Single Father No More........ "Please Read"

[Gato4Astrid]

When some one asks for a loan in Colombia they mean gift. They just think prestar has nicer ring to it than regalar.

Yes , sure     SFNM was probably a Colombiano in his past life 

[Dave H]

KB


I saw Roxi on a dating site also and read her comments. I was surprised that  such a wonderful wife/stepmother (his words) would  comment about her bad marriage, I mean she did come from a conservative family, so I assumed she would be quite reserved.

Her experience must have been pretty bad she was willing to mention it in her profile.

I am not saying that he doesn't have issues...but there appears to be more than one side to this story. Has the ink even dried on their divorce papers yet? You would have thought that she would have taken some time off from the international dating scene to recover, before diving right back in to look for a "good" man so soon. (perhaps a better term for "good" would be "wealthy") I suspect that his lack of money was a major issue with her...probably why he was so desperate and hitting up so many people for it. I have been involved with many Latinas, one way or another, for over 4 decades. I always felt that Roxie was OVERACTING (even for a telenovela) with her professions of love for SFNM and his kids! Remember, not all of these ladies are innocent damsels in distress!

[JimD]

I suspect that his lack of money was a major issue with her...

That would be a reasonable conclusion. What peruana or colombiana would be happy marrying an American or Canadian only to find herself living in her own country in the same low end economic position she could have with any younger, better looking local guy? Sounds like the joke was on her.

[Gato4Astrid]

That would be a reasonable conclusion. What peruana or colombiana would be happy marrying an American or Canadian only to find herself living in her own country in the same low end economic position she could have with any younger, better looking local guy? Sounds like the joke was on her.

Unlike they already talked about it before they developed their relationships further.

[Fuzzyone]

I am not saying that he doesn't have issues...but there appears to be more than one side to this story. Has the ink even dried on their divorce papers yet? You would have thought that she would have taken some time off from the international dating scene to recover, before diving right back in to look for a "good" man so soon. (perhaps a better term for "good" would be "wealthy") I suspect that his lack of money was a major issue with her...probably why he was so desperate and hitting up so many people for it. I have been involved with many Latinas, one way or another, for over 4 decades. I always felt that Roxie was OVERACTING (even for a telenovela) with her professions of love for SFNM and his kids! Remember, not all of these ladies are innocent damsels in distress!

  That was SingleFather telling us how much she loved those kids not her. He also wrote that she told him to pack sand once before. I think that was about 4 years ago. I also remember that when he got down there to be with her S.F. was not happy about her spending some of her money to send her nephew to school. Nobody here has any ideal how long this has been going on but I read his post on another forum and it appears he was shown the door around Nov or Dec 2010. Now it is the end of Feb it would not surprise me that she is not already looking around. Do I find anything wrong with that? Nope . Is 5 or 6 months enough time to move on after your wife dies? Who knows who cares, it does not make either one a bad person. Each person has their own amount of time before moving on.

[Fuzzyone]

That would be a reasonable conclusion. What peruana or colombiana would be happy marrying an American or Canadian only to find herself living in her own country in the same low end economic position she could have with any younger, better looking local guy? Sounds like the joke was on her.

  I bet she was tired off hearing about Yvonne and how the Indians are tracking him down to steal the kids!

[Gato4Astrid]

  I bet she was tired off hearing about Yvonne and how the Indians are tracking him down to steal the kids!

They got married on Yvonne (I assume it was his late wife)'s birthday, did they?

[Fuzzyone]

They got married on Yvonne (I assume it was his late wife)'s birthday, did they?

  I think that about says it all. I wonder how many times he called her Yvonne instead of Roxie?

[Gato4Astrid]

 I think that about says it all. I wonder how many times he called her Yvonne instead of Roxie?

When I first learnt he got married on his late wife's birthday, I knew it was a very big mistake, but I did not say anything at all.  I wouldn't like to get married on my future's wife's "late" husbands/boyfriends birthday.   Roxie might have felt that she was the 2nd best!

[piglett]

I can only add that i did talk to SFNM once on the phone while he was still in Canada.
I didn't receive any request for money from him then or any other time.
he didn't sound like a crazy nutjob to me. Honestly i took him to be a nice guy. there are 3 sides to every story & the jury is still out on this case due to the fact that the man has not yet responded to what has been written on this board about him in resent days.
Until then all of you are just making guesses with only partial information.
do you think you all should hold off on the lynching till he at least shows up & tries to defend himself???


