Medellin

[canadianguy]

Hi all,

I've never posted before but I've been reading and learning from others since May 07 . I thought I would quickly tell others what I did to find my love and maybe they could learn from what I experienced.

Me- Canadian, 35, good looking,successful  business owner, no kids.

I was tired of the materialistic , self centered  women from Canada and I dated a couple from the US as well so they are just the same.  I had a friend that traveled the world playing hockey and he told me that there are better women out there and I should look outside of Canada. So I did and found that the Colombian women to be my best bet. Their look, and their attitudes attracted me to them . I found this site and I signed up at a couple of dating websites and got maybe 3000 emails in 7 months. Most of the women didn't do it for me, or they would only go to the internet cafe once every 2 days days... I found this hard to get to know them.

So I opened a new account at colombiacupid. Within a week I started talking to a 37 year old, she was pretty ( looks like Salma Hayek) very nice, good job, no kids and didn't want any....I don't want kids so I was really starting to like her a lot. It was November when we started talking. BTW - Using a webcam is the only way to get to know someone....

We talked everyday and in February I went to Medellin . She and her brother picked me up at the airport. She was more beautiful in person. I went to a hotel and looked around to decide if I wanted to stay there and the girl working was a bitch and rude to me. it was dirty and the pool all of a sudden disappeared within a week of reserving the room and getting the photos in my email....the name was Hotel VIP...it's cheap if that is your thing... , so I left and went to the Hotel Belfort. It was great and stayed there for 10 days... it's about 100.00 a night but you have to tip to get this rate.....  I met her family. 15 brothers and sisters, we all got along great.

I had a great time with her. On the way back I knew I was going to marry her. So a couple of weeks later I asked and she said yes. I am going back  this Month to Marry her.

I feel that she is going to give up a lot in Colombia, she is not poor, has a good job, a big family, dogs. So I do not feel she is marrying me for a way out.

We started all the immigration paper work. there is no  fiancé visa in Canada so I have to wait 6 to 9 months before she can come to Canada, but in June we are going to meet in Mexico as I can work anywhere with my computer. I hired someone for 1000.00 to do the paper work, I am too busy with my business and building houses to read through it all and than make a mistake for sure and cause the already long process to be longer.


what I learned.

- over 30 is better, the younger ones are just as immature as women in Canada/USA a lot less but there are still some and I didn't want a party girl , or a girl that did not know what she wanted 3 years into a marriage. I had many 24 year olds email me that were hot but they lacked in morals and brains. besides my wife is 37 but looks 25 - not kidding.

- these pay sites, 300.00 for a weekend ...ect , might be good but I think it is a hard way to get to know someone. I found colombia cupid the best and to talk to women as much as you can before going there.

- Medellin was safe and didn't feel in danger, but i wasn't an idiot. play it safe and you should be okay.

- there are bad girls, so use your big head and think , is this too good to be true ?

- go with that gut feelings, if you sense good things than that is great but if you feel that she is lying or just out for your visa and that little voice is telling you something is wrong than it may be .......... just like you would in your country. don't get all crazy because she is beautiful...

-I don't speak spanish, while online i use a translator. her english is weak but getting better. don't worry too much about language. when i was there in person we got by just fine. the messages we were sending were clear , we were in love.... words are not needed.... i wouldn't want to do this my whole life so this is why she is learning english now and i will learn spanish later this year.


good luck.

[bigstew33]

Great I always love to see a story that is successful.  Congrats to you.  Medellin women IMHO are the prettiest in Colombia and maybe all SA.   

[no comment]

Me- Canadian, 35, good looking,successful  business owner, no kids[/quote]
So you're young, good looking, have a successful business and no kids. My advice to men is to be young, good looking, successful & without kids. Then you'll do just fine.

[utopiacowboy]

"besides my wife is 37 but looks 25 - not kidding."

I know exactly what you are talking about.

[fourholesn1]

Good advice CanadianGuy, regardless of the country. Whether you're 35 and good looking or 65 and not so hot I think there is a good woman out there for you if you are a nice guy and will treat your woman with kindness and respect. That's all that is important to most of them it seems to me.

