Crazy ex wife, this is why we look overseas for a good woman.

[Cbear]

My ex went nuts when she found out I was looking in the Philippines for a lady, she just went on and on about it. Calling me every name in the book, even telling the kids I was a loser cause I couldn't get an American girl.

Well, now, come to find out she has been chatting it up with a guy from England long before I started looking in PI and she has a guy in Paris France, HOLY CAMOLY!!! LOL

It gets better, she went out with a local guy she met on a dating site who has been chasing her for several months, she had sex on the first date. I know because she called and told me afterwards, like I really cared. Now she made this guy promise to be exclusive with her and she told him she would be exclusive with him.


WEEEELLLLLL, she met another guy the very next night at Walgreens and he picked her up and out she went with him. LOL, I just can't stop laughing, oh, and I'm the loser............................

[Bob_S]

Lew-zur.  What the hell's wrong with you that you'd let such an awesome example of American womanhood go like that.  Too bad you're not a winner like those Hole Brothers.

[Bear]

My "ex" did everything possible to hurt me once she realized I wasn't coming back.  She threw away (kept, sold, lost, broke, whatever) things that belonged to me, convinced my kids that I didn't love them because I was going to have more kids with another wife, started using a computer to chat with other men (used to get mad at me for having a computer), cut her hair real short because I like long hair, bought a new Mustang because I wanted one and bought a van instead since I was going to have more kids, started dating an illegal from Mexico who was just looking for an AW to make him legal, etc., etc., etc.  When ever she can she does something to be the evil daughter of Beelzebub I know she is.

You know what?  I couldn't care less.  I'm happy.

The Bear Family

[piglett]

Lew-zur.  What the hell's wrong with you that you'd let such an awesome example of American womanhood go like that.  Too bad you're not a winner like those Hole Brothers.

You are so rite Bob, how on earth could he not want a good woman like that???
CBear did you hit your head???

what were you thinking?




 he he he
 piglett

[bcc_1_2]

i'm getting old   people i went to school with are already starting to get divorced in their mid and late 20s. i know one guy in particular that never got married but had a kid. they got child support and custody issues handled out of court, but of course this woman was a complete pain in the ass to him.

he had to learn to just coordinate pickups and drops (and all things kid related) with the mom and nothing else. it would be a 5 minute conversation at most and if they'd get off topic he'd just hang up the phone or drive off etc. his ex g/f would bad mouth him to the kid and he really wasn't sure how to handle it. all you can really do is be a good dad. eventually he called up his attorney and he handled it. you can't reason or negotiate with his ex g/f. he learned not to argue, not to issue threats... just ignore her and if you have a major issue (like her bashing you to the kid) call your attorney.

Cbear, I'm guessing by your SN that you are kinda bear's understudy. he seems to have moved on from the ex wife. Maybe he can issue you some pointers on how to move on. Based on your post I can't think of any reason you'd want to have any type of communication with your ex other than to handle kid issues. The one issue that you can't just ignore seems to be her bashing you to the kids. I'd call your attorney and not bang your head against the wall trying to reason with her.

[Cbear]

Bcc, I agree with what you are saying, I do just try and keep it about the kids, but when she calls at midnight to tell me about her newest sexual exploit and is half toasted, it is better to just listen and let her brag. Otherwise it causes trouble trying to see my kids.

She has gotten better at not talking trash about me, children services put a stop to that. But she still controls the kids and it seems they never want anything to do with Daddy. At least until they are in the car finally and we are driving away. She makes them feel they have to choose sides. I don't, they will know the truth someday, but right now I don't think it is best I tell them anything.

I have a strange divorce agreement so we don't have set days on who gets the kids or set custody. Legally it is about 49% me 51% her. But in actuality it isnt even close. The good thing is she cannot make major decisions without me.


Funny thing, my child support amount is very reasonable, but the ex cant control her spending so now I am paying her rent for her (in lew of child support, we do have a written agreement on this) The kids were stressed out like crazy when they got an eviction notice. I don't want them on the street so I agreed to pay the rent which is about 40% more than my CS payments are supposed to be.

So if this is how AW are? LET ME OUT !!!

[bcc_1_2]

i'm getting a headache just reading about your situation. calls at midnight about her sexcapades... well i can say things got better for my friend as she slowly figured out he didn't care about anything she did. the more disinterested he acted the more hopeless it became for her antics. just my opinion but the day she believes you don't give a damn and there is nothing she can do about it... is the day she gives up bothering you.

My guess is when the new and improved wife arrives that should happen pretty quick. hang in there.  

Come to think of it I have no idea how his ex g/f would react if he brought home some stunning asian or latina girl. she might just go nuts.  

[Bear]

If she doesn't have a job and can't provide basic needs you should have custody.  I am surprised she got custody without a job because here in Texas if you don't have a job you do not get custody, PERIOD.  MOF, I was going to let my ex file for divorce once not having a job so I'd end up with custody and her child support but we ended up making up.   You might want to check into that.

The Bear Family

[Dave H]

That is why I quite talking to my ex years ago! Fortunately my kids are now adults, which makes it even easier. When I was talking to her (supposedly "about the kids"...yeah right!), many mango seasons ago, I never did hear about her latest "sexcapades." But she did indicate that it was hard to top ol' Dirk Diggler! 

Dirk Diggler

[Cbear]

Bear, she does have a job. She just can't control her spending.

I was an old, fat, ugly, bald guy that no woman would want. LOL

Funny thing is I had a really smoking hot American girl hit on me Saturday, Beautiful, nice and sweet. 26 years old. Sure did the ego good. I think she is one of the few good ones, but I would never take a chance on an AW again. It actually felt good to rebuff her advances.

Oh, her newest guy is a Greek Egyptian. hhmmm. Of course he is just the best. I just find it ironic that I got blasted for looking for a foreign lady but every guy she has been out with or chatted with is a foreigner except one. LOL

[piglett]

That is how an american womans mind works CBear
that is why they try every other kind of man that they can find,
what they are unable to figure out is that THEY are the problem, not the man.


piglett

[Jeff S]

You guys sure know how to pick 'em.

Sure glad I started traveling to Asia and Latin America when I was young and single so I had firsthand knowledge of what the rest of the world was all about before I settled for AW.

[Dave H]

I just find it ironic that I got blasted for looking for a foreign lady but every guy she has been out with or chatted with is a foreigner except one. LOL

Hey Cbear,

That is great hat your ex is into foreign men! She will eventually think that you were a saint! "Saint Cbear" While foreign wives are often a vast improvement over the average AW...it doesn't seem to work in the opposite direction.  Many foreign men are good at the romance (trying to get laid) part, but make lousy husbands! I can't tell you the number of AW's that I know that said American men were no good...then married Latinos. Most are now divorced or unhappily tolerate their husbands' mistreatment and sexcapades. The quicker they learn, the better...for them! American women should shape up!!!    Instead they desperately try to make laws that prevent us from marrying foreign ladies. Eventually the only American male that will get near them will be Ron Jeremy, whom they will be forced to worship!   

Dave

[Cbear]

I think that one in the red shirt is my ex wife.

Naaa, Ron would be running the other way !!!

[Jeff S]

That photo was looks like it was taken at Narita (Tokyo) airport.