Regular Guys...Where you at?

[sean126]

ROFLMAO!!

[bundy_138]

Women are women, just as men are men.  Why settle for an ugly woman when there are tons of hot ones?  Women want a good looking man just as bad as we want them.  Some have just learned that the money is much more attractive then a huge belly and a shiny head.  This is the same in any country all over the world!

I feel that a guy has a much better chance of finding an attractive in Colombia then in the USA anytime!  What is there not to like about a Latina!?

Bundy

[sawyer1370]

A few points:

el_ruso:
"IMO it is also very important to make the woman feel secure emotionally and to make her feel loved.  A lot of guys don't do that."
That is very true.  Look there are some women desperate to get out.  My brother-in-law's ex-wife now lives in Spain with her daughter.  My wife had casually mentioned about a year after the lady moved to Spain that she (my wife) thought her sister-in-law might be a prostitute.  Could very well be, but then again, many of the women in Colombia who are the most attractive are the girlfriends of the guys with money.  They have sex in exchange for an apartment, clothes, financial support.  Well this sounds similar to prostitution, it's a slippery slope.  My mother-in-law kinda encouraged that for my wife when she was like 20, so she would have a "good life".  Yea good life huh, just to get beat up or abused when the guy is mad, and being stuck with him because you need his support.  She has cousins that went that route.  Now in their mid 30's and alone with a kid or two.  Where are the guys?  Either dead mostly, or have moved on to younger ladies.  Sorry there is no child support or alimony.

You can spot the women who are in it just to get out of the country, and not in for the relationship first.  If you can't see that, knowing what the pitfalls are, and choose to ignore the red flags, then sorry that is on you.  My wife knows a few ladies back home that have asked if she could help find them a good man.  A good man is much easier to find here, just like a good lady is easier to find there.  There are good and bad people everywhere.  Judge on a case by case basis.

TXAK:
"If you have trouble maintaining a successful relationship in the US, you're not going to have a successful one in Colombia."
This is a point I have made several times.  I met a lot of guys in my first couple trips that had multiple divorces, and would just bash women.  I was so tempted to ask if they thought all those failed relationships might have anything to do with them, and not just the women.  Look, the thing that makes it more appealing to search for a Latin woman isn't because some type of magic is going to happen.  It's because, for a larger part there than here, most just want a guy who will love and respect them.  The guy doesn't have to be Brad Pitt or have tons of money.  Just be honest, loving, respectful and value a relationship.  Do you need to have other things in common with a lady, of course.  You can't force chemistry, but you stand a better chance of a lady willing to see if there is chemistry who has the values you might want, and have her be attractive in Latin America much more than here.

At least that is some of the reasons I went, and that is my experience.  But again, I've been out of the game for 9 years, and I don't know how much things have changed.

[Parlay Rey]

Some great points made on this thread. I might add that I believe it boils down to a couple of things:

#1) The ability to have open, honest, free-flowing communication. It's already hard enough to do this with your woman in your native tongue. I can't imagine trying to ferret out the deep seated fears, hope, dreams and aspirations, if I had to do so via translator (either flesh and bone or electronic). Moreover, you marry the whole family, so be prepared to communicate with them. Like it or not her family, especially her mother will make or break your relationship. Ya gotta win over La Suegra. Therefore,learn the language and cast me with the so-called 'nutjobs'.

#2) Chemistry--which builds off of #1. Latinas (SOTB) are not as shallow as AWs. Of course they have their phyhsical preferences as do we. Doesn't let us guys off the hook for not joining Ballys or 24 Hour Fitness. However as sawyer1370 mentioned, I'd heard time and time again overall that they wanted someone that would love and respect them. And like many women, they wanted someone with whom they could laugh both with and at.

#3) Common Ground--find out what you have in common and exploit it. If you don't have something--find something! The best and most fun thing to do with Colombianas is to dance Salsa. Salsa is ubiquitous in Latin America...and it's like the universal solvent, if there's a problem, cooler heads prevail after a night out dancing Salsa. Find something in common with her.

