Infidelity

[papi]

In my line of work (hehe) - I meet many guys who cheat on their wives. This is not something that interests me and maybe part of the reason I never hooked up because I wanted a fulfilling relationship with no desire to be with another woman. I still hold the dream that a woman can do the following for me:

1. rock my world
2. continued passion for years to come

Maybe this is part of the reason you go south...to find a lifelong dream. But guys end up in dead end marriages and stay together for a variety of reasons. What's your take? Can the passion last or grow into something deeper? What about the great many couples that cheat?

[el_ruso]

Most people cheat out of boredom.  After a person has been with the same person for years sometimes, he or she sometimes can't resist an urge for "variety".  Also, when people have children together, most people would feel really bad breaking a marriage and causing hardship to their children.

Also, what exactly is your "line of work"?

[papi]

i'd meet you in the flame room to discuss but I need to get ready to meet some ladies. Something maybe you should try sometime before you continue to knock it

[Dan]

Most people cheat out of boredom.  After a person has been with the same person for years sometimes, he or she sometimes can't resist an urge for "variety".  Also, when people have children together, most people would feel really bad breaking a marriage and causing hardship to their children.

Also, what exactly is your "line of work"?

i'd meet you in the flame room to discuss but I need to get ready to meet some ladies. Something maybe you should try sometime before you continue to knock it

Papi - el_ruso:

Have you guys given any thought to using the online chat system to air your beef(s)?

Might be entertaining to many.

- Dan

[soltero]

Papi - el_ruso:

Have you guys given any thought to using the online chat system to air your beef(s)?

Might be entertaining to many.

- Dan

Great Idea!

Please give the time and date of that occurrence as I would like to have my popcorn popped prior to settling in for the bout...

[fathertime]

When you are a younger man and married, I don't see why a little infidelity should end the marriage.  After all, not everyone is going to resist the temptation.  Just be discreet and don't catch any diseases or waste all the families money.  This only applies in the case of the young man being unfaithful.  A woman is not allowed to be unfaithful under any circumstances.  It may not be "Fair" but I don't give a [snip] that is how it is!   Once you are older it just does not seem so important to get laid by so many different girls.  At least that is how I feel about it...

Fathertime!

[el_ruso]

I never "attack" Papi.  He mentioned something about his "line of work", and I just wanted to find out what it was.  How does this qualify as an attack?

[papi]

Dan, another member here posted a few days ago that Rolito is Brazilpro. There writing styles are very similar and I doubt that he followed me here to make any worthwhile contributions. The fact is, as pointed out by others, he seems papi obsessed.

[papi]

Papi - el_ruso:

Have you guys given any thought to using the online chat system to air your beef(s)?

Dan, not a bad call and sounds like it would work for Soltero - he can pop the popcorn and settle in and enjoy rather than pop in a Netflix. Yet, I think i'd prefer to chat online with girls

[Nicks]

Many all latin relationships, work quite well with the husband having a novia on the side. Off course, he has to pay his dues to the wife, nice car, nice house, etc etc. And daddy always gets his friday night to have fun...

To bad i aint latin!

nicks

[el_ruso]

I believe people are human, not angel, and I have friends who are married and cheat.  I also have friends who don't.  I would respect a man who has never cheated on his wife one million times more than someone who allegedly gets laid by a new girl every weekend.

I have not been married, so I can't talk from experience, especially being married say to a 40 yo woman and being able to be with a hot 20 yo at the same time.  However...  I actually have a fairly high self-esteem and pride in the way I think about myself and my character, and I will not be able to reconcile them with the "friday night" relationships.  I want my wife to be with me because she loves me, because I am the best thing that ever happened to her, because she is happy to be with me, and because I treat women (IMHO) way better than average.  And I just don't think she will feel this about me if I am cheating on her, especially openly.  I know I will be hurt deeply if she comes over and says that she wants to sleep with some guy every Friday night, and there is no way I will tolerate it, and if I might convince my wife to tolerate me doing it for the sake of material comforts, convenience, whatever, it will be real cruel IMO.

[daytrader]

el_ruso, you are RIGHT on! Marriage is a sacred covenant between two adults that have chosen one above all others for the rest of their lives.  Others may seek to "change the channel" when they get bored  (they risk the other partner may do the same some day), I choose to take responsibility and attempt to make the relationship more fun and entertaining for the both of us. 

DayTrader

[Nicks]

El Ruso is 100% correct, and that works in a equal society. In latin america, there is still very comon that hubby works, and wiffy is at home with the kids. Since he is the money maker, he takes some ¨bonus^ time, being with a younger girl. They wife, looks the other way, thanking her lucky star, that she has a house and food on the table. This also runs in the richer families, where wiffy is doing social work, and hubby is bring in the cash. But wiffy is happy with the situation, as long as she gets the Jag, and they hubby doesnt [snip] up, and get the young girl pregnant and by doing so, starts social gossip.

again, marrige is sacred, humans are doomed to be weak and make mistakes.

nicks

[el_ruso]

Nicks,

As I have stated before, the arrangement where a wealthy guy gets away with having mistresses is quite doable in LA (or say in Russia where I am from), I was just questioning the ethics of it, and the long-term benefit to the guy in question.  For example, my best friend's father is still married to his wife, maintains her and his three kids with her, but at one point got a younger woman pregnant, also brought her to the States along with the younger kid, and sees them both.  Obviously, his wife is living VERY well financially.

However, as I have written, I want the woman to love me, and to have a "normal" marriage without acquiescing to any morally questionable compromises.  I realize a woman could stay with me for financial reasons, but I want her to love me, know that I love her and to be genuinly emotionally happy for spending her life with me.  I strongly doubt she will feel that way if I have mistresses, it just will not be the same between us, and I will hate myself for causing her all the ensuing heartache.  And I don't think I could be happy being condemned for the rest of my life to be a part of a marriage of convenience.