PIGLETT

[Kiltboy1]

I agree

There are more then her side of the story and hopefully he will come forward and let us know how he is doing. I know he has a lot of problems and for his kids sake, I hope he gets his life straightened out. He never asked me for $$ and we did speak on the phone several times.

KB

[michaelb]

When I first learnt he got married on his late wife's birthday, I knew it was a very big mistake, but I did not say anything at all.  I wouldn't like to get married on my future's wife's "late" husbands/boyfriends birthday.   Roxie might have felt that she was the 2nd best!

With very few exceptions, ex-spouses are all devils. OTOH, dead spouses were always saints......I can definitely understand the pressure on new spouse to live up to all the wonderfulness of the 'ghost'. Getting married on a significant date related to the 'dead saint' is certainly a mistake.

[william3rd]

I am not saying that he doesn't have issues...but there appears to be more than one side to this story. Has the ink even dried on their divorce papers yet? You would have thought that she would have taken some time off from the international dating scene to recover, before diving right back in to look for a "good" man so soon. (perhaps a better term for "good" would be "wealthy") I suspect that his lack of money was a major issue with her...probably why he was so desperate and hitting up so many people for it. I have been involved with many Latinas, one way or another, for over 4 decades. I always felt that Roxie was OVERACTING (even for a telenovela) with her professions of love for SFNM and his kids! Remember, not all of these ladies are innocent damsels in distress!

That whole story was pretty weird. I dont see how any woman could tolerate being around the eternal monument for the deceased spouse. And the kids had serious problems - inflicted perhaps by the Indians in Canada. The expectations were clearly not the same. Best of luck to all concerned.

[JimmySTLOUIS]

Well I have talked to SFNM a month or two ago

I also met him, Roxi and his kids in Chiclayo (about a year ago)

My whole family met his and we took them to eat pizza at the mall - I also gave him about $100 in grocery staples (as a gift)

I dont claim to know the guy real well but I can tell you that his kids were alright with me. I found the girl to be a delight to be around (she is close to JLO's sisters age) and the boy was a good kid - who just maybe needs a little old country ,old school type influence

I also found Roxi to be a nice person and I would consider her a saint for even trying to take on the situation that she did.

I actually like SFNM and I hope he clears up any issues of broken promises or loans.

He is working now in Chiclayo so I hope that he keeps his end of any bargains.

TE AMO PERU!
Jim

[flipit]

Has the ink even dried on their divorce papers yet? You would have thought that she would have taken some time off from the international dating scene to recover, before diving right back in to look for a "good" man so soon.

After I read your post Dave, I was wondering how long Roxie might have been a member of that site.  Her status is "I'm  separated and have no children."  She does not say 'divorced.'

Nobody here has any ideal how long this has been going on but I read his post on another forum and it appears he was shown the door around Nov or Dec 2010. Now it is the end of Feb it would not surprise me that she is not already looking around. Do I find anything wrong with that? Nope .

Then after I read this post from Fuzzyone,  I searched for her profile and noticed that her Member ID is not new, her profile was established a long time ago based on my knowledge of the member ID number sequence used by that site. I know for sure her member ID per dates Nov/Dec. 2010, twice the number of profiles have been created since she created hers.

Disclaimer: I do not imply that her profile was active during her marriage, maybe it was 'hidden or inactive' during that time, then after then separation, she dusted it off and polished it up with new pics and went active with it again.

Fuzzyone, she has since updated her profile with new pics and changed the text to merely reflect what she is seeking, no reference to any  unhappy marriage.

[Dave H]

Well I have talked to SFNM a month or two ago

I also met him, Roxi and his kids in Chiclayo (about a year ago)

My whole family met his and we took them to eat pizza at the mall - I also gave him about $100 in grocery staples (as a gift)

I dont claim to know the guy real well but I can tell you that his kids were alright with me. I found the girl to be a delight to be around (she is close to JLO's sisters age) and the boy was a good kid - who just maybe needs a little old country ,old school type influence

I also found Roxi to be a nice person and I would consider her a saint for even trying to take on the situation that she did.

I actually like SFNM and I hope he clears up any issues of broken promises or loans.

He is working now in Chiclayo so I hope that he keeps his end of any bargains.