[canadianguy]

Hey,

I am back. Got married and everything was great.

We process our app this week. We are going to meet in Mexico while we wait, but she needs a visa to go there. Will look more into this soon.

We stayed at Santa Fe colonial in  antioquia for 2 nights after the wedding. there was ants and no hot water, it was 90.00 each per night with 3 meals. i would not go back there.

the women in colombia want a good man, looks does not matter . there are bad women but as I said not as many as North America.

good luck

[singlefather no more]

congrats canadianguy,

Once you post 5 times you can receive and send PM's on this site.. So post a few quick posts then send me a PM.. I would be glad to help your through the Canadian visa process..

take care,

singlefather


..

[singlefather no more]

canadianguy,

Actually if you click below my name you can get my email address..

singlefather


..

[canadianguy]

hi, i don't see your email.

but i have it all done. will send it in this week.

peru is a lot faster than colombia .... i am hoping 6 month wait. but it could be 9

[singlefather no more]

canadianguy,

When you reach 5 posts you can use the site pm(private message feature)..

singlefather

..

[canadianguy]

ok great

[canadianguy]

I will email you now

[sawyer1370]

Welcome to the board. I'm glad you found a great lady, and I wish you all the happiness in the world.  I do want to speak some words of caution.  Here's a bit about me.

I joined this board way bad in the summer of '97.  Yup, that is over 10 years ago!  Made my first trip in Sept. of that year.  Met the greatest lady ever.  Spent 2 weeks with her.  Emailed her every day for several months.  Went back again in Nov '97 and stayed 2 weeks with her and her family.  Popped the question.  Long story short, we have been married 9 years next week and have two great kids, and are still very much in love and work hard to keep it that way.

It is possible to have a happy ending.  Most guys on the board are still looking.  There are some of us who have gotten married, and are still married.  I hate to say it, but finding the right lady is actually kind of the easy part.  Any of the guys who have been married will agree I think.  There is a huge adjustment for the ladies and the guys.  The culture is very different.  The weather is very different.  The language barrier will be a huge obsticle but can be overcome if you are both willing to work at it.  The home sickness is vey real. 

The first year or so of my marriage was very hard and a LOT of work because of those things and more.  Please don't get me wrong, I'm happy you have found a great lady.  Just take your time and really get to know her.  Ask her if she can deal with a winter in Canada.  Remember, she has no way of understanding what months of freezing weather, little sun, and tons of snow is like.  She lives in a city that the weather is almost perfect year round.  She will have no support system once she is in Canada.  I suspect there isn't a large Latin community she could turn to with helping her adjust.

I just would hate to see things not go quite the way you had hoped because there were things you didn't know to even consider.  Again, please understand where I'm coming from, I only want every guy on this forum to find the happiness I have found.  But that happiness comes with a lot of work, understanding, sacrifice and heart ache from both the man and the woman.

[Hoda]

Welcome to the board. I'm glad you found a great lady, and I wish you all the happiness in the world.  I do want to speak some words of caution.  Here's a bit about me.

I joined this board way bad in the summer of '97.  Yup, that is over 10 years ago!  Made my first trip in Sept. of that year.  Met the greatest lady ever.  Spent 2 weeks with her.  Emailed her every day for several months.  Went back again in Nov '97 and stayed 2 weeks with her and her family.  Popped the question.  Long story short, we have been married 9 years next week and have two great kids, and are still very much in love and work hard to keep it that way.

It is possible to have a happy ending.  Most guys on the board are still looking.  There are some of us who have gotten married, and are still married.  I hate to say it, but finding the right lady is actually kind of the easy part.  Any of the guys who have been married will agree I think.  There is a huge adjustment for the ladies and the guys.  The culture is very different.  The weather is very different.  The language barrier will be a huge obsticle but can be overcome if you are both willing to work at it.  The home sickness is vey real. 

