MOB (pros and cons)

[papi]

cons: 
1. she is only into you for your money or green card
2. she skips on the visa
3. you don't get along, argue
4. you end up spending a fortune especially if things don't workout and yu get divorced
5. she cheats on you for a younger, hotter pretty boy
6. no more fun, hot citas, pizzas
7. no more privacy
8. she pressures you about having kids
9. lost passion/interest in sex
10. she is unhappy in the USA, cant adjust

i will let the optimists finish the pros. Pls remind me again why I am here in the first place 

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[soltero]

Pls remind me again why I am here in the first place 

I have never really got that in the first place. I just can't see you being married. I have always figured you would subconciously always be in the chase because you enjoy it but don't want to admit to yourself that you have no need for an actual wife.

[Ray]

     

[papi]

Ray, while on rare occasions your cartoons are fricking hilarious, there is a point of diminishing returns - a concept i guess they fail to teach in law school. Besides, some guys are afraid to post because they feel that they will be subjected to constant ridicule from you and others. To that end, once again, consider participating in some thread starts and fewer cartoons.

[Fuzzyone]

 After reading your post I have to be another one here asking, why are you here you summed up why you do not like MOB!

  I happen to like Ray's pics they are real funny!!

[rpcv]

cons: 

3. you don't get along, argue
4. you end up spending a fortune especially if things don't workout and yu get divorced

Doesn't this sometimes occur with AW?

8. she pressures you about having kids

I see this as a good thing, but then I do not have any kids of my own right now.

9. lost passion/interest in sex

On her part or yours?

10. she is unhappy in the USA, cant adjust

Homesickness will happen but you have to be prepared and understanding. Too much understanding and she will not as you suggested Papi, adjust to USA society. (It's easy to find communities/friends that only speak Spanish) Too little though and she will bolt given the opportunity.

[Ray]

Papi, do you REALLY want us to remind you why you are here? If you can't figure that out for yourself then why do you waste our time with the silly rhetorical questions.

You can't make up your mind if you want to get married.

You can't make up your mind which country to look in.

You can't make up your mind whether or not you should get a job.

You can't make up your mind whether or not to marry a gold digger or a Green Card shark.

You can't make up your mind whether or not you want your profile deleted.

You can't make up your mind whether or not guys should learn Spanish.

You simply can't make up your mind about ANYTHING. I have never seen anyone so indecisive. I really don't think you are anywhere near ready for marriage.

Why don't you take a vacation and think about why you are here, then come back and tell us when you figure it out?

But if you really want my opinion why you are here,

     

[daytrader]

Amen...Ray....Amen...

DayTrader

[sean126]

Smoking and laughing your head off don't go to well together.

Ray,

The last few jokes have been inch-ing up the "racey" scale. They are ALL very funny, (you know I'm laughing my butt off) but please keep it within reason.  You know some of these guys ray...you let one get too close to the boundries and then a different person is bound to exceed it by a mile.

Now I can finish drying my eyes.
(sorry hero, but that's borderline hysterically funny)  

[Ray]

         

[william3rd]

I rate this thread a five. There is value in this thread. Papi's cons are very true.

A pro for me in my search is the look that I am attracted to. Eyes and cheek structure that I like are not commonly found here. My GF is 36 with the eyes and smile that I like.  Since I am retiring abroad, I have been learning her language for years. However she also takes English since we will be over here half the time for the foreseeable future.


Is the attention wh*re available? Give her papi's email. . .
They might hit it off.

[Fuzzyone]

Papi, do you REALLY want us to remind you why you are here? If you can't figure that out for yourself then why do you waste our time with the silly rhetorical questions.

You can't make up your mind if you want to get married.

You can't make up your mind which country to look in.

You can't make up your mind whether or not you should get a job.

You can't make up your mind whether or not to marry a gold digger or a Green Card shark.

You can't make up your mind whether or not you want your profile deleted.

You can't make up your mind whether or not guys should learn Spanish.

You simply can't make up your mind about ANYTHING. I have never seen anyone so indecisive. I really don't think you are anywhere near ready for marriage.

Why don't you take a vacation and think about why you are here, then come back and tell us when you figure it out?

But if you really want my opinion why you are here,

     

   Ray

      I could not have said it better myself and not get banned!

[papi]

Ray, I realize that Fuzzy falls way short of you on reading comprehension, but I thought you would have better understood the thread. I listed the cons, it is now up to the optimists to enter the pros which William started to tackle. Should not be all that difficult an assignment for a smart lawyer like you.

[Fuzzyone]

Ray, I realize that Fuzzy falls way short of you on reading comprehension, but I thought you would have better understood the thread. I listed the cons, it is now up to the optimists to enter the pros which William started to tackle. Should not be all that difficult an assignment for a smart lawyer like you.

  I guess Ray thought a guy like you who has been looking for that special girl for the last 4 or 5 years would be able to fill both sides in by now. The difference between you and I are several. I don't rethink my decisions once they are made, they are history. I did not buy tennis shoes, cameras and a ton of other things that I am ashamed to tell anyone about now for woman. I don't get bent out of shape when I don't get ketchup with my meal in Colombia, I try to enjoy the food that is given to me. Fries with out ketchup are great try them sometimes.

  My reading comprehension leaves you in the dust, I am only gulity of writing the truth which you don't seem to like and hit the moderate button!

[papi]

Fuzzy, if i wanted to live in a trailer park and send my wife to work in a sweatshop...ok, you are the man. But for others with any class, you are the last guy I'd take any advice from. Take it easy on the moonshine when you are trying to follow my posts

[Fuzzyone]

Fuzzy, if i wanted to live in a trailer park and send my wife to work in a sweatshop...OK, you are the man. But for others with any class, you are the last guy I'd take any advice from. Take it easy on the moonshine when you are trying to follow my posts

    Well lets talk about class, here is a list of stuff I did not do in Colombia.

