What is virginity worth these days?

[creeper1]

Ha ha. There are many men that value virginity (myself included) on this board as a way of measuring a woman's morals and self control.  I know this is questionable but anyway.

Women instintively know the value we place on it hence some of them may mention something about being one when they are online chatting.

SO how much is it worth in America in hard cash terms? Well the answer seems to be $3.8 million! WOW! This is in the state of Nevada where prostitution is legal. 

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/01/22/virginity.value/index.html

Judging from the interest this girl has had and the bids she has received, Asain girls would make a ton of money if only prostitution was legal in their countries. Of-course I can't name any Asian countries were it is legal.

[evoltnvii]

I dont see a problem with a girl wanting to remain a virgin or not. Its her body its her choice. Men should not put this value on something that really does not matter. If you are with someone you love if they are a virgin or not does not matter and if it is an issue your not with the right person.

[Shadow_mas]

Men should put as much weight on a woman's virginity as on their own.

[jm21-2]

I believe in abstinence and have been myself. The girl I like told me she had a fling with a guy in college out of curiosity. I'm glad she was honest with me about it and she seemed like she regretted doing it, but still pretty disappointing...it's a very important value to me, not in a religious sense or a territorial sense so much as a romantic one, of being the only person each other has been with. But she has so many good qualities it seems awfully stupid if I were to turn her down for that reason.

[aakerfelt]

What is this obsession with Virginity?! I have never noticed it in any other connection but WM looking for AW. I just do not understand it! Are the men looking for Asian woman so unsecure in their self? Or is it just hard core christian who are looking for a virgin for their beliefs? I do not bye all this hype!

[Bear]

Like Creeper1, if I can wait then she should be able also.  Note my first wife was a divorcee so where it's important it wasn't a deal breaker she wasn't, but required some "explainable reason" like marriage or rape.  And after divorcing her I didn't have sex.  But if a girls out there passing it out for a good time on the weekend, she not marriageable material to me.  Her morals show she might have some issues she could pass on to my children (read daughters mostly).  It's something I don't want to deal with.  Although sex is (of course) very important I have found you won't die without it (you just think you are ). 

Think about the values you try to teach your children.  Telling them is they respect these things it will lead to a better life with less hassles and more rewards.  Then the next thing you do is pressure your girlfriend to ignore all these values her family talked about and start crashing her values and respect system.  To you its only a "good time".  Now that you destroyed that effort her belief system supported what kind of a woman are you going to have.  Will she cheat on you?   Will she value sex with you?  What will she teach her children about it and other values?

I've done it both ways and its much better to keep sex out of it until all decisions about married life are clear and if you think things won't come up the night before you marry I hope you don't get surprised.

The Bear Family

[aakerfelt]

"explainable reason" like marriage or rape. 

Sorry bear, just this sentence makes me loose a lot of my respect for you.! How can you even mention that in the same sentence, I hope it was a mistake!

[TurboSS]

I actually prefer a woman with some experience.  I took a girl's virgnity once and she definitely was the worst partner.  The ones who have some experience know what they are doing and know what they like.  On the other hand, I don't want some woman who goes around town slutting it up.

[aakerfelt]

Turbo

I agree with yoy, a giirl in her mid/ late twenties should have some experience. Not saying she is a slut! If you had 5-10 sexual encounters before 30. are you a slut?

[aakerfelt]

I just think this sick obsession with virginity is sick, and just enforce the bad name of getting a foreign bride! Let me guess, the men driving these "demands" are mostly driven by there own inconfidence an sexual inexperiience

[Bear]

We'll have to agree to disagree then.

The Bear Family

[aakerfelt]

ok bear. I can just not compare rape with even a bad marriage! the rest of your oppinions I respect but not agree with

[Capstone]

IMHO - Virginity is way overrated. I think that we as men should be much more concerned with what other qualities/issues that a woman may have other than whether or not she has ever had sex before. And it is my own personal experience that virginity (or the lack there of) has no bearing what so ever on what type of a person that someone is. My ex-wife was a virgin when we met and she turned out to be one of the most selfish and inconsiderate persons that I have ever known - so virginity does not equate into being an angel, that is for certain!!

