2nd time around for men.

[opusone]

It is often said "women marry , 1st, for love , and subsequent to the divorce, the other times are primarily for security". My question is , what do men primarily marry for the 2nd, 3rd, etc. time around? I have a theory , but am curious to hear the answers especially from those who have been married more than once.

[Kiltboy1]

For me
 
1st Marriage-Young & Stupid but I got a great daughter out of the deal.
2nd Marriage-100% Hotness, which goes as well with Stupid, but I was not young.
3rd(and last)  Marriage-Compatability and the fact she is hot does not hurt either
 
KB

[QRCAP2012]

For me
 
1st Marriage-Young & Stupid
 
KB

Sounds like my first one, too. I recently read a quote from a writer named David O'Dell....Love makes you blind but Lust makes you do really stupid things.....fortunately for me the lust lasted 18 years before a family tragedy ended the marriage.
My second one was for companionship and intellectual compatibility. that lasted 10 years before we simply grew in different directions. If I do it a third time I hope it's with a a woman who is intellectually curious, attractive and sexy and loves to travel because its my passion.

[Ricardo1]

It's makes sense to me that 2nd and 3rd timers expect compatiblity in life goals, interests, and lifestyle - more emphasis or mind and temperment than on "hotness" ...
 

[benjio]

I don't care who you are. "Hotness" gets old for everyone. Nothing wrong with having the expectation of being physically attracted to your significant other, but if you are choosing women simply because they are very attractive you haven't dated enough very attractive women. Most Rolls Royce owners have the desire to get another car after a while, but I know guys that have driven the same old Buick for decades and have no intentions of getting anything else until they have to.

[Ricardo1]

have driven the same old Buick for decades and have no intentions of getting anything else until they have to.

too funny!

[Jeff S]

Just marry someone with looks, brains, class, and faithfulness the first time around, treat her right and there won't be any others to worry about.

[opusone]

Resentment is like drinking poison waiting for the other person to die. I wonder how many men marry for redemption.

[InnocentVixen]

I often think, that many guys do not take marriage seriously enough, not all of course but plenty seem to look at it like a game and there for end up chasing the 5th wife at some point... in case of mexicanos they end up chasing the 15th lover 


To be fair I think the young and stupid mistake is somewhat acceptable as long as you learned from it, some people need to learn the hard way. As for women I would love to say that we all marry for love and security and that is the end of it, but I know that can't be the case, then again I don't know enough women that are divorced or have been married more than once for that matter.


If I had to take a guess, from what I see around me I would say the ones that marry for love the first time will most likely not marry again, the spoiled ones that married to get out of their parents house will probably re-marry for the same reason and maybe look for someone easier to control the second time around and the ones that went straight for the money in the first place will upgrade to a rich old guy at the first sign of financial struggle.


In my case I am greedy and I am taking Jeff's advice to heart