 Show a girl a ring to make her think if she cough it up she might become MRS

 Didn't get bent out of shape when a girl got a pair of tennis shoes out of me.

 Didn't flip the script because a agency owner dididn'tay for the taxi ride $10.00?

 Could not understand why the fathers of several girls did not trust me as far as they could throw me. ie   marry in Colombia!
   
 Did not go to Thailand meet a girl live with her and then just pack my bags disappear with out a goodbye ( I MUST SAY REAL CLASS IF YOU ASK ANYONE HERE)

 Did not make 20 or 30 trips to Colombia striking out each time.



    For your info since you want to insult people I don't live in a trailer park, I happen to own a nice home 4 bedrooms and two bath but I seem to have forgot you don't own a house you just seem to move around renting right?

   You want to bring up my ex, lets bring up yours? the one who lived with you from Cali for two years. What happened to her? she went back to her ex who beat her? I suggest you look in your own back yard before you try dishing dirt because the difference between us is I let my wife decided wat she wanted to do. I might not have liked it but she made alot of friends and got to really meet the average joe.

[sean126]

Fuzzy and Papi,

OK gentlemen, we've each thrown our jabs.  Let's get back on topic here please (or as close as possible ).
Your both welcomed to take this up in the flame room to settle it. 

[Fuzzyone]

Fuzzy and Papi,

OK gentlemen, we've each thrown our jabs.  Let's get back on topic here please (or as close as possible ).
Your both welcomed to take this up in the flame room to settle it. 

   sean
      I like too but I think he is afraid to go to that room.

[william3rd]

FIANCEE RATING CHART
(NOT in order of importance)
CATEGORY                     1-10   RATING
PHYSICAL –   
How well does she fit in to your personal idea of beauty?
(Some factors are height, weight, age, sexual compatibility, etc.) 
English Ability-
Can she communicate well enough to understand you?
Communication –
Does she have the desire to talk to you regardless of her English level?
Education-
This includes life experience. Is she well-rounded and informed?
Sense of Humor-
Can you two joke together and laugh together?
Children-
Are your goals for children compatible?
Common interests-
What common things do you already enjoy?
Common Goals-
What are your mutual dreams of a future?
Emotional Balance-
Is she overly emotional or easily angered or depressed?
Personal Compatibility-
How well do you two just “hang out” together?
Other Categories that you may want to add-
Smoking, Drinking
Integrity- I recommend a zero rating in all categories if no integrity.
I am referring to a lack of integrity of any kind after you have met.

[doombug]

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Pro:

You don't have to waist money on Glade® PlugIns® anymore, as Latinas tend to smell all flowery and whatnot.

[rpcv]

One minus that Papi did not mention is the gap in Pop Culture. There have been times where I wanted to reference a movie, say Caddyshack and my girlfriend doesn't get it. Guess I'll just have to wait until she gets here to watch those movies with her.

[el_ruso]

Paps,

if you cared to listen to Fuzzy, and change your life accordingly, it will be to your benefit.  instead you are being a contrarian, and that's to your own manifest detriment.

[Dan]

Paps,

if you cared to listen to Fuzzy, and change your life accordingly, it will be to your benefit.  instead you are being a contrarian, and that's to your own manifest detriment.

ER,

Last I checked, this site is NOT about giving unsolicited advice to others about how they can change themselves.

Suggest you stick to the 'theme' of the site and the topics at-hand  - and keep the pseudo-psychology of a critical nature to yourself.

- Dan

[sawyer1370]

rpcv, man I hear you there.  I remember when I first met my wife, Austin Powers was big, and I would tease her saying in my best British voice "you make me horny baby, YYYEEEAAAHHH".  She didn't get it, why would I get horns like some animal!  Or when you quote something out of a movie like Airplane, she still doesn't get it after seeing the movie.  It's a cultural thing for sure!

On another note.  I know I haven't been around the forum in a while (like 6 years), but in my experience, there are a few types of guys.  The guys who are serious about trying to find the right woman, and are willing to be realistic about it.  Take their time and try and do the right thing in the search.  If you are blessed, you might find the perfect woman for you.  I consider myself in that category.

The next type of guy wants some hottie as a trophy wife, and has had several failed relationships or marriages.  He thinks he can order some hottie out of a catelog like ordering take-out.  He gets burned by the green-card sharks or girls looking to cash in on some silly gringo.  Sorry, but he gets what he deservers!

The last type of guy likes to talk a big game, and likes the chase.  He will throw stones at those who are looking, those who have found the right lady, just throw stones.  He never seems to find what he's looking for, and will often point out the negitive of most things.  He will be single and chasing for years.

I've been around this whole thing for close to 10 years, and have been married for almost 8 years.  I made several trips to Colombia before and after getting married.  I have lived with a Latina for over 8 years now, so I have direct and daily insight into the culture, the train of thought and many other things you can never get in a visit or on some forum.  I have been out of the searching stage for a long, long time.  Why, because I accomplished what I had set out to.  If you have been after this for more than say 2 years, then you should force yourself to start asking some questions.

Guys, let's all take a deep breath and relax.  Everyone is looking for something different.  None of us are right or wrong, we just have different opinions and want different things.  Please keep that in mind before throwing stones and getting nasty.  We all learned how to call each other names when we were kids.  Guess what, we aren't kids anymore.
 

[markanthony7]

Fellas what does MOB stand for?