Fathertime strikes fools gold or what?

[fathertime]

Have you ever met one of those gals whose filthy feet you would lick clean with your pristine tounge?  

Aside from the gal I am obsessed with, I also have several nice and attractive gals that I have the option to see more of and I am forcing myself to do just that, BUT the only one I really want at this time is the one giving me the most ambiguous signs!  And it is not about her being a CHALLENGE, it more about lust I think!  

The woman I am obsessed with does these things:
1.  Over the period of one month, webcammed with me religiously, always there, I had to cut of the conversations because it was just too much
2.  Comes to see me religously after work 8:10pm.  
3.  Won't let me kiss her, it is becomming a running joke, I make the move she pulls away, I smile sheepishly she becomes nervous!
4.  Allows me to massage her entire body *well not entire" but almost entire! hehe
5.  Does not want me to show affection in public "Hand holding is out of the question", and is concerned about her reputation.
6  Does not ask for money, seems to have concern if I overspend, always looks at the bills to make sure me "The dumb gringo" doesn't get screwed
7. Constantly gently teases me about my appearance and mannerisms, *can't say I blame her*  
8 Has invited me to family dinner saturday evening...
RELEVANT FACT
 is 23 years old...smoking hot to me...objectively looking at her from outside persective a 7.75 on the 1-10 scale.

I have been with her for 3 nights now, but we seem to have stalled in 1ST gear in the physical department.  Normally I cut bait if this happens, but I just can't seem to do that in this case!  I have told her point blank that she does not have to see me if she doesn't want to, yet she retorts that I am being ridiculous and continues to show up!  What does this woman want from me?  My main concern is that I can't get somewhat physical with her, to me that is a bad sign and trumps all the others....especially since I don't think she is conservative in that regard.  

I just can't seem to stop tripping over myself with this gal!  I am thinking that if she ever was to become my lady, she would make my life very difficult but that isn't stopping me from working like a dog to make that happen!  I think I am a glutton for punishment!

There are many more details but I think I better keep them to myself for now, and I gotta run to a date with another beautiful and levelheaded woman that I am not obsessed with!

Thoughts, opinions, criticisms welcome...just don't piss me off or I will retain Pdaddy's knuckle sandwich service center!  hehe


Fathertickingtimebomb!
 

[soltero]

I am with you Fathertickingtimebomb!

[papi]

A gringo once told me that if a Latina is not biting on your ear by the second date, she is simply not into you. Based on my experience, I feel this holds true.

Sounds like you are in somewhat of a pickle. My advice is not to push her anymore....and try and line up some other citas while you are there.

Keep things going with her but not during prime time....maybe you can meet her for lunch during her work break. But make an effort to meet some other ladies while you are there. Maybe Jamie can help. The other agency is http://www.colombiasbest.com. They will deal!

I also can send you a couple hotties from my private stock. Flaky but hot!! Maybe they will go for the Uncle Fester Foto....let me know if i can help

Good luck!

[Alabamaboy!]

So you are there in BAQ or Cali or where?

I think Papi is right.....I think she should at least be kissing you or showing you some kind of love by now.

I think at least by the third date.  Especially when she knows there is other competition and you are only there for so long.

Don't forget to tell her you are looking for someone very special and you need to know how is the "chemistry" before you cut loose any of the other babes and "take this relationship to the next level".

[Alabamaboy!]

Papi is that agency new?  There are more than a few girls on that website who are also members of Jamie's flock.  I thought he does not allow that?  Or are the pics just cut and paste from other site?

[papi]

Papi is that agency new?  There are more than a few girls on that website who are also members of Jamie's flock.  I thought he does not allow that?  Or are the pics just cut and paste from other site?

They have been around for a long time but barely in business. They are not the most professional agency but they will deal if you flash them some cash. I have also met several hotties and some past brief novias through them. Their office is near the El Prado.

[papi]

I think Papi is right....

Membership is off the charts. Yo FT, again I have a few babes I can send your way.....I struck out but maybe you will have better luck with that sexy hairdo of yours. Shoot me a PM. I will need to do some homework so I don't want to dig up my BQ black book unless you require hottie assistance.

[fathertime]

Believe me guys I know what should be occuring by now! Normally I am gone after date number 2 if nothing is going on physically,  but sometimes I guess you just have to let things play out completely, even if think you think you know the outcome in advance.

