Chatroom..... Problem

[Stagga]

 I saw plenty of problems in the chat room! am i allow to say the name of the site?
 okay i choice not to say it lol..

this is one of those!

Woman Say: if you want our relationship works, you need to turn off your profile and stop coming to the chat room, because simply everybody knows everyone in there.

Men Say: i' m going to the chat room, when ever i want, don't tell me what i can do or not!

Woman Say: the problem is if you keep coming back there, people are going to ask you.... hey how's your relationship with your girl friend/boy friend, they love to ask, after asking they love to gossip.

Men Say : even u broke up with me, i would never stop coming back in there, i have a lot of fun if i am there!

Woman Say: so you choice your friends there over me? 13 months being together is a joke?

Men Say: well yeah.. if you say so!


  Now Guy's i need your opinions!!!



 

[GatoAzul]

Latinamericancupid or colombiancupid? lol


One important question - -- Is her profile turned off?

[Stagga]

Latinamericancupid or colombiancupid? lol


One important question - -- Is her profile turned off?

No He would never turn off his profile, even the girl broke up with him.

its cupid doh.... your getting closer!!!

[Stagga]

Here the follow up...

the woman start telling him to stop coming there, because they have this big fight that almost lost everything,

what's the reason their fight "the gossip" someone said she cheated on you and bla bla!

[GatoAzul]

No He would never turn off his profile, even the girl broke up with him.

its cupid doh.... your getting closer!!!

I guess it would be FH  

Maybe he did not turn off his profile because she hasn't turned off hers ??

If he really loves her, he would have turned off his profile, but she also should turn off her profile if she loves him.  Both of their profiles should be turned off.

If she has turned off her profile, but he did not, ask him an important question.  Ask him WHY he still have not turned it off and ask him what is he looking for in the FH site.  I thought chat room in FH is in longer in use.

[Shadow_mas]

My idea.... if she asks him not to come in the chat room....and she heard the gossip in there....perhaps SHE should stop going in there as well. 

[Stagga]

I guess it would be FH  

Maybe he did not turn off his profile because she hasn't turned off hers ??

If he really loves her, he would have turned off his profile, but she also should turn off her profile if she loves him.  Both of their profiles should be turned off.

If she has turned off her profile, but he did not, ask him an important question.  Ask him WHY he still have not turned it off and ask him what is he looking for in the FH site.  I thought chat room in FH is in longer in use.

not fh

the girl have no problem turned off her profile, the girl said she don't need the chat room no more, she found the love of her life which is him! talking to msn and yahoo is totally enough no need those crap in the chat room!

the girl love him so much, even the password of all the emails she have, she give it to him
no problem, girl said i have nothing to hide!

[GatoAzul]

not fh

the girl have no problem turned off her profile, the girl said she don't need the chat room no more, she found the love of her life which is him! talking to msn and yahoo is totally enough no need those crap in the chat room!

the girl love him so much, even the password of all the emails she have, she give it to him
no problem, girl said i have nothing to hide!

CB  

I think he is very insecure about her.  If he doesn't trust her or still is very insecure, then there is no relationships at all.

I think she should start looking for better and secure man. 

[Stagga]

My idea.... if she asks him not to come in the chat room....and she heard the gossip in there....perhaps SHE should stop going in there as well. 

its just not gossip, if the girl friend don't check on him, maybe before she know it her bf was already with another woman.

well its happen already when his girl friend cant online for 15 days because she's taking her vacation,
the guy started to flirting with this Indonesia woman, saying such a comment like i really love your smile and i love your voice,
umm never end from there, they go farther chated in MSN, Indonesia  girl wants ym because i guess her ym connected to her cellphone and take note the girl made a yahoo account just for him, Indonesian woman ask him to go sign in there so that they can have contact while she was at work! 

sometimes woman can be that desperate huh

how stupid this guy to follow this Indonesian woman that he just meet!

[GatoAzul]

She needs to forget about him and move on to look for a better man.   He is not worth it.  He cheats on her by talking to Indonesian woman which means he will do it again when she goes another 15 days vacation ........

[Shadow_mas]

It seems they do not trust each other. Have they met ? If not, such problems are more than they should have at this time.
For both it would be best to say goodbye and look for others.

[Stagga]

She needs to forget about him and move on to look for a better man.   He is not worth it.  He cheats on her by talking to Indonesian woman which means he will do it again when she goes another 15 days vacation ........

he said its just talk as friends!!

and last night i saw the guy being out of control again, he told someone umm not Indonesian this time....... filipina he said i like you from the very start and the girl friend was there reading what he types..... crying inside!!! and take note
when you asked him next day you say this and that he said i don't say any of that....!!! how could he say hes not... i think his high or sleepy i don't know, because he cant remember  what he did, plenty of people was there looking at him being stupid.

[Stagga]

It seems they do not trust each other. Have they met ? If not, such problems are more than they should have at this time.
For both it would be best to say goodbye and look for others.

they already meet in person, actually he asked her to marry him,
but the guy divorce papers  not yet final.. still on process so the girl willing to wait, because she really do love this men so much, i saw her crying so many times  

[Bob_S]

It seems they do not trust each other.
For both it would be best to say goodbye and look for others.

+1.