The first year or so of my marriage was very hard and a LOT of work because of those things and more.  Please don't get me wrong, I'm happy you have found a great lady.  Just take your time and really get to know her.  Ask her if she can deal with a winter in Canada.  Remember, she has no way of understanding what months of freezing weather, little sun, and tons of snow is like.  She lives in a city that the weather is almost perfect year round.  She will have no support system once she is in Canada.  I suspect there isn't a large Latin community she could turn to with helping her adjust.

I just would hate to see things not go quite the way you had hoped because there were things you didn't know to even consider.  Again, please understand where I'm coming from, I only want every guy on this forum to find the happiness I have found.  But that happiness comes with a lot of work, understanding, sacrifice and heart ache from both the man and the woman.

Ditto....on what to expect during those first months! Patience, patience & more  patience from both parties is what will be needed for long term success. I'm quite sure that even in Canada, you'll be able to find pockets of Latin communities, where she'll be able to find some of the sites & smells of home!  My wife was from Cali & she has adjusted very well to the 4 seasons of the NY Metro area. The "hardest but most rewarding" part is what awaits you upon your wife's arrival to your home..

Best of luck to you....Hoda

[UKCaliumbo]

wow Congraulations Canadian Guy on your marriage to a Medellin lady !!!

[David]

So did canadianguy use an agency?
Why Med?
I'm considering that city as well.

[utopiacowboy]

A visitor's visa to Mexico for a Colombian can be tough to get. Once she has her green card or Canadian residency, she can enter easily but up until then, there are no guarantees.

[leather neck]

canadianguy,

Welcome to the board!

And Congratulations on the marriage and

much happiness to you and the misses!


Leatherneck

[canadianguy]

Hey Guys,

got an update for you all.

we are in Mexico right now (March 15th 09) , but let me back up the story first....

She arrived in Canada on ( Dec 24th 08 )   at 9pm, nice xmas gift, I know! her visa took exactly 7 months. We talked everyday
on our webcams during the wait. Her flight that night was crazy, first time in years it snowed in Vancouver and a lot of flights were cancelled....so
we were lucky her flight was only delayed for 5 hours... and I couldn't find her, and I called the airport, and the number I gave her to call me
was a long distance call and she didn't understand how to dial it or ask someone , but I got air Canada to find her at a gate about 4 hours after she landed.....anyway,her connecting flight
to our town was all good.

 She likes the snow but not the cold. she is a dream come true. she'll cook a great dinner ,clean the dishes and than thank me, I said why? she said thanks for paying for the food...lol ...she still says this everyday. she'll clean the house, she'll exercise, study English, bath our dog, bring me cold water without me asking,  shoves vitamins in my mouth, massages me all the time, sex all the time anytime, she's funny, she's happy, she's smart,plays tennis with me even though she would rather be swimming.....

she's a dance/arobics teacher so once she knows English better we'll start up a little business for her.  her english is good, she took 2 months of classes in Colombia, read a lot of material on her own, and is now taking classes here. we never use an online translator anymore so if you meet someone don't worry too much about the language thing....

she's never asked me to change a thing, she never ungrateful, she's never tired, she reads my mind, she's everything that a Canadian or American woman is not. I know there are exceptions to the rule but Latin women are a man's gift from God.

I treat her very well but I don't spoil her and I don't buy her expensive things, I mean I'm just nice and fun.... like I was with other women in the past ....I take her to church, I'm not religious and it doesn't bother me I just do it cause it makes her happy and she doesn't drive...lol.......I'm just myself with her and I am very happy I married her and it turned out way better than I thought it would and I mean that in a good way...

So In February we drove to Mexico and I rented a place here for 3 months. We both don't like winter and I work on the internet so coming here was a must and will do it next year too but for 6 months..... I didn't know but she needed a visa to enter the USA ( 911 ...)( she has a Canadian PR card..) so we drove 3 hours to the border to hear a guard say no, drove to Vancouver, got lucky and waited for an interview a week later, got the Visa in the mail 4 days after and than drove to Mexico... thought I would say this just incase a Canadian is reading this...

it is true Latin women can be sensitive,lol... sometimes. what I do is I go away for about an hour and than talk to her, after about 10 minutes she is happy again and never brings it up again, whatever was bugging her.....

anyway, we are happy. and I owe it to you guys and a friend who told me over and over again to not marry a Canadian and to go to Latin America....... he is with a Canadian now by the way so I don't know what he is thinking,

P.S. , I wasn't being conceited  about saying I was good looking when I wrote the original post. I was only trying to give a total perspective of who you were reading about. and to let you know these Colombian women don't care for that stuff anyway. my belly is huge and she says it fine, it's normal, it sexy...ect.... Canadian/American women wouldn't give me the time of day if I had my shirt off at the pool here...

