red flag?

[papi]

chica: estoy un poco triste
Papi: porq mi vida?
chica: por que fui a buscar trabajo y habia muchas chicas y no me escogieron a mi
chica: y estoy trabajo, sin dinero no se que hacer
chica: por eso te digo que es dificil aqui la situacion
Papi: entiendo amor
Papi: q lastima
chica: si mi amor
chica: por eso te decia para poner un negocio pero no tengo dinero
Papi: un negocio de que
chica: ese negocio que te dije


chica: mi amor, ayudame hacer ese negocio que te digo,
chica: o no'
chica: ?
Papi: no amor
chica: en que piensas mi amor
Papi: no me gusta eso negocio
chica: ok
Papi: ok

[doombug]

chica: estoy un poco triste
Papi: porq mi vida?
chica: por que fui a buscar trabajo y habia muchas chicas y no me escogieron a mi
chica: y estoy trabajo, sin dinero no se que hacer
chica: por eso te digo que es dificil aqui la situacion
Papi: entiendo amor
Papi: q lastima
chica: si mi amor
chica: por eso te decia para poner un negocio pero no tengo dinero
Papi: un negocio de que
chica: ese negocio que te dije


chica: mi amor, ayudame hacer ese negocio que te digo,
chica: o no'
chica: ?
Papi: no amor
chica: en que piensas mi amor
Papi: no me gusta eso negocio
chica: ok
Papi: ok

Holy shit in a church outhouse!

Run!!

[papi]

yea, that was my thought....some of these chicas are so transparent. we have not met...i was asking her about biz ideas a week ago or so in peru...and now she thinks i am the PSBA (peruvian small biz administration). I guess one less to juggle...i will probably chat more for giggles but she has just dropped in the rotation. Thanks for a second opinion...

[el_ruso]

My guess is you have not even met her?

You are becoming wiser I hope.  "CZ" only asked for a camera and had a decency to wait for you to visit.

[curranti]

IS this the same chick that wanted money from you in the other message or is this another one?

Seems like a gigantic red flag waiving, Money money money.

[papi]

IS this the same chick that wanted money from you in the other message or is this another one?

Seems like a gigantic red flag waiving, Money money money.

i think you are referring to my cubic encrusted cyber novia from medellin...this thread concerns a new cyber novia that i have not met from lima. Please try to keep the novelas straight..

[valleydude]

It is a definite red flag ... She should know that guys never say "amor" so soon in the relationship! I'd tell her to run! jeje

Seriously though, is this one of your 3?

You know, I have actually had some situations simiar to this work out where they were a decent person and I feel responsible because I offered. I know one thing, after a conversation like this, things are never the same in the relationship.

I know some are working the website, but I don't think all of them are. I think what happens is that they start falling for some of us guys so soon and they believe it is a relationship. With that in mind, they are talking to you like you are their friend as well. You know what I mean? (It's difficult to explain) It's like they begin asking their boyfriend for help.

All in all, I agree with DB and generally run from these types. I just do it a little more understanding now a days.

I have been in that position on the site many times and one thing I learned to avoid this is in my first questions.

"I see you in your profile you are a secretary? For what kind of company? Do you like your work?"

Right there, it draws it out up front. If they aren't working I usually move on immediately.

It's time to pull out that flag system DB set up. Man that was probably the best post ever!

VD

[doombug]

It's time to pull out that flag system DB set up.

The flag system.

How funny it'd be to see somebody actually play that out on one of the agency tours. Pictures of the date's dumbfounded expression would be priceless!

[sean126]

Papi,

Just tell her..."Wow lady, I'm glad I'm not in your shoes.  That's really depressing." "If it wasn't for me selling plasma, I don't know what I'd do."