[aakerfelt]

Capstone

I agree with yoy totally. It is double standard!  Yes we do not want a professional hooker. But should we have the right to ask for virginity if we are not our self. If you yourself are a virgin, you can look for a virgin

[aakerfelt]

I get the feeling there are a lot of men here, that can not get a girl at home and are going in to a hype! 50 something men want a 18 yo virgin. Whar do you think you will get out of it, expect taking her virginity and finally get sex?

[Jeff S]

akerfelt: Bear wasn't comparing the two. He was just saying that these are possible reasons that a woman isn't a virgin by choice. If not, the woman voluntarily chose to give it up out of wedlock - which is one of the issues with what these guys are saying.

Are the men looking for Asian woman so unsecure in their self?

Huh? What does Asian have to do with anything? Plenty of men looking for white, black and Latino women prefer virgins also.

Personally I didn't really care and married a divorced woman with a child, but I don't have a problem guys preferring unexperienced women. I surely don't see it as a sign of insecurity, inexperience, or religious zealotry.

I get the feeling there are a lot of men here, that can not get a girl at home and are going in to a hype! 50 something men want a 18 yo virgin. Whar do you think you will get out of it, expect taking her virginity and finally get sex?

I get the feeling that you haven't read the archives and know nearly nothing about the vast majority of the 50something men here. So before you jump to your simplistic conclusions, I suggest you do a bit more studying. Most of us 50somethings are married to women near our own ages, many who found themselves falling for younger women objected strongly at first, concerned about the age difference, but it was the women who convinced them that it wouldn't be a problem. So before you join the feminists mantra of dirty old ugly, bald men chasing ignorant submissive foreign brides to make them sex slaves, take just a little time to inform yourself.

[aakerfelt]

ok Jeff as I said it is only ny feeling

[aakerfelt]

i guess it is a löt of candidates here, but i feel stramge with  21
 years old, but she can not see this

[aakerfelt]

and no she is not a virgin,but latina

[CeeTeeEnn]

I just think this sick obsession with virginity is sick, and just enforce the bad name of getting a foreign bride!

In whose opinion exactly does "getting" a foreign bride (as opposed to marrying one) earn a "bad name", as you put it...?

Let me guess, the men driving these "demands" are mostly driven by there own inconfidence an sexual inexperiience

...so obviously not by the sincere desire common among Christian men to marry a woman who preaches and practices sexual abstince before marriage?

This topic re-emerges time and again of forums such as this and invariably generates more hot air than a UN convention on climate change. Nevertheless, as you can see for yourself, the posters here are offering divergent but nevertheless well-balanced, not to mention gramatically correct and well-written, opinions on this subject.

The only poster with a "sick obesesion" with virginity seems to be you.

[aakerfelt]

ok,

[aakerfelt]

...so obviously not by the sincere desire common among Christian men to marry a woman who preaches and practices sexual abstince before marriage?

I do not know, bit you are going to find amy girls im yje world

[aakerfelt]

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[Ray]

I do not know, bit you are going to find amy girls im yje world

Could you please repeat that...but slowly this time?   

[Bob_S]

SO how much is it worth in America in hard cash terms? Well the answer seems to be $3.8 million! WOW! This is in the state of Nevada where prostitution is legal. 
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/01/22/virginity.value/index.html
Judging from the interest this girl has had and the bids she has received, Asain girls would make a ton of money if only prostitution was legal in their countries.

The difference is, most of the Asian women claiming to be virgins probably are. Whereas, for the little trollop mentioned in the article,

I'll bet her virginity is about as real as the 3.8 million samolians the Aussie is offering. 

bit you are going to find amy girls im yje world

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