And then there were tres

[the_ace33]

Well nearing the end of my stay at Jamies.  Everyone calls it Jamies.  I think he should just change the name to that..lol.  It has been really nice the last several days.  I am down to 3 ladies that I am seriously interested in.  I plan to take my time in getting to know them better.  From what I know so far I would be happy to end up with any of them.  They are truly beautifull sweet and charming.  For those that dont know I plan to stay in Barranquilla for a few more months atleast.  That is for another thread.  For now lets just say that I feel like a lucky man

[the_ace33]

Update:
Well After one of the ladies said she only wanted to be friends... I was down to 2 and I asked one of them to be my girlfriend.  Its a pretty neat feeling..  Its been a atleast a year or more since I have had a girlfriend and it really feels refreshing.  Thanks Jamie!   

[craig1974]

Update:
Well After one of the ladies said she only wanted to be friends... I was down to 2 and I asked one of them to be my girlfriend.  Its a pretty neat feeling..  Its been a atleast a year or more since I have had a girlfriend and it really feels refreshing.  Thanks Jamie!   

Hi Ace glad to hear you finally found your girl, i do assume when you asked her she said YES
Could you not have done all of this without the help of Jamies agency?
Soon be my turn lol, hope i am as succesful as you

Regards

Craig

[the_ace33]

Craig,
She was very happy and said yes.  I could not have done it without Jamie.  FYI, Ladies that know some English or seem to learn it fast is a big plus.  You are going to have a great time Craig, you will not want to leave.

[the_ace33]

UPDATE

I have been in Barranquilla now for about 22 days.  I have found this place to be much like an emotional roller coaster.  I lost interest in my girlfriend so we talked about it and are now just friends.  She was great but I was not in love and she picked up on it.  Alot of strange things did happen with her, even though I am sure she did like me.  She was late almost always.  Strange last minute things would happen with her ...oh like one time she had to go to the university for some emergency thing and cancelled our date.  Right now she is in bogota for reasons still unkown, aparently she had to pick up and go there last minute for some strange reason.  Needless to say if I was still interested in her I would be very skeptical of her.  Meanwhile I met a lady that I am REALLY interested in at the mall.  Everything is cool until today.  We have tentative plans to go out and do something after she gets off of work at the mall.  So I go there today with my translator to talk to her about what we are going to do.  I get there and she is not even there!!!! Aparently she took the day off.  Right away I know something is fishy.  My translator calls her and she says that she cannot come out because they are having a family party today for her cousin.  I knew that was not true.  She says she is very sorry, can we do something tomorow.  My translator calls her back and says ... tell me the truth about what is going on. ...She tells the translator...ok I am having family problems...Then she says oh ok I can come out at 10.  A few minutes later she sends a text saying she cannot go and that she is mad.  This is all very strange to me and my translator because she seemed to have high interest before.  We know she has lied atleast once.  Its very dissapointing   I know she is probably thinking no big deal we can just see each other later.  Or maybe she already has a boyfriend.  Everyone hear says that lies are just habitual here.  I can see that it is true.  I wonder if there is any hope to untrain a girl from lying.

[craig1974]

hi ace

The more i read tis, the more and more it puts me off going to BAQ.
you thought you had a good one there and then all the lies, I really do believe she is with someone, no other reason for all the lies.
One thing that really bothers me guys, is the stories we here on here about all the lies and deciet, It apperas to me that colombian ladies are the the best liars anywhere, and know how to tell a lie or 2.
Why do they tell so many lies, its unbeliavable at times what we here on here at times.
To be honest, i am now really really concerned about going there, it is less then 2 weeks before i go, and the odds of meeting an honest lady there appear to be very slim indeed, with what i have read on this and other forums

thanks

Craig

[the_ace33]

Another thing that I find interesting is that none of the pretty ladies I have met here have boyfriends.... not even one so far....

[sean126]

Don't let this put you off Craig.

To Ace and Craig....I'd give everyone a second chance.  But after that you need to tell yourself that the girl isn't right for you, unless you enjoy being lied to and having her show up excessively late.   If a girl really likes you and wants to pursue something she will show up and she probably won't be late...unless it's raining.  You know how Barranquilla is.  the city shuts down until it stops raining.

If  they cancel a date and want to reschedule...fine.  Things do happen in life.  They do it a second time, and you think it's fishy....I'd say "thanks, but no thanks." and just walk away.  No if's, and's, or but's.

This happens to quite a few guys.  Just don't keep dating them thinking they are going to "snap out of it".  After the second time...it's your fault, not hers, for how she's treating you.   There are thousands of beautiful women there.  You don't have to keep trying with one that isn't respecting you or treating you right.