[papi]

You know, I have actually had some situations simiar to this work out where they were a decent person and I feel responsible because I offered. I know one thing, after a conversation like this, things are never the same in the relationship.

exactly!! very insightful

I know some are working the website, but I don't think all of them are. I think what happens is that they start falling for some of us guys so soon and they believe it is a relationship. With that in mind, they are talking to you like you are their friend as well. You know what I mean? (It's difficult to explain) It's like they begin asking their boyfriend for help.

maybe that is the case. otherwise they don't know right from wrong or simply desperate.

[papi]

even though this young entrepreneur drops in the rotation i still struck gold. I am on top of the world. happy papi. by the way it is sunny and a warm 66 in the valley at 9:20AM. Should be another great day here. Also diet going great...atkins. i feel super. make it a great day in latin land

[papi]

sitting on top of the world with a lima hottie. this one was not easy to win over...but the papi magic prevailed. gosh she is gorgeous!! 21


Papi: so how are you today beautiful?
chica: you dont wat come here
Papi: no, i did not say that
Papi: i need to send you back to English school...haha
Chica: i understand u tell me lima is far away blablabla
Papi: You are so funny!
Papi: i like you
chica: i like much
chica: i am fall in love
chica: ah honey i want see you soon
chica: un beso mi amor
Chica: para mi amor
Chica: y con mi amor
 

[valleydude]

Thanks for digging that out DB. I finally bookmarked that thread. That is my all time favorite post here. (Coming in at second was Ray's "This topic sucks" smiley.)

I could only imagine people using it. Maybe TLC could always give out a little kit containing the flags before each tour? At any point two pink flags were raised at the same time, the girls could pair up? If two blue flags went up then the 2 guys could immediately get together for moral support?

Ahhh f***, I totally have tears in my eyes.
I love that post.

VD

[Ray]

                         

[chizz]

Papi, your post sounded similiar to a post i made a few weeks ago "how easy they make it to read them". I believe a colomibiana with an ounce of pride and dignity, is not going to ask someone she never met for money. If she does, see yah, wouldn't want to be yah!
chizz

[papi]

i have another possible red flag issue and can use some feedback. Today I was chatting with one of my top stars in Lima. From what I can tell, she's gorgeous and funny. Speaks English too but sometimes only writes to me in spanish depending on her mood.

Anyway, she kept asking me today when i was coming to peru. And then she sent me this website of some makeup pen she loves and apparently can't get in peru and wanted me to bring with me. Naturally, she said she would pay me back (where have i heard that before)?

I am not worried about the money, it is pocket change especially compared to the air/hotel but I just hate it when someone I have not yet met starts bringing up this crap. It is a long flight and while this girl seems to have the potential to rock my world, I have a sincere woman from colombia who i doubt would ask me for things...at least not until we have met.

I didn't blowoff the camera chica but she was closer to home and I don't have much patience for this sort of thing anymore. On the other hand, we are talking about a small incidental. Any thoughts?

[doombug]

And then she sent me this website of some makeup pen she loves and apparently can't get in peru and wanted me to bring with me. Naturally, she said she would pay me back (where have i heard that before)?

I am not worried about the money, it is pocket change especially compared to the air/hotel but I just hate it when someone I have not yet met starts bringing up this crap. It is a long flight and while this girl seems to have the potential to rock my world, I have a sincere woman from colombia who i doubt would ask me for things...at least not until we have met.

I didn't blowoff the camera chica but she was closer to home and I don't have much patience for this sort of thing anymore. On the other hand, we are talking about a small incidental. Any thoughts?

Tough call.

It may be a subconscious ploy to force your hand. You know: make you feel more obligated to come see her by compelling you to personally bring her a trinket.

The married guys here are likely best qualified to answer this, though. If they've delt with similar issues before, than the success of their own marriage should help disprove the notion that your girl is necessarily a red flag bearer.

Or just test her. Bring her one of these instead of the one she asked for:



Hey, looks like a makeup pen to me. Guys don't know this girlie stuff, right? A pen's a pen. If she doesn't handle a little shopping goof on your part--of bringing her the wrong "accessory"--then you have nothing left to do but endorse her rump with "the seal":

Don Pap was here.
This ass has been red flagged.
Enter at your own risk.