TE AMO PERU!
Jim

Hey Jim,

I met him and the kids in person once. He was on his way to Peru to get married. Your opinion pretty much sums up my view. I never met Roxie...no doubt it was a difficult situation for her in many ways.

He doesn't owe me money...so I guess it is none of my business! But, it would be interesting to hear his side.

My friend married a Latina and had the wedding and  reception at the same venue (country club) where he had his first marriage. With about 10 million other facilities in Miami...I would have blown a head gasket if I was her! Some of these Latinas are a lot more tolerant than I (and some of us) give them credit for! They are still happily married after 8 years and have 2 kids.

Dave

[Henry]

Hey Jim,

I met him and the kids in person once. He was on his way to Peru to get married. Your view pretty much sums up my opinion. I never met Roxie...no doubt it was a difficult situation for her in many areas.

He doesn't owe me money...so I guess it is none of my business! But, it would be interesting to hear his side.

My friend married a Latina and had the wedding and  reception at the same venue (country club) where he had his first marriage. With about 10 million other facilities in Miami...I would have blown a head gasket if I was her! Some of these Latinas are a lot more tolerant than I (and some of us) give them credit for! They are still happily married after 8 years and have 2 kids.

Dave

Maybe he got a discount or a refund for the second one? If you get married here and your marriage fails, we will marry you again, at no cost. Or two for one special.

[Dave H]

Maybe he got a discount or a refund for the second one? If you get married here and your marriage fails, we will marry you again, at no cost. Or two for one special.

Hey Henry,

That's what I was thinking...so I asked him. He told me that he just liked the place. He wasn't even an avid golfer. His bride was well aware of the history, but didn't object or seem the least bit bothered. 

Dave

[Dave H]

Hey Flipit,

I don't know about Roxie, but I know far too many married ladies who are still out trolling for a bigger, better, deal!

Some guys will blindly defend all of the women of the particular country or culture of their new found love. I remember when SFNM was ready to throw down with anyone who had ANYTHING negative to say about Peruvianas! I have learned in my old age that there are good and bad everywhere!

Dave

[raycjs]

To All: I am glad this story has come to life, I will share with you all only the facts that i have and the things i have seen with my own eyes.... I have meet in person many of the guys on this board so my words should speak for themselves. SFNM has lied to me and has fallen of the face of the earth since OCT 2010 this was a guy who wrote on the boards on a daily bases and offered so many different types of words of wisdom but never practiced them himself... I first met him in person when i opened up my home to Jeff and his 2 children. I had a small lunch party at my home with Dave H form the board John (slojas) from the board and my self. everyone brought there wife and children and made Jeff fell like a king. we took his doughter shopping at the mall so she would have nice things and look good when she met Roxi for the first time. John (slojas) and Myself loaned Jeff a few thounsand dollars to help him with his trip to and from Peru to get married.Jeff promised to pay us both back. Please keep in mind the hell john (slojas) has been though.... well to this date we have not been paid back. we have been promised the world but we have not seen a dime. I went to Peru on December 26th 2009 until December 31st 2009. I met Roxi and her entire family in person, I met and saw Jeff and roxi and i saw how they where living. i can tell you Jeff was taking advantage of Roxi and her entire family. Jeff went to Peru with little to no money and expected her family to care for him and his new family it does not work like that. I could see in the mother and fathers eyes that there daughter Roxi had found a bad situation and they where all stuck in the middle. as a man and a father this must have eaten away at those parents every night.
I also witnessed on many occasion the children to be very disrespectful to roxi, roxi's, mother and roxi's, grand mother. and Jeff never taking control of his family and putting those children in there place.. what happen to respecting your elders..... when i left and went back home to the US roxi kept in touch with me via email and was asking me to help her get divorced from Jeff her and her family could not handle this any more. I am sorry to say i knew this was going to happen the first time i met Jeff and his children in my home. I told Jeff unless you control your children you will never have a women in your life. I also told him the pity pity me has got to stop. Roxi wrote me from Jan 2010 to Oct 2010 she filled me in on everything thing she was going though and all the lies Jeff had told and all the false hopes he had promised. she finally moved out and went back home. this women was burned out and worn out..I received a call and an email from roxi and she explained to me Jeff was going to go back to Canada to work and save money and was going to leave his children in Peru with his soon to be ex family to care for i called Jeff and told him he was out of his mind. what father or parent leaves there children in a 3rd world county and move back home by himself. this was one of the final straws for me. then after he went back home Roxi was writing me and calling me asking for help and asked for me to speak to Jeff about his children and speak to him about agreeing to the devoice... I can go on for pages and pages i have shared allot of this with other members on this board. i will tell all of you John and i and a lot of other members from this board got scammed by a total scam artist... Jeff played us all each and everyone of us..... I am sorry i asked this board to help and donated money on his behalf and i am sorry i got suckered into helping this man. Jeff Geauvreau is a scam artist and i have never met a guy that had the sky falling 24/7....if you can believe all he has said?