I met my wife after cutting it off from my girlfriend because she was acting crazy and lying to me.  About 6 days later to be precise.  I was the one that kept hoping she'd change and really care about me...one day I just realized..."hey, she's not the only girl in Barranquilla." and so I sent her back to her boyfriends she probably had in Bogota.

Just remember....if she's into you, she WILL show up for your dates.  Your not going to have a lot of lame excuses as to why she can't go.  Women are women so she may be a little bit late...but if your standing around for an hour or two then it's time to rethink what your doing.  (Unless it's raining in Barranquilla.  Then it can't be helped.)

[fathertime]

 

Meanwhile I met a lady that I am REALLY interested in at the mall.

Last month when I was walking around the mall, I met a lady who caught my eye.  I already had a babe at the time(she was elseswhere at that moment) but am always open to investigating a lady a bit further.  After a 20 minute conversation, I concluded that she was a ho of some sort.  There is a chance you met the same gal I met, I think the mall is her daily beat. She looks great but just bewhere!

She was late almost always.  Strange last minute things would happen with her ...oh like one time she had to go to the university for some emergency thing and cancelled our date.  Right now she is in bogota for reasons still unkown, aparently she had to pick up and go there last minute for some strange reason.

Sounds like another ho.  Seriously this is very erratic behavior.  You just let her go and don't look back for a moment, if she wants to come buy and let you bang her while you are persuing a real woman, that would be just fine, but don't expect her to change & be worth your time in any other respect.  It sounds like you have figured that out already since you have lost interest. 

Ace, where are you staying now?
 



Fathertime!

[fathertime]

hi ace

The more i read tis, the more and more it puts me off going to BAQ.
you thought you had a good one there and then all the lies, I really do believe she is with someone, no other reason for all the lies.
One thing that really bothers me guys, is the stories we here on here about all the lies and deciet, It apperas to me that colombian ladies are the the best liars anywhere, and know how to tell a lie or 2.
Why do they tell so many lies, its unbeliavable at times what we here on here at times.
To be honest, i am now really really concerned about going there, it is less then 2 weeks before i go, and the odds of meeting an honest lady there appear to be very slim indeed, with what i have read on this and other forums

thanks

Craig

You must write your own story Craig!  No doubt you must file away what you have heard but you still have control over how things go for you!

Fathertime!

[raycjs]

Craig

Everyone is different.... You owe it to yourself to go. Please do not let this stop you from going i know a lot of guy's that have women from Colombia that do not lie. My fiance and i have had are up's and Downs and never once has she lied to me. She tells it like it is and never Lie's . So i can tell you that not all the women in Colombia are liars. keep you chin up and please do not look back ..... I promiss you that you will have a great time in BAQ.. also everything Sean is tells you is 100% true if the girls are in to you they will do whatever they can to make the dates on time . Please keep in mind that they do have lives before you arrrive and after you leave. They can not put there whole life on hold just to be with you if they feel you are not into them. Please keep in mind that these women are always being hit on and they have heard every story in the book. They have to weed thru all the guy's that go there just to get laid......


Once again i wish you the best of luck

Ray

[soltero]

It apperas to me that colombian ladies are the the best liars anywhere, and know how to tell a lie or 2.

They lie worse than small children. You live in a first world country where lying is probably an art form. Maybe it's a US thing, but Colombianas could NEVER compete with even the lamest lies told here. The best rule of thumb if you are skittish is to cut them loose if you even think something isn't right. What do you have to lose, really? There are too many of them to worry about any one you just met. Let her go immediately and if she starts blowing up your cell trying to get back in your good graces, then let her if you want to. You are going to have to seriously reach down and grab 'em before you go to Colombia or you are going to be eaten alive. These women respect CONFIDENCE MORE THAN ANYTHING, and will lose interest if you portray anything less.

Ace,

while you are there, you need to try and lose the nice guy completely for awhile and go native. Go to the other end of town if you have to, but you need to live like a Colombiano for a minute and treat the women as if you were a Colombiano for awhile and then you will be able to go back to your normal self hopefully with a new understanding. To answer your question about why many of the beautiful ones don't have boyfriends is because the guys they probably want to be with don't want them for anything more than an evening of their time. Also, they may have guy friends that they get intimate with, but again, most guys in paradise are not going to lock themselves down with just one no matter how she looks. The ones that have cash usually marry who their families want them to marry when it is time to settle down and the ones that don't usually marry (or live with) whoever they end up getting pregnant first...