[papi]

LOL!! My Atkins protein shake just shot through my nose reading about the ass branding. You are right tough call. It is a trinket like you say but I don’t like these kind of things, especially if we have not yet met. Here is her purchase order if it is any help:

http://www.jordanacosmetics.com/blush_pots.htm
blush
bp-15  TERRA COTTA
ESE  es el color ke me gusta  terra cotta -blush- jordana
 
cuando vengas  aqui te lo pago , ok
kisses ...... take care...

i probably will let this slide, it is not that bad but my papaya radar is on alert

[soltero]

LOL!! My Atkins protein shake just shot through my nose reading about the ass branding. You are right tough call. It is a trinket like you say but I don’t like these kind of things, especially if we have not yet met. Here is her purchase order if it is any help:

http://www.jordanacosmetics.com/blush_pots.htm
blush
bp-15  TERRA COTTA
ESE  es el color ke me gusta  terra cotta -blush- jordana
 
cuando vengas  aqui te lo pago , ok
kisses ...... take care...

i probably will let this slide, it is not that bad but my papaya radar is on alert

Papi, you can't be this helpless. You have to be posting this stuff to pass the time. What is a mascara pen? 5 bucks? Just keep with this rule: If you have to give up something that you are going to actually feel when it lightens your pocket and you are not deeply in a relationship with a woman, then pass. Hopefully, by that time, she is giving you something back that you appreciate as well, whatever that may be.

I never give anything expecting anything back for it. Knowing that my spirit of giving is genuine helps me to say "No" when I don't feel like being pressed about somebody extending a palm in my direction.

[william3rd]

1293 posts, 14 months a member, perhaps hundreds of threads started, over 5 years "experience"- he isnt helpless at all.

Only papi can tell you the motivation. . . . .

[Ray]

Papi, you can't be this helpless. You have to be posting this stuff to pass the time.

I'm glad that you finally figured that out... 

[soltero]

I'm glad that you finally figured that out... 

Ray, Papi is a complete character, and funny as hell, but I have to admit that at times it's hard to tell when he is being serious.

[papi]

1293 posts, 14 months a member, perhaps hundreds of threads started, over 5 years "experience"- he isnt helpless at all.

Only papi can tell you the motivation. . . . .

Thanks William...i think my amigo Soltero misses the point. I don't care if she asked me to bring her a stick of gum. I don't like it when they ask me to bring things. Period. A girl who has class and understands right from wrong would not ask this stuff. Yet, Lima does rock my world. But i think Colombia is a better woman for me...more grounded and down to earth. I am trying to sort it all out. This year i will marry...if i don't return to asia instead

[papi]

moreover, i want a girl that digs on me for me...loveable chubby papi...not for my  photography equipment or cosmetic imports....I have that in Colombia.

[soltero]

Thanks William...i think my amigo Soltero misses the point. I don't care if she asked me to bring her a stick of gum. I don't like it when they ask me to bring things. Period. A girl who has class and understands right from wrong would not ask this stuff. Yet, Lima does rock my world. But i think Colombia is a better woman for me...more grounded and down to earth. I am trying to sort it all out. This year i will marry...if i don't return to asia instead

Papi, I don't think I am missing the point, but it's your point, so maybe so. Don't get so hung up on getting taken that you think anytime someone asks for something, they are trying to use you. Stuff that wouldn't hurt you to give shouldn't even be an issue. Everything doesn't have to make it's way back to you directly from the giftee. All I am saying is build up a little good karma. Haven't you ever watched the show "My name is Ed"?

Asking you to bring her something she can't get there does not mean she is low class or a goldigger when it is something as insignificant as a makeup pen. I guess you have to use your own common sense and values when dealing with people, and that varies per individual.