I want to share the money part of this which is important if someone is thinking about finding love far away. my flights from western Canada to Colombian were about 1400.00 each and I went twice. hotel stays down there for something pretty nice was 80.00ish a night you can find cheaper places, the wedding costs compared to the US or Can are a joke, maybe we spent 1500.00 and her family paid for most of it! that's the church fee's, the dress,my tux, flowers, the music,reception with a little bit of booze and good food but made by her family.....  our honeymoon was 500.00 but it was a short stay, her flight to Canada was 900.00 and it was first class! I don't know why it was so cheap but she was happy. plus spending money and food....2000.00 ish ...plus immigrations fee's .1800.00 ish ( i got a immigration consultant for 1000.00, not worth it, you can do the paper work on your own! ) ..... so the total was about  9200.00 ish. Americans can pay a lot less than this because the flights will be cheaper.... or if you fly out of Toronto and budget better than I did.

someone asked why Medellin , well that's where my wife was from.  but from what I learned it's the best for women and safest. Cali has  more crime, less women, Bogota you will find whiter looking women if that's your thing but I heard they are "cold" .Cartagena women were too dark for me, some guys like that, I don't. My wife is 3/4 white 1/4 black .  I know I'm generalizing about women and cities but this is what I heard from Colombians while I was there and some posts here but if you connect really well with someone from  Bogota or Cali ,ect over the web well than go  there.....

I met my wife on colombian cupid ...someone asked.... agencies looked like a gong show to me (it takes a long time to get to know someone)...it could be a waste of money and time, like I think I said in my original post I think it is best to connect with one women before you go or a few then go meet her or them especially if she can't speak english because we used an online translator in the beginning, this way you can get to know her and she gets to know you before you buy a ticket. .....if you have lots of money go fly down there and travel around for a couple of months you'll be looked at like Jesus and treated like a king,not kidding.....the men in colombia are bad to their women, so when they see a white man they get all crazy inside thinking of being with someone that will treat them well. and they know all about how bad women are in north america so she will be all excited to rub your feet and cook you dinner for the rest of her life!!!! lol
 

also, colombia is the best bang for your time, your heart and wallet. the women are beautiful, kind, happy! ,giving, hard workers, honest. ....not all but most.

also, getting to know her is very important. the younger they are and the hotter they are the more choices they have and if she is a bad girl you will get hurt and if she doesn't have kids it's even worst...just like in North america.....so  when I was getting to know my wife I was aware of some sad stories on this forum of guys meeting women who had other boyfriends or just wanted money ..... so, when I said let's talk tomorrow on messenger(webcam) at 7pm my wife was never late, always on time if not early to sign on. if she said I'm staying home tonight to watch TV later on I would call her at home to give her a telephone kiss good night, you should know in your gut before you go down to meet her if you trust her but once your there see if she introduces you to her entire family(my wife had 15 brothers and sisters) see if she is showing you off or just doing a formality. see if she brings you back to her house for dinner her mother made for you. see if she get's a lot of telephone calls over and over again ,could be an angry boyfriend not getting through. see if she took time off work when you visit, if she can't afford it pay her to take it off, it wouldn't cost much and I'm sure if she is a good worker (which you want) her boss will give it to her. if she wants to work that means she has a boyfriend to see during the day while you're in your hotel room thinking about her culo (butt) . see if she chats on her stupid cell phone when you are with her, this is a very bad sign. if she doesn't treat you like God the week you visit her she is not interested or a bad girl...and I mean that,a Colombian women's life is making her family happy, most women are like this in colombia if they aren't you don't want them. also, if she has a louis vuitton handbag and fake boobs and works as a secretary she got these things from boyfriends, and those boyfriends are either drug dealers or americans/canadians boyfriends calling her cell phone 50 times a day .

don't get me wrong, before!! I got on a plane I trusted her(we talked every day online for 2 hours or so for 2 months),  I didn't investigate her all day long when I was there, I just thought about things when I laid in bed at night and in the end she was perfect.

take care.