#4) Balance--the relationship doesn't have to be equal, but it must be balanced. What do I mean? If you aren't Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington, then damn it be Cyrano de Bergerac and romance her to death. Latinas and Colombianas in particular are very nurturing and will never ask you to stop being romantic with her. They really do appreciate it. Not trying to buy her affection, but the little things do not go unnoticed and she'll file it away in her memory bank for years to come. Just an example, my wife and I had our 1st phone conversaton which lasted 7 hours. Yes, seven. The next day I called her and it was a 4 hour one. Think we didn't have something in common? Think I didn't have her crying in laughter the whole time?

She is the best thing that ever happened to me but I knew that there was no way in hell I was going to wait for that ship to come in. As the saying goes, I had to swim out to meet it.

I lurk here but have much more experience than my post count. I am not writing this to to boost my ego nor appear as some sort of expert. Far from it. I value my privacy immensely but if I can help someone as much as I've gathered from these forums then I so be it.

Just call it good karma as I've had quite a few belly laughs thanks in part to the misadventures of one "Ketchup Miser of Cali".

[papi]

Just call it good karma as I've had quite a few belly laughs thanks in part to the misadventures of one "Ketchup Miser of Cali".

i have been on a carb fast now for about 3 weeks. i didn't realize the stuff had so much but a man has got to eat

[pan de bono]

we're all regular people here

[Jeff S]

I don't know. I have occasional bouts with irregularity. Not right now, though.

[catz]

I guess it depends on how you look at it...

If "regular" guys are married to AW and they have normal "common sense" then there is no way in hell that I EVER want to be a regular guy!  I'll stick with my uncommon sense and irregular nature that sent me to another country for my lady!

According to the feminazi view we're all just a bunch of freaks that ought to be put down like a rabid dog....

Catz

[bigstew33]

boy you guys suck.  you know how to bring down the fat, balding guys.  Well I have my hair.  I been there 2 times and you make it out to be worse than it is.  Truth is many women like the big guys.  Don't try to make us feel bad thinking wee have no chance.  Some ego's of the writers I guess.  You are 100% wrong.  Man I am hungry, Guess I am off the mickey D's 

[Brainiac]

Money compensates for many shortcomings, but my experience is that speaking Spanish will cause a woman to overlook many things, too.  Women just love to talk and be understood.  Plus, if you speak her language, you'll know better if she's genuine or using you.

[Ray]

I have occasional bouts with irregularity.

Jeff,

The next time you have that problem, may I recommend Taco Bell Refried Beans? They’re available in your grocery store.

Plenty of fiber and the gas pressure alone will loosen things up down there, kind of like dynamiting a log jam… 

[JimmySTLOUIS]

I was going to write some long meaningful post until I read about the beans

I am laughing out loud and all I can think of is "dynamiting the log jam "   


TE AMO PERU!!!!

fat and balding yours truly


jim

[daytrader]

Parley Rey sez - I lurk here but have much more experience than my post count. I am not writing this to to boost my ego nor appear as some sort of expert. Far from it. I value my privacy immensely but if I can help someone as much as I've gathered from these forums then I so be it.

Your comments are 'spot on' Parley Rey and show a lot of insight....I appreciate your posts. 

DayTrader

[daytrader]

..... ....guess Doombug is avoiding this thread....for obvious reasons!? LOL

DayTrader

[Calipro]

I have never asked, but I wouldn't think every bald or balding guy would be at a disadvantage.  Some wear it well and would look distinguished to the ladies....I think.  Then again, I don't see very many balding or bald latin men, so it may be a cultural disadvantage.

I'd rather be bald then short and fat in Cali. I think that's the kiss of death.

[blockbuster]

 I really don't think being short and fat is the kiss of death in Cali. In Sweeden perhaps, but we're taling Cali here. the cali girls ain't too picky if you got cash. What I have seen girls with in Colombia gives hope to fat,ugly short guys everywhere.Even Papi can get a girl there. He's short,fat and cheap! Green cards talk.

[Calipro]

I really don't think being short and fat is the kiss of death in Cali. In Sweeden perhaps, but we're taling Cali here. the cali girls ain't too picky if you got cash. What I have seen girls with in Colombia gives hope to fat,ugly short guys everywhere.Even Papi can get a girl there. He's short,fat and cheap! Green cards talk.

