted around that he was hard up for cash but he never came out and asked for a loan.
Then the next morning, as I was preparing for a trip to see my fiancee in Ica, I received a call from SFNM. He told me that he had been robbed by a shady looking taxi driver. Well, being the nice guy (sucker) that I am, I loaned him some cash.
I didn't think anything about it. I know these kind of things happen, especially in Latin America. But then I read a few months later, he had been out with Chiclayo Charlie Brown, an expat from the USA (not his real name but he has an uncanny resemblance to Charlie Brown) and he told Charlie after they had split up for the night, he had been mugged by a taxi driver and his friends on his way home.

Now I don't know about you folks but it just seems like too much of a coincidence. The guy keeps getting mugged and then tries to lay out a pity story to score some cash.
I don't know if he tried to hit Charlie up for money but I'm guessing that he did. I wish Charlie would tell what he knows on his blog but he seems to have become very tight lipped about anything concerning SFNM.

Icachico

There is a troll who leaves anonymous insulting comments on my blog, ranging from calling me a “moroon” (I’ve always disliked that color) to saying that because of my health and age I’ll probably die soon. The most recent tasteless entry the troll made was this: “I’d make a donation (to a charitable organization I am part of) but given your age and health you probably won’t live long enough to spend it.”

The troll often refers to me as “Charlie Brown.”

Any idea who that brave troll might be? 

[fathertime]

FT,
Yeah, they got craps in the casinos. At least the upscale ones in Miraflores and San Isidro do.

thanks for the info...what kind of odds did they offer on the passline....most places in vegas offer 3-4-5, with the occasional casino offering 10X or even 100X. 

Fathertime!

[fathertime]

guy's if you all feel that bad about him not hitting you up, i could use some cash in a few weeks as i am heading to Vegas......

 

Come on ray you can do better than that if you are going to squeeze money from me!...don't you have a one-eyed grandma somewhere that needs money for a kidney transplant...if you need help concocting a story, maybe SF could give you some tips, of course he may choose to charge you his loaded labor hourly rate!

I'll see you in vegas though, we might be there at the same time. Where are you staying? I'm pretty sure I'll need a loan if we were to meet up, so bring that checkbook!

Fathertime!

[fathertime]

Hey Fathertime,

Really...Maybe you have narcolepsy and missed the pitch.  How has your poker game been lately?

Dave

nice pic of me dave! 

the poker game has been good, i was thinking of inviting sf, i hear he is loaded down with ill-gotten easy money which i could help take off his hands and return to the rightful owners.

Fathertime!

[Gato4Astrid]

so many new usernames with very little postings, one of them could be SFNM!

What does SFNM stands for?

Sh*t Father No More
Shame Father No More
Scammer Father No More

 

[fathertime]

prior to this issue becoming public, i had written a letter to SF on behalf of another person who scammed out of some money.  i never received any response from that letter or the subsequent one that I sent SF telling him of the thread that had developed here.  I just checked my facebook acct. today and low and behold SF has unfriended me and blocked me as well...So just like those he owes money to, I'm also 'the bad guy' for being the messenger and taking a couple friendly jabs at him.  I'm not surprised.  For entertainment purposes, I would like to hear his side of the story, it is hard to imagine he is as evil as his actions indicate. 

Fathertime! 

[Fuzzyone]

prior to this issue becoming public, i had written a letter to SF on behalf of another person who scammed out of some money.  i never received any response from that letter or the subsequent one that I sent SF telling him of the thread that had developed here.  I just checked my facebook acct. today and low and behold SF has unfriended me and blocked me as well...So just like those he owes money to, I'm also 'the bad guy' for being the messenger and taking a couple friendly jabs at him.  I'm not surprised.  For entertainment purposes, I would like to hear his side of the story, it is hard to imagine he is as evil as his actions indicate. 

Fathertime! 

   From everything I read about S.F. and found I think it is no big loss. It kinda is like someone else we both know that use to be your good friend but you see where that went!

[william3rd]

did you look at the youtube video with his daughter dancing in the apartment? The background looks like something out of Hoarders. . . . . perhaps that is a reason why the evil indians were involved.

[Fuzzyone]

did you look at the youtube video with his daughter dancing in the apartment? The background looks like something out of Hoarders. . . . . perhaps that is a reason why the evil indians were involved.

  My own opinion is that is the evil mother in laws house but what makes it strange is that video was done in 2008 when the kids were suppose to be in his custody. Pretty strange since he hated the Indians for all that evil stuff they did to HIM oh I mean his kids right?

[z_k_g]

Guys,

Amazing story!

Just a fly on the wall on this post and boy its good!!

Zulu

[william3rd]

  My own opinion is that is the evil mother in laws house but what makes it strange is that video was done in 2008 when the kids were suppose to be in his custody. Pretty strange since he hated the Indians for all that evil stuff they did to HIM oh I mean his kids right?

I have a feeling that the evil Indian mother in law has nicer digs- probably a little larger TV as well. Doesnt borrow money on line either.  Kids seem well adjusted in the videos. Probably just holding all that fear inside.

[Fuzzyone]

I have a feeling that the evil Indian mother in law has nicer digs- probably a little larger TV as well. Doesnt borrow money on line either.  Kids seem well adjusted in the videos. Probably just holding all that fear inside.

  Could have swore the boy was pissing his pants in fear!

[Gromit]

For what it’s worth, I saw Jeff get into a taxi late one night in Chiclayo in or about September of 2009, and 30 minutes later I received a call from Roxie telling me Jeff had been robbed of everything but his clothing, including his watch and glasses. For months afterward he wore sunglasses everywhere he went.

Another Gringo in Chiclayo!  One story of his apparently checks out then.  Still, it doesn't change my opinion he shared many of his hard luck stories to generate support and sympathy.  

