Younger latin prospects

[crashfirepm53]

At what age would most of you consider a Latin woman is serious about an relationship/ marriage? I have a hard time considering an 18-20 y/o women as being really "ready" for a lifetime. Personally, I'm in the 25 and up range. I'm currently 36.

[doombug]

Were I in the hunt, I'd focus on the 80+ market.

My last two novias were still party girls at 27.

[Ray]

A good rule of thumb for her minimum age is half your age + 7.

At 36, 25 years old is a good minimum for you to be looking for.

If you were 22, then an 18-year-old teenager would be in your range (but probably no where near ready for marriage).

[Patrick]

Depends on what you want IMHO.  Great arm candy and a higher probability of "temporary" marriage is what I believe you'll be getting with the young ones.  If you want a life long marriage then someone a bit more stable (i.e. closer to your age) is in order if you want a better chance of success.

[crashfirepm53]

I'm not a big believer in "formulas" and would try to take each girl on a case by case basis. I'm 36 but still run with the younger crowd so I have have more in common with a younger girl. My concern iis the level of maturity and commitment of them. Maybe they are more dedicated earlier than U.S. women?
I don't think that many 18-20 Y/o would really be ready for a lifetime but your right,great arm candy but most likely short term. There just seems to be ALOT of the young ones listed.

[Kiltboy1]

I have dated more then 200 Latinas in my almost 9 years at this process and they ranged in age from 19 up to 42. I think I only met maybe one or two women under the age of 26 that were really what you would call mature. They hype about how Latin women are more mature then others is hogwash and honestly American women are more mature at the earlier ages IMHO then Latinas, but I did not want an AW. I say stick with 26 and +. My wife turns 30 the 16th of November and she looks like she is 20, but she is mature. Only took me 199 try's to find her, LOL

KB

[william3rd]

ALOT of the younger ones want to get out of Dodge as fast as they can to a land of milk and honey. Facts of life.

An old saying from an elder stateswoman of the green card girl guild- the first marriage is to get here; the second marriage can be for love.

[EbonyPrince]

I'm not a big believer in "formulas" and would try to take each girl on a case by case basis. I'm 36 but still run with the younger crowd so I have have more in common with a younger girl. My concern iis the level of maturity and commitment of them. Maybe they are more dedicated earlier than U.S. women?
I don't think that many 18-20 Y/o would really be ready for a lifetime but your right,great arm candy but most likely short term. There just seems to be ALOT of the young ones listed.

I personally believe that you have to judge each woman on an individual basis.  I have done a lot of observing over the past year, and I have really opened my mind to various possibilities.  It really depends on what she is looking for, family values, and social upbringing.  I have met a couple of 22 or 23 y/o women that were more mature and marriage material than some of the older women that I have met.  I personally try to stay at a minimum of 27, but I keep my options open for the right person.  You only discover that through interaction, instinct, and keepiing your eyes and ears open.

I suggest meeting various women of various ages and backgrounds and remove any pre-conceived prejudices in your search.  Just have fun and use common-sense.  Good luck.

[bigstew33]

I think I agree that each woman is different.  I have met some women here in Bogota that is 23.  She works, and goes to law school at night.  Next week she is moving out of the parents house.  She has goals, and she feels she is ready.  Do I know this for sure?  no not really.   I have met women 25 that have their own businesses.  I think they have a grip on what they want.  But I have met a woman that is 24 and she is not ready. Just my observations

[soltero]

Next week she is moving out of the parents house.  She has goals, and she feels she is ready. 

Stew, the culture is a little different down there. A single woman not living with her parents is not usually a good sign. I am not trying to throw any salt on her situation. Just pointing out a cultural difference. Good luck in your search and on your trip.

[JamesDonut]

I would agree with bigstew33 and EbonyPrince.  It's still safe to say that older women generally are more mature and ready for a relationship.  However as already stated it really comes down to the individual girl.  It is also important how the girl and guy relate to each other.  My personal rule of thumb is between 27-40. (I'm currently 33)  But rules of thumb are just that.  As EbonyPrince said, "Its best to keep an open mind." 

Stew, the culture is a little different down there. A single woman not living with her parents is not usually a good sign.

Could you explain yourself on this one Soltero?  Not arguing the point, just don't know why this would be the case.

[michaelb]

Could you explain yourself on this one Soltero?  Not arguing the point, just don't know why this would be the case.