The issue isn't chat rooms, it is trust and trustworthiness.

If he is trustworthy, she should have no problem with him hanging out in chat rooms.  Afterall, a trustworthy man who is engaged will not flirt with other women.  If he is trustworthy but she still doesn't trust him, it is her psychological problem, and she should shut her pie hole and get some therapy.  If she doesn't trust him because he is fundamentally untrustworthy, then what the hell is she doing getting engaged to a man she knows she can't trust?  How pathetically desperate is that?

If she finds out he is e-cheating after one little tiff, she should be glad she found out what kind of guy he is now.  Better now than after she says "I do."  Do you know the metaphor "dodged a bullet"?

[Romello]

[quote
they already meet in person, actually he asked her to marry him,
but the guy divorce papers  not yet final.. still on process so the girl willing to wait, because she really do love this men so much, i saw her crying so many times  
[/quote]

You see, this the crap men do to women that ticks me off.  My advise to her ould be to just move on and let that looser go.  A REAL MAN would have a lot more respect.

My Fiance and I both have ads on Cherry Blossoms.com  Only now they both have our photos of us together.  Even more I have her password and she has mine.  Anyone who visits my ad will see her and the same with her ad. 

I hide nothing from her and it is he same wtih her.  Howeer, she did mintion she wanted friends one day.  So she went back on the site to meet other men.  One of these guys wanted her to dump me.  She responded by giving me his information so I could write to him.  I trust her completly and she trusts me.

I hate to see a guy mistreat a woman.  I work out and stay in shape because I never know when I may have to tune some guy up because he hits a woman.  I've been there many times and I will be there many times more.

No man should hit a woman, nor should he stand by and allow another man to do the same.

.....anyway, that' just me.

[Cbear]

its just not gossip, if the girl friend don't check on him, maybe before she know it her bf was already with another woman.

well its happen already when his girl friend cant online for 15 days because she's taking her vacation,
the guy started to flirting with this Indonesia woman, saying such a comment like i really love your smile and i love your voice,
umm never end from there, they go farther chated in MSN, Indonesia  girl wants ym because i guess her ym connected to her cellphone and take note the girl made a yahoo account just for him, Indonesian woman ask him to go sign in there so that they can have contact while she was at work! 

sometimes woman can be that desperate huh

how stupid this guy to follow this Indonesian woman that he just meet!

Giant red flag, there is no reason whatsoever to go 15 days without communication, even a day or 2 is too much. I don't care where she went, or what she did on her vacation, she could have gone to an internet cafe somewhere and remained in contact. I haven't had more than 12 hours go by since I met my girl that I haven't heard from her somehow someway. There is no excuse for that.

All that said, that guy is obviously a jerk.

[Ray]

Here's my theory, for what it’s worth.

When you love someone, you should never do anything to hurt that person or even make them feel very uncomfortable, no matter how innocent the act or how trustworthy you might be.

If it hurts her for you to be associating with other women, then don’t do it. After marriage, you may need to make some adjustments for the sake of harmony. You may even have to re-evaluate your relationship with some of your friends if your mate is very uncomfortable with them. That may even apply to some overly obnoxious or insensitive family members.

As always, take the time to get to know each other as well as you can before committing to a lifetime together. If one partner is excessively sensitive or jealous, then that’s something you want to know ahead of time. Know what you are getting into and then adapt accordingly.

Always try to put your mate first and hopefully she will do likewise.

Ray

[Bear]

Trust is everthing.  Once lost its almost never fully recovered.  But I can understand the girls hope that he can or he will change.  Most men don't change, women do.  But neither is very successful at changing the other, so trust must exist.

The Bear Family

[Stagga]

Giant red flag, there is no reason whatsoever to go 15 days without communication,

Hi Cbear

Absolutely yes there is communication! the girl friend called him every time she knows that her boy friend is home already from work, she called again before her bf go to bed just to say good night you sleep well or just simply say i miss you/i love you, she always txted him too, sure she go online but not as often like they always do at home.

okay this is shocky the girl friend called him one time around 6:pm Philippine time Ummm 3:am west cost time, he still awake he say that he was cleaning OMG OMG!!!
THE GIRL FRIEND HAD THE FEELINGS ALREADY!!! if you know what i mean.

[Cbear]

then she needs to dump him,  BTW, I have done cleaning in the middle of the night before, I guess that is a guy thing.

Tell her to re open her profile and look for a guy that doesn't go to the chat rooms.

I am sure she thinks it is the end of the world but it isn't, there are many men out there who will treat her right. She just has to find him.

[Stagga]

The worse thing....

he told the Indonesian woman that his girl friend ask help finacially, and the Indonesian woman started telling everyone in the chat room, that his girl friend was a scamer,

she's been hurt hearing all of that, its suppose to be between him  and her if you help you don't need to brag about it, its private!!!

but i guess their friendship is getting closer.

there are plenty of talks about her, around the chat room. make her 

Because some are not true.  for her

[Stagga]

The only thing that the girl want/wish.... is him to get over with the chat room and they will fine, but the guy would never stop coming back in there. 

[piglett]

this sounds like a tough call



piglett

[Stagga]

this sounds like a tough call

lol... what you mean? 

[piglett]

 
tough call for her i mean
cut & run or stay the course