Paps, I appreaciate the offer for more gals, but I have plenty already, it is just my heart is not entirely into the others until I completely resolve my obsession with my primary gal!  I must say the other gal I just came back from lunch with showed me the type of love I like to see/feel! Amazingly, I chose to be the cheek kisser in that case but the option remains open to take that to another level and I just might. 

Tonight should be an adventure, I am looking forward to being teased and tantalized then rebuffed when I go in for the kill!  I already told her I was not going to go for the kill anymore, but when the Primary Target is directly in front of me,  showing me that silky skin and cafe eyes, I likely will break down, unless of course I detach my nuts and place them in a jar for safekeeping!

I sometimes wonder what my babe's motivation is to dedicate so much time and effort with me, if it wasn't interest. Although I do remember a couple years back I had something similiar occur with another babe, spent nights with her, slept over, yet would not get physical, this is sorta like a rerun!
Hell, as long as this is a rerun I can think of a couple different reruns I would rather participate in!
No complaints though, it is alll an adventure, and in the end the outcome isn't going to kill me, either way!  Well actually maybe it will...but that wouldn't be a bad way to go, if you get my drift! hehe

machin: barranquilla is the location where I am.

Fathertickingtimebomb!

[papi]

well, i have some super hotties that could definitely help get your mind off the cheek kisser and maybe rock your world. I am here if you need me....

suerte....maybe try putting some miel on your cheek. It might get her to hang around there longer....

[Researcher]

Have you ever met one of those gals whose filthy feet you would lick clean with your pristine tounge?  

Aside from the gal I am obsessed with, I also have several nice and attractive gals that I have the option to see more of and I am forcing myself to do just that, BUT the only one I really want at this time is the one giving me the most ambiguous signs!  And it is not about her being a CHALLENGE, it more about lust I think!  

The woman I am obsessed with does these things:
1.  Over the period of one month, webcammed with me religiously, always there, I had to cut of the conversations because it was just too much
2.  Comes to see me religously after work 8:10pm.  
3.  Won't let me kiss her, it is becomming a running joke, I make the move she pulls away, I smile sheepishly she becomes nervous!
4.  Allows me to massage her entire body *well not entire" but almost entire! hehe
5.  Does not want me to show affection in public "Hand holding is out of the question", and is concerned about her reputation.
6  Does not ask for money, seems to have concern if I overspend, always looks at the bills to make sure me "The dumb gringo" doesn't get screwed
7. Constantly gently teases me about my appearance and mannerisms, *can't say I blame her*  
8 Has invited me to family dinner saturday evening...
RELEVANT FACT
 is 23 years old...smoking hot to me...objectively looking at her from outside persective a 7.75 on the 1-10 scale.

I have been with her for 3 nights now, but we seem to have stalled in 1ST gear in the physical department.  Normally I cut bait if this happens, but I just can't seem to do that in this case!  I have told her point blank that she does not have to see me if she doesn't want to, yet she retorts that I am being ridiculous and continues to show up!  What does this woman want from me?  My main concern is that I can't get somewhat physical with her, to me that is a bad sign and trumps all the others....especially since I don't think she is conservative in that regard.  

I just can't seem to stop tripping over myself with this gal!  I am thinking that if she ever was to become my lady, she would make my life very difficult but that isn't stopping me from working like a dog to make that happen!  I think I am a glutton for punishment!

There are many more details but I think I better keep them to myself for now, and I gotta run to a date with another beautiful and levelheaded woman that I am not obsessed with!

Thoughts, opinions, criticisms welcome...just don't piss me off or I will retain Pdaddy's knuckle sandwich service center!  hehe


Fathertickingtimebomb!
 

          I have to say FT, this does sound kinda strange, I mean not even a kiss? Does she give you a reason?

          But whats more puzzling to me is why you keep seeing her? What is it about this chica that keeps you coming back for more of the same?

[papi]

          But whats more puzzling to me is why you keep seeing her? What is it about this chica that keeps you coming back for more of the same?

obsession, been there - done that. Typically it is a prelude to failure. However, sometimes we can't help ourselves. We are men!

[Researcher]

           Papi,
           Obsession? you mean the perfume?  

           Obsession, prelude to failure or a restraining order?

           P.S.: You are correct Fruco ketchup is awful.I think its made with rotten tomatoes.