Why? It's just a cultural thing, live with your parents until you get married. More so for women then men, but not exclusively. Young men traditionally have more of the freedom (and often the necessity) of leaving for job opportunities, but if they don't leave town, they too will mostly live at home and nobody calls them a "mama's boy" for it. I'm sure it was originally based on finances, but it's been going on so long that it has become a cultural thing. Times ARE changing and I wouldn't automatically think a young woman is 'bad' or 'loose' for getting her own place, but it certainly isn't like in the US where every (OK, most) 18yo wants his/her own place.

[soltero]

Could you explain yourself on this one Soltero?  Not arguing the point, just don't know why this would be the case.

I am not trying to say that there is anything wrong. It is just frowned upon for a young woman who is not married to leave the house. Unmarried women are supposed to stay home and help their parents. They are only supposed to leave if they marry. That is the culture. For one to move out, there are usually problems. Like I said, it's the culture.

[fathertime]

At what age would most of you consider a Latin woman is serious about an relationship/ marriage? I have a hard time considering an 18-20 y/o women as being really "ready" for a lifetime. Personally, I'm in the 25 and up range. I'm currently 36.

At 36 I think you can get a woman from 18 on up.  From my experience, most of the ladies over 25 were the best matches for me, I'm 39 now, but started this silliness around age 36.  I went out with beautiful 18-21 year olds, simply because I could, and they were damn good looking, but the fact was, our interests would probably never mesh all that well.  Perhaps you should have some fun with the young'ens and sprinkle in some 25+ year olds and see what you like best & will fit into your lifestyle.  For me, it was a girl in her mid twenties.
Good Luck

Fathertime!

[Researcher]

   From my experience of about 10 or so years with this I have to agree that every woman should be looked at individually.For me though, women in their late 20's to mid 30's seemed to have more of what I was looking for...

[rpcv]

At what age would most of you consider a Latin woman is serious about an relationship/ marriage? I have a hard time considering an 18-20 y/o women as being really "ready" for a lifetime. Personally, I'm in the 25 and up range. I'm currently 36.

Crashfire we are very close in age. I've met some very immature ladies that were 25 and up and then a few really mature ones who were younger than 25. It all depends on the girl but I think other things can impact her maturity too. Such as her parents influence, if she has a child, education, etc.

So do not discount the younger ones simply on their age.

[crashfirepm53]

Thats the answer I was looking for and all good points.
I'm suprised to hear that quite a few of you have been dating/looking for several years now. Is it that hard to find a good Latina? No offense.

[sean126]

crashfirepm53,

I don't think it's a matter of finding a good latina.  The world has many good women in it, the question is finding compatibility.  "That" is the key, no matter where the woman is from.  I was 37 when I was married.  It's my only marriage, so technically...I've been looking since I was about 16 years old...so, 21 years of trial and error and preparation.   

Some get lucky and find it sooner than others...but I look at it in terms of readiness.  Some men are ready for marriage, period, sooner than others....then of course there is the waiting for your "one" to be in the state of readiness also.

[rpcv]

I'm suprised to hear that quite a few of you have been dating/looking for several years now. Is it that hard to find a good Latina? No offense.

Depends. I initially started in 2003 with one trip and have made several since that time. I know with my first 3 trips, I was still figuring out a lot of things, often making poor decisions on my own i.e. too many dinner dates, going after hot women that I instinctively knew were not marriage material but did so just because I could, and not knowing enough Spanish.

It's hard when you only have a week here, 10 days there to meet a Latina and build a meaningful relationship. There are good ones out there (I finally think I found one myself)  but understanding more about the Colombian culture and improving my Spanish skills has gone a long way.
 
Some folks may be successful on that first trip and meet a marriage minded/mature Latina. Perhaps sometimes it is just plain luck but don't discount good preparation.

[Researcher]

   I started around 1998, but I also looked in other countries.I wanted to find the right woman and also I wasn't ready to settle down.Now that I am married...I'm glad I waited.

[jm21-2]

Two observations, both of which I would have got smitten for probably if the feature was still around...

1. An observation as a fairly young (25yo) guy: older guys who think they run with the young crowd generally don't run with them as well as they think. Almost no one will say anything to you about it, but they will think of you differently from someone their age in pretty much every case. Especially younger girls are going to think of you differently than a guy their age, in a romantic sense. Doesn't mean they won't like you, but a 20yo girl is going to date a 35yo guy for pretty different reasons than she would date a 20yo guy. Just MHO.

