what is the best way to meet a soulmate?

[zappa]

hi

what is the best way to meet a international soulmate?
-chat/letters, all long months or years, and then visit her or them?
or
-personal introdutions in their countries, through a local dating agency, and then chat/letters to know each other more and better?

In your opinion.
what are the advantages and the risk of each option?

[Looking4Wife]

As with many things in life, there is not necessarily a "best" way or a "one size fits all".

Different people on this board have found their wives from various methods.  I found mine through a marriage agency.  Per advice of the agency, I chose not to write any women prior to going down to meet the women.  I agreed with the agency, that I should not get the hopes up of myself or the girls until meeting them in person.

Most women I met in person first, but the woman who did become my wife... I spoke to her on the phone prior to meeting her.  I was so impressed that I went to see her in 2 weeks after our first phone conversation.

I'm pretty sure that Patrick and UtopiaCowboy, however, wrote their (eventual) wives prior to meeting them.  (guys correct me if I'm wrong)

You have to decide what works best for your personality.

How soon would you like to travel south?  Have you been to Latin America before?  I recognize your name from a few posts, but I don't remember your history offhand...

Buena suerte y Dios te bendiga

[sean126]

Zappa,

I think your missing a step.  In my opinion the first step is to make sure your ready for a life long commitment.  I've tried many things and I always thought I was ready, but wasn't.  It wasn't until I spent several years alone and worked on my shortcomings and got to where I was content with being alone.  Then it was like I was seeing women with a new pair of eyes.  I made infinitely better decisions and my whole way of thinking changed.  

If anyone misses that important step...I think it really hurts your chances for success, IMO.

Actually, I think it depends on the person as to how long you should get to know someone.  Some men are oblivious and aren't very smart.  Also, some really have no idea what they want.  They just say..."I want someone who makes me happy."  They could get to know someone for 10 years and still make a bad choice.  One of the worst things to do is to "settle" for someone being close to what you want. Another trap is thinking you have a time limit to find true love.

For the Christians....get closer to God and live in His will.  You can never go wrong with that.

Every thing else, I think, is a personal preference.  That's my 2 cents.  Write it down and let me know later on, I'm keeping track on how many times I'm right. LOL.

[zappa]

hi
to read english language,i understand very well, but to write it is more hard.
well i am from south of europe. from portugal country, it is close to spain and france. i am 40 years old , i am not a desesperate man and i am an happy man but now it is time to build a family , to marry.i prefer latin girls due to i would like to meet a family oriented girl.
i already visit brazil like tourist but i do not like brasilian culture(they are so open-minded), i prefer latin countries who speak spanish language, however my natural language is portuguese, i know talk spanish.
All of my douts, it is because i am in international dating website but until now it is so tedious, so virtual and most of the girls are scammers, so "smarts" about to chat. So i was thinking to try another way

regards
zappa-because i like musician frank zappa

[sean126]

Well, if you know your ready to settle down then I would think that meeting in person is your best bet.  I'd write to several girls in the same town or city....so your not going to meet just one...and then go.

You can learn alot more in a quicker time if your good at reading body language and facial expressions when they talk to you.   The use of agencies is better for some people because they offer a more structured enviroment and you will also have a guide to show you around and help keep you away from the bad spots...and they can help you decide which girls are serious and which are not.   One of the biggest draw backs is the price and some would say you'd have a better chance of meeting a "scammer" through an agency.  I used an agency a few times and didn't really have a problem with scammers, but some men might.

I won't comment on the solo trips or using a wingman as a guide to go to bars and shopping malls to help meet women, because I've never did that.

The agency advice that I would offer is....write to several women for about a month, send them your pictures and get to know them a little bit and make sure they want to meet you and then go to meet them in person and take it from there.

The two that I can recommend are Amor De Cartagena in Cartagena and latin-wife.com in Barranquilla.  The owners are honest and will make a good effort in helping you find what your looking for. 

Hope this helped.

[mudd]

1st, pick a country, mexico, peru, colombia, ecuador, then focus on a city, find out what agencies are in that city, read about them and decide on which one you would like to use. also, try some other places, Amigos.com and some other online dating sites, but concentrate on the city your going to go too.. you could also try some "tour " agencies like amigos, tlc and few others.  bummer about Brazil, lots of beautiful girls there, but i have heard that they are "too open" and free spirited for guys who are a little more reserved and not so much into partying and so forth. have you though about smaller cities in brazil, where the culture might be a little different?

[catz]

zappa-because i like musician frank zappa

Off Topic:

 Did you ever listen to any of his work with Captain Beefheart?

Catz

[soltero]

hi
to read english language,i understand very well, but to write it is more hard.
well i am from south of europe. from portugal country, it is close to spain and france. i am 40 years old , i am not a desesperate man and i am an happy man but now it is time to build a family , to marry.i prefer latin girls due to i would like to meet a family oriented girl.
i already visit brazil like tourist but i do not like brasilian culture(they are so open-minded), i prefer latin countries who speak spanish language, however my natural language is portuguese, i know talk spanish.
All of my douts, it is because i am in international dating website but until now it is so tedious, so virtual and most of the girls are scammers, so "smarts" about to chat. So i was thinking to try another way

regards
zappa-because i like musician frank zappa

Zappa, The women in Portugal are some of the most beautiful in the world! If you don't mind me asking, what about them makes you want to look elsewhere?