[utopiacowboy]

Good post, Canadianguy. We Canadians must be lucky to pick such wonderful wives! That is just so wrong that the US won't let a Canadian resident into the US without a visa. My wife was able to visit Canada with just her green card. What's good for the goose should be good for the gander.

[Caballero2009]

Canadianguy congratz from an American Guy! Your post makes me happy and sad!

Yea im trying to get to the point where I am in your shoes with the perfect latina.... but i have heard horror stories on this board...both of trips to colombia, what happend to some people after everything was supposed to be fine, it really has kinda scared me.

But then I hear the hopeful success stories....and i just try to strengthen my resolve to not let the bad stuff happen to me by being cautious and choosing wisely.

I am glad it worked out for you.... i know latinas THE GOOD ONES are awesome you just have to find the right one. You will be happy forever if you have the right one!

take care
Cab

[canadianguy]

utopiacowboy - yes it is stupid, my wife had to prove up and down for 7 months she was a good person to the Canadian Government but won't let her in with a PR card but
I also heard that Canada has let every tom dick and harry in to our country in the past so I guess I don't blame them. But the Visa interview was a joke, it took all of 60 seconds and didn't ask for
one bit of information from us.... it cost like 100.00 I think, so it must be a money making thing, plus the 1800 was a 1 900 at about 2.00 a minute or so...

Caballero2009 - hang in there, take your time, there are a lot of good women down there. my colombian male friends (some been to the US) talked about women in colombia with me for a couple of hours one night and we came to the conclusion  that  7 out of 10 of the
8,9's and 10's in colombian are good women compared to North American women that maybe 3 out of 10 are good women with above average looks. and even than we laughed because comparing a "7" Colombian woman is like getting a 4 or 5 from the USA, Latin women are so sexy, so sensual there's no comparison.


take care

[texassingledad]

Hey Canadianguy- Congratulations. I am happy for you. Your story has helped me ALOT!!!!!!!!
One question I do have is ...once you have found your true love is it quicker to get her to where you live by marrying her there in Colombia or getting the fiance Visa and then getting married after she arrives?

Have been nervous after reading some of the threads on here. I'm maybe a little extra nervous because I really don't want to screw up because of my two daughters. Pick the wrong one and they are put thru hell again. But your story has given  me hope. Good Luck and thanks,

Les

[utopiacowboy]

Hey Canadianguy- Congratulations. I am happy for you. Your story has helped me ALOT!!!!!!!!
One question I do have is ...once you have found your true love is it quicker to get her to where you live by marrying her there in Colombia or getting the fiance Visa and then getting married after she arrives?

Have been nervous after reading some of the threads on here. I'm maybe a little extra nervous because I really don't want to screw up because of my two daughters. Pick the wrong one and they are put thru hell again. But your story has given  me hope. Good Luck and thanks,

Les

Canada doesn't have a fiancee visa.

[Researcher]

Hey Canadianguy- Congratulations. I am happy for you. Your story has helped me ALOT!!!!!!!!
One question I do have is ...once you have found your true love is it quicker to get her to where you live by marrying her there in Colombia or getting the fiance Visa and then getting married after she arrives?

Have been nervous after reading some of the threads on here. I'm maybe a little extra nervous because I really don't want to screw up because of my two daughters. Pick the wrong one and they are put thru hell again. But your story has given  me hope. Good Luck and thanks,

Les

         Les,
          It really doesn't matter.I have done both and they both seem to take the same amount of time.My wife is here on a K3 visa.If you want some good info based on real cases go to visajourney.com. Great website.It has been a goldmine of info for me.Just check the timelines on the way you want to go.

       Researcher