New to the forum...any suggestions?

[Luv4u2Cherrish]

Hello everyone.

I am new to this site and thought I should say 'Hi" and introduce myself.

I am 46 years old, caucasian, 5'-9.75" tall, great shape, divorced since 1999, have two teenage daughters and had a vasectomy while in my marriage. I live in the Seattle Washington area and am an engineering professional who makes a good living...though not rich, I do pretty well.

I am tired of AW's who don't appreciate a kind, loving, affectionate, mentally strong and giving man...with their "what have you done for me in the last 30 seconds" attitude.

I have had the positive experience of dating and loving a 27year old Thai lady and a 38 year old Vietnamese lady.

Though I had written off the idea of ever marrying again, especially AW, with my short experience with Asian women I find myself thinking of finding that one special lady to settle down with.

I have browsed several Asian, Latin & FSU sites. I am more attracted to the Asian ladies. I am concerned as to my marketability since I cannot father any more children.

Any advice from those who have gone before me is greatly appreciated.

Sean

[william3rd]

Ive been familiar with Thailand for over 20 years. You can read my trip reports. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I can tell you alot about women and agencies in Thailand as well as what works and what doesn't.

Good hunting. . . .

[Dave H]

Hi Sean,

Welcome to P-L!

I gave up on ever getting married again and was really not interesred...until I met my now Filipina wife. I have found that Filipinas are very family oriented and love children. Most would love to have at least one child and a mestizo baby is a dream for many. There are older women and  others who cannot have children as well. But even if you are done raising children, you cannot rule out that some of these ladies might want to adopt a relative. Filipinas are quite tolerant and flexible. Be very open with your situation and she may accept it. It can always be reversed should you desire to do so. I know a Filipina who loves children more than anyone I have ever met. I don't think that I have ever seen her in a photo where she wasn't holding one. Yet she fell in love with a Kano who had a vasectomy and they are childless, yet still happily married after 12 years. Sure it may limit your marketability, but with all the Asians on earth...who cares!!! I figure you still have a few billion to choose from.

Good luck,

Dave

[Bear]

Welcome Sean,

I am 54 and have 3 children between the ages of 6 years and 13 months.  I met my wife, 26 years younger than me, a few weeks before my 46th birthday.  Filipinas do not see age as an inhibitor to anything.  When I tell my wife I'm just too old she gets all over me and starts pointing out all the couples where the father is older and they have children.  If you seriously want to control that aspect of a Fil-Am marriage do not look for a girl in her 20's or early 30's and just possibly expect the Filipina to agree not to have any children then throw a tampo when you don't get her pregnant (this was part of Don2222's problem and divorce).  Filipinas are very tradition family oriented women - they want you to make decisions and they want to have children and have a successful marriage.  As long as they are on that path they make it work.  But get them off that path like being a wimp (I also call it being a stupid) or telling them they can't be mothers and it gets very difficult very quickly.

Other than that we think the same and I think you'll end up with plenty to choose from.  Be very clear, don't lie, ask lots of questions about everything important to you - if its important or something you would like or expect, then ask or forever hold you peace cause you might not get it for a long time.  Scammers do not like answering questions because it becomes harder to keep their lies straight.  The good girls will eagerly participate so they can prove they'll be good wives and their marriage will be successful.  Forget about things like age, weight, looks, money,hair because their importance in choosing a mate for Filipinas is way down the scale.  Security and opportunity seem to be the highest rankings.

Where as I agree most Asians are "hot" the reason I choose Filipnas is they speak English have similar religious and political views and put "the marriage" ahead of things like looks, age, hair, money, etc.  Make sure you understand the affluence of her family on her and what control she will give them in your marriage.  Many expect to come here and work and send that money home to their family, in effect taking control of your marriage away and putting her family ahead of ya'lls family.  Never send money.  Even if you think you have a good reason if often causes more problems than it fixes, I learned that the hard way.

The Bear Family

[piglett]

(and had a vasectomy while in my marriage)



Hello everyone.

Sean i know for a fact that you can get it reversed if you wish to in the future
I have seen huge billboards advertising vasectomy reversal in more than 1 major city in the US.


good luck with your search
piglett

[william3rd]

Vasectomy reversals? Dont count on it. Been there and done that. In vitro is better and you dont have to have your nuts cut up a second time. Less than a 50% success rate in vas reversal but that is a higher percentage that the fiancee visas so what the hell. . .

[Jeff S]

Your marketability? That's an interesting way to look at it. If you're dead set on a very young woman, that might be an issue that she'll want children, but if you're interested in only a good wife, who may be a little closer to your age, or one that already has a child, you'll have far more choices and far less competition. My guess is that your current fatherability status will have little, if any effect on how Asian women view you as a potential husband. As Bear has said many times, you're the prize.

I applaud people like Bear who are willing to and put their all into the family thing a second time around, but personally would never consider it. There's an old joke about a priest and a minister arguing about when life begins. The priest says it's at the instant  of conception, while the minister said it is when the baby's heart starts beating and brain function begins. A rabbi happens by and listening to both sides, interjects - "You both have it wrong. Life begins when the last kid leaves home and the dog dies."

[Larry178]

ROFLMAO

I married at 60, had another kid at 63, plus took over the dad factor with my two stepkids and I would do it again in an instant.  Everyone is different.  For me, kids make the day.

Larry

[Bear]

Life is family!  Who wants to be alone?

The Bear Family

[Dave H]

For me, kids make the day.

Larry

Hey Larry,

Same here! I have kids 23, 19, 5, and another due next week.  I also have a 12 y/o niece living with us, who is like a daughter.

Dave