There are other examples that make me believe he fabricated some of the numerous hard luck stories.  Let me give a couple.

Jeff wrote,

"Two years ago through involvement of the Prime Minister Canada and his staff and through intense media coverage and a Police enforced court order my children were repatriated back to me."

Why is there no information found on the internet regarding Jeff's children being kidnapped then "repatriated"?  That seems very odd in my opinion.

Note Jeff's comments and timelines:

Jeff wrote,

"My kids were kidnapped from me 1 year after there Mother died and held on the Reserve. This nearly killed me and caused a lot of pain and damage to my kids."

(His late wife passed away July 15, 2004) yet on July 5th, 2005 Jeff wrote:

"My children and I are doing quite well now. Yes the 1st anniversary of my late wife's death will be hard on July 15."

It is possible that his children were kidnapped after July 5, 2005 but why is there no mention of this event on the forums soon after it occurred?  SFNM was posting on forums at the time.  

On PoorButHappy.com he posted under the alias WidowerfromCanada and wrote on September 18, 2005:

"I have been very busy with my children , work and life. I have taken a break from PBH and the internet for the last 3 months. I have been working on myself and looking forward to the future...I am going now to take a walk with my children and to have fun."

Jeff also stated,  (comments in italicized parentheses are mine)

"They (mother in-law and/or Ojibway Indian tribe?) tried to call child and protection services on me 2 days after my wife passed away and making threats against me and my children. When that did not work they tried to tell the coroner that her death was un-natural." and,

"The investigation (police) was finished with 24 hours and my children (the police were worried about a possible kidnapping) and I ended up under 24 hour police protection as ordered by the coroner for over 5 days."

Seems odd that if SF and the police were aware of a possible kidnapping attempt that protection only lasted a few days and the perpetrators succeeded "one year after" their mother died and managed to keep them two years.

I smell caca in Canada and Chiclayo and I'm calling bull-s-hit!

I’m not surprised Jeff ‘borrowed’ money. I am surprised at the magnitude of his activity. He borrowed money from me and paid it back in a reasonable amount of time, but perhaps that was because he couldn’t physically avoid me. The evidence that he bilked a lot of people seems irrefutable.

The evidence IS irrefutable!  Maybe those of us that loaned him money should pay a visit to see him so he couldn't physically avoid us.  Even if it would be trying to squeeze blood out of a turnip seeing the look on his face would be "priceless".  

I’m not defending him, but I don’t believe he intentionally and maliciously sets out to defraud people.

Why the surprise at the "magnitude of his activity" in "borrowing money" from people he has not paid back yet claim it wasn't intentional?  When the man told me I would be paid back over a year ago then cuts off all forms of communication is that not intentional and malicious?  Remember, I'm not the only one he lied to and borrowed money from.

From the moment I first met him I was convinced that he is the strangest character I’ve ever met – an impression that has not changed over time. Often his thoughts, mannerisms and actions border on bizarre and are an embarrassment to those in his company at the time. In Jeff’s world, helping people is good and Jeff needs help so people giving him money is good. That would be consistent with the logic I have seen him display.

Sounds like all the makings of a good (delusional) scammer.

Jeff has no marketable skills that I know of, so perhaps in his mind living off the efforts of others is justified. But intentional or not, the bottom line is a lot of people seem to be left holding the bag.

Not according to him.  

"My background and some skills are in running a successful consultancy business in the past, previous financial services background , Sales and Marketing experience and my management skills .  I am also a Naui Dive master..."

Still sounds like all the makings of a scammer.

One further opinion – don’t be too quick to assign guilt for the failed marriage.

Which proves...?

I last saw Jeff in a Chiclayo restaurant in January. I have not heard that he has left Chiclayo.

Do me a favor next time your run into the "strangest character you ever met" and let him know about the P-L posse on his trail.    

A final note, I know Jeff is aware of this thread so after reading it why hasn't he made a statement defending or explaining his actions?  I think it a bit obvious as to why the silence.  

I could be wrong so Jeff, after reading this, man up and make a post!  

Sources for some of the information posted:

http://www.planet-love.com/forum/index.php?topic=4258.0
http://poorbuthappy.com/colombia/post/my-story-part-1the-funeral-from-hell/
http://www.fftimes.com/node/67728

[raycjs]

Gromit,

Thank you for sharing all of this info with us all, i have found all the same information and so mush more. I also have 100rds of emails showing his life that details many of his stories. ( that is correct they are all stories with out any facts) if and when he every decides to MAN UP he better plan on telling the truth because if he wonders from the truth i will send out all the emails and info i have stored for the past 4 plus years.... Like i stated in the past i plan on dealing with the truth and only the truth

Ray

[william3rd]

Here's what sounds more real and makes much more sense. . . This hypothesis is based on the meanderings posted on the various websites and a basic understanding of how child dependency cases work..

The wife's family didnt like what was going on in that family and certainly didnt like Jeff. They apparently thought enough of him to think that he might have killed his wife since she died under such odd circumstances. He has been described as a strange guy to begin with

The family went to the tribal equivalent of CPS with whatever allegations they had. CPS took temporary custody of the children. Kids probably got temporarily placed with family members. After a protracted legal proceeding, custody was given back to the father. There was no kidnapping, no cops, no swat teams in the wings or any of the other trappings that are in the SFNM story. Which explains why you cant find any references to the situation except for the obituary. It also explains the "kidnapping" nicely.

In my experience, most BS artists have at least a kernal of truth to their fabrications. We start with the obituary and go from there. A kernal of truth and then fertilizer. . . .

Anyway, I have lost interest in this tale. Hope some of you donors get your money back.

[JimD]

"Me humpan" sort of sounds like a Spanish reflexive verb but it would translate "they´re humpin´ me". The case just ets curiouser and curiouser.