[utopiacowboy]

The Portuguese women are babes. Why would you want to look elsewhere?

[papi]

Zappa, go on Latin Cupid. There are a ton of women on the site from Brazil. And sounds like you can branch out with enough spanish to work colombia and peru. www.latinamericancupid.com. Problem solved

[zappa]

Off Topic:

 Did you ever listen to any of his work with Captain Beefheart?

Catz

Hi Catz,
i have a CD "An Evening With Frank Zappa & Captain Beefheart".

my americanfriends ,
Portugal it is in Europe, Brazil it is in South of America.

regards and thank you for all

[michaelb]

Suuuuuuuuzie, Suzie Creamcheese...Suzie Creamcheese, WHAT'S gotten into you? (Freakout, Zappa and the Mothers of Invention).

[papi]

my americanfriends ,
Portugal it is in Europe, Brazil it is in South of America.

While PL does not have an educational entrance requirement, I think your comment is quite obvious except for the most geographically challenged gringos. The main commonality of the aforementioned countries of course sharing in the same language. I have never been to either place but suppose the women in brazil are far more gringo motivated than Portugal yet both probably fall short of colombia

[william3rd]

dynamo hummm. where's that dynamo coming from??

[doombug]

hi

what is the best way to meet a international soulmate?
-chat/letters, all long months or years, and then visit her or them?
or
-personal introdutions in their countries, through a local dating agency, and then chat/letters to know each other more and better?

In your opinion.
what are the advantages and the risk of each option?

I think the best--well, what will soon be the best--method for finding a "soulmate" will involve pheremones.  In fact, I'm working on opening an agency whereby clients can screen each other through pheremone compatibility. Whenever a male and female client (or male and male client--hey, some of you guys are freaky like that) succeed in hooking up, and afterward this leads to marriage, I'll ask that each submit "pheremonials" (think, testimonials). Tentatively, I'll be calling my operation Scentimental Connections. (Get it?)

Here's how it works: You have your typical agency setup--online profiles, risque photos, exagerrated poses (e.g.: her standing, with arched back, ass resting on an end table, and holding a vase of flowers), phony employment and background, and so on--whereby potential clients can scout for a mate. When a guy sees what, to his eyes, looks like a hottie, he will immediately swab (we'll provide swabs for $1/ten pack) the pit of his arm, or his crotchal zone, to obtain some of his pungent essence. He will then pay us $20 to obtain both her email address and her pheremonal excretions. (Sorry, but I have to use technical terms in case any endocrinologists are lurking here.) Upon reviewing (I'm calling this phase, "The Sniff Out") each others pheremonal emissions, each client will have an opportunity to return online to give either a "Stinky" (thumbs up) or a "Rosy" (thumbs down).

Of course, shit happens, right? So, we'd also provide gear to protect those invididuals who might encounter someone from the Calcutta market.



'Cause that's how we are. Always seeing beyond the horizon. Always anticipating the parameters of love. Always...Scentimental Connections.

I really believe this is the next phase of soul soulmate patrolling.

Okay, seriously now, Mr. Zappa. The best way to meet a woman from abroad is to go abroad, so the both of ya can see each other, so the chemistry thing can be tested firsthand, so the rejections or approvals can be done and over with without all of the unnecessary online drama that leads up to "the encounter." In another post, I labeled this method "cold visiting."

Cold visit your destination. And let destiny be your pilot.

Peace out, homes!

[zappa]

While PL does not have an educational entrance requirement, I think your comment is quite obvious except for the most geographically challenged gringos. The main commonality of the aforementioned countries of course sharing in the same language. I have never been to either place but suppose the women in brazil are far more gringo motivated than Portugal yet both probably fall short of colombia

papi, please do not be mad with me . i only wrote that because i have read in other topics that there was a confusion about geography.

[soltero]

my americanfriends ,
Portugal it is in Europe, Brazil it is in South of America.

Zappa, that is understood. I still believe that Portuguese women are gorgeous. That being the case, could you please explain why you aren't interested in pursuing them? Just curious....

[zappa]

because i would like to meet a girl like "old times".   
do not worry latin girls. i am not a " macho man" but for me a girl must get some qualities like: family oriented and traditional/high values.
 it does not mean that she must be housewife or a nun,
she must have her own life, besides i do not want a slave, but i am not so open-mind like the most of european men 

[soltero]

because i would like to meet a girl like "old times".   
do not worry latin girls. i am not a " macho man" but for me a girl must get some qualities like: family oriented and traditional/high values.
 it does not mean that she must be housewife or a nun,
she must have her own life, besides i do not want a slave, but i am not so open-mind like the most of european men 

Are you saying that you have the same problems there as far as women not being the more "traditional" type that we have here in the USA? If that is the case, could you explain what the women are like in Portugal, such as in  comparison to American women?

As they (women in portugal) appear to be quite beautiful, I am thinking your desire to look else where is based on their "attitude" or non-traditional value systems?