           

[papi]

P.S.: You are correct Fruco ketchup is awful.I think its made with rotten tomatoes.

my favorite subject but I don't want to get sent to the principals office again talking about ketchup

[RJS]

Believe me guys I know what should be occuring by now! Normally I am gone after date number 2 if nothing is going on physically,  but sometimes I guess you just have to let things play out completely, even if think you think you know the outcome in advance.

Paps, I appreaciate the offer for more gals, but I have plenty already, it is just my heart is not entirely into the others until I completely resolve my obsession with my primary gal!  I must say the other gal I just came back from lunch with showed me the type of love I like to see/feel! Amazingly, I chose to be the cheek kisser in that case but the option remains open to take that to another level and I just might. 

Tonight should be an adventure, I am looking forward to being teased and tantalized then rebuffed when I go in for the kill!  I already told her I was not going to go for the kill anymore, but when the Primary Target is directly in front of me,  showing me that silky skin and cafe eyes, I likely will break down, unless of course I detach my nuts and place them in a jar for safekeeping!

I sometimes wonder what my babe's motivation is to dedicate so much time and effort with me, if it wasn't interest. Although I do remember a couple years back I had something similiar occur with another babe, spent nights with her, slept over, yet would not get physical, this is sorta like a rerun!
Hell, as long as this is a rerun I can think of a couple different reruns I would rather participate in!
No complaints though, it is alll an adventure, and in the end the outcome isn't going to kill me, either way!  Well actually maybe it will...but that wouldn't be a bad way to go, if you get my drift! hehe

machin: barranquilla is the location where I am.

Fathertickingtimebomb!

Just to provide you with some perspective, every time I have done this it has been a [snip]ing disaster. If she's not getting physical with you, there's a reason, and I highly doubt it's her chastity. The trick of some women is that they're very good at disguising themselves as what men want beyond the physical, but really they're just stringing you along for some reason of their own. I once dated a woman that would talk about the future (in a good way), tell me about gifts she was going to get me or dinners she was going to take me out for (she was going through a rough patch and I was generous with her), but it was really just a sham to build my trust and create the illusion that she was a generous, giving woman so that I would continue to be a generous and giving man. None of it ever materialized and I wasted far too much time and money on her.

[papi]

Well, I don't have a lot of patience. But if I did, I'd keep her in storage while I went back on the hunt. A woman can't expect exclusivity if there is no physical relationship.

[sabound]

this girl is just not into you , looking for dinners ect . Move on to other ladies ....

[P Daddy]

Whatever you do, don't introduce her to Gringo B...

[fathertime]

Good point Pdaddy, I am keeping her far away from you or perhaps I should introduce you two just to further torture myself!

Thanks RJS, that post hits home, especially since I have played this game before!

I gotta move on to plan b, but first I am going to make a final play for plan a!

Plenty of other babes that actually are interested, just as soon as I get slapped back into reality this evening!

I will never completely understand these silly ladies, but that is not my job!

I gotta shower up for my last date with 'the obsession' now!
Whoo hoo!

Fathertickingtimebomb!





 

[Researcher]

         Hey PapaTiempo,

                 I was hoping to get some more info on the situation but I agree with what most have said here and this is my theory of what is going on: You are "obsessed" ( I am thinking more along the lines of infatuated) with her and she knows it.So, she is hanging around to get what she can out of you.Whether or not this is the case it sounds like this situation is too one sided, I'd walk away from it if I were you and if she chases after you, run!

               Just my thoughts,

               Researcher

[Researcher]

I gotta shower up for my last date with 'the obsession' now!
Whoo hoo!

Fathertickingtimebomb!
 

             Hey guys,
                   I say if FatherTime comes back from this "last date" talking about how she has "changed" we need to do a PlanetLove intervention. I'd hate to see FT get "sucker punched", there are too many chicas out there to be "obsessed" with just one.

             

[fathertime]

             Hey guys,
                   I say if FatherTime comes back from this "last date" talking about how she has "changed" we need to do a PlanetLove intervention. I'd hate to see FT get "sucker punched", there are too many chicas out there to be "obsessed" with just one.

I WROTE THIS POST LAST NIGHT BUT PL WENT DOWN OR SOMETHING

Christ I feel horrible now...Me and my lady wound up in my apartment as she just wanted to hang out and that was fine with me.  We wound up having a prolonged chat and ultimately I made her cry.  I don't know if I tossed the 'genuine article' to the curb or someone that was simply using me.  This episode is going to scar me, that is for sure.  I don't know that I have ever hurt a woman feeling so bad...seemingly

I don't know what to make of this whole thing.  During the course of our time together she has compared me to 'A Wolfman' 'a gorilla'  "Shrek" and worst of all the actor "Philip Seymour Hoffman " but now she tells me it was all a joke and she really likes my appearence. Well anyway...I sent her home very sad this evening.  