if any of you have questions please feel free to ask. I will only share the truth and the facts of what i know or have seen with my own eyes.

Ray

[Dave H]

Hey Ray,

That is all that I needed to hear! He screwed up and lost a very good lady! I wish Roxi the best and hope that she finds happiness with someone else soon!!!



Dave

[william3rd]

Sounds like another dysfunctional male searching abroad. I dont suppose that those evil Indians stealing those children were actually the wife's family trying to protect the children from "Jeff." He LEFT his children in a foreign land? WTF?!?!?!?! Is he receiving any Indian moneys for these children? What's up with that?

[raycjs]

Dave i am sorry to say i got had but i thought my hart was in the right place with the children you saw it with your own eyes how they where dressed and how they acted in my home around you and your family.
William as far as money and care from the Indians i have no facts so i could not elaborate on that. all i know is he left his children in Peru and went back home for a few months. i do not know if he is in Canada or Peru. I worry for his children and only his children i have no idea what type of education they are receiving if any?....

the only thing i find amazing is how he went from posted 10 times a day to nothing at all..... what does that tell us??

Ray

[william3rd]

We run into tribal law cases occasionally. Indian Child Welfare Act  prevents the courts from acting independently of tribal jurisdiction.

He left his children in Peru. . . . .  Child abandonment. How could he?

The tribe is named as the obituary for his wife is posted.

[Gromit]

i have not heard back from sfnm yet.

so grommit. i hope you don't mind if i ask you a question or two.  

1.  What does sfnm say when you confront sfnm about the money he owes you?

2. how long has this debt been outstanding?

thanks,
Fathertime!  

I loaned SF money over a year ago after he confided in me that he was going through some very difficult times while in Peru but under very specific conditions.  I needed to know exactly when I'd be paid back.  He gave me his "word and bond" that I would be paid the following month and even listed the sources of his income.  A song and dance routine since then.  

I bet she was tired of hearing about Yvonne and how the Indians are tracking him down to steal the kids!

Speaking of, was anyone able to verify the story about his children getting abducted by the Canadian Indian Tribe?  I think Jeff mentioned that it was featured on a television show but no one provided any links to the actual story.  In doing an internet search for this nothing comes up.

I can only add that i did talk to SFNM once on the phone while he was still in Canada.
I didn't receive any request for money from him then or any other time.
he didn't sound like a crazy nutjob to me. Honestly i took him to be a nice guy. there are 3 sides to every story & the jury is still out on this case due to the fact that the man has not yet responded to what has been written on this board about him in resent days.
Until then all of you are just making guesses with only partial information.
do you think you all should hold off on the lynching till he at least shows up & tries to defend himself???

PIGLETT

Single Father did come across both on the forums and over the telephone as a nice guy.  He worked in sales and consulting and is a personable guy to talk with.  I think he contacted many people off the forums.  Like any good scam artist he built up a trust and sympathy before taking advantage of a person.  I can't say that he intentionally befriended people with that in mind but he did do this with a number of his friends off the forums.

... I will tell all of you John and i and a lot of other members from this board got scammed by a total scam artist... Jeff played us all each and everyone of us..... I am sorry i asked this board to help and donated money on his behalf and i am sorry i got suckered into helping this man. Jeff Geauvreau is a scam artist and i have never met a guy that had the sky falling 24/7....if you can believe all he has said?

if any of you have questions please feel free to ask. I will only share the truth and the facts of what i know or have seen with my own eyes.

Ray

Thank you Ray for coming forward as it seemed there were a few that doubted my testimony.  

I did ask you a question before that I would like to ask again.  Do you know about how much money Jeff received from donations from this forum?