[Researcher]

         I think too many guys go to Colombia and try to date women one at a time.I learned to meet as many as I could(that I was interested in) and fill my time with the ones that "made the cut". If one got "flaky", she dropped in my list of favorites(she was still on the list, just not a priority). I didn't waste time trying to figure out if she would change or why she acted this way because there were too many other women out there.I was always up front with them about seeing other women and if I didn't want to see them, I ended it in a respectful way. I knew what I wanted in a woman. To me, that is a big advantage because if you know what you want, all that is left is to "go forth and find it".

         Good Luck Guys,

         Researcher

[Alabamaboy!]

You need to go there for sure.  Just do not start making plans to quit you life in UK to live forever and ever in BAQ until you see things for yourself.  But if you never go there....at least for a few weeks...you will regret it for sure.

[the_ace33]

Sean,
I took your advice, I gave her a second chance and she blew it big time!  I make a date with her 3 hours before said date and she STANDS ME UP!!!  Needless to say she is off the list.

[sean126]

You did the right thing by forgetting about her.  there are many many women that I'm sure you'd find attractive who are looking for a good man.  Don't lower your standards on what is and isn't acceptable behavior.  Hang in there dude.  There is nothing that says you must and need to find a woman on this trip.  Keep your options open and just have a good time and remember...Your the one in the driver's seat.   Stick to your principles, morals and integrity and you'll find one that's true blue. 

[utopiacowboy]

A constant refrain on this forum is the "Colombianas are liars" chorus. I haven't observed any more lieing there than I have observed here which is considerable. The dominant theme of the most popular TV show ever, "Seinfeld", is lieing and everywhere I look around me in the US I see lieing on a colossal scale from politicians, business leaders etc. I think when it comes to lying Colombians are rank amateurs which is why it's so easy to see through them. To see the pros at work, you've got to come here.

[Alabamaboy!]

My business partner and several of my clients, all Colombians who grew up in Colombia tell me that lying is part of the culture there....and that they lie much more than Americans.  They actually had to "get used to" people telling the truth here in the States.  And they are from completely different parts of Colombia....from upper middle class backgrounds.

And from what I have witnessed in my travels there, talking to Colombians, both women and men, from all walks of life, young and old, in six different cities...they all say the same thing.  That you have to be very careful in Colombia, because everyone is a liar.  Do not believe anything until you see it with your own two eyes.

Of course the lies I have seen there are not so dangerous.  For sure not like taking an entire country to war without adequate reason, wasting billions of $$$, and killing many people.

[Researcher]

    Ace,
     I'm glad to see you have "a list". I wouldn't throw it away until you are sure you have found the right woman for you.

           Researcher

[utopiacowboy]

I'm not saying that they aren't liars. They are but it's easy to see through them. If you think about the current financial crisis, you'd have to say that this was based on American lies. Hell, a certain brand of subprime loan is known as a "liar loan". Wall Street and Washington, D.C. are both home to the biggest group of liars on the planet. Nah, nobody has us beat when it comes to lies.

[Alabamaboy!]

Yessss....UC...you are exactly right.  I would rather have a bushel of Colombian lies over some of these dangerous "Whoppers" that happen over here.  But just keep an eye on the situation. Take everything with a grain of salt.

[the_ace33]

Yes I am starting to see alot more clearly now about these lies and excuses.  These ladies waste time and money by not telling the truth.  From now on there will be no second chances.  The other day I had a lunch date at 12 and they lady changes the date until 2.  I say ok and come 2:30 she is not there but says she is coming.  I say no do not come.  I have experienced the other side aswell, like when she is interested she will actually drop what she is doing to come meet you.  Like the other day I called a lady at the last minute for a cita.  When she got there she said that she was getting ready to go to the gym when I called.  The next date she was 30 minutes late but politely called in advance to notify me.  Now she is at the top of my list!

[utopiacowboy]

Good for you, dude (the_ace)! If you can't trust them on the little things, you can't trust them on the big things either. A woman who is really interested in you will make an effort and it shows.

[fathertime]

Ace you crack me up!  I remember back about a month ago when you were thinking of charging money for your Colombian dating knowledge and writing a book!  As you can see it is not quite as easy as it seems it should be!  It sounds like you are doing fine though as you wade through the learning curve!  I am jealous you get to stay in Barranquilla for months on end!
See ya,

Fathertime!

[the_ace33]

Ace you crack me up!  I remember back about a month ago when you were thinking of charging money for your Colombian dating knowledge and writing a book!

I took that comment as a joke fathertime, as I have never said such things.  I am glad you find my posts amusing though, its always nice to hear.