2. A mature 18-20yo girl is practically by definition not looking for marriage at that age. She will have goals of her own and be working towards them (college, work, grad school, etc). There is a reason for the historic advice to not think about marriage until you're 25 or older. This is especially true if you're looking for intelligent girls. Again, just MHO. I know a lot of guys say "in other countries girls don't care about things like careers, they just want to be great loving house wives," but that seems like bunk so far to me. Sure, some or even many intelligent foreign girls would like to quit their job and be a house wife, provided their husband has a decent income, but that doesn't mean they're going to sit at home and wait for Mr. Right to walk in the door, or be dependent on boyfriends or their parents for any money they spend. I would have serious doubts about a girl who was single and had absolutely no goals or motivation as far as employment was concerned.

[EricandCaro]

At what age would most of you consider a Latin woman is serious about an relationship/ marriage? I have a hard time considering an 18-20 y/o women as being really "ready" for a lifetime. Personally, I'm in the 25 and up range. I'm currently 36.

Hello Crashfire,

As I woman I have always considered that women between 26 and older are ready to settle down and want to have their own place , share their lives with their man and so on. I consider always there will be funny cases where you meet very old women acting strange ( very immature) and also the opposite. As well have young women , very mature and willing to settle down at very early age . I have one of our clients, she is 23 years old.But because she start working since she was 15 years old, moved out from her house ( which is not common in Colombia but it is in USA) So,  her life and experiences has made her a very mature woman. It's unbelievable when you talk to her. So many cases are just different.
I don't consider is a matter of analyzing if the woman is Colombian or not. I think you find everything , everywhere, but in particular for Colombians , women start working and studying very early . As soon as the finish high school, so they start struggling and  living life since very early ( unless if they belong to a very rich family) and of course this experience makes a woman more mature than someone who doesn't have to get and struggle on its own.

I hope this helps. Let me know any other questions. Take Care! Carolina.

[EbonyPrince]

Is it that hard to find a good Latina? No offense.

No offense taken .  My answer would be no, but it really depends on what you are looking for.  I am very selective.  I could have settled with a handful or more of great girls, and I am sure that they more than likely would have made very good spouses.  For whatever reason, I just wasn't feeling the way that I wanted to feel.  I had spent 13 years with a loving, faithful woman, but she wasn't what I wanted.  After my divorce, I had to get in the wind and discover what it was that I was looking for.  I decided to take 2 years off, and get buckwild...lol.  After meeting a lot of people and having fun with my crazy amigos, it became clear what I wanted.  So I began my search in 2006.  I will keep searching until I find those combinations of quality features that I seek.

I don't think it's a matter of finding a good latina.  The world has many good women in it, the question is finding compatibility.  "That" is the key, no matter where the woman is from.

B.I.N.G.O!!!  Well put...  There are some great women out there from this country as well as others.  The key ingredient for me is that compatibility.

[jm21-2]

I don't consider is a matter of analyzing if the woman is Colombian or not. I think you find everything , everywhere, but in particular for Colombians , women start working and studying very early . As soon as the finish high school, so they start struggling and  living life since very early ( unless if they belong to a very rich family) and of course this experience makes a woman more mature than someone who doesn't have to get and struggle on its own.

I hope this helps. Let me know any other questions. Take Care! Carolina.

I've known some poor girls who moved out when they were 13, 14, 15 (yes, that's illegal here in OR, but it happens) and a couple rich girls who had everything handed to them...most of the poor girls who had to start working early were not very mature...they had to grow up too fast and still have very childish aspects, and were on the whole pretty short-sighted. A lot were party girls or substance abusers. Of course, some of the middle/upper class girls were one or more of the above, but less imho. I'd say the poorer girls wanted to get hitched earlier, but more for security/stability than out of maturity...

[mudd]

don't even waste your time with any girls below 25. you might get lucky with a mature 22 or 23 year old, but you will have to go through A LOT of girls  to find one at that age that has her head, thoughts and life in somewhat of a direction. below 25, they are just into discos, bars, partying with friends and going out whenever they can. they will tell you they are not, but trust me,they are, and when your not around, they definitely are. i have some friends below 25 and all are into the party scene, only one of them at 21 is not, but she is the exception.