Short and fat is a deadly combination in Cali unless you have a hundred dollar bill taped to your forehead..but I'm not talkiing about Pay 4 Play. I'm talking about women that go out with you because they actually like you. Seems to be a foreign concept for guys that have an overall poor opinion of women in general.

Green card sharks are a myth outside of the agency setting. There is no way in hell a hot calena is going to date and bed any guy they don't really like on the outside chance that he'll marry her and bring her to the States. hehehe !!!

So quit getting all those short, fat guys hopes up. LOL !!!

[blockbuster]

They marry short fat guys all the time. Miami is full of hot Colombianas married to pasty gringoes who leave as soon as they can.. How did they get there? Marrying gringo for green card. Women are the last ones to admit they would bed guys they don't like for stuff. They all say they don't,but they do.How do yo think some of these girls pay for their plastic surgeries? By guys they bed they don't like,but have money. They just will never admit out loud they don't like these guys.

  One of my cousin's just got back from Colombia last Saturday. He has 2 Colombiano friends he took the trip with. Let me tell you something, he is about the plainest guy I know. Yet, in 3 weeks he got as much P***y as he probably got all of his life. Which before Colombia was about  3 girls.LOL!!!. I kid you not. The guy was pretty much a virgin before his trip.

. But he will be starting a dental practice soon and has cash. He was not involved in any P4P.He also met a girl the last week he was there who is about a HB9.5. and I'm pretty picky since i have been around latinas all my life. The girl is beautiful. Guess what? They are talking marriage already. Can you say desperate??? After 1 week!!! They both are nuts.This is not an agency girl. To say only agency girls will marry a guy for a greencard is giving them too much credit.

   A lot of girls marry guys they think can do something for them all the time. Even in the U.S. where girls can literally make good money working,they will marry a guy they think rich to have a cushy life. Nothing against Colombianas,all woman do it. It's just easier to give girls in Colombia the idea you have money. Guys take their novia's out all the time. Go to nice restaurants. Vacations in San Andres in nice hotels,send her spending money,take her shopping. It's the same way rich guys treat their mistresses or girlfriends in the U.S. Money talks but now you also add greencard. ect. But most guys can't afford to give her this lifestyle in the U.S. if this is how he impressed her in the first place.

  There are hot girls all over the U.S. from all over the world. Really hot girls. But who'se banging them? Not you or me. The U.S. 9's and 210's are banging guys they perceive to be loaded. Power Guys who pay their rent and take them on nice vacations and take them shopping. Guys they think have cash.It's a fact of life. Most women like a cushy life. You may interpret this couple and say she is really hot for him . I see something totally different.
http://www.barranquillagirls.com/images/grandtour4.jpg. Now I have seen married pastier,fatter gringoes with Colombianas way hotter than that girl so I know it's not a myth hot girls will marry fat short men. It's a fact we don't like to admit.

 Now back to my cousin, I can't wait to see how this whole thing develops. Like I said,even Papi can get lucky in Colombia. It's an amazing destination for guys. That's why it's getting more popular in certain circles.

[Calipro]

They marry short fat guys all the time. Miami is full of hot Colombianas married to pasty gringoes who leave as soon as they can.. How did they get there? Marrying gringo for green card. Women are the last ones to admit they would bed guys they don't like for stuff. They all say they don't,but they do.How do yo think some of these girls pay for their plastic surgeries? By guys they bed they don't like,but have money. They just will never admit out loud they don't like these guys.

  One of my cousin's just got back from Colombia last Saturday. He has 2 Colombiano friends he took the trip with. Let me tell you something, he is about the plainest guy I know. Yet, in 3 weeks he got as much P***y as he probably got all of his life. Which before Colombia was about  3 girls.LOL!!!. I kid you not. The guy was pretty much a virgin before his trip.

. But he will be starting a dental practice soon and has cash. He was not involved in any P4P.He also met a girl the last week he was there who is about a HB9.5. and I'm pretty picky since i have been around latinas all my life. The girl is beautiful. Guess what? They are talking marriage already. Can you say desperate??? After 1 week!!! They both are nuts.This is not an agency girl. To say only agency girls will marry a guy for a greencard is giving them too much credit.