UPDATE 15 MINUTES LATER:  My obsession is bombarding me with IM's now.  I think I may have misread this situation terribly or maybe that is what I am doing now...Hell I am a middle aged man breaking up and reuniting as if I am a pimple faced teenager...Christ and I haven't even kissed the girl yet!  I guess if 'my obsession' cares enough to be in tears and wants me back this bad, I just can't say no to he...I think I am worse than Machin when I see a girl so hurt, I just resist taking her back!  It seems to me this shouldn't be so hard or as "Okieman" used to say, "this process would be easier if we had a vulcan mind meld"   I guess I do have to let the cards play out a little further after all...

Fathertime!

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TickingBomb!
Regardless of what happens, it's funny stuff so keep it coming.  It looks like a young hottie with issues met a middle age guy in a hormonal haze.  Keep in mind that for some women of that age, attention is all they want.... an end in itself.  If Papi really cared, he would have sent you a flake alert.

[Alabamaboy!]

Yeah FT I am still in that situation.  It is too hard for me to say no to a young, super hot, sexual dynamo who is crying and begging for me and that all I have to say bad about her is that she is flakey, inexperienced, and makes some bad decisions because of those things.  And I am not talking that she was busted cheating on me or anything.  I am talking about bad purchases, wearing "hoochie mama" clothes at inappropriate times, things like that.  I have never discovered anything big since I met her.

It is just impossible for me to say no to that.  Anyone that saw the photos I put up would have to agree that it would be very hard to break up with a woman that beautiful who is actually begging and crying for you.

But FT....you have to get her to the sexual dynamo stage to really make it worth while!!!!!!!  If she is willing to share those special times with you like that....then it all makes sense.....at least to me.

[RJS]

I WROTE THIS POST LAST NIGHT BUT PL WENT DOWN OR SOMETHING

Christ I feel horrible now...Me and my lady wound up in my apartment as she just wanted to hang out and that was fine with me.  We wound up having a prolonged chat and ultimately I made her cry.  I don't know if I tossed the 'genuine article' to the curb or someone that was simply using me.  This episode is going to scar me, that is for sure.  I don't know that I have ever hurt a woman feeling so bad...seemingly

I don't know what to make of this whole thing.  During the course of our time together she has compared me to 'A Wolfman' 'a gorilla'  "Shrek" and worst of all the actor "Philip Seymour Hoffman " but now she tells me it was all a joke and she really likes my appearence. Well anyway...I sent her home very sad this evening.  

UPDATE 15 MINUTES LATER:  My obsession is bombarding me with IM's now.  I think I may have misread this situation terribly or maybe that is what I am doing now...Hell I am a middle aged man breaking up and reuniting as if I am a pimple faced teenager...Christ and I haven't even kissed the girl yet!  I guess if 'my obsession' cares enough to be in tears and wants me back this bad, I just can't say no to he...I think I am worse than Machin when I see a girl so hurt, I just resist taking her back!  It seems to me this shouldn't be so hard or as "Okieman" used to say, "this process would be easier if we had a vulcan mind meld"   I guess I do have to let the cards play out a little further after all...

Fathertime!

How old are you anyway? Are you sure she just doesn't see you as a mentor or father-figure? I've heard of girls not wanting to sleep with a guy for 3 months, but never not allowing a peck on the lips is just weird. This is wild speculation, but maybe she sees you as a chance for escape from whatever her life is, and when you crushed that, you set off a whole bunch of emotions that had nothing to do with you. I made the girl i saw cry, but we had been chatting exclusively for about 3 months and spent 3 weeks night & day together, and we were intimate almost from the beginning. You're gonna do what you're gonna do, but consider the other possibility that showing this sort of emotional baggage this early on may also be a flag. Anyway, it's always easy to say these things looking in from the outside. You'll just have to be very careful with this one until you figure out what's going on in that head of hers (if it's even possible).

Did you get any answers from her that suggests there's a way forward? Or are you purely reacting to her tears?

[utopiacowboy]

Another one. If the early stages of a relationship are this much WORK, what is the rest of it going to be like? To hell with her. Smoking chicks are un centavo a dozen in Colombia. I don't care how hot you are. Next!