My experience with YOUNG HOT colombianas is that they are extremely short sighted and very into immediate gratification. So if you are banging them night after night without promising them marriage, nice lifestyle or buying them anything that they can't take home (including a doggy bag), you can be pretty sure they are into you and not something else. (Sounds like your friend is in serious trouble if he couldn't bang the chick for more than a week without talking marriage.)


This applies only to extremely hot women without children. The older variety with children are probably desperate enough to try anything including and not limited to sleeping long term with a guy she doesn't really like in the hopes that he'll marry her one day.

The bottom line is if you are old fat and bald then you are paying for it.

I have no choice but to stay in shape or I'm going to have to find a better paying job somewhere down the line. hehehe !!!

[Nicks]

In panama you see plenty of good looking girls with fat, balding guys. Now, if the guy is panamanian, then the girls is extremly good looking, and from a nice family, if it is a gringo or other forign guy(not latin) then she will be very beutiful, but lower class family.

both are 95% for the cash, not necesarily putas, but the guy is a suger daddy, one way or another.

nicks

[doombug]

Heaping gratuities on a woman who outclasses you is like duct taping a satellite dish to your car roof. You'll get good reception for the first few days, or so, but as you hit those bumps and divots in the road, as things start to shake up and waver, that little novela of yours will eventually fade to black.

Think outside the box, fat dudes.



Disclaimer: The fat dude in the box is meant as a metaphor, not an insult. He represents any man with self-doubts who goes to the Colombias of the world to find a mate.

[Frank Rizzo]

I'd have to pretty much go with calipro on this one. We're all headed over the hill at some point, so thank god there is a place on earth that the women are not as jaded as the AW.LOL

[blockbuster]

latinas may not be as jaded as the AW. But give a latina a few years in the U.S. and they change. There are tons and tons of Colombianas,Brazilains,Dominicanas and all sorts of absolutely gorgeous latinas already in NYC,Miami,Florida and everywhere. But those gals become jaded pretty quick. That's why we go to their countries to get the ones who are not jaded and hope they don't change too much when they get here. How many guys do you know are able to date latinas  who are 9's and 10's  and 20-30 years younger while on U.S. ground ? Unless he is loaded it just ain't gonna happen.

   Going to them makes it all possible for us to be the "wanted" one as it is simply supply and demand. While we are in their country, there is s small supply of men who can support them in the lifestyle they want and are looking for a serious relationship. Therefore,competition is strong for us. We certainly have the upper hand.

   But when they are in the U.S. there is a large supply of men who "really" can give them the lifestyle they want. They will be sought after which can be very tempting to a young girl who never imagined she would be in the position to have so many guys want a relationship with her,since most of the guys in her country with money and power are players who have tons of mistresses..

. Their value goes up tremendously here. If she really loves you and she is not the sort who just thinks about today without thinking about the consequences tomorrow(In other words, not a party girl, but family oriented), she will be immune the rich guys,the younger guys, who seek her attention no matter how tempting. She will not become like her latina sisters who land in the U.S and immedietly get really picky. It would be so much easier to date a latina  in the U.S. who speaks English,has already adapted to the U.S.,has a degree and a career, has her own car, is hot and young ect.

 

[Frank Rizzo]

blockbuster, your right on the money. That's exactly why i've always said i would never, ever bring one back to the states. Personally, i think that is the worst thing you could do. But, to each his own.

[blockbuster]

 I don't think even if I married a Colombiana I would ever live there. Panama and DR are where I am looking. But you're right. Unless you are mega-loaded and a power player, to bring a much younger woman here is taking a risk. On the Russian boards where many guys post pics of themselves and their wives there are 3 older guys in their 50's + married to absolutely model gorgeous women. 2 of , the guys are out of shape and fat, one is in pretty good shape. But they are all millionaires and those girls have a lifestyle which would be difficult to keep if they leave. The wives  are living a dream life. Coincidently, they are one of the few guys with much younger wives who have stayed together after 5 years. The common denominator? Those girls are living a better lifestyle than 95% of the population in the U.S.  They got exactly what they signed up for when they chose to marry an AM. A much better lifestyle than the norm.